Rob and Jill

Julian:
Notice, not once during any of these threads have I personally attacked you or your fiance. However, I must tell you I am quite fed up with your constant need to act like every American is some back woods redneck with no education, common sense, or class.
You might be feeling a bit attacked around here. Whether it is justified or not is between you and Melissa. However, your reaction to the "attacks" are what is making you lose face in my world.
Quite frankly, you're coming across as an elitist horses a$$ in nearly everything you say here. Perhaps you should consider taking your snobby and prejudicial comments and keeping them to yourself. Making those kind of comments in general are no different to me than calling a Black person the N word, or any kind of racial or deragatory slur. If it is said in a negative fashion with a malicious intent, it's prejudiced.
Furthermore, as someone who has extensively studied mental abuse from men towards women, I can say many of the comments you have made towards Melissa reek of an abusive personality on your part. On more than one occassion I have seen your need to put her down or affirmate your own "superiority" to her. While I have never met either of you in person, your actions here show me you both need therapy. You to help with a severe superiority complex, and Melissa to work through her self esteem issues.
I won't say anything else about this because quite frankly it's not my business. However, I do ask that you have some common decency to turn the other cheek when some of the people here are attacking you on a personal level, and save the comments about your incorrect perceptions of Americans in general for another venue.

That is exactly what that is. OR if her status is in question he is trying to dupe her into turning herself in. What a jerk.

That is exactly what that is. OR if her status is in question he is trying to dupe her into turning herself in. What a jerk.

Can someone who has actually had to call their Senator and make use of them to HELP with their immigration process, please take the time to explain the everyone WHEN and WHY you should call a Senator to help your case?
Quite frankly, almost every thread has someone offering the advice of "call your senator" now, and it's doesn't even make sense WHY it would be said 99.9% of the time when I see it.

Let me tell you how it went when I met my ex-mother in law the first time.
Me: *some random off handed smart comment about something political*
Her: Well, aren't you just the little b*(&^ then?
Me: F - YOU.
Her: ROFL ok then.
After that we didn't have very many problems.
You absolutely cannot come to the United States expecting everyone to love you. They will or they won't. Just be yourself, and contrary to some of the advice on here, I would say you can talk to your husband if you're upset about it, but please do not put him in the middle or force him to chose. Give them what they get.
I would say they are not against you being there or they wouldn't have signed the affadavit of support. That would have been the easiest way to keep you away. Don't let it bother you. Just wait and see what happens and go from there. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

Let me tell you how it went when I met my ex-mother in law the first time.
Me: *some random off handed smart comment about something political*
Her: Well, aren't you just the little b*(&^ then?
Me: F - YOU.
Her: ROFL ok then.
After that we didn't have very many problems.
You absolutely cannot come to the United States expecting everyone to love you. They will or they won't. Just be yourself, and contrary to some of the advice on here, I would say you can talk to your husband if you're upset about it, but please do not put him in the middle or force him to chose. Give them what they get.
I would say they are not against you being there or they wouldn't have signed the affadavit of support. That would have been the easiest way to keep you away. Don't let it bother you. Just wait and see what happens and go from there. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

You are giving ultimatiums to your husband without ever having met his family. I'm sorry, you don't "tell" your spouse to move away from his family because they might or might not act rudely to you. Marriage is a compromise and if his family are jerks you can chose not to be around them. You're getting all bent out of shape because of the "idea" that they don't like you, and putting your foot down abotu things that haven't happened yet.
I think EVERY parent out there has a RIGHT to be concerned about any of us marrying someone from another country, particularly those of us who met online. Perhaps they just don't understand what is going on, maybe they think your English is not so great, maybe they have a hard time understanding accents, and just MAYBE the things your husband told you is true and they don't use the internet etc, maybe they are shy and have a hard time just picking up the phone and talking to a stranger.
You should take a deep breath and rethink how defensive you're acting. They'll like you or they won't, but getting mad about it now is not the way to handle it. Furthermore, if it bothers you THIS much ask for their addresses and write them a letter. See what happens.

You are giving ultimatiums to your husband without ever having met his family. I'm sorry, you don't "tell" your spouse to move away from his family because they might or might not act rudely to you. Marriage is a compromise and if his family are jerks you can chose not to be around them. You're getting all bent out of shape because of the "idea" that they don't like you, and putting your foot down abotu things that haven't happened yet.
I think EVERY parent out there has a RIGHT to be concerned about any of us marrying someone from another country, particularly those of us who met online. Perhaps they just don't understand what is going on, maybe they think your English is not so great, maybe they have a hard time understanding accents, and just MAYBE the things your husband told you is true and they don't use the internet etc, maybe they are shy and have a hard time just picking up the phone and talking to a stranger.
You should take a deep breath and rethink how defensive you're acting. They'll like you or they won't, but getting mad about it now is not the way to handle it. Furthermore, if it bothers you THIS much ask for their addresses and write them a letter. See what happens.

I am a 100% firm believer in a marriage having joint accounts only. I absolutely do not want money hidden, or the inability to know what is going on is various accounts. We've discussed it and we will have an account here and in Scotland for when we go back on trips, or in case he has to go over for an emergency.

I am a 100% firm believer in a marriage having joint accounts only. I absolutely do not want money hidden, or the inability to know what is going on is various accounts. We've discussed it and we will have an account here and in Scotland for when we go back on trips, or in case he has to go over for an emergency.