momof1

Take what you like snd what is beneficial from what I say. I've been martied to my Algerian husband for more than 11 years. We have two boys and another coming in 3 weeks. Except for one Couple on this board(meriem dz), I've never known in real life or online any other couple in your exact situation. All of the couples are close in age or have an older Algerian husband like myself. Over the last couple years, as the number of applicants from Algeria increases, it has become a much more difficult embassy ti get through than it once was. I cannot say his intentions aren't real but for sure it is a odd combination there. Even though the age difference between my husband and I is commin(10 yrs), I know my ILs would have preferred he married an Algerian... Even after all these years and the grandchildren I gave them. My children were their first grandchildren and no doubt they love them and me very much. However, I'm sure I'm not what they ever imagined for their son.
Concentrate on getting to know him better. Knowing what I know, I'd be concerned if him or his family pushed you to move too fast.

He wasn't a dream if there was random physical abuse when you travelled abroad. That was your warning. You should have left his butt there. I'm sorry that happened and that you were too young/naive to see it coming.

You can probably stop with the generalizations and "never" talk like you have any clue about all MENA men. There are, for sure, good and bad stories to be told. Not every one is like yours. You picked a bad apple...simple enough. If he's beating on you he'll probably beat on some woman from back home too.
My kids spend one month alone with my non-muslim parents in another state each summer. Last year we all went to Disney World with my family. This is a man who is god fearing and dedicated to his family. Family being me and our children. I have no doubt that he has given me, in the last 11 years, everything and more he would have given a woman from his own country.
I do acknowledge that really sad stories like yours exist but I refuse to admit that they are the norm. They are not the norm if you choose a good person.

For the first time in 11 years of marriage, my husband got me a valentines gift. We dont exchange gifts for these thing so I had to let out a huge chuckle when he gave me dill flavored cheese curds and said happy valentines. He picked them up ar a truck stop in wisconsin on Thursday. It was hilarious.

For the first time in 11 years of marriage, my husband got me a valentines gift. We dont exchange gifts for these thing so I had to let out a huge chuckle when he gave me dill flavored cheese curds and said happy valentines. He picked them up ar a truck stop in wisconsin on Thursday. It was hilarious.

My husband lived abroad for for close to 6 years before we married. Had I gotten him fresh out if Algeria, and his family's home, I'm sure we wouldn't still be together. That's bc the women in his family do wait on the men hand and foot. He was away long enough to learn to be self sufficient. He lacked any relationship experience but I was you when we married so I feel like we learned together. There is no standard for MENA men, but there are many truths in generalizations.

For the first time in 11 years of marriage, my husband got me a valentines gift. We dont exchange gifts for these thing so I had to let out a huge chuckle when he gave me dill flavored cheese curds and said happy valentines. He picked them up ar a truck stop in wisconsin on Thursday. It was hilarious.

Does this Miroccan friend have status in the US ? If not, beware. He could be grooming you and setting you up to be used. By telling you how other moroccan men are he is attempting to prove he is not like them when he very well may be.

11 years and counting, baby! And I do mean to brag. If I had doubts I never ever would have married him. All these years and three kids later, I have no doubt that he treats me no different than a woman from Algeria.

Henia, I'm going to be honest with you. Please don't take a chance with the tourist visa. It could work but it could also go terribly wrong. If anyone even thinks you're trying to bypass normal visa processing, you're husband will get slapped with a lifetime ban for fraud. This is a ban my own spouse had( under diff circumstances), we fought and we won. It would be very difficult for you to fight since you've lived in Algeria for 7 years. The basis for getting it overturned is not being able to live in applicant's country OR in the US without them. The fraud finding can happen at the interview or when you all try to enter the US. If it happens at the airport, he will be returned to Algeria and you have a deportation ban to fight as well.
My advice is to find a trusted friend in the US willing to sign the affidavit of support for him. Stay in Algeria duting processing and come to the US together.

Henia, I'm going to be honest with you. Please don't take a chance with the tourist visa. It could work but it could also go terribly wrong. If anyone even thinks you're trying to bypass normal visa processing, you're husband will get slapped with a lifetime ban for fraud. This is a ban my own spouse had( under diff circumstances), we fought and we won. It would be very difficult for you to fight since you've lived in Algeria for 7 years. The basis for getting it overturned is not being able to live in applicant's country OR in the US without them. The fraud finding can happen at the interview or when you all try to enter the US. If it happens at the airport, he will be returned to Algeria and you have a deportation ban to fight as well.
My advice is to find a trusted friend in the US willing to sign the affidavit of support for him. Stay in Algeria duting processing and come to the US together.

Henia, I'm going to be honest with you. Please don't take a chance with the tourist visa. It could work but it could also go terribly wrong. If anyone even thinks you're trying to bypass normal visa processing, you're husband will get slapped with a lifetime ban for fraud. This is a ban my own spouse had( under diff circumstances), we fought and we won. It would be very difficult for you to fight since you've lived in Algeria for 7 years. The basis for getting it overturned is not being able to live in applicant's country OR in the US without them. The fraud finding can happen at the interview or when you all try to enter the US. If it happens at the airport, he will be returned to Algeria and you have a deportation ban to fight as well.
My advice is to find a trusted friend in the US willing to sign the affidavit of support for him. Stay in Algeria duting processing and come to the US together.

Awwww so much to be thankful for , mabrook. What did you name him?

I just want to mention just in case people may benefit from this is that to me, the worst possible scenario isn't really breaking up-- but rather breaking up and then having to deal with the I864 if the other person turned out to be a giant tool. So for those who haven't really read or understood the I-864, maybe take the time to do so now. Divorce does not negate it. It does not "time out." The beneficiary either works enough qualified quarters (minimum of 10 years iirc) or becomes a USC. Lots of discussion about heartbreak and such, but not a lot of discussion about how when you're in the midst of this, it could also turn out to be a financial disaster that affects you and your family's life for a long, long time.

Successful visa issuance isn't the same as a successful marriage. What others are suggesting is that the rate of still being married after visa issuance/green card/citizenship for these relationships is very low. If your only judge of success is getting a visa then yes most are.

Successful visa issuance isn't the same as a successful marriage. What others are suggesting is that the rate of still being married after visa issuance/green card/citizenship for these relationships is very low. If your only judge of success is getting a visa then yes most are.

Successful visa issuance isn't the same as a successful marriage. What others are suggesting is that the rate of still being married after visa issuance/green card/citizenship for these relationships is very low. If your only judge of success is getting a visa then yes most are.

Successful visa issuance isn't the same as a successful marriage. What others are suggesting is that the rate of still being married after visa issuance/green card/citizenship for these relationships is very low. If your only judge of success is getting a visa then yes most are.

Successful visa issuance isn't the same as a successful marriage. What others are suggesting is that the rate of still being married after visa issuance/green card/citizenship for these relationships is very low. If your only judge of success is getting a visa then yes most are.

My husband lived abroad for for close to 6 years before we married. Had I gotten him fresh out if Algeria, and his family's home, I'm sure we wouldn't still be together. That's bc the women in his family do wait on the men hand and foot. He was away long enough to learn to be self sufficient. He lacked any relationship experience but I was you when we married so I feel like we learned together. There is no standard for MENA men, but there are many truths in generalizations.

Take what you like snd what is beneficial from what I say. I've been martied to my Algerian husband for more than 11 years. We have two boys and another coming in 3 weeks. Except for one Couple on this board(meriem dz), I've never known in real life or online any other couple in your exact situation. All of the couples are close in age or have an older Algerian husband like myself. Over the last couple years, as the number of applicants from Algeria increases, it has become a much more difficult embassy ti get through than it once was. I cannot say his intentions aren't real but for sure it is a odd combination there. Even though the age difference between my husband and I is commin(10 yrs), I know my ILs would have preferred he married an Algerian... Even after all these years and the grandchildren I gave them. My children were their first grandchildren and no doubt they love them and me very much. However, I'm sure I'm not what they ever imagined for their son.
Concentrate on getting to know him better. Knowing what I know, I'd be concerned if him or his family pushed you to move too fast.

There's a wide range of MENA male capabilities and norms among guys in their 20s living at home, just like any other group of guys. My husband came to the US knowing some basic cooking and cleaning and self sufficiency skills, and actively worked to learn more of these skills while we have been married. No women in his house wait on any males in his house hand and foot. But there's plenty of stories and experiences shared here in MENA over the years of utter incompetence in these areas, and the guys seeing absolutely nothing wrong with that incompetence, and not looking to make any changes or improvements there. Some relationships with American females are totally ok with that. Others it takes completely by surprise, and it becomes a big source of conflict. Reading experiences shared on this website since 2006, I've seen a lot of complaints and frustration expressed about it. Far too many to write off. And far too many to agree with general statements about how it's silly not to assume that guys in their 20s, MENA or not, are totally prepared to run households with women of any age. That's ridiculous.
Money has been a major source of conflict too, I've read countless complaints about MENA guys who once they start working in the US contribute absolutely zero to the financial needs in the house. This has to be discussed beforehand. There are no guarantees at all that a MENA guy in his 20s, or any other guy, is financially responsible, or knows how to or wants to contribute to household expenses, just because Madeinmorocco2 says they " understand the meaning of money and how to spend money wisely at a very young age as we start working and helping our families live." No. That is not even remotely a universal truth. MENA guys can be just as big of losers in this area as any other guys.
Comparing broken marriage rates in the US of same age couples to couples with age differences in Morocco is like trying to compare apples to bowling balls, Madeinmorocco2. Sociologically, there are HUGE differences, reasons, and consequences that make it impossible to compare side by side the way you're trying to do here. Pointless comparison really.

Take what you like snd what is beneficial from what I say. I've been martied to my Algerian husband for more than 11 years. We have two boys and another coming in 3 weeks. Except for one Couple on this board(meriem dz), I've never known in real life or online any other couple in your exact situation. All of the couples are close in age or have an older Algerian husband like myself. Over the last couple years, as the number of applicants from Algeria increases, it has become a much more difficult embassy ti get through than it once was. I cannot say his intentions aren't real but for sure it is a odd combination there. Even though the age difference between my husband and I is commin(10 yrs), I know my ILs would have preferred he married an Algerian... Even after all these years and the grandchildren I gave them. My children were their first grandchildren and no doubt they love them and me very much. However, I'm sure I'm not what they ever imagined for their son.
Concentrate on getting to know him better. Knowing what I know, I'd be concerned if him or his family pushed you to move too fast.

Take what you like snd what is beneficial from what I say. I've been martied to my Algerian husband for more than 11 years. We have two boys and another coming in 3 weeks. Except for one Couple on this board(meriem dz), I've never known in real life or online any other couple in your exact situation. All of the couples are close in age or have an older Algerian husband like myself. Over the last couple years, as the number of applicants from Algeria increases, it has become a much more difficult embassy ti get through than it once was. I cannot say his intentions aren't real but for sure it is a odd combination there. Even though the age difference between my husband and I is commin(10 yrs), I know my ILs would have preferred he married an Algerian... Even after all these years and the grandchildren I gave them. My children were their first grandchildren and no doubt they love them and me very much. However, I'm sure I'm not what they ever imagined for their son.
Concentrate on getting to know him better. Knowing what I know, I'd be concerned if him or his family pushed you to move too fast.

Take what you like snd what is beneficial from what I say. I've been martied to my Algerian husband for more than 11 years. We have two boys and another coming in 3 weeks. Except for one Couple on this board(meriem dz), I've never known in real life or online any other couple in your exact situation. All of the couples are close in age or have an older Algerian husband like myself. Over the last couple years, as the number of applicants from Algeria increases, it has become a much more difficult embassy ti get through than it once was. I cannot say his intentions aren't real but for sure it is a odd combination there. Even though the age difference between my husband and I is commin(10 yrs), I know my ILs would have preferred he married an Algerian... Even after all these years and the grandchildren I gave them. My children were their first grandchildren and no doubt they love them and me very much. However, I'm sure I'm not what they ever imagined for their son.
Concentrate on getting to know him better. Knowing what I know, I'd be concerned if him or his family pushed you to move too fast.