~Johnny~

I never got the "divorce certifciate" when I was divorced. Just a court signed copy of the decree. I ordered the official divorce certificate, which looks really nice as you described.. It's embossed and has seals and looks like something you want to frame and put on the wall...like uhhh diploma or something....

It’s been almost 4 months since my last post on VJ. Mainly I’ve just been too embarrassed by recent events with my marriage and upcoming divorce. I’m mainly posting this story so others in this situation can learn and use this to help protect themselves from these horrible things that DO happen to good people. Some folks here know that I’ve been through the K1 process earlier this year and brought my fiancé over from the Philipines. I won’t go into the Visa process as it was very quick and effortless thanks to experts here on VJ, but here’s what happened after she arrived in the US:
We were originally planning to be married a month after her arrival but her family began freaking out about her living with me (in Sin) for a month and they said we need to be married immediately or my fiancé needs to live with relatives Las Vegas until the wedding. After much arguing and disagreeing, we decided to get married on May 15…about 12 hours after her arrival in the US. She had a very controlling aunty that lived in Las Vegas and we lived in San Diego. Her aunt was ultimately a big player in our separation. Exactly 6 days after our marriage, my wife found some old photos of me and some old girlfriends on my laptop. She immediately began yelling at me and then locked herself in the bedroom and called her aunt. Two hours later her aunt sent a cousin to come pick her up and take her to Vegas. I tried talking to her and telling her this was in my past, I’m sorry I forgot to delete old photos…nothing could change her attitude. Her aunt was even worse as I tried talking to her and telling her that we are having our first argument and she needs to just let us handle this on our own. Her aunt began yelling at me a cursing me out and telling me that I have no place in telling her what to do with her niece.
So, my wife is whisked away in the middle of a Friday night and taken to Las Vegas to stay with her aunt. For nearly a week she refused to talk to me and called me lots of bad names and such. Then a friend of mine emailed me about a profile on this dating website that looks like my wife. I had suggested that he try looking at the website Filipinaheart for his match (because that’s where I met my wife). Sure enough, it was her and she had a profile posted using the photos of her taken during our wedding (of course minus me)! I made copies of the profile and saved them in PDF format. I was at work and immediately became emotional and just made it to my car before I broke out in tears. I got home and called my parents as they were coming to San Diego in two days to meet my wife and my daughter was coming to San Diego the following day. I told my parents the whole story because I wasn’t sure my wife would be there to meet them and I figured they should know the scoop. Then I sent a few text messages to my wife and she knew that I was pretty upset and that I knew about her profile on the dating site. I told her I was filing for a divorce the following week and that I hope she finds her “Knight in Shining Armor” which was her profile’s statement. She tried talking to me but I just hung up the phone. Her aunt called me later and tried talking and I said it’s over. Her aunt apologized and said she didn’t know her niece was doing this, she said her niece told her that we were talking and getting along and she was coming back home to me soon. A side note: while I’m talking to her aunt, I can hear singing in the background….happened to be my wife singing Karaoke. Pretty distraught huh? I even told her aunt, wow sounds like my wife is really taking this badly. Her aunt said, she’s just having fun! And said “don’t start thinking bad.” I told her aunt I can’t deal with this any longer and that it just isn’t going to work and I told her goodbye and God Bless. Five hours later at 1 am, there’s a knock on my door and it’s my wife and her aunt. Her aunt dropped her off and said you guys need to work this out.
So we talked and decided to try to make it work again. I went to get my daughter the following day in Denver. I have a beautiful 8 year daughter. We both arrived back in San Diego that evening and we all went out for dinner. My wife and my daughter really got along well. My mom and dad showed up the following day. My mom agreed to be nice to my wife. My mom was not happy about my wife leaving me 6 days after the wedding for something as trivial as old pics on a laptop and then posting her profile on a dating site. BTW my wife said she only posted on that site because she was bored and wanted someone to talk to…..I said…well you could have talked to your husband instead of ignoring my calls.
She remained with me for three more weeks asking me on a daily basis to do her AOS. I told that we’ll do it when we have more money and when we know it’s right. Of course my mom/dad and daughter were all there on vacation as well. My wife seemed to change from the person I met in the Philippines. She spent ALL her time on the computer chatting with friends and doing her Facebook thing. Of course her Facebook had her listed as single and there was no mention or anything of me on there. She would lock herself in the bathroom for hours with the laptop and would be chatting with friends. About the second week, I was sitting on the sofa with her and I looked over on the laptop and noticed her chatting with a guy on that dating site. I said….whoa whoa whoa…not in my house you don’t and I closed the laptop and said..No you don’t not in front of me. I told her if that’s her game then she needs to go back to her aunt’s house because I don't want a wife talking with other guys on a dating site. We began arguing after that episode and at one point she called me a “stinky old man” in front of my daughter. My daughter said "daddy you don't stink, why did she say that?" I had to explain to my daughter that she was just being mean to her dad. She left on Jun 28. A week after she left, I notified ICE and sent them copies of that dating profile I saved, and copies of the original wedding photos she used for her profile. I gave them a complete write-up of events to date and gave them a copy of the divorce papers I filed in court. A very nice ICE agent from Las Vegas contacted me and told me that this appeared to be fraud and it appeared that it was a marriage of convenience. She said this is very common. She advised me to forget about the girl and please send them the final divorce decree when I get it so they can put her into removal proceedings.
That was in July, I have since moved to New Orleans and have taken a great job here and I'm trying to start a new life and forget this past summer. Three weeks ago I received a call from,,,guess who? Apparently she called me and wanted to know if I would “help” her adjust her status. I said no, I can’t do that because we are not living together and I filed for divorce and ohhh BTW I haven't heard from her in 3 months!! She then asked me what’s my plan? I said huh?? She said well…for her? I said I have no plans for you other than not seeing you again. She said that her and her aunty applied for AOS without my sponsorship and she said all they need from me is to sign the sponsor papers. Wow! I said uhhh NO! Well apparently, since they filed for adjustment, the USCIS now gave her 87 days to secure my signature or else her AOS will be denied which will be on November 20, 2010. And her last words to me 3 months earlier were “we got what we needed from you, we don’t need you anymore.” Well, after our conversation, I contacted the ICE agent in Vegas and she didn’t know about them filing AOS because sometimes the inter agencies don't communicate well between each other and then she said it just makes their case look more and more fraudulent by knowingly applying for status without the petitioner's involvement.
So, two days go by and I get a phone call from this guy. He apparently is her boyfriend in San Diego she is living with him and he is asking me to do her sponsorship. He said if I care for her I’ll do this for her! I said what??? Some %$# nerve for a boyfriend to call the husband.. and then I refused and he said…well then divorce her so he can marry her and she can stay in the US. I said…it doesn’t work like that dude but I am divorcing her. And told him good luck. Again, I contacted the ICE agent and she was shocked at the events and told me that everything to date that I have provided her is part of my wife’s “A” file. She said, she wishes more people would look beyond their hearts and notify ICE sooner when these problems first start. Her reasoning to me was; typically what will happen is the beneficiary will become desperate and begin an abuse claim (VAWA) as it’s usually the last ditch effort to stay in the US. And this is ususally the first time Immigration is even aware of a problem with the marriage. The unsuspecting USC is not even notified during a VAWA action and is never even given a chance to enter the other “side.” She said, most times the USC doesn't even know a VAWA case was filed against them and said it was something to do with protecting the abuse victim. She said that in my case, there’s more than ample evidence and data entered into her “A” file and that will all be reviewed during any possible VAWA action. She said if there’s ever a VAWA case started; the first thing the adjudicator asks for is the “A” file. Again, she commended me on keeping them informed and recommended I try to forget this experience and move on with my life. The ICE agent told me that it will be extremely difficult now for my wife to fabricate a convincing VAWA story that will stick without any very convincing evidence.
So, there’s my story. Also...I was kind of disappointed that it looks like ICE doesn't really go after Visa-dodgers but rather they wait for them to eventually show up and then catch them and deport them. The agent told me in some cases they do go after these folks depending on the circumstance. I really appreciated everyone’s helping me try and realize the dream and it was really just my fault for not paying attention to early red flags in this relationship. I have moved-on and have re-kindled an old flame, who until recently, I didn't know even cared for me so much.

It’s been almost 4 months since my last post on VJ. Mainly I’ve just been too embarrassed by recent events with my marriage and upcoming divorce. I’m mainly posting this story so others in this situation can learn and use this to help protect themselves from these horrible things that DO happen to good people. Some folks here know that I’ve been through the K1 process earlier this year and brought my fiancé over from the Philipines. I won’t go into the Visa process as it was very quick and effortless thanks to experts here on VJ, but here’s what happened after she arrived in the US:
We were originally planning to be married a month after her arrival but her family began freaking out about her living with me (in Sin) for a month and they said we need to be married immediately or my fiancé needs to live with relatives Las Vegas until the wedding. After much arguing and disagreeing, we decided to get married on May 15…about 12 hours after her arrival in the US. She had a very controlling aunty that lived in Las Vegas and we lived in San Diego. Her aunt was ultimately a big player in our separation. Exactly 6 days after our marriage, my wife found some old photos of me and some old girlfriends on my laptop. She immediately began yelling at me and then locked herself in the bedroom and called her aunt. Two hours later her aunt sent a cousin to come pick her up and take her to Vegas. I tried talking to her and telling her this was in my past, I’m sorry I forgot to delete old photos…nothing could change her attitude. Her aunt was even worse as I tried talking to her and telling her that we are having our first argument and she needs to just let us handle this on our own. Her aunt began yelling at me a cursing me out and telling me that I have no place in telling her what to do with her niece.
So, my wife is whisked away in the middle of a Friday night and taken to Las Vegas to stay with her aunt. For nearly a week she refused to talk to me and called me lots of bad names and such. Then a friend of mine emailed me about a profile on this dating website that looks like my wife. I had suggested that he try looking at the website Filipinaheart for his match (because that’s where I met my wife). Sure enough, it was her and she had a profile posted using the photos of her taken during our wedding (of course minus me)! I made copies of the profile and saved them in PDF format. I was at work and immediately became emotional and just made it to my car before I broke out in tears. I got home and called my parents as they were coming to San Diego in two days to meet my wife and my daughter was coming to San Diego the following day. I told my parents the whole story because I wasn’t sure my wife would be there to meet them and I figured they should know the scoop. Then I sent a few text messages to my wife and she knew that I was pretty upset and that I knew about her profile on the dating site. I told her I was filing for a divorce the following week and that I hope she finds her “Knight in Shining Armor” which was her profile’s statement. She tried talking to me but I just hung up the phone. Her aunt called me later and tried talking and I said it’s over. Her aunt apologized and said she didn’t know her niece was doing this, she said her niece told her that we were talking and getting along and she was coming back home to me soon. A side note: while I’m talking to her aunt, I can hear singing in the background….happened to be my wife singing Karaoke. Pretty distraught huh? I even told her aunt, wow sounds like my wife is really taking this badly. Her aunt said, she’s just having fun! And said “don’t start thinking bad.” I told her aunt I can’t deal with this any longer and that it just isn’t going to work and I told her goodbye and God Bless. Five hours later at 1 am, there’s a knock on my door and it’s my wife and her aunt. Her aunt dropped her off and said you guys need to work this out.
So we talked and decided to try to make it work again. I went to get my daughter the following day in Denver. I have a beautiful 8 year daughter. We both arrived back in San Diego that evening and we all went out for dinner. My wife and my daughter really got along well. My mom and dad showed up the following day. My mom agreed to be nice to my wife. My mom was not happy about my wife leaving me 6 days after the wedding for something as trivial as old pics on a laptop and then posting her profile on a dating site. BTW my wife said she only posted on that site because she was bored and wanted someone to talk to…..I said…well you could have talked to your husband instead of ignoring my calls.
She remained with me for three more weeks asking me on a daily basis to do her AOS. I told that we’ll do it when we have more money and when we know it’s right. Of course my mom/dad and daughter were all there on vacation as well. My wife seemed to change from the person I met in the Philippines. She spent ALL her time on the computer chatting with friends and doing her Facebook thing. Of course her Facebook had her listed as single and there was no mention or anything of me on there. She would lock herself in the bathroom for hours with the laptop and would be chatting with friends. About the second week, I was sitting on the sofa with her and I looked over on the laptop and noticed her chatting with a guy on that dating site. I said….whoa whoa whoa…not in my house you don’t and I closed the laptop and said..No you don’t not in front of me. I told her if that’s her game then she needs to go back to her aunt’s house because I don't want a wife talking with other guys on a dating site. We began arguing after that episode and at one point she called me a “stinky old man” in front of my daughter. My daughter said "daddy you don't stink, why did she say that?" I had to explain to my daughter that she was just being mean to her dad. She left on Jun 28. A week after she left, I notified ICE and sent them copies of that dating profile I saved, and copies of the original wedding photos she used for her profile. I gave them a complete write-up of events to date and gave them a copy of the divorce papers I filed in court. A very nice ICE agent from Las Vegas contacted me and told me that this appeared to be fraud and it appeared that it was a marriage of convenience. She said this is very common. She advised me to forget about the girl and please send them the final divorce decree when I get it so they can put her into removal proceedings.
That was in July, I have since moved to New Orleans and have taken a great job here and I'm trying to start a new life and forget this past summer. Three weeks ago I received a call from,,,guess who? Apparently she called me and wanted to know if I would “help” her adjust her status. I said no, I can’t do that because we are not living together and I filed for divorce and ohhh BTW I haven't heard from her in 3 months!! She then asked me what’s my plan? I said huh?? She said well…for her? I said I have no plans for you other than not seeing you again. She said that her and her aunty applied for AOS without my sponsorship and she said all they need from me is to sign the sponsor papers. Wow! I said uhhh NO! Well apparently, since they filed for adjustment, the USCIS now gave her 87 days to secure my signature or else her AOS will be denied which will be on November 20, 2010. And her last words to me 3 months earlier were “we got what we needed from you, we don’t need you anymore.” Well, after our conversation, I contacted the ICE agent in Vegas and she didn’t know about them filing AOS because sometimes the inter agencies don't communicate well between each other and then she said it just makes their case look more and more fraudulent by knowingly applying for status without the petitioner's involvement.
So, two days go by and I get a phone call from this guy. He apparently is her boyfriend in San Diego she is living with him and he is asking me to do her sponsorship. He said if I care for her I’ll do this for her! I said what??? Some %$# nerve for a boyfriend to call the husband.. and then I refused and he said…well then divorce her so he can marry her and she can stay in the US. I said…it doesn’t work like that dude but I am divorcing her. And told him good luck. Again, I contacted the ICE agent and she was shocked at the events and told me that everything to date that I have provided her is part of my wife’s “A” file. She said, she wishes more people would look beyond their hearts and notify ICE sooner when these problems first start. Her reasoning to me was; typically what will happen is the beneficiary will become desperate and begin an abuse claim (VAWA) as it’s usually the last ditch effort to stay in the US. And this is ususally the first time Immigration is even aware of a problem with the marriage. The unsuspecting USC is not even notified during a VAWA action and is never even given a chance to enter the other “side.” She said, most times the USC doesn't even know a VAWA case was filed against them and said it was something to do with protecting the abuse victim. She said that in my case, there’s more than ample evidence and data entered into her “A” file and that will all be reviewed during any possible VAWA action. She said if there’s ever a VAWA case started; the first thing the adjudicator asks for is the “A” file. Again, she commended me on keeping them informed and recommended I try to forget this experience and move on with my life. The ICE agent told me that it will be extremely difficult now for my wife to fabricate a convincing VAWA story that will stick without any very convincing evidence.
So, there’s my story. Also...I was kind of disappointed that it looks like ICE doesn't really go after Visa-dodgers but rather they wait for them to eventually show up and then catch them and deport them. The agent told me in some cases they do go after these folks depending on the circumstance. I really appreciated everyone’s helping me try and realize the dream and it was really just my fault for not paying attention to early red flags in this relationship. I have moved-on and have re-kindled an old flame, who until recently, I didn't know even cared for me so much.

It’s been almost 4 months since my last post on VJ. Mainly I’ve just been too embarrassed by recent events with my marriage and upcoming divorce. I’m mainly posting this story so others in this situation can learn and use this to help protect themselves from these horrible things that DO happen to good people. Some folks here know that I’ve been through the K1 process earlier this year and brought my fiancé over from the Philipines. I won’t go into the Visa process as it was very quick and effortless thanks to experts here on VJ, but here’s what happened after she arrived in the US:
We were originally planning to be married a month after her arrival but her family began freaking out about her living with me (in Sin) for a month and they said we need to be married immediately or my fiancé needs to live with relatives Las Vegas until the wedding. After much arguing and disagreeing, we decided to get married on May 15…about 12 hours after her arrival in the US. She had a very controlling aunty that lived in Las Vegas and we lived in San Diego. Her aunt was ultimately a big player in our separation. Exactly 6 days after our marriage, my wife found some old photos of me and some old girlfriends on my laptop. She immediately began yelling at me and then locked herself in the bedroom and called her aunt. Two hours later her aunt sent a cousin to come pick her up and take her to Vegas. I tried talking to her and telling her this was in my past, I’m sorry I forgot to delete old photos…nothing could change her attitude. Her aunt was even worse as I tried talking to her and telling her that we are having our first argument and she needs to just let us handle this on our own. Her aunt began yelling at me a cursing me out and telling me that I have no place in telling her what to do with her niece.
So, my wife is whisked away in the middle of a Friday night and taken to Las Vegas to stay with her aunt. For nearly a week she refused to talk to me and called me lots of bad names and such. Then a friend of mine emailed me about a profile on this dating website that looks like my wife. I had suggested that he try looking at the website Filipinaheart for his match (because that’s where I met my wife). Sure enough, it was her and she had a profile posted using the photos of her taken during our wedding (of course minus me)! I made copies of the profile and saved them in PDF format. I was at work and immediately became emotional and just made it to my car before I broke out in tears. I got home and called my parents as they were coming to San Diego in two days to meet my wife and my daughter was coming to San Diego the following day. I told my parents the whole story because I wasn’t sure my wife would be there to meet them and I figured they should know the scoop. Then I sent a few text messages to my wife and she knew that I was pretty upset and that I knew about her profile on the dating site. I told her I was filing for a divorce the following week and that I hope she finds her “Knight in Shining Armor” which was her profile’s statement. She tried talking to me but I just hung up the phone. Her aunt called me later and tried talking and I said it’s over. Her aunt apologized and said she didn’t know her niece was doing this, she said her niece told her that we were talking and getting along and she was coming back home to me soon. A side note: while I’m talking to her aunt, I can hear singing in the background….happened to be my wife singing Karaoke. Pretty distraught huh? I even told her aunt, wow sounds like my wife is really taking this badly. Her aunt said, she’s just having fun! And said “don’t start thinking bad.” I told her aunt I can’t deal with this any longer and that it just isn’t going to work and I told her goodbye and God Bless. Five hours later at 1 am, there’s a knock on my door and it’s my wife and her aunt. Her aunt dropped her off and said you guys need to work this out.
So we talked and decided to try to make it work again. I went to get my daughter the following day in Denver. I have a beautiful 8 year daughter. We both arrived back in San Diego that evening and we all went out for dinner. My wife and my daughter really got along well. My mom and dad showed up the following day. My mom agreed to be nice to my wife. My mom was not happy about my wife leaving me 6 days after the wedding for something as trivial as old pics on a laptop and then posting her profile on a dating site. BTW my wife said she only posted on that site because she was bored and wanted someone to talk to…..I said…well you could have talked to your husband instead of ignoring my calls.
She remained with me for three more weeks asking me on a daily basis to do her AOS. I told that we’ll do it when we have more money and when we know it’s right. Of course my mom/dad and daughter were all there on vacation as well. My wife seemed to change from the person I met in the Philippines. She spent ALL her time on the computer chatting with friends and doing her Facebook thing. Of course her Facebook had her listed as single and there was no mention or anything of me on there. She would lock herself in the bathroom for hours with the laptop and would be chatting with friends. About the second week, I was sitting on the sofa with her and I looked over on the laptop and noticed her chatting with a guy on that dating site. I said….whoa whoa whoa…not in my house you don’t and I closed the laptop and said..No you don’t not in front of me. I told her if that’s her game then she needs to go back to her aunt’s house because I don't want a wife talking with other guys on a dating site. We began arguing after that episode and at one point she called me a “stinky old man” in front of my daughter. My daughter said "daddy you don't stink, why did she say that?" I had to explain to my daughter that she was just being mean to her dad. She left on Jun 28. A week after she left, I notified ICE and sent them copies of that dating profile I saved, and copies of the original wedding photos she used for her profile. I gave them a complete write-up of events to date and gave them a copy of the divorce papers I filed in court. A very nice ICE agent from Las Vegas contacted me and told me that this appeared to be fraud and it appeared that it was a marriage of convenience. She said this is very common. She advised me to forget about the girl and please send them the final divorce decree when I get it so they can put her into removal proceedings.
That was in July, I have since moved to New Orleans and have taken a great job here and I'm trying to start a new life and forget this past summer. Three weeks ago I received a call from,,,guess who? Apparently she called me and wanted to know if I would “help” her adjust her status. I said no, I can’t do that because we are not living together and I filed for divorce and ohhh BTW I haven't heard from her in 3 months!! She then asked me what’s my plan? I said huh?? She said well…for her? I said I have no plans for you other than not seeing you again. She said that her and her aunty applied for AOS without my sponsorship and she said all they need from me is to sign the sponsor papers. Wow! I said uhhh NO! Well apparently, since they filed for adjustment, the USCIS now gave her 87 days to secure my signature or else her AOS will be denied which will be on November 20, 2010. And her last words to me 3 months earlier were “we got what we needed from you, we don’t need you anymore.” Well, after our conversation, I contacted the ICE agent in Vegas and she didn’t know about them filing AOS because sometimes the inter agencies don't communicate well between each other and then she said it just makes their case look more and more fraudulent by knowingly applying for status without the petitioner's involvement.
So, two days go by and I get a phone call from this guy. He apparently is her boyfriend in San Diego she is living with him and he is asking me to do her sponsorship. He said if I care for her I’ll do this for her! I said what??? Some %$# nerve for a boyfriend to call the husband.. and then I refused and he said…well then divorce her so he can marry her and she can stay in the US. I said…it doesn’t work like that dude but I am divorcing her. And told him good luck. Again, I contacted the ICE agent and she was shocked at the events and told me that everything to date that I have provided her is part of my wife’s “A” file. She said, she wishes more people would look beyond their hearts and notify ICE sooner when these problems first start. Her reasoning to me was; typically what will happen is the beneficiary will become desperate and begin an abuse claim (VAWA) as it’s usually the last ditch effort to stay in the US. And this is ususally the first time Immigration is even aware of a problem with the marriage. The unsuspecting USC is not even notified during a VAWA action and is never even given a chance to enter the other “side.” She said, most times the USC doesn't even know a VAWA case was filed against them and said it was something to do with protecting the abuse victim. She said that in my case, there’s more than ample evidence and data entered into her “A” file and that will all be reviewed during any possible VAWA action. She said if there’s ever a VAWA case started; the first thing the adjudicator asks for is the “A” file. Again, she commended me on keeping them informed and recommended I try to forget this experience and move on with my life. The ICE agent told me that it will be extremely difficult now for my wife to fabricate a convincing VAWA story that will stick without any very convincing evidence.
So, there’s my story. Also...I was kind of disappointed that it looks like ICE doesn't really go after Visa-dodgers but rather they wait for them to eventually show up and then catch them and deport them. The agent told me in some cases they do go after these folks depending on the circumstance. I really appreciated everyone’s helping me try and realize the dream and it was really just my fault for not paying attention to early red flags in this relationship. I have moved-on and have re-kindled an old flame, who until recently, I didn't know even cared for me so much.

It’s been almost 4 months since my last post on VJ. Mainly I’ve just been too embarrassed by recent events with my marriage and upcoming divorce. I’m mainly posting this story so others in this situation can learn and use this to help protect themselves from these horrible things that DO happen to good people. Some folks here know that I’ve been through the K1 process earlier this year and brought my fiancé over from the Philipines. I won’t go into the Visa process as it was very quick and effortless thanks to experts here on VJ, but here’s what happened after she arrived in the US:
We were originally planning to be married a month after her arrival but her family began freaking out about her living with me (in Sin) for a month and they said we need to be married immediately or my fiancé needs to live with relatives Las Vegas until the wedding. After much arguing and disagreeing, we decided to get married on May 15…about 12 hours after her arrival in the US. She had a very controlling aunty that lived in Las Vegas and we lived in San Diego. Her aunt was ultimately a big player in our separation. Exactly 6 days after our marriage, my wife found some old photos of me and some old girlfriends on my laptop. She immediately began yelling at me and then locked herself in the bedroom and called her aunt. Two hours later her aunt sent a cousin to come pick her up and take her to Vegas. I tried talking to her and telling her this was in my past, I’m sorry I forgot to delete old photos…nothing could change her attitude. Her aunt was even worse as I tried talking to her and telling her that we are having our first argument and she needs to just let us handle this on our own. Her aunt began yelling at me a cursing me out and telling me that I have no place in telling her what to do with her niece.
So, my wife is whisked away in the middle of a Friday night and taken to Las Vegas to stay with her aunt. For nearly a week she refused to talk to me and called me lots of bad names and such. Then a friend of mine emailed me about a profile on this dating website that looks like my wife. I had suggested that he try looking at the website Filipinaheart for his match (because that’s where I met my wife). Sure enough, it was her and she had a profile posted using the photos of her taken during our wedding (of course minus me)! I made copies of the profile and saved them in PDF format. I was at work and immediately became emotional and just made it to my car before I broke out in tears. I got home and called my parents as they were coming to San Diego in two days to meet my wife and my daughter was coming to San Diego the following day. I told my parents the whole story because I wasn’t sure my wife would be there to meet them and I figured they should know the scoop. Then I sent a few text messages to my wife and she knew that I was pretty upset and that I knew about her profile on the dating site. I told her I was filing for a divorce the following week and that I hope she finds her “Knight in Shining Armor” which was her profile’s statement. She tried talking to me but I just hung up the phone. Her aunt called me later and tried talking and I said it’s over. Her aunt apologized and said she didn’t know her niece was doing this, she said her niece told her that we were talking and getting along and she was coming back home to me soon. A side note: while I’m talking to her aunt, I can hear singing in the background….happened to be my wife singing Karaoke. Pretty distraught huh? I even told her aunt, wow sounds like my wife is really taking this badly. Her aunt said, she’s just having fun! And said “don’t start thinking bad.” I told her aunt I can’t deal with this any longer and that it just isn’t going to work and I told her goodbye and God Bless. Five hours later at 1 am, there’s a knock on my door and it’s my wife and her aunt. Her aunt dropped her off and said you guys need to work this out.
So we talked and decided to try to make it work again. I went to get my daughter the following day in Denver. I have a beautiful 8 year daughter. We both arrived back in San Diego that evening and we all went out for dinner. My wife and my daughter really got along well. My mom and dad showed up the following day. My mom agreed to be nice to my wife. My mom was not happy about my wife leaving me 6 days after the wedding for something as trivial as old pics on a laptop and then posting her profile on a dating site. BTW my wife said she only posted on that site because she was bored and wanted someone to talk to…..I said…well you could have talked to your husband instead of ignoring my calls.
She remained with me for three more weeks asking me on a daily basis to do her AOS. I told that we’ll do it when we have more money and when we know it’s right. Of course my mom/dad and daughter were all there on vacation as well. My wife seemed to change from the person I met in the Philippines. She spent ALL her time on the computer chatting with friends and doing her Facebook thing. Of course her Facebook had her listed as single and there was no mention or anything of me on there. She would lock herself in the bathroom for hours with the laptop and would be chatting with friends. About the second week, I was sitting on the sofa with her and I looked over on the laptop and noticed her chatting with a guy on that dating site. I said….whoa whoa whoa…not in my house you don’t and I closed the laptop and said..No you don’t not in front of me. I told her if that’s her game then she needs to go back to her aunt’s house because I don't want a wife talking with other guys on a dating site. We began arguing after that episode and at one point she called me a “stinky old man” in front of my daughter. My daughter said "daddy you don't stink, why did she say that?" I had to explain to my daughter that she was just being mean to her dad. She left on Jun 28. A week after she left, I notified ICE and sent them copies of that dating profile I saved, and copies of the original wedding photos she used for her profile. I gave them a complete write-up of events to date and gave them a copy of the divorce papers I filed in court. A very nice ICE agent from Las Vegas contacted me and told me that this appeared to be fraud and it appeared that it was a marriage of convenience. She said this is very common. She advised me to forget about the girl and please send them the final divorce decree when I get it so they can put her into removal proceedings.
That was in July, I have since moved to New Orleans and have taken a great job here and I'm trying to start a new life and forget this past summer. Three weeks ago I received a call from,,,guess who? Apparently she called me and wanted to know if I would “help” her adjust her status. I said no, I can’t do that because we are not living together and I filed for divorce and ohhh BTW I haven't heard from her in 3 months!! She then asked me what’s my plan? I said huh?? She said well…for her? I said I have no plans for you other than not seeing you again. She said that her and her aunty applied for AOS without my sponsorship and she said all they need from me is to sign the sponsor papers. Wow! I said uhhh NO! Well apparently, since they filed for adjustment, the USCIS now gave her 87 days to secure my signature or else her AOS will be denied which will be on November 20, 2010. And her last words to me 3 months earlier were “we got what we needed from you, we don’t need you anymore.” Well, after our conversation, I contacted the ICE agent in Vegas and she didn’t know about them filing AOS because sometimes the inter agencies don't communicate well between each other and then she said it just makes their case look more and more fraudulent by knowingly applying for status without the petitioner's involvement.
So, two days go by and I get a phone call from this guy. He apparently is her boyfriend in San Diego she is living with him and he is asking me to do her sponsorship. He said if I care for her I’ll do this for her! I said what??? Some %$# nerve for a boyfriend to call the husband.. and then I refused and he said…well then divorce her so he can marry her and she can stay in the US. I said…it doesn’t work like that dude but I am divorcing her. And told him good luck. Again, I contacted the ICE agent and she was shocked at the events and told me that everything to date that I have provided her is part of my wife’s “A” file. She said, she wishes more people would look beyond their hearts and notify ICE sooner when these problems first start. Her reasoning to me was; typically what will happen is the beneficiary will become desperate and begin an abuse claim (VAWA) as it’s usually the last ditch effort to stay in the US. And this is ususally the first time Immigration is even aware of a problem with the marriage. The unsuspecting USC is not even notified during a VAWA action and is never even given a chance to enter the other “side.” She said, most times the USC doesn't even know a VAWA case was filed against them and said it was something to do with protecting the abuse victim. She said that in my case, there’s more than ample evidence and data entered into her “A” file and that will all be reviewed during any possible VAWA action. She said if there’s ever a VAWA case started; the first thing the adjudicator asks for is the “A” file. Again, she commended me on keeping them informed and recommended I try to forget this experience and move on with my life. The ICE agent told me that it will be extremely difficult now for my wife to fabricate a convincing VAWA story that will stick without any very convincing evidence.
So, there’s my story. Also...I was kind of disappointed that it looks like ICE doesn't really go after Visa-dodgers but rather they wait for them to eventually show up and then catch them and deport them. The agent told me in some cases they do go after these folks depending on the circumstance. I really appreciated everyone’s helping me try and realize the dream and it was really just my fault for not paying attention to early red flags in this relationship. I have moved-on and have re-kindled an old flame, who until recently, I didn't know even cared for me so much.

It’s been almost 4 months since my last post on VJ. Mainly I’ve just been too embarrassed by recent events with my marriage and upcoming divorce. I’m mainly posting this story so others in this situation can learn and use this to help protect themselves from these horrible things that DO happen to good people. Some folks here know that I’ve been through the K1 process earlier this year and brought my fiancé over from the Philipines. I won’t go into the Visa process as it was very quick and effortless thanks to experts here on VJ, but here’s what happened after she arrived in the US:
We were originally planning to be married a month after her arrival but her family began freaking out about her living with me (in Sin) for a month and they said we need to be married immediately or my fiancé needs to live with relatives Las Vegas until the wedding. After much arguing and disagreeing, we decided to get married on May 15…about 12 hours after her arrival in the US. She had a very controlling aunty that lived in Las Vegas and we lived in San Diego. Her aunt was ultimately a big player in our separation. Exactly 6 days after our marriage, my wife found some old photos of me and some old girlfriends on my laptop. She immediately began yelling at me and then locked herself in the bedroom and called her aunt. Two hours later her aunt sent a cousin to come pick her up and take her to Vegas. I tried talking to her and telling her this was in my past, I’m sorry I forgot to delete old photos…nothing could change her attitude. Her aunt was even worse as I tried talking to her and telling her that we are having our first argument and she needs to just let us handle this on our own. Her aunt began yelling at me a cursing me out and telling me that I have no place in telling her what to do with her niece.
So, my wife is whisked away in the middle of a Friday night and taken to Las Vegas to stay with her aunt. For nearly a week she refused to talk to me and called me lots of bad names and such. Then a friend of mine emailed me about a profile on this dating website that looks like my wife. I had suggested that he try looking at the website Filipinaheart for his match (because that’s where I met my wife). Sure enough, it was her and she had a profile posted using the photos of her taken during our wedding (of course minus me)! I made copies of the profile and saved them in PDF format. I was at work and immediately became emotional and just made it to my car before I broke out in tears. I got home and called my parents as they were coming to San Diego in two days to meet my wife and my daughter was coming to San Diego the following day. I told my parents the whole story because I wasn’t sure my wife would be there to meet them and I figured they should know the scoop. Then I sent a few text messages to my wife and she knew that I was pretty upset and that I knew about her profile on the dating site. I told her I was filing for a divorce the following week and that I hope she finds her “Knight in Shining Armor” which was her profile’s statement. She tried talking to me but I just hung up the phone. Her aunt called me later and tried talking and I said it’s over. Her aunt apologized and said she didn’t know her niece was doing this, she said her niece told her that we were talking and getting along and she was coming back home to me soon. A side note: while I’m talking to her aunt, I can hear singing in the background….happened to be my wife singing Karaoke. Pretty distraught huh? I even told her aunt, wow sounds like my wife is really taking this badly. Her aunt said, she’s just having fun! And said “don’t start thinking bad.” I told her aunt I can’t deal with this any longer and that it just isn’t going to work and I told her goodbye and God Bless. Five hours later at 1 am, there’s a knock on my door and it’s my wife and her aunt. Her aunt dropped her off and said you guys need to work this out.
So we talked and decided to try to make it work again. I went to get my daughter the following day in Denver. I have a beautiful 8 year daughter. We both arrived back in San Diego that evening and we all went out for dinner. My wife and my daughter really got along well. My mom and dad showed up the following day. My mom agreed to be nice to my wife. My mom was not happy about my wife leaving me 6 days after the wedding for something as trivial as old pics on a laptop and then posting her profile on a dating site. BTW my wife said she only posted on that site because she was bored and wanted someone to talk to…..I said…well you could have talked to your husband instead of ignoring my calls.
She remained with me for three more weeks asking me on a daily basis to do her AOS. I told that we’ll do it when we have more money and when we know it’s right. Of course my mom/dad and daughter were all there on vacation as well. My wife seemed to change from the person I met in the Philippines. She spent ALL her time on the computer chatting with friends and doing her Facebook thing. Of course her Facebook had her listed as single and there was no mention or anything of me on there. She would lock herself in the bathroom for hours with the laptop and would be chatting with friends. About the second week, I was sitting on the sofa with her and I looked over on the laptop and noticed her chatting with a guy on that dating site. I said….whoa whoa whoa…not in my house you don’t and I closed the laptop and said..No you don’t not in front of me. I told her if that’s her game then she needs to go back to her aunt’s house because I don't want a wife talking with other guys on a dating site. We began arguing after that episode and at one point she called me a “stinky old man” in front of my daughter. My daughter said "daddy you don't stink, why did she say that?" I had to explain to my daughter that she was just being mean to her dad. She left on Jun 28. A week after she left, I notified ICE and sent them copies of that dating profile I saved, and copies of the original wedding photos she used for her profile. I gave them a complete write-up of events to date and gave them a copy of the divorce papers I filed in court. A very nice ICE agent from Las Vegas contacted me and told me that this appeared to be fraud and it appeared that it was a marriage of convenience. She said this is very common. She advised me to forget about the girl and please send them the final divorce decree when I get it so they can put her into removal proceedings.
That was in July, I have since moved to New Orleans and have taken a great job here and I'm trying to start a new life and forget this past summer. Three weeks ago I received a call from,,,guess who? Apparently she called me and wanted to know if I would “help” her adjust her status. I said no, I can’t do that because we are not living together and I filed for divorce and ohhh BTW I haven't heard from her in 3 months!! She then asked me what’s my plan? I said huh?? She said well…for her? I said I have no plans for you other than not seeing you again. She said that her and her aunty applied for AOS without my sponsorship and she said all they need from me is to sign the sponsor papers. Wow! I said uhhh NO! Well apparently, since they filed for adjustment, the USCIS now gave her 87 days to secure my signature or else her AOS will be denied which will be on November 20, 2010. And her last words to me 3 months earlier were “we got what we needed from you, we don’t need you anymore.” Well, after our conversation, I contacted the ICE agent in Vegas and she didn’t know about them filing AOS because sometimes the inter agencies don't communicate well between each other and then she said it just makes their case look more and more fraudulent by knowingly applying for status without the petitioner's involvement.
So, two days go by and I get a phone call from this guy. He apparently is her boyfriend in San Diego she is living with him and he is asking me to do her sponsorship. He said if I care for her I’ll do this for her! I said what??? Some %$# nerve for a boyfriend to call the husband.. and then I refused and he said…well then divorce her so he can marry her and she can stay in the US. I said…it doesn’t work like that dude but I am divorcing her. And told him good luck. Again, I contacted the ICE agent and she was shocked at the events and told me that everything to date that I have provided her is part of my wife’s “A” file. She said, she wishes more people would look beyond their hearts and notify ICE sooner when these problems first start. Her reasoning to me was; typically what will happen is the beneficiary will become desperate and begin an abuse claim (VAWA) as it’s usually the last ditch effort to stay in the US. And this is ususally the first time Immigration is even aware of a problem with the marriage. The unsuspecting USC is not even notified during a VAWA action and is never even given a chance to enter the other “side.” She said, most times the USC doesn't even know a VAWA case was filed against them and said it was something to do with protecting the abuse victim. She said that in my case, there’s more than ample evidence and data entered into her “A” file and that will all be reviewed during any possible VAWA action. She said if there’s ever a VAWA case started; the first thing the adjudicator asks for is the “A” file. Again, she commended me on keeping them informed and recommended I try to forget this experience and move on with my life. The ICE agent told me that it will be extremely difficult now for my wife to fabricate a convincing VAWA story that will stick without any very convincing evidence.
So, there’s my story. Also...I was kind of disappointed that it looks like ICE doesn't really go after Visa-dodgers but rather they wait for them to eventually show up and then catch them and deport them. The agent told me in some cases they do go after these folks depending on the circumstance. I really appreciated everyone’s helping me try and realize the dream and it was really just my fault for not paying attention to early red flags in this relationship. I have moved-on and have re-kindled an old flame, who until recently, I didn't know even cared for me so much.

It’s been almost 4 months since my last post on VJ. Mainly I’ve just been too embarrassed by recent events with my marriage and upcoming divorce. I’m mainly posting this story so others in this situation can learn and use this to help protect themselves from these horrible things that DO happen to good people. Some folks here know that I’ve been through the K1 process earlier this year and brought my fiancé over from the Philipines. I won’t go into the Visa process as it was very quick and effortless thanks to experts here on VJ, but here’s what happened after she arrived in the US:
We were originally planning to be married a month after her arrival but her family began freaking out about her living with me (in Sin) for a month and they said we need to be married immediately or my fiancé needs to live with relatives Las Vegas until the wedding. After much arguing and disagreeing, we decided to get married on May 15…about 12 hours after her arrival in the US. She had a very controlling aunty that lived in Las Vegas and we lived in San Diego. Her aunt was ultimately a big player in our separation. Exactly 6 days after our marriage, my wife found some old photos of me and some old girlfriends on my laptop. She immediately began yelling at me and then locked herself in the bedroom and called her aunt. Two hours later her aunt sent a cousin to come pick her up and take her to Vegas. I tried talking to her and telling her this was in my past, I’m sorry I forgot to delete old photos…nothing could change her attitude. Her aunt was even worse as I tried talking to her and telling her that we are having our first argument and she needs to just let us handle this on our own. Her aunt began yelling at me a cursing me out and telling me that I have no place in telling her what to do with her niece.
So, my wife is whisked away in the middle of a Friday night and taken to Las Vegas to stay with her aunt. For nearly a week she refused to talk to me and called me lots of bad names and such. Then a friend of mine emailed me about a profile on this dating website that looks like my wife. I had suggested that he try looking at the website Filipinaheart for his match (because that’s where I met my wife). Sure enough, it was her and she had a profile posted using the photos of her taken during our wedding (of course minus me)! I made copies of the profile and saved them in PDF format. I was at work and immediately became emotional and just made it to my car before I broke out in tears. I got home and called my parents as they were coming to San Diego in two days to meet my wife and my daughter was coming to San Diego the following day. I told my parents the whole story because I wasn’t sure my wife would be there to meet them and I figured they should know the scoop. Then I sent a few text messages to my wife and she knew that I was pretty upset and that I knew about her profile on the dating site. I told her I was filing for a divorce the following week and that I hope she finds her “Knight in Shining Armor” which was her profile’s statement. She tried talking to me but I just hung up the phone. Her aunt called me later and tried talking and I said it’s over. Her aunt apologized and said she didn’t know her niece was doing this, she said her niece told her that we were talking and getting along and she was coming back home to me soon. A side note: while I’m talking to her aunt, I can hear singing in the background….happened to be my wife singing Karaoke. Pretty distraught huh? I even told her aunt, wow sounds like my wife is really taking this badly. Her aunt said, she’s just having fun! And said “don’t start thinking bad.” I told her aunt I can’t deal with this any longer and that it just isn’t going to work and I told her goodbye and God Bless. Five hours later at 1 am, there’s a knock on my door and it’s my wife and her aunt. Her aunt dropped her off and said you guys need to work this out.
So we talked and decided to try to make it work again. I went to get my daughter the following day in Denver. I have a beautiful 8 year daughter. We both arrived back in San Diego that evening and we all went out for dinner. My wife and my daughter really got along well. My mom and dad showed up the following day. My mom agreed to be nice to my wife. My mom was not happy about my wife leaving me 6 days after the wedding for something as trivial as old pics on a laptop and then posting her profile on a dating site. BTW my wife said she only posted on that site because she was bored and wanted someone to talk to…..I said…well you could have talked to your husband instead of ignoring my calls.
She remained with me for three more weeks asking me on a daily basis to do her AOS. I told that we’ll do it when we have more money and when we know it’s right. Of course my mom/dad and daughter were all there on vacation as well. My wife seemed to change from the person I met in the Philippines. She spent ALL her time on the computer chatting with friends and doing her Facebook thing. Of course her Facebook had her listed as single and there was no mention or anything of me on there. She would lock herself in the bathroom for hours with the laptop and would be chatting with friends. About the second week, I was sitting on the sofa with her and I looked over on the laptop and noticed her chatting with a guy on that dating site. I said….whoa whoa whoa…not in my house you don’t and I closed the laptop and said..No you don’t not in front of me. I told her if that’s her game then she needs to go back to her aunt’s house because I don't want a wife talking with other guys on a dating site. We began arguing after that episode and at one point she called me a “stinky old man” in front of my daughter. My daughter said "daddy you don't stink, why did she say that?" I had to explain to my daughter that she was just being mean to her dad. She left on Jun 28. A week after she left, I notified ICE and sent them copies of that dating profile I saved, and copies of the original wedding photos she used for her profile. I gave them a complete write-up of events to date and gave them a copy of the divorce papers I filed in court. A very nice ICE agent from Las Vegas contacted me and told me that this appeared to be fraud and it appeared that it was a marriage of convenience. She said this is very common. She advised me to forget about the girl and please send them the final divorce decree when I get it so they can put her into removal proceedings.
That was in July, I have since moved to New Orleans and have taken a great job here and I'm trying to start a new life and forget this past summer. Three weeks ago I received a call from,,,guess who? Apparently she called me and wanted to know if I would “help” her adjust her status. I said no, I can’t do that because we are not living together and I filed for divorce and ohhh BTW I haven't heard from her in 3 months!! She then asked me what’s my plan? I said huh?? She said well…for her? I said I have no plans for you other than not seeing you again. She said that her and her aunty applied for AOS without my sponsorship and she said all they need from me is to sign the sponsor papers. Wow! I said uhhh NO! Well apparently, since they filed for adjustment, the USCIS now gave her 87 days to secure my signature or else her AOS will be denied which will be on November 20, 2010. And her last words to me 3 months earlier were “we got what we needed from you, we don’t need you anymore.” Well, after our conversation, I contacted the ICE agent in Vegas and she didn’t know about them filing AOS because sometimes the inter agencies don't communicate well between each other and then she said it just makes their case look more and more fraudulent by knowingly applying for status without the petitioner's involvement.
So, two days go by and I get a phone call from this guy. He apparently is her boyfriend in San Diego she is living with him and he is asking me to do her sponsorship. He said if I care for her I’ll do this for her! I said what??? Some %$# nerve for a boyfriend to call the husband.. and then I refused and he said…well then divorce her so he can marry her and she can stay in the US. I said…it doesn’t work like that dude but I am divorcing her. And told him good luck. Again, I contacted the ICE agent and she was shocked at the events and told me that everything to date that I have provided her is part of my wife’s “A” file. She said, she wishes more people would look beyond their hearts and notify ICE sooner when these problems first start. Her reasoning to me was; typically what will happen is the beneficiary will become desperate and begin an abuse claim (VAWA) as it’s usually the last ditch effort to stay in the US. And this is ususally the first time Immigration is even aware of a problem with the marriage. The unsuspecting USC is not even notified during a VAWA action and is never even given a chance to enter the other “side.” She said, most times the USC doesn't even know a VAWA case was filed against them and said it was something to do with protecting the abuse victim. She said that in my case, there’s more than ample evidence and data entered into her “A” file and that will all be reviewed during any possible VAWA action. She said if there’s ever a VAWA case started; the first thing the adjudicator asks for is the “A” file. Again, she commended me on keeping them informed and recommended I try to forget this experience and move on with my life. The ICE agent told me that it will be extremely difficult now for my wife to fabricate a convincing VAWA story that will stick without any very convincing evidence.
So, there’s my story. Also...I was kind of disappointed that it looks like ICE doesn't really go after Visa-dodgers but rather they wait for them to eventually show up and then catch them and deport them. The agent told me in some cases they do go after these folks depending on the circumstance. I really appreciated everyone’s helping me try and realize the dream and it was really just my fault for not paying attention to early red flags in this relationship. I have moved-on and have re-kindled an old flame, who until recently, I didn't know even cared for me so much.

Really Chezzy?? After 4 posts on VJ you felt compelled to write your expert opinion on ladies here treating men badly and then accuse the OP of not saying the entire story? kmt

Really Chezzy?? After 4 posts on VJ you felt compelled to write your expert opinion on ladies here treating men badly and then accuse the OP of not saying the entire story? kmt

To OP... This is SOLID advice! I can say from experience having a similar situation as yours happen to me last year. I'm sorry to hear that this happens to people and that others use love and emotions to trick decent people into these situations. I can tell you that calling ICE will be the most difficult thing to do in your life because you obviously are in love and seem to be an honest/caring person. What you need to have sink into your mind, it takes time... trust me, but realize that this guy didn't love you (don't keep telling yourself he does). Anyone that treats their spouse like that is not in love. You were used to gain an immigration benefit. That's EXACTLY what the ICE Agent told me about my situation! The ICE Agent told me to forget my ex and move on with my life as she's now USCIS's problem and they will take care of her when she comes on the grid. ICE told me to not have any contact with my ex and to inform them if she ever attempts to contact me. It's been nearly a year since I reported her to ICE and it's been 6 months since the final divorce papers were sent to ICE. She's still here in the US, even ICE said that girl was not too bright. I have heard (her aunt txt msgs me occasional updates..not sure why) that my ex is living in San Diego, using a fake ID and is pregnant for her unemployed boyfriend. It does give me a chuckle to hear things are going so well for her . It takes time, but you need to seriously realize that you were used for a piece of paper to get into the USA, nothing more,,, move on with your life. There's men out there who will treat you with respect and honor. The guy you married ain't one of them.
As Darnell pointed out. You can't get him deported but DON'T file AOS and DON'T sponsor his I-864. Contact ICE to get the liability away from you! Make him a USCIS problem, not your problem. If he's drinking/driving and clubbing, maybe fighting. Chances are at some point in time he'll be picked up by local police during an "instance of convenience" as the ICE Agent told me. They don't really go after these types for immigration fraud but just wait for them to pop up in the grid (arrested, in hospital, accident, etc.). If he has a deportation order on his head then he goes back home compliments of Uncle Sam.
Goodluck and best wishes

To OP... This is SOLID advice! I can say from experience having a similar situation as yours happen to me last year. I'm sorry to hear that this happens to people and that others use love and emotions to trick decent people into these situations. I can tell you that calling ICE will be the most difficult thing to do in your life because you obviously are in love and seem to be an honest/caring person. What you need to have sink into your mind, it takes time... trust me, but realize that this guy didn't love you (don't keep telling yourself he does). Anyone that treats their spouse like that is not in love. You were used to gain an immigration benefit. That's EXACTLY what the ICE Agent told me about my situation! The ICE Agent told me to forget my ex and move on with my life as she's now USCIS's problem and they will take care of her when she comes on the grid. ICE told me to not have any contact with my ex and to inform them if she ever attempts to contact me. It's been nearly a year since I reported her to ICE and it's been 6 months since the final divorce papers were sent to ICE. She's still here in the US, even ICE said that girl was not too bright. I have heard (her aunt txt msgs me occasional updates..not sure why) that my ex is living in San Diego, using a fake ID and is pregnant for her unemployed boyfriend. It does give me a chuckle to hear things are going so well for her . It takes time, but you need to seriously realize that you were used for a piece of paper to get into the USA, nothing more,,, move on with your life. There's men out there who will treat you with respect and honor. The guy you married ain't one of them.
As Darnell pointed out. You can't get him deported but DON'T file AOS and DON'T sponsor his I-864. Contact ICE to get the liability away from you! Make him a USCIS problem, not your problem. If he's drinking/driving and clubbing, maybe fighting. Chances are at some point in time he'll be picked up by local police during an "instance of convenience" as the ICE Agent told me. They don't really go after these types for immigration fraud but just wait for them to pop up in the grid (arrested, in hospital, accident, etc.). If he has a deportation order on his head then he goes back home compliments of Uncle Sam.
Goodluck and best wishes

To OP... This is SOLID advice! I can say from experience having a similar situation as yours happen to me last year. I'm sorry to hear that this happens to people and that others use love and emotions to trick decent people into these situations. I can tell you that calling ICE will be the most difficult thing to do in your life because you obviously are in love and seem to be an honest/caring person. What you need to have sink into your mind, it takes time... trust me, but realize that this guy didn't love you (don't keep telling yourself he does). Anyone that treats their spouse like that is not in love. You were used to gain an immigration benefit. That's EXACTLY what the ICE Agent told me about my situation! The ICE Agent told me to forget my ex and move on with my life as she's now USCIS's problem and they will take care of her when she comes on the grid. ICE told me to not have any contact with my ex and to inform them if she ever attempts to contact me. It's been nearly a year since I reported her to ICE and it's been 6 months since the final divorce papers were sent to ICE. She's still here in the US, even ICE said that girl was not too bright. I have heard (her aunt txt msgs me occasional updates..not sure why) that my ex is living in San Diego, using a fake ID and is pregnant for her unemployed boyfriend. It does give me a chuckle to hear things are going so well for her . It takes time, but you need to seriously realize that you were used for a piece of paper to get into the USA, nothing more,,, move on with your life. There's men out there who will treat you with respect and honor. The guy you married ain't one of them.
As Darnell pointed out. You can't get him deported but DON'T file AOS and DON'T sponsor his I-864. Contact ICE to get the liability away from you! Make him a USCIS problem, not your problem. If he's drinking/driving and clubbing, maybe fighting. Chances are at some point in time he'll be picked up by local police during an "instance of convenience" as the ICE Agent told me. They don't really go after these types for immigration fraud but just wait for them to pop up in the grid (arrested, in hospital, accident, etc.). If he has a deportation order on his head then he goes back home compliments of Uncle Sam.
Goodluck and best wishes

CAT NAZ: the more experienced folks here are confused by what is happening as your boyfriend's story does not seem to fit normal operations for how Visas and such are processed. NVC usually does NOT do any denying of K1 Petitions sent from USCIS, the NVC is a mainly a stopping point where they perform further investigations on petitioner's/beneficiary's background before forwarding it to the respective Embassy. Usually the NVC turn around time is about a week. IF a problem in the FBI Name Check comes up (usual problems occur when you have 10 people with the same name and one may be a criminal), then you go into Additional Processing where they verify the name check issue against other data available. IF it becomes an issue missed by USCIS, such as an unreported previous K1, then the petition is returned to USCIS with the additional information for a decision. IF your boyfriend sent the petition properly (you said he has a lawyer), he would have needed to use his Social Security Number on the main document. That number is used by all government agencies to track US citizen activity. Based on that number being in the USCIS database, during the initial USCIS investigation phase, it would immediately have shown that he had sponsored a previous K1 and then USCIS would sent him a Request for Additional Evidence during the first few months of processing. I'm not saying it didn't happen at NVC, but the chances are VERY small that this is happening in the way it's being described to you by your boyfriend. Something is still missing.
Questions that you may or may not have an accurate answer from your boyfriend are:
-Have you personally seen the letter of denial from NVC?? Did your boyfriend just tell you this on the phone?
-Have you personally talked to your boyfriend's lawyer?
-Did you see any K1 Petition paper work before it was submitted? There's tons of forms that are submitted and you are required to complete a few forms as well. Do you recall completing a form number 325, or do you recall doing a letter of intent to marry?
I'm not trying to be mean, but there are some issues in this story that don't make sense. If your boyfriend sponsored a previous K1 Visa, and that beneficiary left him and became illegal, then it becomes a USCIS problem (NOT his problem) as long as he reported the issue and he's not wanted for illegal actions regarding that K1. I know from personal experience because I had a K1 disappear on me and I discussed this with USCIS adjudicators and they said so long as I followed procedure (notified ICE) then it becomes their problem regarding the illegal alien. If your boyfriend sponsored a K1 and she took off, at the most you should have received is a request for additional evidence during the K1 petition phase at the USCIS Service Center, not at the NVC level. It you want to have your boyfriend come on VJ and tell us what happened, maybe we could figure out the problem. I don't want to say this, but it sounds like,,,, if your boyfriend has been saying this has been in NVC for a year, then there may be something else going on that you're not being told.

Not enough money sorry... tell him to ask his employer for 20% raise so he can sponsor a Visa.... Just kidding
Sounds like you guys should be fine unless he has 8 other children living at his home.
M+P gave you good answer and the link for reference. Good luck on your journey and welcome to VJ!

It’s been almost 4 months since my last post on VJ. Mainly I’ve just been too embarrassed by recent events with my marriage and upcoming divorce. I’m mainly posting this story so others in this situation can learn and use this to help protect themselves from these horrible things that DO happen to good people. Some folks here know that I’ve been through the K1 process earlier this year and brought my fiancé over from the Philipines. I won’t go into the Visa process as it was very quick and effortless thanks to experts here on VJ, but here’s what happened after she arrived in the US:
We were originally planning to be married a month after her arrival but her family began freaking out about her living with me (in Sin) for a month and they said we need to be married immediately or my fiancé needs to live with relatives Las Vegas until the wedding. After much arguing and disagreeing, we decided to get married on May 15…about 12 hours after her arrival in the US. She had a very controlling aunty that lived in Las Vegas and we lived in San Diego. Her aunt was ultimately a big player in our separation. Exactly 6 days after our marriage, my wife found some old photos of me and some old girlfriends on my laptop. She immediately began yelling at me and then locked herself in the bedroom and called her aunt. Two hours later her aunt sent a cousin to come pick her up and take her to Vegas. I tried talking to her and telling her this was in my past, I’m sorry I forgot to delete old photos…nothing could change her attitude. Her aunt was even worse as I tried talking to her and telling her that we are having our first argument and she needs to just let us handle this on our own. Her aunt began yelling at me a cursing me out and telling me that I have no place in telling her what to do with her niece.
So, my wife is whisked away in the middle of a Friday night and taken to Las Vegas to stay with her aunt. For nearly a week she refused to talk to me and called me lots of bad names and such. Then a friend of mine emailed me about a profile on this dating website that looks like my wife. I had suggested that he try looking at the website Filipinaheart for his match (because that’s where I met my wife). Sure enough, it was her and she had a profile posted using the photos of her taken during our wedding (of course minus me)! I made copies of the profile and saved them in PDF format. I was at work and immediately became emotional and just made it to my car before I broke out in tears. I got home and called my parents as they were coming to San Diego in two days to meet my wife and my daughter was coming to San Diego the following day. I told my parents the whole story because I wasn’t sure my wife would be there to meet them and I figured they should know the scoop. Then I sent a few text messages to my wife and she knew that I was pretty upset and that I knew about her profile on the dating site. I told her I was filing for a divorce the following week and that I hope she finds her “Knight in Shining Armor” which was her profile’s statement. She tried talking to me but I just hung up the phone. Her aunt called me later and tried talking and I said it’s over. Her aunt apologized and said she didn’t know her niece was doing this, she said her niece told her that we were talking and getting along and she was coming back home to me soon. A side note: while I’m talking to her aunt, I can hear singing in the background….happened to be my wife singing Karaoke. Pretty distraught huh? I even told her aunt, wow sounds like my wife is really taking this badly. Her aunt said, she’s just having fun! And said “don’t start thinking bad.” I told her aunt I can’t deal with this any longer and that it just isn’t going to work and I told her goodbye and God Bless. Five hours later at 1 am, there’s a knock on my door and it’s my wife and her aunt. Her aunt dropped her off and said you guys need to work this out.
So we talked and decided to try to make it work again. I went to get my daughter the following day in Denver. I have a beautiful 8 year daughter. We both arrived back in San Diego that evening and we all went out for dinner. My wife and my daughter really got along well. My mom and dad showed up the following day. My mom agreed to be nice to my wife. My mom was not happy about my wife leaving me 6 days after the wedding for something as trivial as old pics on a laptop and then posting her profile on a dating site. BTW my wife said she only posted on that site because she was bored and wanted someone to talk to…..I said…well you could have talked to your husband instead of ignoring my calls.
She remained with me for three more weeks asking me on a daily basis to do her AOS. I told that we’ll do it when we have more money and when we know it’s right. Of course my mom/dad and daughter were all there on vacation as well. My wife seemed to change from the person I met in the Philippines. She spent ALL her time on the computer chatting with friends and doing her Facebook thing. Of course her Facebook had her listed as single and there was no mention or anything of me on there. She would lock herself in the bathroom for hours with the laptop and would be chatting with friends. About the second week, I was sitting on the sofa with her and I looked over on the laptop and noticed her chatting with a guy on that dating site. I said….whoa whoa whoa…not in my house you don’t and I closed the laptop and said..No you don’t not in front of me. I told her if that’s her game then she needs to go back to her aunt’s house because I don't want a wife talking with other guys on a dating site. We began arguing after that episode and at one point she called me a “stinky old man” in front of my daughter. My daughter said "daddy you don't stink, why did she say that?" I had to explain to my daughter that she was just being mean to her dad. She left on Jun 28. A week after she left, I notified ICE and sent them copies of that dating profile I saved, and copies of the original wedding photos she used for her profile. I gave them a complete write-up of events to date and gave them a copy of the divorce papers I filed in court. A very nice ICE agent from Las Vegas contacted me and told me that this appeared to be fraud and it appeared that it was a marriage of convenience. She said this is very common. She advised me to forget about the girl and please send them the final divorce decree when I get it so they can put her into removal proceedings.
That was in July, I have since moved to New Orleans and have taken a great job here and I'm trying to start a new life and forget this past summer. Three weeks ago I received a call from,,,guess who? Apparently she called me and wanted to know if I would “help” her adjust her status. I said no, I can’t do that because we are not living together and I filed for divorce and ohhh BTW I haven't heard from her in 3 months!! She then asked me what’s my plan? I said huh?? She said well…for her? I said I have no plans for you other than not seeing you again. She said that her and her aunty applied for AOS without my sponsorship and she said all they need from me is to sign the sponsor papers. Wow! I said uhhh NO! Well apparently, since they filed for adjustment, the USCIS now gave her 87 days to secure my signature or else her AOS will be denied which will be on November 20, 2010. And her last words to me 3 months earlier were “we got what we needed from you, we don’t need you anymore.” Well, after our conversation, I contacted the ICE agent in Vegas and she didn’t know about them filing AOS because sometimes the inter agencies don't communicate well between each other and then she said it just makes their case look more and more fraudulent by knowingly applying for status without the petitioner's involvement.
So, two days go by and I get a phone call from this guy. He apparently is her boyfriend in San Diego she is living with him and he is asking me to do her sponsorship. He said if I care for her I’ll do this for her! I said what??? Some %$# nerve for a boyfriend to call the husband.. and then I refused and he said…well then divorce her so he can marry her and she can stay in the US. I said…it doesn’t work like that dude but I am divorcing her. And told him good luck. Again, I contacted the ICE agent and she was shocked at the events and told me that everything to date that I have provided her is part of my wife’s “A” file. She said, she wishes more people would look beyond their hearts and notify ICE sooner when these problems first start. Her reasoning to me was; typically what will happen is the beneficiary will become desperate and begin an abuse claim (VAWA) as it’s usually the last ditch effort to stay in the US. And this is ususally the first time Immigration is even aware of a problem with the marriage. The unsuspecting USC is not even notified during a VAWA action and is never even given a chance to enter the other “side.” She said, most times the USC doesn't even know a VAWA case was filed against them and said it was something to do with protecting the abuse victim. She said that in my case, there’s more than ample evidence and data entered into her “A” file and that will all be reviewed during any possible VAWA action. She said if there’s ever a VAWA case started; the first thing the adjudicator asks for is the “A” file. Again, she commended me on keeping them informed and recommended I try to forget this experience and move on with my life. The ICE agent told me that it will be extremely difficult now for my wife to fabricate a convincing VAWA story that will stick without any very convincing evidence.
So, there’s my story. Also...I was kind of disappointed that it looks like ICE doesn't really go after Visa-dodgers but rather they wait for them to eventually show up and then catch them and deport them. The agent told me in some cases they do go after these folks depending on the circumstance. I really appreciated everyone’s helping me try and realize the dream and it was really just my fault for not paying attention to early red flags in this relationship. I have moved-on and have re-kindled an old flame, who until recently, I didn't know even cared for me so much.

Thanks everyone for your comments! After so many months it's still a bit painful but I know I'm going in the right direction. I read about so many people on VJ that coninue to go backwards out of blind faith for someone that doesn't love them and I always told myself I would do what needs to be done if this ever happened to me. It's way easier said than done. I knew about VAWA from reading VJ and during the marriage I did everything I could to not have any instance of perceived abuse upon her. I bit my tounge a lot. Like when she was chatting with another guy from a dating site on my laptop right there next to me. Inside of me, I wanted to slam the laptop into the wall, but I knew she would be dialing 911 and I would likely have handed her just what she wanted. I also had my daughter there to consider. Contacting ICE was one the most difficult things I've ever done in my life. Still chokes me up 4 months later to think of a grown man crying to a federal agent.
And to all the VJ filipinas. I apologize, I hope I didn't offend anyone. I really don't hate any race. I just happened to marry a bad apple who happens to be a filipina. I have lots of friends that have wonderful marriages with filipinas and everyone says my case is not normal.
God Bless everyone!

Little cut on the corner is normal. They used it for security view of some sorts.
Here's the post with the pic:
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/254202-got-my-visa-but-i-have-problem/page__fromsearch__1
Don't open the yellow envelope!!

CFO PRISM in Manila asked for a notarized one from my fiance. Luckily we had it notarized, like Charlie said...it cost maybe 50-100 pesos.

i cant figure it out either

Hey johnny just want to thank you for doing that little thing you done there for me, much appreciated.. I still can't figure out that DHL tracking, i must be having a "BLONDE" moment lol

The OP is HBK .... remember him?

If you go to the online service you used to file your taxes, chances are you can find your electronically filled out 1040. I used Turbo Tax and have used it for over 10 years. All my 1040s for the past 5 years are online and available by just logging into Turbo Tax and clicking on the history and printing the ones I want out.

I been looking at the same thing because my fiancee was thinking about finishing college. If you're talking about any US federal aid, then you'll have to wait till she's done with the AOS. That's one of their requirements, she must be adjusted status to permament resident to qualify.
http://studentaid.ed.gov/PORTALSWebApp/students/english/Glossary.jsp#elegiblenoncitizen

Well...actually, My ATT "everything" worked great in Alaska.. (my iphone and blackberry I had before iphone)...and it worked good when ATT was Alascom...as well.. I lived up there 17 years...but since moving to San Diego, which..you would think would have much more cell towers and better reception...but no...
What ticks me off most is that I finally got through to a person at NVC after 40 minutes of redials...then got almost a case number out of them before it dropped the call...I mean she was just about to give me the case number!! I just tried for the last hour and gave up on trying to get back in. Maybe I'll try later tonight or tomorrow, at least I know they have my case and it has a number and they have my email address.

No Way!! That's unbelievable..!! Must have been a military expedite.
Well, Hope everyone gets their good news soon. Cheers