Gemmie

My husband asked Commonwealth Insurance or whoever they are (a company that can give insurance based on low incomes) because we're both uninsured now. They rejected us because I haven't been here for more than 5 years, and they're also not taking any new customers because of the recession recovery. He can get insurance through his employer but they're asking for $500 a month - which is about 30% of his paycheck! So basically waiting for me to get a good job to cover us.
Makes you realise how much you took health coverage for granted in your home country.

A quick post to say that baby Leo arrived 3 weeks ago.
He weighed 8lb 12oz. I was told I was being induced at a routine ultrasound- scary! But the birth went smoothly, not nearly as bad as I thought. I made it to 4cm with horrendous back labour all night and day and then got an epidural. 2 hours later, I was ready to push! Was a great experience. No side effects, was up within a couple of hours.
It's been challenging to say the least. Leo is hard work! For the first 2 weeks, he screamed all night and we were running on empty until we found that letting him sleep on our chests was the only thing that kept him quiet. It's not something we want to keep up, and in a couple of weeks when we're both home for a long weekend, we will start the process of getting him to sleep in his crib in his room. Any tips anyone??

I too have experience with this, as my mother hung herself when I was a teenager because she felt there wasn't a way out of her illness and unhappiness. She had threatened to do so many times before, and before it actually happened, I also believed it was nothing more than "expressing how she feels". She had been depressed for years, and I often found letters around the house talking about how she felt, and in fact I used to get angry with her for leaving them. She always said talking to professionals made her feel worse. She visited a psychologist the week before she died, and it appeared to help, though looking back, she had already made up her mind. Anyway, she carried out her plan of actually ending her life and made damned sure that no one would stop her. Because of this, I absolutely despise it when I hear people say that suicidal threats are nothing but "attention-seeking". They are a symptom of depression, there is a bigger picture than attention-seeking.
My best friend also experienced a similar situation with her ex. He threatened to kill himself whenever she said it wasn't working, so she always ended up staying with him. She never realised how unhappy and draining the relationship was until she really did end it. And you know what? That was a few years ago now, and she just told me that he recently got married and is expecting a baby. He did fine without her. And she had cut off all communication with him.
What I'm trying to say, is that there isn't a black and white picture here. It isn't a case of "he's doing it to make you feel guilty and stay", nor is it someone who desperately wanted to end their life. No one here can say that. Every case is different, and we can't possibly ever know whether he intended on succeeding or not. Only he knows that, and only he has the power to get the professional help that he needs.
As for the OP; I don't know what to tell you, other than to protect yourself and your kids. I don't advise anyone to stay in a marriage that makes them miserable, vows or not. You intended to be with him forever when you married him, you weren't lying. Well, things happen. You learned that you rushed into the marriage, so take that with you. I would advise you to step back and think about what you want to do. He definitely needs psychological help, whether he intended to kill himself or not. He needs to learn how to process these feelings on his own with help from health professionals. I hope everything works out for you and your kids.

What you described is your husband being unfaithful and abandoning your home. How do you know that fraud was his ultimate goal?

I feel the same, Adam.
I found it really difficult to pack my bags and leave everything I knew. I haven't seen my family and friends in almost half a year now, and even though it gets easier (I was missing them dreadfully when I first got here), it's not something I would ever do if it wasn't for my husband.
When I was 14, I told myself that I was going to be a writer and live in America, and I have no idea why I thought that... I didn't know anything about the country. Anyone that didn't know anything else about me might claim that I had that intention when I came here and married, but to be honest, I completely forgot about that dream when I did move for real.
I am given many opportunities in America; I can claim resident tuition rates, I can work the same as a US citizen, I can get a credit card, a house, etc.. all of the things that I could do in my own country (except vote). I am grateful that America allows me to build a life here with one of its citizens, even though the process to do so is long and infuriating at times. On the other hand, America is scary.. there are many things politically that are bizarre to people in the UK, and even in my area, it's like a whole other world. Everyone goes hunting, there are stores dedicated to this everywhere, everyone has a gun, there is small print and disclaimers everywhere to prevent lawsuits, the food is often riddled with sugars and fats, there is no public transport, and people speak funny.
When I hear people put immigrants in this "fraudster" box, it irks me. I'm not from a high-fraud country, but I've still heard things. I belonged to another public forum for 6 years and when they found out I was moving to the US, I got comments about stealing government jobs and welfare.
I'd just like to add that I've seen this happen in my own country too. Whenever someone hears of someone "emigrating" to the UK from a high-fraud country, the first thing they usually speak of is how they'll be handed all kinds of property and welfare packages, and steal British jobs. And I bet if I go to a British immigration site, there will be plenty of fraud topics there too. I don't think it's specific to Americans, or anything to do with some patriotic ego. I think it goes deeper than that.

It's a BOY!!
The ultrasound was disappointing, the tech didn't let me see the screen and stayed silent the whole time. Then at the end, she had me roll around as baby had his legs crossed. She then casually just said "it's a boy"- we were like what?? We expected her to walk us through and do some kind of fun reveal. She then finally let me see the screen, showed me the #######, heart, bladder, hands/feet, profile, and then we were rushed away with some photos. Bummer! But I have to go back for another one this weekend as she missed part of the spine, and I will ask to see the baby this time.
The midwife notified me that the baby has a white spot on his heart. I almost died. But then she said it's ONLY a soft marker for Down's Syndrome, and my other tests came back negative, and my risk level was 1 in 50,000! So she said it's virtually no risk, and the baby won't have any heart problems.
Maven, it will be awesome if you get that done and dusted for the start of 2013.

It's a BOY!!
The ultrasound was disappointing, the tech didn't let me see the screen and stayed silent the whole time. Then at the end, she had me roll around as baby had his legs crossed. She then casually just said "it's a boy"- we were like what?? We expected her to walk us through and do some kind of fun reveal. She then finally let me see the screen, showed me the #######, heart, bladder, hands/feet, profile, and then we were rushed away with some photos. Bummer! But I have to go back for another one this weekend as she missed part of the spine, and I will ask to see the baby this time.
The midwife notified me that the baby has a white spot on his heart. I almost died. But then she said it's ONLY a soft marker for Down's Syndrome, and my other tests came back negative, and my risk level was 1 in 50,000! So she said it's virtually no risk, and the baby won't have any heart problems.
Maven, it will be awesome if you get that done and dusted for the start of 2013.

It's a BOY!!
The ultrasound was disappointing, the tech didn't let me see the screen and stayed silent the whole time. Then at the end, she had me roll around as baby had his legs crossed. She then casually just said "it's a boy"- we were like what?? We expected her to walk us through and do some kind of fun reveal. She then finally let me see the screen, showed me the #######, heart, bladder, hands/feet, profile, and then we were rushed away with some photos. Bummer! But I have to go back for another one this weekend as she missed part of the spine, and I will ask to see the baby this time.
The midwife notified me that the baby has a white spot on his heart. I almost died. But then she said it's ONLY a soft marker for Down's Syndrome, and my other tests came back negative, and my risk level was 1 in 50,000! So she said it's virtually no risk, and the baby won't have any heart problems.
Maven, it will be awesome if you get that done and dusted for the start of 2013.

Congratulations on your healthy little boy! Nice to have some new babies cooking in this thread. Sorry to hear she's been so unwell. I hope it dying down a bit now means she can have a break.
So I just got back from my ultrasound and everything is good! Saw the baby straight away where it should be, and it has a heartbeat of 160bpm which she said was bang in the middle of the normal range. My husband was holding my hand the whole time as I was so nervous, and I actually cried when I saw my little gummy bear on the screen- was just so emotional, I never expected to do that. I asked if everything looked normal and she said she's not a doctor so can't comment, but on the quiet, "nothing looks drastic". She gave us two pictures to take home. And the ultrasound itself really wasn't that bad. Just uncomfortable when she moved around in there. I go back on Monday to meet my midwife and have the first full prenatal visit.
ETA: Oh, and I'm measuring 8 weeks tomorrow, so I'm a few days further than I realised.

I loved lurking in this thread to read all the preggo and baby updates. Good luck with the doctor visit. I actually had no idea how much smoking could harm fertility (only marijuana and other drugs because the people I talk about this stuff with are prison inmates, haha)- I hope everything goes smoothly for you both.
Honey Crump, I think you would feel a lot of closure if you got the ball rolling and finalized the divorce. It is very "final" but then you can focus completely on your current situation. Don't let him guilt-trip you.

I guess I should post it in here. I just found out yesterday that I'm pregnant (took a couple tests and got a faint line so went and got a digital one and it told me flat-out). I think I'm about 4 weeks, so it's still very early. I've only told my two best friends and am not telling anyone else unless we make it to the Second Trimester. So keep it off Facebook for now please
I am terrified, LOL

I guess I should post it in here. I just found out yesterday that I'm pregnant (took a couple tests and got a faint line so went and got a digital one and it told me flat-out). I think I'm about 4 weeks, so it's still very early. I've only told my two best friends and am not telling anyone else unless we make it to the Second Trimester. So keep it off Facebook for now please
I am terrified, LOL

Vicky, I haven't read all of this topic, just your first post, so sorry if I missed something else.
But I just wanted to say I completely understand how you feel. When I first moved here, I moved to the middle of nowhere to live with my husband and his parents. I couldn't drive, couldn't work, couldn't have my own money, and all I did was sit at home every day and wait for my husband to get home from work. It did affect our relationship in some ways. I didn't notice it at the time, but looking back, I can see it- I was so whiney and miserable each day and the moment he walked through the door, I took the stress out on him, shouted at him if he resisted in any way, and then ended up feeling guilty for acting that way. Even when I got my AP, I had no money to visit the UK. And even when I got my EAD, I had no idea what to apply for. I started applying for all kinds of jobs, and no one would get back to me. I had disappointment after disappointment, and it all added up along with my homesickness, missing my friends in the UK, not having my independence, and I eventually starting feeling depressed. Again, not something I caught at the time. I just thought I was feeling sluggish. But looking back, I can say I was probably depressed. And why wouldn't I be? I lived in that situation for a year and a half, it was enough to bring anyone down.
Just to give you some perspective though, I barely recognise that person when I read old posts on here or think about what I used to do/think/feel. As soon as I passed my driving test, I got myself a job and that was it. Getting to see regular faces outside of my husband and his family was a blessing! We saved up enough to move out, and did so. That was about 1.5 years ago now, and I no longer feel miserable here. I do have days where I want to go to the UK, and all I want to do is see my friends there. But when I look at how far I've come here, and all I've accomplished, I honestly feel proud.
You will definitely get through this. DEFINITELY! I used to read peoples' posts on here when they told me that, and think 'maybe you did, but I never will'. Or 'just go out and meet people'? I would get mad... like, 'how am i supposed to do that with no money, no travel, and no PEOPLE around?' LOL. Really though, there is light at the end of the tunnel. It's crazy to think that when you make the leap, you have no identity over here and you have to start over.
Please message me on here, and/or feel free to add me on Facebook if you want. We can chat about it whenever you like.

Vicky, I haven't read all of this topic, just your first post, so sorry if I missed something else.
But I just wanted to say I completely understand how you feel. When I first moved here, I moved to the middle of nowhere to live with my husband and his parents. I couldn't drive, couldn't work, couldn't have my own money, and all I did was sit at home every day and wait for my husband to get home from work. It did affect our relationship in some ways. I didn't notice it at the time, but looking back, I can see it- I was so whiney and miserable each day and the moment he walked through the door, I took the stress out on him, shouted at him if he resisted in any way, and then ended up feeling guilty for acting that way. Even when I got my AP, I had no money to visit the UK. And even when I got my EAD, I had no idea what to apply for. I started applying for all kinds of jobs, and no one would get back to me. I had disappointment after disappointment, and it all added up along with my homesickness, missing my friends in the UK, not having my independence, and I eventually starting feeling depressed. Again, not something I caught at the time. I just thought I was feeling sluggish. But looking back, I can say I was probably depressed. And why wouldn't I be? I lived in that situation for a year and a half, it was enough to bring anyone down.
Just to give you some perspective though, I barely recognise that person when I read old posts on here or think about what I used to do/think/feel. As soon as I passed my driving test, I got myself a job and that was it. Getting to see regular faces outside of my husband and his family was a blessing! We saved up enough to move out, and did so. That was about 1.5 years ago now, and I no longer feel miserable here. I do have days where I want to go to the UK, and all I want to do is see my friends there. But when I look at how far I've come here, and all I've accomplished, I honestly feel proud.
You will definitely get through this. DEFINITELY! I used to read peoples' posts on here when they told me that, and think 'maybe you did, but I never will'. Or 'just go out and meet people'? I would get mad... like, 'how am i supposed to do that with no money, no travel, and no PEOPLE around?' LOL. Really though, there is light at the end of the tunnel. It's crazy to think that when you make the leap, you have no identity over here and you have to start over.
Please message me on here, and/or feel free to add me on Facebook if you want. We can chat about it whenever you like.

Mio (top) "standing" on Mayu (bottom). They are actually very close, but I love this photo.

Vicky, I haven't read all of this topic, just your first post, so sorry if I missed something else.
But I just wanted to say I completely understand how you feel. When I first moved here, I moved to the middle of nowhere to live with my husband and his parents. I couldn't drive, couldn't work, couldn't have my own money, and all I did was sit at home every day and wait for my husband to get home from work. It did affect our relationship in some ways. I didn't notice it at the time, but looking back, I can see it- I was so whiney and miserable each day and the moment he walked through the door, I took the stress out on him, shouted at him if he resisted in any way, and then ended up feeling guilty for acting that way. Even when I got my AP, I had no money to visit the UK. And even when I got my EAD, I had no idea what to apply for. I started applying for all kinds of jobs, and no one would get back to me. I had disappointment after disappointment, and it all added up along with my homesickness, missing my friends in the UK, not having my independence, and I eventually starting feeling depressed. Again, not something I caught at the time. I just thought I was feeling sluggish. But looking back, I can say I was probably depressed. And why wouldn't I be? I lived in that situation for a year and a half, it was enough to bring anyone down.
Just to give you some perspective though, I barely recognise that person when I read old posts on here or think about what I used to do/think/feel. As soon as I passed my driving test, I got myself a job and that was it. Getting to see regular faces outside of my husband and his family was a blessing! We saved up enough to move out, and did so. That was about 1.5 years ago now, and I no longer feel miserable here. I do have days where I want to go to the UK, and all I want to do is see my friends there. But when I look at how far I've come here, and all I've accomplished, I honestly feel proud.
You will definitely get through this. DEFINITELY! I used to read peoples' posts on here when they told me that, and think 'maybe you did, but I never will'. Or 'just go out and meet people'? I would get mad... like, 'how am i supposed to do that with no money, no travel, and no PEOPLE around?' LOL. Really though, there is light at the end of the tunnel. It's crazy to think that when you make the leap, you have no identity over here and you have to start over.
Please message me on here, and/or feel free to add me on Facebook if you want. We can chat about it whenever you like.

Vicky, I haven't read all of this topic, just your first post, so sorry if I missed something else.
But I just wanted to say I completely understand how you feel. When I first moved here, I moved to the middle of nowhere to live with my husband and his parents. I couldn't drive, couldn't work, couldn't have my own money, and all I did was sit at home every day and wait for my husband to get home from work. It did affect our relationship in some ways. I didn't notice it at the time, but looking back, I can see it- I was so whiney and miserable each day and the moment he walked through the door, I took the stress out on him, shouted at him if he resisted in any way, and then ended up feeling guilty for acting that way. Even when I got my AP, I had no money to visit the UK. And even when I got my EAD, I had no idea what to apply for. I started applying for all kinds of jobs, and no one would get back to me. I had disappointment after disappointment, and it all added up along with my homesickness, missing my friends in the UK, not having my independence, and I eventually starting feeling depressed. Again, not something I caught at the time. I just thought I was feeling sluggish. But looking back, I can say I was probably depressed. And why wouldn't I be? I lived in that situation for a year and a half, it was enough to bring anyone down.
Just to give you some perspective though, I barely recognise that person when I read old posts on here or think about what I used to do/think/feel. As soon as I passed my driving test, I got myself a job and that was it. Getting to see regular faces outside of my husband and his family was a blessing! We saved up enough to move out, and did so. That was about 1.5 years ago now, and I no longer feel miserable here. I do have days where I want to go to the UK, and all I want to do is see my friends there. But when I look at how far I've come here, and all I've accomplished, I honestly feel proud.
You will definitely get through this. DEFINITELY! I used to read peoples' posts on here when they told me that, and think 'maybe you did, but I never will'. Or 'just go out and meet people'? I would get mad... like, 'how am i supposed to do that with no money, no travel, and no PEOPLE around?' LOL. Really though, there is light at the end of the tunnel. It's crazy to think that when you make the leap, you have no identity over here and you have to start over.
Please message me on here, and/or feel free to add me on Facebook if you want. We can chat about it whenever you like.

Hi everyone!
I think there are a few people here that might remember me. I haven't been on here in forever, but I miss it! So am going to try and keep up with it again.
Updates on me: Me and the hubby celebrated my being in the U.S for three years the other day. In some ways, it feels like forever, and in other ways, it has flown by. I am doing very well, and finally feel like it's home here. The only thing I want to change is that I haven't really made any real friends still- I did make some through a class and through work, but then they were usually students or travellers and ended up moving away. But I am thinking of taking another class this year to meet more people. Other than that, I am still working full-time at the hospital and prison doing research. I've been trained and certified in M.I, a type of therapy, and working with adult inmates helping them have safe sex after release. And last week my boss said she's sending me for further therapy training so I can work with teenagers in prison. It will only be a part-time thing (at the University of Rhode Island), but if I can wiggle myself in there full-time, I can grab myself a State job with all the benefits. Not bad considering I only have a Bachelors degree!
Me and Bill are living in a little village miles away from anything, and I like it that way. We're 2 minutes walk from the essentials (pizza place, post office, library, park and bakery) and we have a lovely river outside our apartment, which I LOVE. We have two sister cats that we adopted and they make us laugh every day with their crazy antics. One of them has OCD (she gets very upset if we don't leave the dryer door open) and the other likes water (literally climbs all over me after a shower). We are very happy together, and nothing has changed in our relationship in this process except we've gone through ups and downs and I guess it's deepened. I'm trying not to lose sight of the earlier times of being grateful to even be in the same room- I think it's hard to remember that during every day life and its stressors, worrying about money or work or family.
Immigration-wise, we got our NOA for Removing Conditions last October, so it's been 8 or 9 months and we've heard nothing since Biometrics. But hoping it comes in soon. I can apply for Citizenship this year is I want to, and I think I'm gonna go for it. At first I had an identity crisis ("I am 100% BRITISH AND NOTHING ELSE!") but then decided it's just a passport and who I am will not change.
Anyways there's my news... fill me in with updates!

Vicky, I haven't read all of this topic, just your first post, so sorry if I missed something else.
But I just wanted to say I completely understand how you feel. When I first moved here, I moved to the middle of nowhere to live with my husband and his parents. I couldn't drive, couldn't work, couldn't have my own money, and all I did was sit at home every day and wait for my husband to get home from work. It did affect our relationship in some ways. I didn't notice it at the time, but looking back, I can see it- I was so whiney and miserable each day and the moment he walked through the door, I took the stress out on him, shouted at him if he resisted in any way, and then ended up feeling guilty for acting that way. Even when I got my AP, I had no money to visit the UK. And even when I got my EAD, I had no idea what to apply for. I started applying for all kinds of jobs, and no one would get back to me. I had disappointment after disappointment, and it all added up along with my homesickness, missing my friends in the UK, not having my independence, and I eventually starting feeling depressed. Again, not something I caught at the time. I just thought I was feeling sluggish. But looking back, I can say I was probably depressed. And why wouldn't I be? I lived in that situation for a year and a half, it was enough to bring anyone down.
Just to give you some perspective though, I barely recognise that person when I read old posts on here or think about what I used to do/think/feel. As soon as I passed my driving test, I got myself a job and that was it. Getting to see regular faces outside of my husband and his family was a blessing! We saved up enough to move out, and did so. That was about 1.5 years ago now, and I no longer feel miserable here. I do have days where I want to go to the UK, and all I want to do is see my friends there. But when I look at how far I've come here, and all I've accomplished, I honestly feel proud.
You will definitely get through this. DEFINITELY! I used to read peoples' posts on here when they told me that, and think 'maybe you did, but I never will'. Or 'just go out and meet people'? I would get mad... like, 'how am i supposed to do that with no money, no travel, and no PEOPLE around?' LOL. Really though, there is light at the end of the tunnel. It's crazy to think that when you make the leap, you have no identity over here and you have to start over.
Please message me on here, and/or feel free to add me on Facebook if you want. We can chat about it whenever you like.

Hi everyone!
I think there are a few people here that might remember me. I haven't been on here in forever, but I miss it! So am going to try and keep up with it again.
Updates on me: Me and the hubby celebrated my being in the U.S for three years the other day. In some ways, it feels like forever, and in other ways, it has flown by. I am doing very well, and finally feel like it's home here. The only thing I want to change is that I haven't really made any real friends still- I did make some through a class and through work, but then they were usually students or travellers and ended up moving away. But I am thinking of taking another class this year to meet more people. Other than that, I am still working full-time at the hospital and prison doing research. I've been trained and certified in M.I, a type of therapy, and working with adult inmates helping them have safe sex after release. And last week my boss said she's sending me for further therapy training so I can work with teenagers in prison. It will only be a part-time thing (at the University of Rhode Island), but if I can wiggle myself in there full-time, I can grab myself a State job with all the benefits. Not bad considering I only have a Bachelors degree!
Me and Bill are living in a little village miles away from anything, and I like it that way. We're 2 minutes walk from the essentials (pizza place, post office, library, park and bakery) and we have a lovely river outside our apartment, which I LOVE. We have two sister cats that we adopted and they make us laugh every day with their crazy antics. One of them has OCD (she gets very upset if we don't leave the dryer door open) and the other likes water (literally climbs all over me after a shower). We are very happy together, and nothing has changed in our relationship in this process except we've gone through ups and downs and I guess it's deepened. I'm trying not to lose sight of the earlier times of being grateful to even be in the same room- I think it's hard to remember that during every day life and its stressors, worrying about money or work or family.
Immigration-wise, we got our NOA for Removing Conditions last October, so it's been 8 or 9 months and we've heard nothing since Biometrics. But hoping it comes in soon. I can apply for Citizenship this year is I want to, and I think I'm gonna go for it. At first I had an identity crisis ("I am 100% BRITISH AND NOTHING ELSE!") but then decided it's just a passport and who I am will not change.
Anyways there's my news... fill me in with updates!

I feel the same, Adam.
I found it really difficult to pack my bags and leave everything I knew. I haven't seen my family and friends in almost half a year now, and even though it gets easier (I was missing them dreadfully when I first got here), it's not something I would ever do if it wasn't for my husband.
When I was 14, I told myself that I was going to be a writer and live in America, and I have no idea why I thought that... I didn't know anything about the country. Anyone that didn't know anything else about me might claim that I had that intention when I came here and married, but to be honest, I completely forgot about that dream when I did move for real.
I am given many opportunities in America; I can claim resident tuition rates, I can work the same as a US citizen, I can get a credit card, a house, etc.. all of the things that I could do in my own country (except vote). I am grateful that America allows me to build a life here with one of its citizens, even though the process to do so is long and infuriating at times. On the other hand, America is scary.. there are many things politically that are bizarre to people in the UK, and even in my area, it's like a whole other world. Everyone goes hunting, there are stores dedicated to this everywhere, everyone has a gun, there is small print and disclaimers everywhere to prevent lawsuits, the food is often riddled with sugars and fats, there is no public transport, and people speak funny.
When I hear people put immigrants in this "fraudster" box, it irks me. I'm not from a high-fraud country, but I've still heard things. I belonged to another public forum for 6 years and when they found out I was moving to the US, I got comments about stealing government jobs and welfare.
I'd just like to add that I've seen this happen in my own country too. Whenever someone hears of someone "emigrating" to the UK from a high-fraud country, the first thing they usually speak of is how they'll be handed all kinds of property and welfare packages, and steal British jobs. And I bet if I go to a British immigration site, there will be plenty of fraud topics there too. I don't think it's specific to Americans, or anything to do with some patriotic ego. I think it goes deeper than that.

My MIL is a very sweet woman, but after living with her for 19 months..... FREEEEEEEDOM!!
I think that sums it up.

How is it narrow minded?
Two adults entered into the marriage, and when it didn't work out, one of them is wanting the other one to 'go back to her country' for apparently no reason.

#######? How can you "sell citizenship"? Are you promoting immigration fraud? I wouldn't be surprised since you were illegal yourself.
And for the record, if my marriage broke down, I would be on a plane to the UK without any plan of returning to the US, and I don't know why any future family members would resent me for not giving them an easy ticket to live there.

I think this is really good advice. Just because I'm British doesn't mean I don't get homesick. I had a hard time adjusting because I couldn't get my own life in the US for a long, long time. So it felt like I was in limbo. Is your wife working or studying? Does she have any friends yet? Does she drive? If not, these are all things that will make the adjustment harder, and I've learned that from myself and others on the forum.
When I feel homesick, I do feel frustrated at the US differences and need to have a moan about them to my husband, but it wears off pretty quickly. Sometimes it helps to put a British DVD on, have some English tea and food, and talk on the phone to a friend back home. Maybe this will help he feel more relaxed?