Life is not easy for people like me who hold Conditional Permanent Resident status but the spouse is using it for violence and threatening. My story is complicated, but I will simplify it here.
I initially filed my I-751 with my spouse on January 25. However, my spouse began to subject me to violence and threats. On April 16, I filed my N-400 application for naturalization. Last week, my spouse informed me that she had filed for divorce and warned me that I would face trouble in the United States. Despite her threats, I no longer care.
After I lost my job, my spouse and her mother became increasingly impatient and angry with me. Even so, we still filed the I-751 together on January 14 with a fee waiver. In February, an incident occurred where my spouse’s mother threw a glass bottle at me. My spouse called the police, falsely accusing me of being the one who threw the bottle and of having guns that could harm them. When the officers arrived, I was handcuffed in my room while they investigated. Fortunately, a witness told the officers the truth, and I was immediately released from the handcuffed.
Regarding the alleged weapons, the truth is that my spouse’s mother stored the guns, and despite my repeated requests, she refused to tell me where they were. Because I could not access my own firearm, I was robbed while attempting to sell an iPhone on Facebook Marketplace on November as a way to earn some income after being laid off (lucky I chose bank for selling so the one of the criminals was caught and in jail).
Although the police found no evidence of violence, my spouse went to court and used false statements to obtain an Order of Protection (OOP) against me. This order prohibited me from living with my daughter and my two dogs, and I was forced to leave my home, even though I am the one paying the mortgage (which is solely in my name).
After being served with the OOP on Saturday , I stayed at a motel and went to court the following Monday to challenge it. At the hearing on Thursday, I won the case. The judge dismissed the OOP, stating that it had been granted based on false statements. The judge further emphasized that an OOP should not be used as a weapon to prevent me from staying with my daughter or in my home. So the OOP only valid for 5 days. However, due to the OOP, my Global Entry was revoked, I applied reconsideration and still waiting for it.
The next day after the OOP was dismissed, I discovered that the savings in our joint bank account had been emptied by my spouse, leaving me in financial distress. My spouse told me she would file for divorce and threatened to withdraw our I-751 petition, saying this would cause me to be deported.
After discussions between my parents and my spouse’s parents, the divorce proceedings were temporarily halted because of our daughter. In March, I started a new job and moved out of state. Unfortunately, due to a medical condition, I had to return home in April. This enraged my spouse and her mother again.
Upon my return, my spouse’s aggressive behavior escalated. She threw an iPhone box at me, hurled a hair stick at our daughter (leaving a scratch), and continued to exhibit violent outbursts. A neighbor called the police, but I downplayed the situation, saying no one was hurt. The officers warned and educated my spouse before leaving.
Ten days later, her aggression intensified, and she physically attacked me. This time, I called the police. However, I softened when speaking to the officers because I did not want the mother of my daughter to end up in jail. The officers asked my spouse to leave the house temporarily to calm down.
Now, my spouse is actively pursuing a divorce, threatening me again with the I-751, and claiming I will be deported. But having filed my N-400 for naturalization, I am no longer intimidated by these threats. I am currently focused on taking care of my daughter, as my spouse has left the house, and I am preparing to deal with the divorce process.
Well, now I am just waiting for the N-400 interview to be a citizen, and I will leave the immigration and the marriage nightmare.