Sarah1261

You can request, but when the financial loss is because of your failure to file or failure to do your research, expect a no.  Costs nothing to try.

Hi all, 
I have read and read until I can not read anymore, so I need your advice please. Quick recap, married my American husband in September 2023, I have been back and forwards to the states over the past 2 years, staying 6 months at a time. My husband brought us a house in 2021, while I was there I started renovations, decorating, ripping old bathrooms outs, nothing major. After we got married, a few months later we returned to the UK for our honeymoon and it was at this point that we decided that we would apply for my green card and that I would remain in the UK while this process took place. He left and before we knew it it was February. We were extremely naive about this whole process and honestly hadn't really looked into all that in entailed, he filed the I-130 in February. While I was living there I was obviously helping pay bills, now I am back in the Uk, I have my own bills, but without me helping towards the mortgage he now risks losing the house. This was supposed to be our forever home and I am devastated. We thought the process of the green card would take like 3-4 months, I know, please do not come at me, neither of us have been in this situation before so yes were were very, very blind to it all! Would the risk of losing the house be enough to expedite the process. My husband has a great job and earns enough to support me, but not if he has to cover the mortgage and bills all alone. (Not that I would ever expect him to keep me) I send what I can but living separately, obviously means twice the bills now. I m so worried and just want to be back there to support my husband but is this reason enough to expedite the case?

Hi all, 
I have read and read until I can not read anymore, so I need your advice please. Quick recap, married my American husband in September 2023, I have been back and forwards to the states over the past 2 years, staying 6 months at a time. My husband brought us a house in 2021, while I was there I started renovations, decorating, ripping old bathrooms outs, nothing major. After we got married, a few months later we returned to the UK for our honeymoon and it was at this point that we decided that we would apply for my green card and that I would remain in the UK while this process took place. He left and before we knew it it was February. We were extremely naive about this whole process and honestly hadn't really looked into all that in entailed, he filed the I-130 in February. While I was living there I was obviously helping pay bills, now I am back in the Uk, I have my own bills, but without me helping towards the mortgage he now risks losing the house. This was supposed to be our forever home and I am devastated. We thought the process of the green card would take like 3-4 months, I know, please do not come at me, neither of us have been in this situation before so yes were were very, very blind to it all! Would the risk of losing the house be enough to expedite the process. My husband has a great job and earns enough to support me, but not if he has to cover the mortgage and bills all alone. (Not that I would ever expect him to keep me) I send what I can but living separately, obviously means twice the bills now. I m so worried and just want to be back there to support my husband but is this reason enough to expedite the case?

You can’t enter the US with the intention of adjusting status. 
You are following the correct procedures. 
If you stick around long enough you’ll realize 1.) USCIS marriage evidence is based on people adjusting status 
2.) People who go through the consulate generally just submit marriage certificate and proof of living together 
3.) If you enter the U.S. with the intent of adjusting status or CBP thinks you intend to stay- you can be sent back to your home country (and face a ban)
4.) You can visit while the I130 is pending
5.) London is one of the faster consulates and they don’t require a lot of evidence. 
Poster posted about getting denied entry earlier today…
ETA: How would you have joint bank accounts and all the other stuff adjusting status? You can’t obtain that evidence as a tourist… you would have more than likely submitted a similar packet if you had applied for AOS.  
Then you would be stressing about denial and deportation for not having a strong case? 

We had no joint bank account (still don’t), I was not added to any insurance or utility bill, we had nothing of that sort because I was still living in my home country and everything turned out okay. USCIS understands that couples who live in separate countries don’t have that type of evidence.

I thought I would just start a chat, as I am feeling so deflated. My husband and I, (love saying it) were so naive. We have been together since 2019 and only got married in September 2023. Neither of us has masses of friends, we focus on work and then just enjoy being together and travelling, so we didn't really have anyone to advise us or know anyone that has been through all of this. We just assumed that there would be a few forms, a visa interview for me and then Bob's your uncle, all sorted in a matter of weeks. I am lucky enough that I have a B2 visa so I have been able to spend a great deal of time out in the states, and a recent divorce meant I had the funds to take some time off of work. After the wedding, we decided that we should travel back to the UK so I could see my family and tell them, we are private people and did not want the wedding being about anything other than me and N making our vows to each other. Once back in the UK, we made the decision that I would stay and then apply for the visa from the UK rather than adjustment of status, I hadn't worked in a year and obviously I couldn't work out in the US. Again, we were so naive, with getting my old job back, and in the lead up to christmas and New Year, we didn't even look at what needed to be done until January. Again, we weren't in any huge rush, we survived most of covid apart, a few weeks would be easy! After submitting the I-130 and the I-130A and seeing a comment on Reddit, did it dawn on us how stupidly in love we had become, someone once said love will make you stupid! We are both professionals, I would say we are both smart, we certainly were not smart about this. We submitted evidence of our relationship, mainly photos, boarding passes. Who knew that we should of opened a joint account, or that we even could if I didn't live there, that I could of been added to the bills, the mortgage, to help strengthen our case. I really wish I had come across all of this information before, not that it would of stopped us doing the process at all, we will wait as long as it takes. It just would of been nice to know that it's going to take more than a few weeks, that we could of strengthened our case to prove that we are in a legitimate relationship, that we may have to spend a long time apart, wasting money as we are paying for 2 houses, we own, well he owns a house, and I rent in the UK. We are paying double everything! It is so heartbreaking. How do people cope, I feel like I am checking our case every day, I know it's not going to have changed but I can't help it. Praying to God we get to be together soon and can start living our best lives. Anyone else feeling this way, made the same silly assumption that it would be an easy process? Would love to chat with anyone in the same position, maybe this is God way of pulling people together, I have to believe that this is part of his grand plan, I shall not lose hope!

Well, now that you know what is really going to happen, the last thing you want to do is getting stressed out by looking at the case frequently.  If you added an email to the account then when they update they will email or text you that there is an update to go see.  It's frustrating and time consuming but in the end it will all be ok.  Good luck.

I’m seeing that! I’m so glad I found Visa Journey.

Thank you so much. I really needed to hear this 💓