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Glad you came on and clarified what's been going on. While I feel your pain for the troubles your first wife caused, you can not compare one person to the next. While it is normal to have some doubts, hiding the existence of your wife to your friends isn't fair to her.
You should have no "shame" in what happened the first time around, as it was not your doing that caused the relationship to fail. On the same hand - your new wife has done nothing wrong and deserves your respect and acknowledgement that she exists.
You can NOT live your life worrying about what others think or say. Your happiness and that of your wife is the only thing important.
It's apparently important to her or she would not have posted her concerns.
Good luck to you.

A "mistake" is forgetting to put gas in the car or not returning a library book on time. A mistake is not crashing planes into buildings occupied with men, women and children...
It is sad that people from certain countries have to pay for the misdeeds of a select few, but what those people did was not a mistake. It was a purposeful intent to kill as many innocent people as possible to further their own agenda.
I hope your AP ends soon and you will be reunited with your loved one.

Your husband is disrespecting you in a big way and you're not even here yet. Just wait until you arrive to see how bad it will be.
Let me guess. Your husband is much older than you and possibly has adult children from a former marriage? Just a guess...
Either your husband does not care about your feelings or he doesn't have balls to tell his family and friends he married outside of his race/culture. Either way, not a terrific start to a life toghether.
I wish you luck, you'll need it.

A "mistake" is forgetting to put gas in the car or not returning a library book on time. A mistake is not crashing planes into buildings occupied with men, women and children...
It is sad that people from certain countries have to pay for the misdeeds of a select few, but what those people did was not a mistake. It was a purposeful intent to kill as many innocent people as possible to further their own agenda.
I hope your AP ends soon and you will be reunited with your loved one.

Glad you came on and clarified what's been going on. While I feel your pain for the troubles your first wife caused, you can not compare one person to the next. While it is normal to have some doubts, hiding the existence of your wife to your friends isn't fair to her.
You should have no "shame" in what happened the first time around, as it was not your doing that caused the relationship to fail. On the same hand - your new wife has done nothing wrong and deserves your respect and acknowledgement that she exists.
You can NOT live your life worrying about what others think or say. Your happiness and that of your wife is the only thing important.
It's apparently important to her or she would not have posted her concerns.
Good luck to you.

Your husband is disrespecting you in a big way and you're not even here yet. Just wait until you arrive to see how bad it will be.
Let me guess. Your husband is much older than you and possibly has adult children from a former marriage? Just a guess...
Either your husband does not care about your feelings or he doesn't have balls to tell his family and friends he married outside of his race/culture. Either way, not a terrific start to a life toghether.
I wish you luck, you'll need it.

I don't care about my exes, hopefully my friends will and do love her, just glad she is my wife now. If you're not done with the past don't mess up someones future.
Yes Sir.

we are still together

Glad you came on and clarified what's been going on. While I feel your pain for the troubles your first wife caused, you can not compare one person to the next. While it is normal to have some doubts, hiding the existence of your wife to your friends isn't fair to her.
You should have no "shame" in what happened the first time around, as it was not your doing that caused the relationship to fail. On the same hand - your new wife has done nothing wrong and deserves your respect and acknowledgement that she exists.
You can NOT live your life worrying about what others think or say. Your happiness and that of your wife is the only thing important.
It's apparently important to her or she would not have posted her concerns.
Good luck to you.

Sounds like a wonderful mother and father. Too bad no one will give the OP the phone number to ICE (1-866-347-2423), being that THEY also are here illegally. Perhaps ICE could help the parents relocate also.

Glad you came on and clarified what's been going on. While I feel your pain for the troubles your first wife caused, you can not compare one person to the next. While it is normal to have some doubts, hiding the existence of your wife to your friends isn't fair to her.
You should have no "shame" in what happened the first time around, as it was not your doing that caused the relationship to fail. On the same hand - your new wife has done nothing wrong and deserves your respect and acknowledgement that she exists.
You can NOT live your life worrying about what others think or say. Your happiness and that of your wife is the only thing important.
It's apparently important to her or she would not have posted her concerns.
Good luck to you.

Well,
Based on the OP's timeline their NOA-2 should be coming within tne next 30 days, which means he needs to man-up soon.
Even if he was involved in a custody battle, his marrying someone wouldn't have an effect. And if he kept the relationship secret then truly what kind of man is he?
I appreciate you not wanting to sound harsh to the OP, but this subject has been covered many times here on VJ. If it walks like a duck, talks like a duck and acts like a #######, err I mean duck - then most of the time it's a duck.

Veniya...
You seem like a nice enough guy, oblivious to what's really happening - but nice nevertheless.
Of course she is facing culture shock coming to a brand new environment, but her actions to this point do NOT speak to a woman who is in love and looking towards the future.
Even under the best circumstances there is an adjustment period involved, but her actions before and now don't indicate her having troubles adjusting - they show a woman who is planning HER future, not yours and hers together.
She is not displaying any typical latina emotions (ie: passion, loyalty, posessiveness, etc). You yourself stated she has changed ALOT since the time you met her in Colombia - and it IS normal for some things to change once she arrives, but it's not normal for a woman who supposedly loved you enough to give up her family and friends to change every aspect of her personality.
The 90 day clock is ticking, has been for a while now. Regardless of what she says, she will not be so willing to just get on a plane if you decide you don't want to marry her - her actions to you when she disappeared speak to that. And if you really think she has no interest in a green card you need to sit down with a professional therapist because you are delusional.
Her motives are plain to see for those of us who aren't close to the situation. You need to wake up and examine what clues she's giving - because for anyone else but you they'd see the red flags all over the place...

Good luck, you're gonna need it.....

Excellent advice - I hope the OP takes it. I remember the tone of the former post and it was not good.
Granted, there are always adjustments that a newly arrived fiance must make, but to just up and leave without any notice does not bode well. When you add in ALL the cell phone activity with other men, that's inexcusable.
I wonder if the OP's fiance did some research while gone and found out she needs to get married to adjust status.

Good luck, you're gonna need it.....

Excellent advice - I hope the OP takes it. I remember the tone of the former post and it was not good.
Granted, there are always adjustments that a newly arrived fiance must make, but to just up and leave without any notice does not bode well. When you add in ALL the cell phone activity with other men, that's inexcusable.
I wonder if the OP's fiance did some research while gone and found out she needs to get married to adjust status.

If I was the OP I'd have many questions and suspicions - I think we all would. In his first post he discussed 2,000 minutes of cell phone usage in just a week or so of her arrival plus an enormous amount of time his fiance spent on the internet.
BUT, in his first post he also expressed concerns about reporting her actions to USCIS in fear of having a difficult time adjusting status if she should happen to reappear and they were to get married.
Some people just will not take advice, no matter how sound it is and that rests squarely on the OP's shoulders. He has been warned about her motives and some experienced members predicted the fiance's reappearance once she figured out she had screwed up her green card opportunity.
OP - If you question your fiance's motives then it is time to cut your losses and go your seperate ways. If you are blind to what's happened, go back and read your first post. If you are NOT questioning your fiance's motives we can't save you.

It would be a good thing, except her income isn't sufficient for the household size. At $30k, she comes up almost $3,000 short.
I'd say the OP has serious problems.

If I was the OP I'd have many questions and suspicions - I think we all would. In his first post he discussed 2,000 minutes of cell phone usage in just a week or so of her arrival plus an enormous amount of time his fiance spent on the internet.
BUT, in his first post he also expressed concerns about reporting her actions to USCIS in fear of having a difficult time adjusting status if she should happen to reappear and they were to get married.
Some people just will not take advice, no matter how sound it is and that rests squarely on the OP's shoulders. He has been warned about her motives and some experienced members predicted the fiance's reappearance once she figured out she had screwed up her green card opportunity.
OP - If you question your fiance's motives then it is time to cut your losses and go your seperate ways. If you are blind to what's happened, go back and read your first post. If you are NOT questioning your fiance's motives we can't save you.

Excellent advice - I hope the OP takes it. I remember the tone of the former post and it was not good.
Granted, there are always adjustments that a newly arrived fiance must make, but to just up and leave without any notice does not bode well. When you add in ALL the cell phone activity with other men, that's inexcusable.
I wonder if the OP's fiance did some research while gone and found out she needs to get married to adjust status.

Excellent advice - I hope the OP takes it. I remember the tone of the former post and it was not good.
Granted, there are always adjustments that a newly arrived fiance must make, but to just up and leave without any notice does not bode well. When you add in ALL the cell phone activity with other men, that's inexcusable.
I wonder if the OP's fiance did some research while gone and found out she needs to get married to adjust status.

Excellent advice - I hope the OP takes it. I remember the tone of the former post and it was not good.
Granted, there are always adjustments that a newly arrived fiance must make, but to just up and leave without any notice does not bode well. When you add in ALL the cell phone activity with other men, that's inexcusable.
I wonder if the OP's fiance did some research while gone and found out she needs to get married to adjust status.

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