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Am I considered cool enough on this forum to make a witty reply? Because i've never made pancakes for my husband. Should I start packing?

RELATIONSHIP PROGNOSIS: DOOMED

Start whipping some batter, sister.

Perhaps one of you could share your MENA king's favorite pancake recipe.

We could make it a sticky because, obviously, pancakes are what hold it together.

I really don't wanna brag, and I know there are a lot of haters out there...but who cares...here's my story....

We drive a 2011 Nissan Rogue S, with a light gray interior which we keep imaculately clean by using 2 rounds of "$1 for 5 minutes" of vaccuming at a local car wash that costs $12 a wash, but we spare no expense because we love each other so much.

We live in my parents Basement and enjoy 3 full rooms, a double shower bathroom and a living room, all decorated to my parent's taste, which shows just how much we love each other.

Sometimes my husband drives my parents spare car, a 1999 Mercury Villager Sport Edition. It doesn't have a working clock but it does have a leather interior which of course shows how much we love each other.

Once a week we get a take and bake pizza from Papa Murphys, half Chicken Garlic and half "Papa's favorite" minus the pepperoni. Then we cook it in a Double Wolf Convect oven that belongs to my parents, and then we eat our pizza using sturdy DIXIE paper plates because we love each other so much.

Sometime we go to the mall and I buy new shirts at Maurices that cost an average of $29.99 which of course proves we are so blissfully in love.

Yesterday we bought a HeatDish space heater by PRESTO, for $24.99, to help keep our basement bedroom warm. We paid cash which of course proves we are so blissfully in love.

The point is, I am not not bragging and don't want to make anyone jealous, but sometimes you just have to convince others in order to really convince yourself how blissfully wonderous your life is. To the OP - be strong, stay the course, a thousand points of light, and maybe someday your marriage will be as blissfully perfect as mine. Good luck Girlfriend.

I read this three times, diligently searching for the word "pancakes."

No pancakes, no marital success.

Sorry, honey, you lack of pancakes speaks volumes: RELATIONSHIP DOOM.

Whatevs. You're miserable and she's happy. Happy dammit!!!!!!

Did I mention she's happy?

I'm rather happy she's not going to post again.

Although she probably will.

Well, well, well someone needs to clear their throat! My, my, my! Anyhoo my husband has a degree in Finance. His brother actually works for a firm out of Dubai. They both worked hard and earned their success! So the heck what if his brother was a bus driver when he was 20, you can bet your sweet ####### he isn't anymore! As far as class goes, well they have way more class than those that would sit on their miserable arses hoping to hurt and insult those higher than them. Seriously I'm sorry if your husbands aren't praise worthy, but no need to come down on mine and his family. You ladies need to get a life and stop circling these boards looking for someone to pounce on. Your never gonna get to me, I'm much stronger than you can ever hope to be. I'm still going to carry on with my beautiful life and leave you little ladies to search for fresh blood. You cannot even get on my level. Keep trying, hey everybody needs a goal! LMBO!

ENOUGH WASTING MY TIME WITH YOU PEOPLE, DO YOU HONESTLY THINK I WASNT PREPARED FOR YOUR VERBAL ATTACK? PATHETIC! I WILL NOT POST AGAIN AND LOWER MY STANDARDS ARGUING WITH YOU PEOPLE ON THIS TOPIC. GOODNIGHT AND ENJOY YOUR MISERABLE LIVES! IM HAPPY!

Nope. I just know how it shakes out in real life instead of two week vacation relations.

Accounting degree? Bottom of the barrel as far as Egyptian degrees go. Meaning, broke dude. Bus driver? Broke dude. The only highlite of this fantasy is the possibility the fam has shoes.

I am kindof wondering, though, if fantasy man had a job, flat, and car, where was the wife or fiancee in the picture?

Glad to see that a representative from the Rainbow, Puppies and Lollipops club finally showed up!!!!! I was getting worried!!!!!

Those of us who live in it, day after day, know what "accounting degree" and "brother is a bus driver" translates to in terms of Egypt's class system.

*cough*

Hi, OP, it seems everyone else has more or less pointed out a lot of the flaws with your case and how they will be perceived. I'm addressing something a tad different. You mentioned your husband is an accountant in Egypt. I am not sure what you guys think he'll do here when he comes, but if it is being an accountant or any other profession, you may want to begin checking into what he will need to do. Professions don't always transfer from one country to another, especially from a country that has lost accreditation for its university system. At best, things will transfer and he will simply need to be certified here. At worst, you can find out he needs to get a new degree. Many people have had to redo portions of coursework. Just an FYI. Also, the clock sounds fun. Were your pictures on the face?

Good luck.

Egyptian Accounting Degree = Future Taxi Drivers/Convenience Store Workers of America

It's worthless in terms of employability in the US.

Glad to see everyone here giving this girl a dose of reality.

The red flags in this relationship are numerous; I don't have enough fingers and toes to count them all - and there are way more than have been tossed out in this thread. Every time the OP puts her fingers on the keyboard the list grows longer. I can see them and the consulate will see them. All I can do is shake my head - because pointing them out only hurts the OP's feewings.

I don't know really the MENA coutries, but I'm reading a lot of love history on visajourney, and I always tell my American husband that American people are gullible, so naive...I really never see so naive people, it's unbelievable.

I prefer to think of Americans as innocent over gullible or naive, in a lot of ways, particularly when it comes to how the outside world perceives the US and life in the US. Americans, overwhelmingly, don't immigrate (meaning, move to another country) in search of a better life. We don't have to because we already have it. So, it's hard to imagine - if it ever even crosses our minds - the level of desperation of people from places where there are less opportunities (whether that's real or perceived) to get out. We also have those passports that give us what much of the rest of the world doesn't have: freedom to travel. We can get up and go, should we choose to do that. Other countries, including the country the OP's husband is from, do not enjoy that same freedom.

American people have to know that people know the American culture by movies, stars... and for a lot of foreigners that does mean "that is easier there" and what they can do to reach the so called "land of milk and honey" are unbelievable. Marriage is one of them.

I don't tell that there are fraud anywhere in you case, but be aware of how foreigners can see the USA.

There's an Egyptian movie that's very popular in Egypt, and I can't remember the title, in which an Egyptian man goes to the US, becomes wildly successful, and returns to Egypt - pretty much flaunting his new-found wealth. The country itself perpetuates the stereotype. And, yeah, it is a common belief.

i'd like to hear more about this photo clock, and how i can go about getting in on that awesomeness.

You pay the shipping and I'll get one for ya. How'z that?

A couple of weeks ago, the guy from the bank came to sign everyone up for direct deposit. Before the unmarried ladies went to see him, they would check their make-up and pinch their cheeks so they'd look good. Not me. I happened to have my passport with me that day, which I pulled out of my bag and said, "You all don't understand what it takes to get married in this country. I call this my Husband Magnet. I'll be right back - engaged." Their reaction? They all, every last one of them, agreed.

Tread. Carefully.

excuse me, but i have done nothing wrong stating that beauty for ashes should be happy.

Did you read the whole thread?

Do you know the whole story?

If so, then you should know Kat is no longer allowed to be in a relationship with any dood until she lets the MENA girls screen him.

Skype, facebook chat, doesn't matter, but we're gonna give him a once over first and save her the heartbreak.

Meshee?

Popcorn!

Dooooooooooooooood, this forum is about IMMIGRATION.

If you don't have something to contribute about IMMIGRATION, find another forum.

Like one where people are welcome to make judgments about marriage and religion.

"Nobody" !!! did you read the post I quoted with my answer? maybe you need to read carefully before you answer, "it seems some people never learn" is an offend for me it makes anybody seems like stupid and I never felt that at any answer before, and yes I ask and get answers that's why we are all have accounts here to get answers from people who have experience or can help, and again it's not because I didn't like the answer but you can say the same thing in more nice way, and my timeline is not set yet but there is "better" and there is "best" every body seeks the best, ONLY if he can get it....so please keep talking in the topic that's more helpful

Don't you think the visa process is stressful enough without those huge chips on your shoulder (and you've got more than one) making it worse than it needs to be?

One more time:

Every intending immigrant is put through AP. All of them.

It doesn't matter where they're from or their religion. How long AP will take depends on a few things. Intending immigrants from first world countries with computerized records tend to go through it without notice.

Intending immigrants from developing countries, with stacks of records in dusty storage rooms (unless they've been burnt in a protest or during a revolution) take longer to investigate, so the AP process takes longer. Let's say the intending immigrant is from Egypt, for example, and his name is Mohamed. Well, because of his name alone, he's already in a pot with a slew of other Mohameds and the chances of a name matching his increases.

Ahmed? Same thing.

George? Not so much, just because, in the numbers game, there are fewer of them.

How long will AP take? It takes as long as the civil servant from the immigrant's country, employed by the US embassy, takes to investigate the name match, and no less.

The quickest I've ever seen anyone make it through Cairo, from interview to visa in hand was three weeks.

You may want to have your husband reschedule that test.

please don't say "it seems like some people never learn" it's not your business to judge people, and you "never" know what the situation I have. my husband is wishing to take the pharmacy test in April but he still has the chance to take it in September so we are just trying to avoid it as long as we can and I'm sharing this with people who may be able to help, anyway thanks for your answers

Nobody said "it seems like some people never learn."

You asked, you received several answers.

Just because you don't like the answers, or because they don't comply with your personal timeline, doesn't make them any less relevant.

Every single intending immigrant in the world gets put through AP. Some get through it faster than others.

You have to do it where you live and have residency.

You don't want to try and divorce in Egypt. It's quick and easy for men, but it can take years for a woman.

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Of course it's not a career, but it is a way to make money and "feel" employed.

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There are message boards, etc., which offer tons of helpful information about how to be successful doing it. If you're interested in any of those, send me a PM.

I wish you and your husband the best.

Have you reported the posts?

Embassies know all of the the religious and cultural necessities for a couple to be married in any given country.

It's not the embassy's fault you were time-limited to complete everything.

Look I made my way now, ( My God helped me ) I got every thing now very well and no need for your unrespected replies. You're trying to judge me thats how you write not a solution my main idea here is to hear your solution not to judge me ! Only God can judge me not you

What's there to judge?

You already admitted you forged an I.D., entered an establishment illegally, and lied to an immigration official.

You should probably think about studying in another country.

Seeing my great affection for my son, my wife began slowly dragging him into fights and using him as reason to have these nervous breakdowns. Reasons? He "drives her nuts". He is a skinny type of kid (but above average for his height/weight), so he doesn't eat as much other kids do. This makes the wife crazy! She starts yelling at him, screaming, cursing... eventually crying and then back to normal for a few more days. Recently, she started to slap him on the face hard, which I do not take kindly to. I am totally opposed to violence and do not think it's a solution to anything, especially when raising another human being. Time again, she is showing her lack of kindness and increased violence towards our son. She may love him but her treatment of our son is speaking louder in our case. After the recent breakdown, I have seriously considered (but chickened out on) calling child protective services on her. I don't know if it's a deportable offense or not but I was affraid I would lose our son, so that's why I backed down. Of course, there were witnesses (mostly my family and the UPS guy was delivering a package) during her last fit of rage.

I'm not excusing your wife's behavior, nor am I condoning it, however I have to wonder if part of this is due to your wife's culture. You don't say where she's from (contaminated?), but it is not unusual nor is it unheard of - and in lots of place it's normal and expected - to raise and discipline child in a manner that we (meaning, Americans) would consider abusive.

Just some food for thought.