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I don’t know how you guys are dealing with your anxiety but I’m completely freaking out. The abuser will never allow me to go back to my country with my little girl if they deny my vawa and imagine this happening is torture. She is completely dependent on me. I don’t have many proofs of residence - only 3 lease agreements but no bills or joint account together.  Everything was under his name. I do have statements of him transferring money to me for paying the bills.  We had a prenup together and it was totally one side stating that he will never give me any alimony and making me giving up of any rights I could have. I attached it as proof of his control over me but now I’m in doubt if I should have attached it. I don’t know how immigration would  understand it. I’m wife number 3. He did the same with with number 1 and number 2. 

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59 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

Previously they allowed up to 90 days prior to EAD expiration to renew...now I hear and have seen you could renew up to 180days prior to expiration (which is cool) because of the delayed processing time! Yeah👍

37 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

Might be..because the EAD under the previous application may be deemed invalid if it was withdrawn! Now you're filing a fresh one..I wonder why you withdrew the previous one..since your spouse didn't withdraw...most folks here just ask for it to be held in abeyance pending vawa adjudication!😕

I had to withdraw because I told to my husband that I was applying for a work visa. It was the solution that I found to make him believe on me. He and his attorney are tracking me. He would know that I’m applying for vawa and I’m very scared about what he would do. 

1 minute ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

Previously they allowed up to 90 days prior to EAD expiration to renew...now I hear and have seen you could renew up to 180days prior to expiration (which is cool) because of the delayed processing time! Yeah👍

The problem is that my current EAD was applied through my marriage GC application . I withdraw my I-485 and applied it again a week ago together with my I-360. So I don’t know if it will be a problem because it’s a new application 

2 hours ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

Well I hope you applied on time..it helps too..keep your job..till your EAD comes through...it will only be your fault if you didn't apply on time..but if you did, you should keep your job..all the best! Feels good to work at something you love!💖😊

Thank you for your reply 🥰

but what would be considered “on time”? 

Hi Dear Friends,

I have a question. My EAD + 180 will expire now in September and I’m working in the job of my dreams. If I continue working there even with my expired EAD would be an issue ? What are the consequences ? I love my job and it is the only thing that keeps me sane right now + I’m about to start my divorce proceedings but I don’t want jeopardize my immigration status.  What should I do? I filed my vawa a week ago and I applied for the EAD but I know it is taking forever. 

On 8/8/2019 at 9:55 AM, HopeN said:

Hi everyone!

I’m new here and today I’m beyond anxious because I will submit my vawa application. Like many of you I had a terrible marriage. I got married with the man of my dreams and right after our daughter born he completely changed. I found out that he would lie in all aspects of his life and he had several girlfriends. When I confronted him about his lies ( he would lie about everything) he became very cruel and threatened to jeopardize my immigration status and get custody of our baby daughter. I’m struggling for more than a year because he is very wealthy and powerful. He would chase me for the rest of my life if he knew about vawa and the problem is that I think he knows so I’m very nervous right now. I wish I could go back to my country with my baby but he doesn’t give me authorization to go back to my country with her. There was physical abuse ( he punched my face) but I don’t have police report because I was so scared that I couldn’t call the cops +

he seems to be so nice with everyone (he is the best actor ever) that I was afraid the cops would not believe on me and would put me in jail. I have medical report and pictures. I had black eye. He thinks that because he pays for everything and we have a good lifestyle he is protected and nobody would believe on me. Actually this is one of my biggest concerns. I beg him everyday for divorce and to let me go back to my country with my daughter but he totally ignores me. Most of the time I’m alone with my daughter and the nanny and he only shows up eventually. I live in constant fear because I never know when he will shop up. My daughter is not even 2 and she is so afraid of him. I do have a good job in a great law firm but I’m about to lose because my EAD is about to expire and I didn’t receive the new one yet. Since a year ago I’m collecting proves of his abuse ( I went to therapy once a week and I have 2 psychological evaluations), I have Affidavits from friends. I don’t have any messages of him threatening me. He is to smart to do that. All the. Times that he threatened me I was not expecting and I could not record. He has a girlfriend and I have videos of him in international trips with prostitutes in boats and parties but I know cheating is not considered abuse. I do have a good attorney that is helping me and she thinks I have a strong case but I’m so afraid of him. Our interview (green card for marriage) was schedule for this month and I think he will show up there and try to persuade the officer showing how he used to “spoil” me and that he pays a high end life for me and my daughter. He is so good actor and everyone believes in him. My biggest fear is o lose my daughter and this is the way he manipulates me. I’m sorry if I wasn’t clear but I’m really nervous. Please pray for me and my daughter. 

I just filed my vawa application today 🙏🏻. I know the journey will be long but I have faith on God. I’m glad I found you guys. 

22 hours ago, CrimsonWarrior26 said:

I can totally relate to this. They think we are a drama queen because they are best actors in hiding their true colors. They don’t realize the mental torture and anguish we had to deal with everyday. He is also threatening to attend our interview next week and said he will ask for a separate one himself and talk about me. I pray that God give us more strength in this difficult times. 

They do realize and they know what they are doing. They just don’t care. 

Have you filed your vawa? If you didn’t just try to submit your application before your interview and show them your receipt or proof that you mail your application. I so sorry to hear that. 

55 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

This here narrative would make a good and comprehensive affidavit if you work at it! Be sure to gather all supporting evidence to back your petition! You'll be fine! Get away from your spouse, you never what his next move will be...best to be safe! Wish you all the best dear! 😊👍

Hope so ❤️🙏🏻

17 minutes ago, nap_o said:

I come from a similar situation,  in the beginning everything was a fairy tale then I discovered his drug abuse problem.my ex was from a rich family and he thought he could get away with everything he did to me, I was only 20-21 when all the abuse happened and I was afraid of leaving him because I had no work permit or somewhere to go in this country. Usually he would get mad at me for not  wanting to 'party' leading to domestic disputes. Under the influence he would get violent and lock me inside the apartment for days. When he was sober, he wouldn't remember he choked and punched me. I voice recorded him multiple times when I said I would leave and he said he would break my head if I left, thank goodness I didn't have a baby with him. My recommendation is, be strong and smart. Don't let your emotions play with your brain. It's a difficult time but soon it will be over and karma will take care of him. Now you just need to focus in the safety of you and your baby. 

 

Remember you don't need a divorce to qualify for VAWA. It's better you send everything sooner than later. I wish you strength and best of luck through this process. We are here in case you need more guidance or have questions about this long journey.

Dear I’m so sorry to hear that and thank you for your support. People with money and power think their money buy everything. I had friends giving me bad advices just because I have a “comfortable” life. Actually my life is miserable since I met him. He isolated me from everyone. I know the divorce doesn’t affects vawa but I need to move on and I don’t want to be married with him. I want to live away of him. I just want to live in peace and safe with my daughter. I hope immigration see all my evidence and I’m praying for Vermont Officers being training to recognize domestic violence because cops are not. Last time he threatened to destroy my life and almost punch for the second time my face I went to the police station and they did nothing. 

Update

25 minutes ago, Stillwinning!!!😊 said:

This here narrative would make a good and comprehensive affidavit if you work at it! Be sure to gather all supporting evidence to back your petition! You'll be fine! Get away from your spouse, you never what his next move will be...best to be safe! Wish you all the best dear! 😊👍

Thank you for your support. I think I have a good Affidavit (20 pages and very detailed). My attorney is expert in Vawa and she helped me with it. I’m trying to get divorce but my divorce attorney is not able to serve him the papers because we don’t know where he is living and he refuses to tell me. I already checked all the possible address but he is not living in none of them. I never know when he will show up at home. He is probably avoiding the divorce because he wants to make sure I won’t be able to marry again. For me is very clear that his goal is to deport me. 

Hi everyone!

I’m new here and today I’m beyond anxious because I will submit my vawa application. Like many of you I had a terrible marriage. I got married with the man of my dreams and right after our daughter born he completely changed. I found out that he would lie in all aspects of his life and he had several girlfriends. When I confronted him about his lies ( he would lie about everything) he became very cruel and threatened to jeopardize my immigration status and get custody of our baby daughter. I’m struggling for more than a year because he is very wealthy and powerful. He would chase me for the rest of my life if he knew about vawa and the problem is that I think he knows so I’m very nervous right now. I wish I could go back to my country with my baby but he doesn’t give me authorization to go back to my country with her. There was physical abuse ( he punched my face) but I don’t have police report because I was so scared that I couldn’t call the cops +

he seems to be so nice with everyone (he is the best actor ever) that I was afraid the cops would not believe on me and would put me in jail. I have medical report and pictures. I had black eye. He thinks that because he pays for everything and we have a good lifestyle he is protected and nobody would believe on me. Actually this is one of my biggest concerns. I beg him everyday for divorce and to let me go back to my country with my daughter but he totally ignores me. Most of the time I’m alone with my daughter and the nanny and he only shows up eventually. I live in constant fear because I never know when he will shop up. My daughter is not even 2 and she is so afraid of him. I do have a good job in a great law firm but I’m about to lose because my EAD is about to expire and I didn’t receive the new one yet. Since a year ago I’m collecting proves of his abuse ( I went to therapy once a week and I have 2 psychological evaluations), I have Affidavits from friends. I don’t have any messages of him threatening me. He is to smart to do that. All the. Times that he threatened me I was not expecting and I could not record. He has a girlfriend and I have videos of him in international trips with prostitutes in boats and parties but I know cheating is not considered abuse. I do have a good attorney that is helping me and she thinks I have a strong case but I’m so afraid of him. Our interview (green card for marriage) was schedule for this month and I think he will show up there and try to persuade the officer showing how he used to “spoil” me and that he pays a high end life for me and my daughter. He is so good actor and everyone believes in him. My biggest fear is o lose my daughter and this is the way he manipulates me. I’m sorry if I wasn’t clear but I’m really nervous. Please pray for me and my daughter.