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no call/email unless of course i email them, CEAC sayes AP last update was june 15 when i emailed them, and i am shocked as well as my sister's hubby has been here in states for about 10 months now, and his case was started on same day as mine. its just toooo much.

no call/email unless of course i email them, CEAC sayes AP last update was june 15 when i emailed them, and i am shocked as well as my sister's hubby has been here in states for about 10 months now, and his case was started on same day as mine. its just toooo much.

Thank you for you post, it made me feel lighter for some reasones.

Thank you for you post, it made me feel lighter for some reasones.

Thank you for you post, it made me feel lighter for some reasones.

hi,
mine is stressed out like hell, my husband has been in Ap for almost a year,  i do feel  sometimes that this Immigration process will distroy my marriage.
 

Wow! Some really harsh judgments in here on this one!  Everyone is wired differently.  Some people do really well in LDRs.  Other's struggle with it.  Just because it's easy for some, does not make it easy for others.  Being former military, I can assure that this process is very different from a "deployment" (for those that think just because soldiers do this that makes this somehow less painful). There have been times when the waiting and the distance - and the waiting without any real information regarding the process - no "day to count down to", so many things just in "limbo" indefinitely - it's broken me down completely.  Texts where tone gets read wrong, little things that would not have even become an issue if handled face to face becoming big things, unintentionally taking the pain and stress of distance out on each other, the pure exhaustion (neither of us sleep well apart, but together we slept soooo well), etc and so on.....  My fiance and I are both very "high touch" love language people.  We both have baggage from previous relationships (who doesn't really?).  Everyone has issues in varying degrees.  Neither of us are wired or built for LDR.  And there have been times when we really thought it would break us.  Ultimately, we both came to see that it doesn't matter what happens - we can't live without each other.  We could breathe in and breathe out and go through the motions of life - but we'd feel dead inside.  We don't want to even consider a life without each other, so no matter what we face - we face it together knowing that "our day" will come.  I understand the OP's lament.  I don't hear "weak relationship between two people with issues who wouldn't work out in the long run anyway".  I hear a person in pain, a pain that so many of us in this forum have felt and still feel.  While there may not be an answer to the OPs question, I can at least say "You're not alone.  Yes, the waiting is a special kind of hell.  It's made me vomit, lose sleep, cry at random on the bad days,  and hurt with a pain I didn't know was possible.  Hang in there!  Eventually the time WILL pass and you WILL get to be together and one day you'll look back at how long these days felt and they will be only a small percentage of the years shared together building a life.  Try to remember, especially during times of conflict with your partner, it's not "You vs Them but "You BOTH together vs the problem".  Sometimes it just hurts and it's easy to transfer that onto your partner. Try to learn to simply breathe and say "It hurts to be apart".  Embrace it, feel it, validate it - then let it pass.  Each day is a new day and it's one day closer!  

hi,
mine is stressed out like hell, my husband has been in Ap for almost a year,  i do feel  sometimes that this Immigration process will distroy my marriage.
 

hi,
mine is stressed out like hell, my husband has been in Ap for almost a year,  i do feel  sometimes that this Immigration process will distroy my marriage.