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    My Boyfriend is being Deported

    in General Immigration-Related Discussion

    Posted · Edited by conch monch

    8 hours ago, SusieQQQ said:

    Unofficial Australian site with a lot more detail on the kind of violence, crime etc one might encounter http://smartraveller.gov.au/Countries/africa/west/Pages/guinea.aspx

     

    Not sure if you misspoke, but I wanted to clarify that the Australian Smart Traveller website is an official Australian Government travel advisory website, maintained by DFAT (Department of Foreign Affairs and Trade).

    Medical question..?

    in United Kingdom

    Posted

    7 minutes ago, Emeryx said:

    i got my booster shots at the doctors today, i had told her when booking to see her that i needed the flu shot as it's required on the medical list and we're still in flu season. She told me she couldn't give me the flu shot unless i actually had symptoms of the flu... So my question is, do i really need the flu shot and if so i can get it done at my medical, right? I'm looking to fly back to the US the end of march/start of april... and flu season is over march 31st i've read...would i still need it if i'm leaving around that time?

     

    Also, my mom is unsure if i've had chicken pox or not and i have no memory of ever having them. Do i just tell them no at the medical and i'll probably have to get a shot when i'm state side? 

     

    Just double checking everything as i really don't want to go to this medical on friday and i haven't got something right. I've pretty much got everything else ready and done for it. 

     

     

    I'm no doctor but I'm fairly confident a flu shot is meant to be a preventative shot rather than something to treat actual symptoms of the flu. Seems strange to me.

     

    Your doctor can do a blood test to check your chicken pox immunity. Believe it's called Varicella immunity. If you have the immunity, you don't need the vaccination.

    I'm thinking about divorcing my wife. Need Advice

    in Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits

    Posted

    3 hours ago, dentsflogged said:

    In which case, your marriage may already be doomed.  Couples therapy only works for the people that WANT it to work.

     

    OP I'm gonna be honest with you here: Your post makes you sound entitled and whingey.  I'm sorry if it's harsh, but it's true.  She's not cleaning and having sex with you enough, and hasn't changed her last name to stamp your ownership all over herself?  It's 2018, not 1918.   If my partner was demanding sex just because we previously had it at a more frequent rate, or was berating me for not cleaning enough, then having more sex with him is the absolute last thing that would happen.

     

    Generally speaking if people aren't having sex in a long term relationship, there's a reason. 

    She could be depressed. She could have a hormonal issue.  Maybe it's just one of the slumps that every relationship goes through. 

     

    She's not a sex-bot designed to spread her legs and clean on command, she's a human being who has feelings and drives of her own and it seems like, for whatever reason, her sex drive is not chugging along right now.  Women's biggest driver for sex is between her ears, so try engaging her brain not just giving her oral.  Romance her with no thought of doing it just to get laid. Do things for her that make her remember & appreciate the good times you've had together. Treat her like you did when you were first dating or on your visits when it wasn't an expectation that she have sex with you. 

     

    Others have said that she's "clearly in it for the green card" which could also be true, but giving her the benefit of the doubt, assume it's not and really try to work on the relationship. Try taking her out somewhere that you're both comfortable but also is not in the house so it removes any of the daily "lets just watch that last episode of Mad Men on Netflix" distractions and really try to talk.  Ask if she's unhappy. Ask if there's anything you're doing that she's rather you try to change. Ask if she's homesick, or misses her family, or not feeling well or whatever.  Just ask. Listen with an open mind.  It'll be hard but try not to interrupt or assume anything she may open up about is a personal attack. And when she's had her chance to talk, you try - try it like "this behaviour makes me feel this way" not "I hate when you don't have sex with me"- rather "I feel that we're lacking physical intimacy which makes me feel disconnected" or try putting a positive spin on it like "I really liked it when you used to kiss me more, it made me feel good the whole day" or something. 

    At the end of the day, saying that you're only her second ever partner and laying the blame on HER by saying she "doesn't know how to love someone" is a complete copout and laying the whole blame on her.

    +1.

     

    Esther Perel and John Gottman are world renowned relationship experts if you feel up for some reading about some of the issues you've raised. If not beneficial to this relationship, perhaps to future ones.

    Australian moving to America as a spouse of a US citizen

    in Bringing Family Members of US Citizens to America

    Posted

    1 hour ago, asdfghj96hg said:

    Hm, you're wrong. On the US immigration site it talks about filling for the adjustment of status for a foreign spouse. 

    I think listening to these knowledgeable folk is a good idea. While only family/spouse/child could adjust status under VWP, that's only if you have non - immigrant intent, which is currently not the case for you. Burden of proof would be on you (your spouse) and it would be a risk.

     

    How much longer will you be in Aus for?

    US born baby get US and Aus passport questions

    in Australia and New Zealand

    Posted

    21 minutes ago, Athena13 said:

    Thank you ladies.... I want her to have Aus passport is also because I wan her to have Medicare in Aus, for when we are visiting. 

    Hi there. How do I register her for Aus citizenship?

    Karlzy's on to it and already given you the link to apply for citizenship by descent (see below):

    2 hours ago, Karlzy said:

    http://www.homeaffairs.gov.au/Trav/Citi/pathways-processes/application-options/descent 

    As for Medicare, given you've been out of Australia for more than 5 years, do you still have yours? If so, you can apply to put your child's name on your card (once they have citizenship). If not, you'll have to prove that Australia is your residence to get it back. Again, not my personal experience so someone who knows the nuances might be better able to assist ☺️

    US born baby get US and Aus passport questions

    in Australia and New Zealand

    Posted · Edited by conch monch

    Hello! I don't have any experience in this area, just a personal opinion on an interesting topic ☺️

     

    I would think if you were continuing to live in the US, the US passport would be the priorty because you would need your child to re-enter the US on the US passport (by law). If you were only visiting Australia temporarily, presumably you can just get the Australian visa waiver for the US passport? If you're wanting to be in Australia longer than three months, then both an US and an Australian passport makes sense. Have you registered your child for Australian citizenship? 

     

    Edit: the US embassy in Australia website says this about it. Apparently you technically need one for visiting Australia too. https://au.usembassy.gov/u-s-citizen-services/citizenship-services/dual-nationality/

     

    Good luck!

    Psychology credentialing

    in Finding Work in America

    Posted · Edited by conch monch
    Addition of missing word to complete sentence

    41 minutes ago, databit said:

    Hope it doesn't come to that, but if you must, know that Medicare (Federal) will not accept the other titles for payment.

    Do you mean if you want to work as a private practitioner? That's good to know. I've always worked in public mental health services, as that's my preference. I'll have to educate myself further about what the mental health system is like in the US and what the job opportunities are. 

    Psychology credentialing

    in Finding Work in America

    Posted

    On 17/02/2018 at 7:40 AM, Dee elle said:

    Try finding the contact details for the state professional association. equivalent  of APS.... contact the president or secretary and ask if you can be put in contact with someone on their association register who has gone through international registration...specifically from Australia if they have someone... First hand experience and personal contact is invaluable. 

    That's a great idea. I have also contacted the APS and they're going to contact their members in the US to see if they might like to share their experiences with me. Covering all bases!

    Psychology credentialing

    in Finding Work in America

    Posted

    1 hour ago, databit said:

    But do you have a Doctoral degree? That's the criteria. In seems that in Australia, a Masters will suffice. Not so in Illinois. 

     

    In Illinois to be called a Psychologist a Doctorate is required. The only exception is as a School Psychologist, which the minimum is a Masters. There is Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor or Licensed Professional Counselor titles available for Masters degree candidates.

    That's also the point of applying, so they can formally advise what I need to do to make up any deficiencies in study / practise. They will judge on an individual basis. Other than the title of doctorate, according to their psychology laws my program meets all their qualification requirements for licensure when you break it down by content and supervised practise. If I have to do further study I will. If I have to apply for a different title I will. But I want to hear formally from the board re equivalency for clinical psychology. Again, interested in knowing what to expect from other people who have had the experience of applying.

    Psychology credentialing

    in Finding Work in America

    Posted

    1 minute ago, Dee elle said:

    Your first issue will be with getting the Australian University recognised as an accredited school by the Illinois board..  I went through accreditation as an Optometrist in Illinois in 1980, and reciprocity of my Uni melbourne optometry degree was not accepted by the IL board... 

    Ugh this is what I am worried about. I've rung them and I was reassured that they credential Australian psychologists "all the time"... But I'm dubious.

     

    What did you do?

    Psychology credentialing

    in Finding Work in America

    Posted

    Hi all,

     

    Has anyone here had experience in getting their non-US (ie foreign degree) psychology  qualifications and experience assessed? I'll be looking to be licensed in Illinois. I'm interested in hearing what people's experiences with the state boards are (Illinois says they will do the evaluation of my credentials but they want me to fill out the same form as US applicants, which I think poses problems in properly assessing my quals). 

     

    For reference, in Australia I'm registered with the Psychology Board of Australia as a clinical psychologist and have 11 years experience working in mental health services, addiction services, and forensic services.

     

    Cheers!

    Any Aussie-American Couples in Chicago?

    in Moving to the US and Your New Life In America

    Posted

    On 11/30/2017 at 6:54 AM, slk1995 said:

    Hey all, 

     

    Not sure what forum this technically belongs in. 

     

    Are there any couples in Chicago or just Illinois in general that are an Australian/American pair like my fiance and myself? 

     

    I'm from Chicago; my fiance is moving here in the next few months. Care to chat? 

    Three months late but hello! My fiancé and I are just starting the K1 process (and I am new to VJ). He lives in Chicago and I live in Canberra, Australia. Where is your fiancé from in Australia? I know you can find Aussies all around the world, but it's nice to know they're hanging around Chicago too :) 

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