Arazia

Congrats! Don't forget to update your timeline!

Hope things keep moving quick for you.

Sounds like a great form of proof, at least to me.

I wish I had things that concrete.

Just a quick update...

We got our NOA1 or the K-1 Visa this past weekend. It's not much but it's something at least. I'm a little worried at the timing of things. If CSC continues at it's current pace, we might get approval as early as November and I was aiming for mid-December. Harry is coming here from December 17-January 4th, so I'm a little worried of his packet 3 getting to his place while he's over here.

His father took a job in another country and the entire family is stressed. He hasn't told them yet about any of this. That worries me, too.

My fiancee' tagged along with me to meet most of my friends when he was in town on a visit, but I fully expect him to make his own friends among my group and from other places like school and work.

Some things that might help:

- Check out your local park district (they sometimes send out mailers) for programs for adults. See if anything interests you.

- Check out the local library, they sometimes have adult book discussions and groups if that is what you're interested in.

- Take some non-credit courses at a local community college.

- Look for groups and organizations in your area with similar interests.

I'm in the same boat as you. My check was cashed last Friday and I jumped around like a loon. Every small victory, huh? Hopefully you should get your NOA1 in the mail, too. I got mine on Saturday.

Congrats and g'luck to all of us just getting started.

Both my fiancee' and I had lost our boarding passes so we used the following evidence:

- Copies of my frequent flier miles

- Copies of my itinerary

- Copies of my passport stamps

- Copies of his passport stamp

- Copies of his baggage claim tickets

- Letters from friends and relatives

- Photographs

Of course... I won't know for a while if this was enough or not.

To be honest, I agree.

We had that big rush early on in the week and then everything seemed to die down a bit.

Curses on them for getting us all riled up and then making us sit here on our rear ends.

Ahh well, another week over at least.

*toodles to go home from work, yay weekend*

We couldn't fit my fiancee's middle name into the blank on the two different forms (the I-129F and G-325A) so we just and-wrote his middle name in on both. Just because you can fill it out with machine doesn't mean you have to.

In general, the answer is 'yes' that he can come while the K-1 is processing. But bare in mind that he could get turned away at the border just as he could during any visit, at the disgression of the boarder control officer. He should make sure to have documentary evidence to prove 'strong ties' to his country of origin (Canada) and that he has reasons to go back.

Somewhat, it seems like an 'at your own risk' sort of thing. Be prepared if he does get turned back. It would probably be safer for you to visit him if that is a possible alternative.

With all of our pictures, which were taken digital, we didn't have a date stamp on it. My brother showed me exactly how easy that was to fake. What we did have was the date each photograph was taken (approx.), the location (at least city and state - or city and country), and the names (as many as we could remember) of those in the pictures.

We had pictures from local events we attended, and also had letters from friends stating that they saw us at those events in that location so the letters back up the photographs.

Congratulations, you really deserve it for all the patience you've had!

Hope things go quickly so you can have your sweetie in your arms soon. Mew.

If you look at the instructions on the I-129F, it says that if you have had a K-1 application processed in the past two years prior, you will need a waiver to apply for a second one. I think you may end up facing a lot of questions on exactly why you didn't follow through with the last K-1 visa and the burden of proof that you actually do intend to marry this time.

If you use Skype, it does keep a log of your chats. Click on the 'History' tab and then down at the bottom you can select to something to view calls only. It will show the incoming/outgoing calls. You could print out copies of this log (screenprints). It's a bit complicated, but entirely possible to do. Just make Skype as tall as your screen, do CNTL + Print Scrn and then paste it into a document such as microsoft paint or adobe photoshop or whatever you happen to have. From there, you can edit it to just show the call log and print it. Then scroll down to the next section and repeat. Trust me, it takes forever, but it may put your mind at ease to have those records.

Edit: I've started to do this myself since most of my fiancee's communication and mine is over Skype. You can usually get 3-4 days of calls per page. (If your connection disconnects as often as mine does, if not you can get a lot more per page). I'd also suggest if you do this, that you print out your 'user' info pages for yourself and your fiancee' to include with it.

Congratulations. Glad with all the frustrations everyone is feeling that some peoplea re still getting pushed through. Good luck with the rest of the process.

Congratulations! Hopefully things will go faster for you now that you're out of USCIS.

Good luck to you and best wishes.

Oh baby, oh baby. B)

Mozplay got approval out of Vermont on the 7th:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=30847

That's the only one I've seen recently.

Congratulations. I hope things move quicker for you from now on.

*mew*

Well, my fiancee' gets along fine with my parents, and they quite like him. Of course, they also said 'anyone is better than your ex-boyfriend', to which I wholeheartedly agree.

The problem I face on his side of the family is that I came into the picture shortly after he broke up with an ex-girlfriend. His mother happened to like this ex-girlfriend, although she had no clue how abusive she was to her son. If she knew, maybe she'd change her mind. In either case... his family members, at least extended, have noticed how much happier he is, and that he actually smiles when he talks about me. That's something he never did with his ex-gf. His father seems to like me, and even his sister who hates all things foreign liked me. His mother... she's the problem.

His mother doesn't like that he's dating an older woman, who is overweight, and lives in the United States. She hates that he stays up late with me to talk on the phone, and thinks I'm a bad influence on his schooling. ... ... .. . Oh just wait until she hears that he's going to be moving here to marry me. I bet you'll hear the yelling all the way across the pond.

Robin28:

Thank you, that link actually pretty much sums things up. His anemia isn't communicable so it shouldn't be a problem.

Now, I think I'm more concerned about his Asperger's syndrome, as it is what is considered an 'autistic spectrum' disorder. Essentially it means a lot of different symptoms which get kind of grouped together. Well, I guess all I can do is trust that they will fairly evaluate him when he has his medical exam. I guess I'm just worried about going through the long process only to be turned back because of his AS (Asperger's), although as far as I'm aware it has no real 'dangerous' behaviors associated with it.

I think a lot of couples have this problem. Communication isn't always the easiest thing and everyone reacts differently. From what it sounds like, he is afraid of making you more angry or upset and thus doesn't want to say anything. What you could try doing is maybe taking five, ten minutes or so to calm yourself down. Tell him you're upset, but that you're going to go for a walk to get your mind strait, and you want to talk about it then. Come back calm, with your head collected on what you want to say. Try to be clear about why you feel like you do.

Now... my fiancee' and I both have a condition that makes communication hard, so we've had to work twice as hard on it as most other couples. Even so, sometimes we just can't understand each other. It can take a lot of explaining reasons behind things. 'I feel this way when you do that because of this and that and the other thing. I know you didn't -mean- to make me feel like that, but could you try not to do so in the future?' Sometimes what upsets us is a combination of things... 'I'm upset because this and this happened at work, and this happened with mom and dad, and then you did whatever...'. I've found that a lot of times when I'm upset at him, I'm not upset -at- him, but at a bunch of other things where one little thing he does is the last straw.

I wish I had more advice, but we're still learning about this as well. Especially lately with the added stress of the whole visa process. Goodluck...

And, for some reason since I can't edit this post...

Asperger's Syndrome is a developmental disorder associated with Autism. It generally effects verbal communication and some socialization. Both myself and my fiancee' have it. It isn't considered dangerous as far as I'm aware, but I'm worried that that might cause problems as well.

I'm curious about what sort of things would cause a 'denial' at the medical exam level? I've heard they check for HIV, and I assume the chest x-ray needed is for TB. What other conditions could cause them to reject an applicant?

I ask because my fiancee has a type of anemia (iron-related blood condition). He also is diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. I doubt the later of these would come up at an exam, but the anemia probably would.

Does anyone have any ideas on how strict things are medical wise?

A good place to start, of course, would be the Guide section:

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...mp;page=k1guide

It walks you through the forms you need as well as showing examples.

In general, you need:

I-129F Form

G-325A Form (Beneficiary)

G-325a Form (Petitioner)

Passport Photo (Beneficiary)

Passport Photo (Petitioner)

Proof of Citizenship (Petitioner)

Proof of meeting in the past two years

Proof of intent to marry (letters of intent, ring receipts, divorce certs if you've been married before)

I'm probably forgetting some things, so please check the guide.

Good luck and welcome!

Congratulations to everyone!

It really gives hope to some of us just getting started to see things finally picking up again.

Glad to see especially a lot of the older applications getting cleared.