Arazia

Well, often times we play games together on the internet and we talk every night. That helps to pass the time. Also, I think we both understand we're in this for a long haul and that means we can't get our hopes up all that quickly. He has school, I have work, and it keeps us both occupied.

My foreign fiancee' speaks English quite well. His parents insist that he doesn't speak real English, that he speaks 'American'. They have a worse time than he does, although occassionally something doesn't come across right in translation. For instance, I was telling them at one point about my pets, and said I had a 'guinea pig'. They thought I meant a pot-belly pig. My fiancee' had to explain that I meant a little fuzzy rodent.

I've never been much of a clubbing sort of person, so I voted 'don't go out'.

Too loud, too many people, too close together, and too much booze.

I'd rather curl up on the couch, watch a movie, play some video games, and snuggle my beloved.

Foreplay 'everytime'.

As for the others...

People really expect oral sex / sex once a day?

Maybe I'm just getting old, but seriously I'd be worn out by that. I'm not a rabbit.

If I do it, I want it to be more than a repetative daily act. I'd rather have one real loving time every few days that makes me feel amazing physically and mentally... than obligatory sex every day. Forget it. -.-;

Generally when I'm buying tickets to Europe, I check something like cheaptickets.com and then compare what has the lowest amount and then go to their actual website. Sites like cheaptickets, travelocity, etc all add their own little bit ontop of what you would normally pay to the airline.

Traveling on short notice is tough unless you want to risk flying standby. Still, if you can have a window of a few days either way, try different combinations. I found over $200 difference between a return flight leaving a saturday and one leaving a thursday. Sometimes it pays to fly on off-days.

I voted for 'both' and 'no'. I live in the midwest. Most of the people who wave that flag around have never even been in the south and even fewer have any idea of what it actually means. Those that do, use it proudly for it's racist roots. There is a reason why you don't see many non-whites at country music festivals. Then again, this is just my personal opinion. I don't much appreciate people wearing flags from Hitler or Stalin or anyone else when it has that meaning behind it. It isn't the image itself, it's the meaning behind it.

We recycle. Cans, bottles, foil, cardboard, paper, etc. It's curb-side pickup usually, except for the paper stuff which we turn in curb-side at my parent's house in Wisconsin since they don't accept paper curb-side here.

Harry and I celebrate the anniversary of the day we admitted our feelings for each other: November 14th. And the official day we got together: January 1st. But we don't 'celebrate' them stereotypically. We don't go out or do anything special, it's just a nice remider to each other how far things have gone. And we do six-month and such as well. Just little reminders. Hey we've been together x-long, isn't that neat? o.O heh.

There are a lot of reasons for obesity. I'm overweight myself and it has little to do with scarfing down mcdonalds. If I eat there, it's generally a salad and diet coke. If you look at my entire family, we are all overweight, and a good deal of it has to do with genetics. There is also a number of medical conditions which can cause obesity.

For instance, my mother went on a diet when she was my age and got down to an 'acceptable' weight of 145lbs for her height. This caused her a lot of medical problems. Her doctor actually told her that she'd lost -too- much weight and to get herself up to around 180lbs (which is clinically overweight) and stay there.

I just wish people would think before they judge people. Overweight doesn't mean you're lazy or a slob or anything of that nature, and it makes it worse when the whole world is laughing at us as if we're the butt of some sort of sick joke.

Oh, here we go again!

Well, excuse me for having a difference of opinion.

I have a question,

Are you looking for a school to -teach- your child ESL or a class to teach your child -in- ESL? There's a difference and I'm confused on which one you are looking for. You may have difficulty finding a program that teaches in ESL in a public school setting. You may have to research a private school. As for classes to teach ESL, I'd suggest checking out local park districts and colleges for non-credit programs for children.

This is a link to the Chicago public school system: http://www.cps.k12.il.us/

I'm sure if you look through the site you should be able to find information about the public school system andt here is a phone number under contacts that might help in trying to find a school that teaches such things.

Good luck.

There are a lot of reasons for obesity. I'm overweight myself and it has little to do with scarfing down mcdonalds. If I eat there, it's generally a salad and diet coke. If you look at my entire family, we are all overweight, and a good deal of it has to do with genetics. There is also a number of medical conditions which can cause obesity.

For instance, my mother went on a diet when she was my age and got down to an 'acceptable' weight of 145lbs for her height. This caused her a lot of medical problems. Her doctor actually told her that she'd lost -too- much weight and to get herself up to around 180lbs (which is clinically overweight) and stay there.

I just wish people would think before they judge people. Overweight doesn't mean you're lazy or a slob or anything of that nature, and it makes it worse when the whole world is laughing at us as if we're the butt of some sort of sick joke.

Well, I'm not sure about books to suggest, but I understand how it can be strange to try and adjust to a different location and different country. This is what I know:

Adult Education - If you've had previous schooling in your country, make sure to have transcripts available or at least be able to contact them to get such things. When you find a school in the U.S. ask to talk to an admissions councellor. They can often help in transfering foreign credits, getting you set into classes, and helping you adjust to a new program. Often times you can even find classes tailored to foreign students. For instance, my local community college offers cram courses in English reading, writing, speaking and such for non-native residents.

Bank System/Credit Cards - This one can be a bit hard. You can't get credit unless you have credit. You'll need an SSN number first, and then I suggest getting a checking/savings account at a local bank. You can even get a joint one with your spouse. Then you can usually get a credit card through your bank, even if you don't have much credit (although it might be a small line of credit, like $500), and your spouse's credit can help (if his is good). You can earn credit by using your credit card and paying it off regularly and by taking out small loans and making payments on those. When I got out of college, I had no credit and got a bank credit card with a limit of $500. In the three years since I've had it and used it, the credit limit has been raised quite a few times, so it doesn't take as long to establish good credit as it might seem.

Job Search - This one is a hard one, to be honest. There are many online sites such as monster.com, careerbuilder.com and such where you can post online resumes. There are also a number of free want-add publications. These aren't always the greatest sources of job-leads though. If you do persue education, often times your college will have a resume or job placement program which can be a real help. Otherwise, there are also agencies that you can pay a fee to and they will make your resume available to different companies who recruit.

That's all I really know. I really wish you the best of luck, and hopefully a year or so from now I'll be dealing with my fiancee's transision to the US.

Once.

And very thankful they didn't require paralell parking and I wasn't marked off for parking too close to another vehicle on my final parking job at the exam office. It was a big vehicle I took the test in and a verrry small parking space.

Congratulations and good luck with the rest of the process! I hope it goes quickly.

Well as I haven't yet submitted my forms, I can't answer number two. But I do have this website (visajourney) bookmarked both at home and at work and spend at least a half hour every day looking through posts and researching.

I agree with what was stated earlier. Get Skype. That's what my fiancee' and I use and we talk just about every night. I can't imagine what a phone bill would be like if we talked regularly on a real telephone. It would probably run up over $100 just in one night. x.x Yes, Skype good.

You have my sympathies, but remember there are a lot of people here on the forums who have been waiting a lot longer than you or the other people who have been approved quickly through Vermont. Your best bet is to just have patience. This is a long-term process. Best wishes for things to move quickly, but remember there is a long line ahead and behind you.

Yay for being one of the minority. My fiancee' and I met on a MUSH (for those who don't know, that's a text-based role-playing game). Since then, we've also played a video game called Ragnarok Online together, where we're affectionately known as 'The Couple'

It really does depend on the definition of argument. We have 'tiffs' mostly over stupid stuff that doesn't matter. I've always joked that we never really have arguments over anything important, it's over silly things like video games and such.

Even so, we usually only have one of those a month or so. But I won't go as far as saying we never argue.

This guide is just a little bit (did I say little, I meant a lot) overpriced. In my case, we stayed at each other's homes every visit, and our plane costs were never more than 700 USD per trip. Our rings were donated by my parents (but I'm sure a lot of people can find rings at a discounted price) and we only had to pay for the resizing. None of the 'additional costs' really count, as my fiancee is fluent in English and such. Really, I can't see the entire process costing more than $5000.00 for us, even including airfair for all the trips.

Wonderful document, and very informative! Thank you.

*studies*

I'm six years older than Harry. I'm 25 and he's 19.

This is my view on things, and why I listed that it isn't a 'must'...

First thing, we're all going to grow old. Physical attraction is important early on, but sometimes you'll find you're attracted to a lot more than looks. It might be voice, mannerisms, actions. A guy can be an absolute knockout, but if he ignores you constantly and doesn't even want to put in some effort in the bedroom, then he's not going to be that attractive. In the long run, though... we all get old and wrinkly and most of us can't afford the perservatives movie stars use. By the time you're fifty, sixty years old... physical attraction is not going to matter anymore (unless you feel like constantly husband/wife hopping for some younger person, can we say sugar daddy/momma?). What matters at that point in life is someone who loves you, who can be your lifelong companion, and that has nothing to do with looks.

Congratulations on your wedding, and don't worry about your spottiness. I'm sure everything will be just fine.

Water mostly, although if I have a choice I love fountain-drink style Diet Pepsi. Diet Coke is okay too. Anything diet. I'm tubby enough not to need the extra calories. x.x