Aussieinsocal

Good morning all! 
Ive lived here in SoCal for just over 2 years now and I HATE it here. Its not the area (Im blessed to live in a wonderful area, near great inlays and my wife has an amazing income, etc.) 
Its the culture (Or lack thereof) Everyone is rude and seems to be out to scam you for a buck. No one shows kindness or class. Work is so hard for me to get and now with the election i can't stand the thought of leaving the house for fear of having to deal with some moron Trump supporter. 
Im heavily pregnant and am dreading raising my boys (Twins) in this country, moving home means we have to start the visa process again so my wife can get her immigration to Australia plus the cost of moving nd wasted money of immigrating here. 
Im so lost and lonely. None understands whats its like to be here from somewhere (That i consider) better. 
 

Thanks all for your feed back! Its nice to see that I'm not alone! Im feeling much better now. Im going to sit down and get a bit of a plan together tonight. I would LOVE to live on Portland. That is 100% where I 'fit in' so we will see if i can make some magic happen there!!! 
The Trump stuff. I know I'm over thinking it. It was just another nail in the coffin for me. I don't give many hoots about politics, everyone be kind and leave me alone and we will get on just fine! lol. 
As far as how I got pregnant!!! This made me laugh reading it all! Yes, Im a women and so is my wife! We did IVF to make these guys!!! Def not a dude in jail with a uterus lmao!!! 
Thanks again for all of your supportive words and encouragement. Christmas, I miss my family, scared about starting my own, yada yada... 

Thanks all for your feed back! Its nice to see that I'm not alone! Im feeling much better now. Im going to sit down and get a bit of a plan together tonight. I would LOVE to live on Portland. That is 100% where I 'fit in' so we will see if i can make some magic happen there!!! 
The Trump stuff. I know I'm over thinking it. It was just another nail in the coffin for me. I don't give many hoots about politics, everyone be kind and leave me alone and we will get on just fine! lol. 
As far as how I got pregnant!!! This made me laugh reading it all! Yes, Im a women and so is my wife! We did IVF to make these guys!!! Def not a dude in jail with a uterus lmao!!! 
Thanks again for all of your supportive words and encouragement. Christmas, I miss my family, scared about starting my own, yada yada... 

Thanks all for your feed back! Its nice to see that I'm not alone! Im feeling much better now. Im going to sit down and get a bit of a plan together tonight. I would LOVE to live on Portland. That is 100% where I 'fit in' so we will see if i can make some magic happen there!!! 
The Trump stuff. I know I'm over thinking it. It was just another nail in the coffin for me. I don't give many hoots about politics, everyone be kind and leave me alone and we will get on just fine! lol. 
As far as how I got pregnant!!! This made me laugh reading it all! Yes, Im a women and so is my wife! We did IVF to make these guys!!! Def not a dude in jail with a uterus lmao!!! 
Thanks again for all of your supportive words and encouragement. Christmas, I miss my family, scared about starting my own, yada yada... 

Thanks all for your feed back! Its nice to see that I'm not alone! Im feeling much better now. Im going to sit down and get a bit of a plan together tonight. I would LOVE to live on Portland. That is 100% where I 'fit in' so we will see if i can make some magic happen there!!! 
The Trump stuff. I know I'm over thinking it. It was just another nail in the coffin for me. I don't give many hoots about politics, everyone be kind and leave me alone and we will get on just fine! lol. 
As far as how I got pregnant!!! This made me laugh reading it all! Yes, Im a women and so is my wife! We did IVF to make these guys!!! Def not a dude in jail with a uterus lmao!!! 
Thanks again for all of your supportive words and encouragement. Christmas, I miss my family, scared about starting my own, yada yada... 

I wonder if you are having some adjustment issues and micro-focusing them on things like guns, gangs, and Trump supporters.  Often times when there are larger issues, it kind of manifests in this absolute hatred/fear/disgust towards smaller things.  I've been there and it is a common enough issue for people living somewhere new.   
 
As to California, yes you are there for your in-laws, but a state that they could easily visit but that might suit you better might be an idea.  I, as an American, have made it my life's goal to never step foot in California and have yet to meet a Californian that I am fond of.  (Relax a little Californians, it isn't a personal insult).  For me, my unexpected great fit and happy place came in a remote place 2 hours north of Fargo, which for a native New Yorker was an interesting choice, but something that works well for everyone in my family.

Ahhhh... Got it.  Thanks.

He is a she. Conception does not require sex. It merely requires a sperm and an egg. This is the 21st century.

LOL - yes - California needs to just fall off the edge of the country into the water... but PLEASE WAIT FOR ME TO GET OFF FIRST.  
 
Not all of us are rude and nasty.

My issues have zero to do with immigration. I actually tend to agree with coming through the boarders legally! 
The whole Trump thing isn't my big issue and I apologies if it offended. For my family it does have some implications and Ive only had to deal with my republican inlaws and social media (Which is the devil!) 
Coming from Aus there are things that USA just so different. Guns- scare the out of me. We don't have guns. Gangs- We don't have gangs, just that sort of thing.
 

I don't disagree with you with regards to immigration laws. When my wife and I contacted a lawyer about the immigration process, his advice to us was to have her come here on her ESTA and then never leave. He said he could get her legal status quicker if she overstayed her visa because there were loopholes in the system. I respectfully disagreed and we went the longer route. Still waiting now but we don't regret it.
I have no problem with wanting to limit illegal immigration. I don't think a "wall" is going to do anything (ladders were invented long ago). My problem is that many of the anti-illegal immigration are just generally anti-immigration when people come from "certain" countries. They stereotype, they make assumptions. Middle eastern immigrants are hated, whether they are illegal or not. I don't deny that my wife and I are lucky because we will never be stopped on the street with someone yelling "Go home" to her, since she will never appear  to anyone to be an "immigrant". I know plenty of people, even US Citizens who were born here, who have had to deal with that.

Crime is everywhere and I understand where you're coming from. I grew up in one of the most violent cities in America, so violence was common on a daily basis. When we moved out to a rural area, my family wrongly thought crime wouldn't follow them. It's nice out here on the surface - nice streets but most everyone is armed for hunting/protection instead of wanting to commit crimes. But unfortunately the town we now live has one of the highest population of heroin addicts, homelessness, and rising rate of crime in the state. Drug busts, gang fights, murders you name it.. not much different than happening in the cities. A child was murdered on my street... and that I have to tell you was a sobering experience for everyone that day. Robberies happen from time to time. A few months ago we were on lockdown due to a shootout. And just a few blocks away shooting and stabbings happen daily. There's not much you can do about it, except for live your life the best you can, be vigilant about your surroundings, and invest in security measures if you can. If things become so bad, relocate.. which I know is easier said than done. Suburbia used to be 'safe havens', but it's a false sense of security. There are no safe havens anymore, but there are more safer areas if you can afford it. Coming from the UK, there is some crime sure, but from experience things often feel a lot safer. It may be the same for Australia; but one thing I've taught to my husband is to always be aware of your surroundings and don't be lulled into a false sense of security.
On top of that I can understand your anxiety with discrimination, especially to your kids. As a mom you want to protect them from the unpleasant persons of the world. California though, is certainly a lot more liberally minded towards the LGBT community, and overall across America, even though there are pockets of prejudiced persons, I feel that times are changing to become more accepting and loving of everyone no matter if there are two moms or two dads. Yes you've got lawmakers in some states trying to desperately protect their religious bottom line instead of serving all people, and that is a shame. I am a firm believer in the law, and I believe much of what Trump thinks he can do will be sorely disappointed. He is not king or ruler of us. He will have a hard time controlling his party, and his party will have a hard time controlling him. It won't be a rosey time. And I believe that the law will ensure he may not be president as long as some think. But that's just my political perspective. For every person that would like to bully or threaten you because of your sexuality or immigration status, there are many more who will step up and fight for your right to be here.
Closeness to family can be difficult can't it, especially if you're not used to it? Remember that you are a couple now, and that your lives should not have decisions made or based entirely around an extended family. So I'm not saying that you should consider moving for now, but in the future it could have real possibilities. Moving can be hard, but sometimes a change might be the thing you need.

I know nothing about socal.
I wanted to let you know it took me 3 years to get to the point where I don't hate every single thing here. I will say I'm one of the few ppl here that loves the summer. I'm literally allergic to the cold. My blood pressure drops and I break out in massive hives. I love the heat I could do without the humidity but it's better then -40's. 
I still have never seen this southern hospitality that everyone talks about. I find ppl keep to themselves and well I'll stop because I might not stop  One thing for sure I know it's not the entire State, I'm told by a few ppl that I met here that if we live away from Little Rock it would be much different. 
Since moving out of state is not an option right now maybe think of moving just a bit away. Heck even moving to another stated would be a lot closer to her family then going back home. 

Sorry to hear that. My suggestion is that California as a state, is not for everyone. Nor is the US for that matter. We're a big country, with our own little micro-cultures and types of people. You may find a different state with a little bit of a different personality better suited to you, though that may be a hard suggestion for you to find plausible. There are always going to be aspects of your home country that you find are better... afterall it's understandable (it's home!). But the thing about the US is, it is often whatever you make it to be. You haven't shared much about your situation, but you say that you are lonely. Do you have any American friends or other expats that you can meet with, or are you stuck at home all the time with the kids? What work have you tried to find? Have you tried volunteering? Is you spouse providing you with any emotional support with your feelings and difficulty with adjusting? The perception of a person not being kind can all depend on where you live. Unkind people exist all over the world. As for Trump supporters, unfortunately this is the nature of the country now. Like it or lump it, we're stuck with him as a new president, and likewise we are also stuck with trying to find common ground with the persons who put him there. Some are more reasonable than others of course.

As was stated above, California, especially in the SoCal areas, are not for everyone. It is like it's own little realm on the West Coast, where as in Oregon and Washington are nothing like that all. I could definately agree with you as myself would not want to live there personally(no offense to anyone who does live there just saying).
As to the Trump supporters, quite honestly myself included(it was in my eyes lesser of two evils honestly), had Clinton won then there would be same Clinton idiots running around still after the election for some reason acting like they are proving a point. The people you're running into are the same idiots just on the Trump side. The extremes of people trying to push their ideals onto other people and need to simply go find something better to do with their time. All you can do about that really is try your best just to ignore them and try not to let it get to you.

Sorry to hear that it's so bad there! Have you guys considered trying another part of the US? Honestly, I can't stand SoCal and could never live there. Other parts of the US might not be so bad. If your wife works in a good industry where it's possible to get a job in another state, definitely consider moving. Of course no one is stopping you from moving back home either, but as the US is such a large country, it's worth looking around to see if you have other options before making the drastic move back overseas.
P.S. Congrats on the twins! As a twin myself, I can say that being a twin is quite an awesome thing.