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Lol.... Ok you are right, are you happy? Do you want a golden medal... Lol this is just absurd

I've let my fiancé and her family members (one of them even works for the government) read the USCIS statement and all of them said which it is not written correctly and which it's indeed very confusing. 

Don't you wonder why so many people get confused about this topic? 

Well you know the answer: without any shadow of doubt the USCIS has failed to provide informations regarding this topic because most of people included american citizens cannot understand what they claim. 

Someone here said that a CBP officer told him/her about it... 

Well the officer that interviewed me took out of his belt an outdoor knife to open the envelope pointing the knife in my direction and started mocking me about my reason to be here in the USA but those are OT details... 

It's all about to make your job properly, which is something that today a lot of people forgot how to do it. Goodbye, I'm cancelling my account, I'm tired of this nonsense arguing with walls. 

Ok, this is my last attempt to make you get my point, here is part of what the USCIS states about the Green Card for Fiancé:

This page provides specific information for foreign nationals in the United States who want to apply for lawful permanent resident status based on their admission as a K-1 nonimmigrant and marriage within 90 days to their U.S. citizen petitioner. This is called “adjustment of status."

Everyone can notice that they even made 1 error using the word "marriage" instead of the verb "marry" which makes things so confusing.

Again they keep talking about lawfulness referring only on the terms which are "getting married in 90 days" and nothing else.

Useless that you guys keep justifying such a lack of grammar and detailed informations (I'm not good either but I'm not a mothertongue if that makes sense).

lol.... whatever

For example yesterday I was reading about how to drive legally in the USA while on a k1 visa and it is very clearly stated  by the Department of Motor Vehicles in the requirements “a NON Expired I-94”.

That’s the way you are supposed to type down a scent and complete information and n my way to see that. And again the USCIS the keep typing that you must get married in the 90 days and nothing else

2 minutes ago, geowrian said:

Correct. It does not say anything about the I-94 needing to be expired or unexpired. Reading into if it must or must not be is an assumption.

 

AOS can be field before or after after the 90 days as the IR of a USC.

One is out of status after 90 days.

The above 2 items are separate issues.

Thanks.

Also in my experience the USCIS always alerts you about inconvenients that happen if you do something wrong like missing to communicate an information regarding me or my fiance for example so they could have been a little more clear about this topic, it's just my point of view if that matters.

Just try to understand that for me it was a huge shock to not be unknowledged about this before and whoch my family will not attend my wedding because of that, I should have had the right to receive them like in all other normal marriages and as I said thanks God nobody of them got damaged economically. Thanks God I have some military basis and I acknowledged about how things work in this world or right know I should have been looking for a lawyer for to be refunded, I wouldn't have been quiet if something happened to my family like nobody in this world would be.

It's just a business and that's it!

Sorry sir but on the AOS instructions doesn't state that the I-94 must not be expired, it only staetes that you must get married in the 90 days, nowhere it is stated to send the AOS in the 90 days and that's a fact, useless to justify that.

Now the only way to get this information is through a lawyer or just wondering by yourself if you are doing things properly even if the instructions are silent about that, it is a fact, that's it, I'm not making an issue about it but it's rude to be forced to get married after 2 weeks I entered the USA and telling my family to not buy anymore the tickets because I had to change date (thanks God nobody bought the ticket or imagine the damage that an incomplete information would have caused).

In plus you get to pay so much money if you are late in sending the AOS and all of this because an incomplete information and this is a fact because I am been reading about lot of people passing through that, useless to justify it.

All of this is not mentioned in the official USCIS page, which worried me a lot because I am sure that a lot of people don’t recognize the danger and damage behind that.

I found out all of this by myself because I started wondering “what happens if my I-94 has expired before sending the AOS request?” but if I was not that wise to go and check out there I would have paid the consequences without being alerted by the instructions given by the USCIS (incomplete about this topic).

Hello guys,

I am shocked to get to know that here in LA you get a marriage certificate (main requirement to put into the AOS request) after 6-8 weeks and so that means which I had to change my marriage date and set a new one at least 60 days before the 90th day because if my I-94 (90 days visa) is expired that means which I am overstaying illegally but if I send the AOS request before the 90th day then my status will be a legal pending status, is all of this true or is there something that I am missing?

thank you all guys <3

wow..just wow. If I was you I would move on. I know that is easier said than done when the heart is involved. However think like this. You most likely want a relationship with love, trust, and support each other. You want to put into the relationship 50% and she puts in 50%. Its called equal efforts in the relationship. Right now as i see it everything is all you. I don't buy any of her divorce excuses. They are exactly that..excuses.. If she really wants this relationship she would have found a way to get the divorce decree long time ago.

Now think this.. lets say she has a decree right now. Do you honestly think she is in a mental place in her life to start a HEALTHLY relationship? There are so many red flags here I would move on. I know it is hard, but time doesnt stop and you are getting older and life is passing you by. How many more holidays do you want to spend by yourself? More on friend.. That is my friendly advice..

I recognize which there are red flags and I am sure I would have troubles also if we would be able to get married; first for her moody behaviour and second because of her family hostility.

It's easy to speak but hard to do it, because she is the only girlfriend I had in 30 years.

I had ups and downs in my life but even when I had huge self esteem, athletic body and funny character no girl wanted me, I just didn't fit with anyone of the girls I met and the age feeds me to keep staying with my actual girlfriend.

It could sounds weird or funny to most of people here reading, but everyone of us has his/her own experience.

I'm been desiring love and after I've tasted it I cannot think to be without it, I can stop to smoke or I can stop any other vicious thing, but I can't stop needing love, I just cannot.

I will wait things to reach their limit, and then I will breakup if necessary, and she thinks the same of me about this.

I am sorry for your situation. You need to understand one thing that you need to stop messing around. Don't make your life miserable. What I can see in you is symptoms of relationship co-dependency (read about it). Your girl friend is taking advantage f you being in LPR relationship. If she would love you she could have been with you long ago. She is manipulating you for some reason 1st to get your attention or 2nd if you are helping her with money ( please stop it). Save yourself from all drama. Life is precious. As suggested by other VJ get some professional help. I have been in such situation. Your life is of worth,don't take it for granted. I know how you would be feeling about your girl friend but open your eyes and think of the things going in your life. Distract yourself from this situation.

No, I'm not sending her money.

I feel sad but I think I can still handle it, but if the story ends I will look for a therapist I guess.

I don't think it is bad to be dependent on feelings if the other person loves you back.

I just had hard time while I was a teen and after and now that I am 30 she is the only source of love I have and it's not that simple to not think on feelings; it's like to forbid a child to eat candies, so I cannot forbid myself to desire love cause I like love with all myself and I cannot live without it.

Yes she was anxious at the begins and she took time to feel comfortable with me before to allow me to go to meet her in person, but she is not a liar.

But what if what she says it's true?
I will wait to see what another lawyer will say to her, because this lawyer seems like if he is losing time on purpose, or worst, he never did nothing and he is in communication with the mother of my girlfriend and probably he turns the money back to her mom, who knows that?
How can a serious lawyer lose 10 months for a divorce decree?, she doesn't live with her ex since 6 years ago, and she already paid a lawyer 6 years ago but her ex refused the meeting letter for the consensual divorce.
I mean in such situation even the worst lawyer would work out the divorce decree in maximum 4 months.

Divorce is a relatively simple thing and is up to her.

The obvious solution is to move her to Italy. Well away from the abusive situation.

She doesn't want to live in Italy, but she said as soon as possible she has to move away from her mother's life and to go to live alone like before, but since she lives in the countryside, without support from her family it's a little hard to do that. She lost her last job cause her car got broken and her mother refused to lend her some money for to repair it, and with bus she was always late and she had TO PAY her brother more than a taxi for to pick her up at night, but she lost the job anyway.

I prayed her many times to try to come and to live here and to support me to have a career here, but she always menaced me to breakup If I would refuse to go to live to USA.

This is for others who read

And I cannot live her because:

1) she is my first and only girlfriend I ever had in my whole life and I love her and I would give my life for her;

2) she loves me, and I would never forsake someone which shares my problems, hard times, love times, happy times.

3) I am kind of religious, and if I give myself to a woman then I want that only woman for my whole life unless she cheats on me

I do not believe in a single word that your girlfriend is telling you.Man you have a CRAZY girlfriend to say the least. Your relationship has RED FLAGS for everyone. YOU should seek some help for yourself (psychotherapy) in ordee for you to develop skills of sef respect and self esteem.

I am an attorney since 1989 and an advocate for victims of domestic violence,and let me tell you something,everything you described here I saw before, do not walk but RUN, your gf is not a victim here,she is VERY manipulative,and the divorce story is a complete bs.

In some things you said the truth. About the lawyer also her mother confirmed me once which my girl was paying it for to get the divorce decree. At the begins her mother loved me and said to my girlfriend which there are no more guys like me in this world and which she should marry me. But last months her mother started to act very jealous and she doesn't want her daughter to marry me.

And since my girl works for her mother's institute (without any salary), her mother plays to set troubles to her and also to the secretary. But she told which her mother has always been abusive against her since she was little. She educated her sons to be served by my girlfriend, and she has teach them to not work and she fills them of money, and they drive a porsche and eat MCdonald's like if there is no tomorrow, while my girlfriend has to go working on bus and they leave her in the city if she is not able to go back home alone.

About my direct experience I can say which it's true which my girlfriend is the slave of the family, cause at the third night my girl and I stayed in an apartment paid by my girlfriend, her mother called her saying she thrown her bed and stuff on the street. And we had to go every morning to her institute to solve her issues instead to go to have fun. And I noticed which her mother and her brothers just came in the institute looking at my girl working while they ate like pigs and by staying all day out with their porsche.

Surely my girlfriend has her defects but the 90% of what she says it's true.

But I do appreciate your comment, thanks

No the title of the thread is not about a movie but about a real life experience.
Everything started in the June 2013 when I met my american girlfriend online;
she told me since the begins which she got married once while she was 19 and which her ex-husband shown to be a monster since the beginning of her wedding (he cheated on her and he used to beat her).
She paid immediately a lawyer after he started to be violent and she went back to live with her family while doing the divorce process but he rejected the cause and everything was left pending for more than 4 years till today.
The issue is which my girlfriend was traumatized and got depressed during those years and she gave up in keeping paying the lawyer for to have in-justice.
The other drama is which she decided to pay a new lawyer just now in May of this year 2015.
From the 2013 to 2015 she always thought she loved me and which she wanted to get married with me, but if I remembered her that we absolutely needed her divorce decree for to file the k1-visa process, she used to get crazy and to shut down any possibility to discuss about it.
During the first months of our relationship she was too much closed and rejected my intentions to pay a ticket to go in the USA for to know her in person, but finally after 1 year and half of virtual relationship she allowed me to buy a ticket for to go to meet her in the USA.
It was the 2014 when I met her in the USA, and I had to fight and wait 1 more year before she would allow me to buy a ticket for her to come here in Italy for to meet my family.
She came here in May 2015 and she had to go back to USA after 4 days, because her mother started to act jealous, saying she had a surgery intervention (it was just a simple intervention in the ankle, nothing problematic cause it was just a check to the screw), but it was not an emergency cause she was able to walk and do everything like a normal healthy person.
So basically I've wasted a lot of money just to see her for 4..days instead of 20.

After she went back in the USA in May, she finally decided to pay a lawyer for to obtain the desired divorce decree so we could start the k1-process.
She paid a friend of her mother which is a lawyer.
Every month this lawyer say "I have the divorce decree in my hands, I just need a mark from the judge"... first he said us to wait August, then till October, then November....
2 days ago the lawyer said "I have the paper, come with other 200 usd and I will give you the divorce decree in 1 week".
She gave him the money 2 days ago, and yesterday he called her back saying "you must wait till March 2016 because everyone is going in vacation now".

So I'm struggling a lot and I am giving up, and my girlfriend is depressed, and we think her mother is in the middle of this because she always laugh at my girlfriend when she says she is going to marry me, and her mother often said to her "You will never do this, trust me, you will not be able to marry him mhauhauah".
And her mother is a woman in power, she is in politics and is the owner of stuff, and she makes her male sons to live like kings but she uses my girlfriend as the slave of the house and doesn't give her a single cent;
my girlfriend had to escape from the house for 3 years for to work and pay her university studies, because he mother used to steal her money and to force her to obey to all her mother's needs.

This situation is killing me and my girlfriend... I told to my girlfriend to pay a lawyer which has no connections with her mother or her family, and I said to her to explain also to police this situation , cause it's not normal which a lawyer says lies robbing her money and after 7 months he had done nothing to get the divorce decree.
Any advices? similar stories? I am going to struggle and get depressed, I don't know what to do, I don't want to enter in USA as a clandestine, but what to do when things are as black as night, this is too sad.

Hello all,

My fiance and I met online in an MMO in May of 2014, and started dating September 2014. Ever since the start people have been against the idea of me dating someone online, and have asked me many times why I don't look for someone local. They had also made some unfounded judgements about him, and have trash talked him before even meeting him. He has come up to visit me in Canada (he's from US) a few more times since then, and we have tried to arrange times for my family to spend some time with us and get to know him better, so that maybe they can feel a little bit more comfortable with our situation. All of these times, no one has really seemed interested in getting to know him more, and as a result they still have some negative feelings towards him.

In August, we got engaged and started the K1 visa process. When he was back up here in October, we told my family we were engaged, and overall got some negative feedback. The overall response was "oh really? I guess we saw that coming, congrats I guess?", which was really off-putting. One thing that was brought up to me recently was that they all think they he is possessive and controlling. I asked them why this is and they said it's because on his last visit when we were telling people about the engagement he made it clear to people that he did really care what they thought because it wouldn't change our decision. He was also talking about how he is saving money and working a lot of overtime to save money for when I get down there. They way he said it may have come across as rude, but I really don't see how people see that as controlling.

He treats me very well, we have great communication about everything, he doesn't stop me from going out with friends or get mad when I do. He is literally the opposite of controlling and possessive. I do admit that he is protective of me, but that is just from a safety standpoint, and he doesn't like it when I tell him that my family has upset me in some way. So he looks out for my wellbeing and doesn't like it when people hurt me, which to me, sounds normal.

We recently told them about our wedding plans. No one has said anything yet (it was a facebook message, explaining the visa process and when we think we will be getting married), and I think everyones reaction is going to be pretty negative. We want people to be there with us, but don't want them being there out of obligation and ruining our day.

The few friends that I have congratulated me right away and said that they're glad and happy for us and that we seem really happy together, which is all I want from my family. We have been a very close family (theres about 10 of us) since as long as I can remember, and all of their negative reactions are honestly pushing me away and making me glad that I am leaving to go the the US soon, but I am also sad that I feel this way. Has anyone gone through something similar? What did you do?

I assure you which is all about being negative against your relationship.

I am in a long distance relationship since the 2013, and the mother of her is acting very sneaky, trying to set me and my girlfriend to breakup.

My american girlfriend is separated from 5 years ago and her ex-husband got married again, despite he left the divorce process pending. So my girlfriend took a lawyer which is friend of her mother. We are at the 6th month since she paid this lawyer and every month he said "I have the paper I just need a mark from the judge".

The sneaky thing is which some days ago he asked for other money saying he would give the divorce decree to her so we could start the k1-visa process, so she gave the money to him and after 1 day he said "You must wait till March to have your divorce decree".... I believe her mother and this lawyer are accorded to not let her having the divorce decree.

Also my girlfriend psychologist told her which her mother wants her to be her slave in the house forever, and she acts pathologically jealous, and she would never let her marry me.

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We use (me rarely, just twice in my life) to eat pork blood in different ways:

the most bizarre one is mixed with cocoa, sugar and red wine (someone adds red hot chili) and when boiled it gets like a pudding (you can seriously confuse it for a normal pudding):

The other way is just pork blood (sometimes also brain) mixed with nuts and pistachio put inside a bowel and then boiled:

I met my girl on Facebook in the most weird way... I've created a new account for to type on groups and pages privately, and she just sent me a request from nowhere like a spam request or a random request; she told me she never seen me in any group nor page, but she was just typing something on the blank space and my profile appeared to her and she liked me so she sent me the request.
We fell in love immediately during the first days of chatting cause we had many in common.
The thing is which we both believe that the way we met is a miracle because we both made a prayer in our owns before to meet on Facebook without knowing each other and we just got the person we asked.
My account was just clean and without friends because was new, created just 3..5 days before she sent me the request, so that's just bizarre.

Well, depends what you want to know;
Here in south of Italy we grow many type of veggies, I think the USA state which can be commonly compared with the climate here is California, so: tomatoes, zucchini, eggplants, pumpkins, cucumbers, onions, lettuces, peppers, red hot chili peppers, (from the end of spring till end of summer) and broccoli, cauliflower, spinaches (during autumn and winter).
We have a little garden besides our house, but the land is very poor and dry so we must often add some "plus" like horse poo for to have good results.
Here some of the harvest:

Tomatoes and eggplants

some zucchini and zucchini flowers (we eat tehm)

etc... I should reduce the size of pictures to upload more, but I don't always take pictures to my garden or to the harvest, so I've not so much to show.