inlovewithacuban

As if this didn't hurt enough... I have learned of a woman back home, a child on the way, and have seen emails from his sister talking about ways to take my money and lie to me about going to Canada, but get his papers here because he is Cuban, etc. He is partying it up in Miami right now, but sends me emails saying he wants to come back to California and work on our relationship.
This man deserves and Oscar for the acting he did. I am as skeptical as they come, and have been completely blindsided by this.
I need this man out of my life. I need this man to not disrespect my country and my government and the sacred bond of marriage. I do not want to be implicated in his horrible behaviors, and I feel horrible I brought this con artist into my country. I want to do the right thing, but I don't know what that is? Sit idle until the 90 days is up and that's it? I am guilt ridden with a larger sense of responsibility than that.... Please help me Visa Journey!

As if this didn't hurt enough... I have learned of a woman back home, a child on the way, and have seen emails from his sister talking about ways to take my money and lie to me about going to Canada, but get his papers here because he is Cuban, etc. He is partying it up in Miami right now, but sends me emails saying he wants to come back to California and work on our relationship.
This man deserves and Oscar for the acting he did. I am as skeptical as they come, and have been completely blindsided by this.
I need this man out of my life. I need this man to not disrespect my country and my government and the sacred bond of marriage. I do not want to be implicated in his horrible behaviors, and I feel horrible I brought this con artist into my country. I want to do the right thing, but I don't know what that is? Sit idle until the 90 days is up and that's it? I am guilt ridden with a larger sense of responsibility than that.... Please help me Visa Journey!

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

I should have said duped instead of fraud, that is a strong word. Yes he took my money and is partying it up in Miami. I wanted it back but I realize it is no good arguing with a con artist. I'm just going to call the embassy as suggested and tell them irreconcilable differences. I hope he never comes near me again.

I'm calling it fraud based on his sister's emails to him, telling him to take my money and say he spent it all so I do not ask for it, and when she says "Trata de hacer papeles y no vengas para aca a seguir en lo mismo, lucha y trabaja q ya vas a ser papa".

As if this didn't hurt enough... I have learned of a woman back home, a child on the way, and have seen emails from his sister talking about ways to take my money and lie to me about going to Canada, but get his papers here because he is Cuban, etc. He is partying it up in Miami right now, but sends me emails saying he wants to come back to California and work on our relationship.
This man deserves and Oscar for the acting he did. I am as skeptical as they come, and have been completely blindsided by this.
I need this man out of my life. I need this man to not disrespect my country and my government and the sacred bond of marriage. I do not want to be implicated in his horrible behaviors, and I feel horrible I brought this con artist into my country. I want to do the right thing, but I don't know what that is? Sit idle until the 90 days is up and that's it? I am guilt ridden with a larger sense of responsibility than that.... Please help me Visa Journey!

I should have said duped instead of fraud, that is a strong word. Yes he took my money and is partying it up in Miami. I wanted it back but I realize it is no good arguing with a con artist. I'm just going to call the embassy as suggested and tell them irreconcilable differences. I hope he never comes near me again.

As if this didn't hurt enough... I have learned of a woman back home, a child on the way, and have seen emails from his sister talking about ways to take my money and lie to me about going to Canada, but get his papers here because he is Cuban, etc. He is partying it up in Miami right now, but sends me emails saying he wants to come back to California and work on our relationship.
This man deserves and Oscar for the acting he did. I am as skeptical as they come, and have been completely blindsided by this.
I need this man out of my life. I need this man to not disrespect my country and my government and the sacred bond of marriage. I do not want to be implicated in his horrible behaviors, and I feel horrible I brought this con artist into my country. I want to do the right thing, but I don't know what that is? Sit idle until the 90 days is up and that's it? I am guilt ridden with a larger sense of responsibility than that.... Please help me Visa Journey!

First off, I want to say thank you again. I have never reached out to an online community before, and you all have NO IDEA the strength you have given me. I was absolutely weakened by manipulation from the man I loved, and I probably would not have had him leave if I had not reached out in this forum. The outpouring of support warms my heart greatly.
Sarah&Michel I have thought the same thing about the CAA. I am not certain how that superimposes over our situation. I think he can apply but still has to wait for a year. For those not familiar, Google "Cuban Adjustment Act" and you'll see that Cubans are afforded special privileges after entering the country.
When he bought his ticket here, he had to buy a round trip. We tried to call the charter company a million times to change the ticket, but they never picked up the phone. I sent him to Miami and he was going to see if he could change the ticket or buy a new one. He claims he needs a few days to think about everything, and if he wants to maintain our relationship. I had told him I didn't understand what he didn't understand about "Counseling or Cuba" being the only two options. I think really what he is doing is waiting until he can get ahold of some money to buy the ticket (money left behind for his family).
Regardless of what he does, I would like to set things straight with immigration. There are people who would kill for this opportunity. I have nothing but the utmost respect for the government that they go out of their way for lovers to be together. I feel horrible knowing there are people who are denied visas every day, and we were so lucky to receive one, only to have it last less than two weeks.
I was head over heels, I did everything for him, spoke to him every single day, and moved mountains to be with this man. I couldn't believe that I finally found "the one" and felt so happy as if my life was starting anew at 40. Mind you, I'm a successful, fun, happy and pretty woman who has never had a problem meeting men (I get hit on daily and remain humble), and was in no way desperate to have a relationship. I just hadn't met any man I wanted to devote my life to until now.
The only information I have found about "canceling" a visa is before the person arrives. Whether or not he stays under the CAA is immaterial to me, because I know how he spends money and he will never be able to survive. I just want to do my due diligence, and afford the respect to my government to let them know of these irreconcilable differences.
Help?

As if this didn't hurt enough... I have learned of a woman back home, a child on the way, and have seen emails from his sister talking about ways to take my money and lie to me about going to Canada, but get his papers here because he is Cuban, etc. He is partying it up in Miami right now, but sends me emails saying he wants to come back to California and work on our relationship.
This man deserves and Oscar for the acting he did. I am as skeptical as they come, and have been completely blindsided by this.
I need this man out of my life. I need this man to not disrespect my country and my government and the sacred bond of marriage. I do not want to be implicated in his horrible behaviors, and I feel horrible I brought this con artist into my country. I want to do the right thing, but I don't know what that is? Sit idle until the 90 days is up and that's it? I am guilt ridden with a larger sense of responsibility than that.... Please help me Visa Journey!

As if this didn't hurt enough... I have learned of a woman back home, a child on the way, and have seen emails from his sister talking about ways to take my money and lie to me about going to Canada, but get his papers here because he is Cuban, etc. He is partying it up in Miami right now, but sends me emails saying he wants to come back to California and work on our relationship.
This man deserves and Oscar for the acting he did. I am as skeptical as they come, and have been completely blindsided by this.
I need this man out of my life. I need this man to not disrespect my country and my government and the sacred bond of marriage. I do not want to be implicated in his horrible behaviors, and I feel horrible I brought this con artist into my country. I want to do the right thing, but I don't know what that is? Sit idle until the 90 days is up and that's it? I am guilt ridden with a larger sense of responsibility than that.... Please help me Visa Journey!

As if this didn't hurt enough... I have learned of a woman back home, a child on the way, and have seen emails from his sister talking about ways to take my money and lie to me about going to Canada, but get his papers here because he is Cuban, etc. He is partying it up in Miami right now, but sends me emails saying he wants to come back to California and work on our relationship.
This man deserves and Oscar for the acting he did. I am as skeptical as they come, and have been completely blindsided by this.
I need this man out of my life. I need this man to not disrespect my country and my government and the sacred bond of marriage. I do not want to be implicated in his horrible behaviors, and I feel horrible I brought this con artist into my country. I want to do the right thing, but I don't know what that is? Sit idle until the 90 days is up and that's it? I am guilt ridden with a larger sense of responsibility than that.... Please help me Visa Journey!

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

First off, I want to say thank you again. I have never reached out to an online community before, and you all have NO IDEA the strength you have given me. I was absolutely weakened by manipulation from the man I loved, and I probably would not have had him leave if I had not reached out in this forum. The outpouring of support warms my heart greatly.
Sarah&Michel I have thought the same thing about the CAA. I am not certain how that superimposes over our situation. I think he can apply but still has to wait for a year. For those not familiar, Google "Cuban Adjustment Act" and you'll see that Cubans are afforded special privileges after entering the country.
When he bought his ticket here, he had to buy a round trip. We tried to call the charter company a million times to change the ticket, but they never picked up the phone. I sent him to Miami and he was going to see if he could change the ticket or buy a new one. He claims he needs a few days to think about everything, and if he wants to maintain our relationship. I had told him I didn't understand what he didn't understand about "Counseling or Cuba" being the only two options. I think really what he is doing is waiting until he can get ahold of some money to buy the ticket (money left behind for his family).
Regardless of what he does, I would like to set things straight with immigration. There are people who would kill for this opportunity. I have nothing but the utmost respect for the government that they go out of their way for lovers to be together. I feel horrible knowing there are people who are denied visas every day, and we were so lucky to receive one, only to have it last less than two weeks.
I was head over heels, I did everything for him, spoke to him every single day, and moved mountains to be with this man. I couldn't believe that I finally found "the one" and felt so happy as if my life was starting anew at 40. Mind you, I'm a successful, fun, happy and pretty woman who has never had a problem meeting men (I get hit on daily and remain humble), and was in no way desperate to have a relationship. I just hadn't met any man I wanted to devote my life to until now.
The only information I have found about "canceling" a visa is before the person arrives. Whether or not he stays under the CAA is immaterial to me, because I know how he spends money and he will never be able to survive. I just want to do my due diligence, and afford the respect to my government to let them know of these irreconcilable differences.
Help?

First off, I want to say thank you again. I have never reached out to an online community before, and you all have NO IDEA the strength you have given me. I was absolutely weakened by manipulation from the man I loved, and I probably would not have had him leave if I had not reached out in this forum. The outpouring of support warms my heart greatly.
Sarah&Michel I have thought the same thing about the CAA. I am not certain how that superimposes over our situation. I think he can apply but still has to wait for a year. For those not familiar, Google "Cuban Adjustment Act" and you'll see that Cubans are afforded special privileges after entering the country.
When he bought his ticket here, he had to buy a round trip. We tried to call the charter company a million times to change the ticket, but they never picked up the phone. I sent him to Miami and he was going to see if he could change the ticket or buy a new one. He claims he needs a few days to think about everything, and if he wants to maintain our relationship. I had told him I didn't understand what he didn't understand about "Counseling or Cuba" being the only two options. I think really what he is doing is waiting until he can get ahold of some money to buy the ticket (money left behind for his family).
Regardless of what he does, I would like to set things straight with immigration. There are people who would kill for this opportunity. I have nothing but the utmost respect for the government that they go out of their way for lovers to be together. I feel horrible knowing there are people who are denied visas every day, and we were so lucky to receive one, only to have it last less than two weeks.
I was head over heels, I did everything for him, spoke to him every single day, and moved mountains to be with this man. I couldn't believe that I finally found "the one" and felt so happy as if my life was starting anew at 40. Mind you, I'm a successful, fun, happy and pretty woman who has never had a problem meeting men (I get hit on daily and remain humble), and was in no way desperate to have a relationship. I just hadn't met any man I wanted to devote my life to until now.
The only information I have found about "canceling" a visa is before the person arrives. Whether or not he stays under the CAA is immaterial to me, because I know how he spends money and he will never be able to survive. I just want to do my due diligence, and afford the respect to my government to let them know of these irreconcilable differences.
Help?

I really can not thank you all enough for the wisdom and encouraging words. This was all incredibly difficult for me. I spent a week telling myself to be patient and kind to this man who left his beloved country and family behind -- full of self doubt as to what to do. As I read through the 7 pages of unanimous vote, it became clear to me how much I was being taken advantage of. I am so happy I reached out. Thank you all.

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

I really can not thank you all enough for the wisdom and encouraging words. This was all incredibly difficult for me. I spent a week telling myself to be patient and kind to this man who left his beloved country and family behind -- full of self doubt as to what to do. As I read through the 7 pages of unanimous vote, it became clear to me how much I was being taken advantage of. I am so happy I reached out. Thank you all.

I cannot express the gratitude I have for the support. Love has been blind...

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

Thank you all. I gave him two options: 1. Stay here and go to couple's therapy to work through the issues; or 2. Go back to Cuba. He said problems are meant to be solved between two people and not with a third present, so he chooses to go back to Cuba.
If a man cannot give me one hour of his time a week, he's not going to give me anything. Ticket purchased, he will be gone in the morning. Good riddance.
Now can someone tell me what I need to do to cancel this jerk's visa TOMORROW?

I really can not thank you all enough for the wisdom and encouraging words. This was all incredibly difficult for me. I spent a week telling myself to be patient and kind to this man who left his beloved country and family behind -- full of self doubt as to what to do. As I read through the 7 pages of unanimous vote, it became clear to me how much I was being taken advantage of. I am so happy I reached out. Thank you all.

I really can not thank you all enough for the wisdom and encouraging words. This was all incredibly difficult for me. I spent a week telling myself to be patient and kind to this man who left his beloved country and family behind -- full of self doubt as to what to do. As I read through the 7 pages of unanimous vote, it became clear to me how much I was being taken advantage of. I am so happy I reached out. Thank you all.