thatangela

There is nothing uncommon about your story. By your own choice you have been an illegal alien for several years, left home because your father was holding you accountable for the money he was spending on your education and now it sounds like you are planning visa fraud. Do not expect much sympathy here on this forum. Grow up, learn from this experience, and make better choices in the future. Good luck.

Celebrities don't need fiancé visas. They have non-immigrant visas, probably under the category "Persons with Extraordinary Ability & Members of the Entertainment Profession (O) & Athletes, Artists & Entertainers (P)".
If they wanted a greencard, they could adjust status based on marrying an American.

So happy to be able to share that my fiancé for approved.
Good luck to all those preparing weddings and for their fiance(e) to arrive.

Tree Fiddy.......

I though this thread was going to be about being in labor.

If I were an employer I would be pretty pissed if I had to waste my time and enegery interviewing with someone who will not be able to start the job sooner than summertime. I would most definitely blacklist the resume.

NO!!!! Wrong advice. Do not follow!!!
He cannot work until he gets authorization after marriage. This is K-1 process.

Sounds like you are wasting your time and wasting the time of whom ever is interviewing you.

Yeah it was fantastic! I just came in and swapped one license for the other! So nice after hearing some of the frustrating things other states make people struggle through.

Approved! The other K-1 applicant at the embassy today submitted her petition in December and got her NOA2 in January. She was shocked to hear our story (about the CSC debacle).
Good luck to those with upcoming interviews!

interview april 9th!! by the time I finally get to the states it'll be a couple of weeks short of a year since taking the first steps of filing the i-129f

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU BOTH!!!!! (L)

My K-1 fiance just had her interview yesterday March 9, 2015, in Manila. Powerful experience.
Final question was "Are you sure that your American fiance is going to marry you?"
"Yes."
"OK, you are approved."
She was very happy and cried with joy all the way home.
So I am here in the US ready to schedule a flight, but they told her they would deliver the Passport and Visa in about a week.
Is it really only a week???

This is fantastic news Angela! Congratulations. Think back to the beginning of December, how stressful this whole thing was, now you're married! I'm still waiting for my interview, I think london can take 4-6 weeks after completing the applicant readiness form, which I did last week, still a step in the right direction though

HUGEST CONGRATS!!!! And, like Bosko, really want to say a heartfelt thank you and USMSBOW for pulling us all in the right direction. Good luck with your partner and puppies and beautiful future!!!

Hi guys,
Just popping in to let you know about the super cool light at the end of the tunnel.
We got married on Saturday.
Now I dive back into paperwork with AOS. Yay!

Why dont you tell me how you really feel? lol.
Look I dont know you, Im not familiar with any of your posts in the forums, but its apparent you have strong feelings here- especially towards me for some reason...
As for the manipulating tactics you say I use when questioning- well what can I say. In the courtroom Id get a gold star. Of course this isnt a courtroom and no one is on trial. I chose to ask some questions as its my right to do when you post your story on an open public forum as some details just did not logically add up for me. He chose to respond with no comment so thats that.

^ what in the heck ?

While this is totally understandable - this :

wow. .. just Wow.
All the question was was for clarification about a statement v.sadguy made that people on the receiving end of VAWA claims are blacklisted/barred with USCIS. Something he said he confirmed with you and another prominent attny. And you are refusing to comment on it. Going so far as to say I should set up an an appt and pay for you to clarify the matter (?!) Um okay...
And by the way Im not questioning your experience as an attorney or as an advocate of DV. So theres no need to keep trotting out your resume as you do whenever you feel someone is challenging you. Trust me everyone knows who you are.
So If I understand this correctly you received a counselling credential of some sort over 20 years ago, when you became a DV advocate. Honestly thats great and I sincerely applaud the work you do.
But you have to acknowledge at the very least that each of us carries with us our own personal feelings into our work and it affects us. A statement like 'my experience show me abuse is not an excuse to leave a child behind' (snip), well thats judgmental. It may be true, but its a personal judgmental feeling and certainly not something they taught you way back in your counseling certification course.
You dont judge people when you are counseling them or decide whom to help or who to ignore. And Ive personally seen you tell potential VAWA applicants to not bother seeking your aide if they havent left their abusers or if they are concerned about what will happen to their abusers because you feel they havent severed ties yet and are at a greater risk for returning to the abusive situation or not following through. But hey, its your personal time so its up to you who you want to help for free and who you want to charge- like me- asking for clarification.
But does every paragraph HAVE to end with v.sadguys wife was a scammer? Its clear she abused the system and fluffed a claim and gained the system. Its the only part that is clear.

rlogan- I appreciate your pov.

I never insisted all use of that term is derogatory. As you pointed out- lots of times it is appropriate- privilege of marriage like you said- personal inside jokes and banter between intimate partners.
I was talking about one specific scenario. Not lightheartedly 'policing each others behavior' like when one person is going off for girls/boys night- a trip to vegas- trying to quit smoking- trying to reduce sugars because they are borderline diabetic etc. But a very specific scenario. Man goes to work, woman is a stay at home wife. Man returns home and questions wife have you been a good girl? Really? In what context is that appropriate? What policing of behavior does a stay at home wife need?
You allude to the fact that in your opinion if adultery is involved then 'policing' is then okay. But from the timelines scattered about the thread- through the forums and messages- after the affair was discovered she no longer spent hours on the phone with the lover. So this statement wouldve been made prior to the adultery being discovered.
But this is just my personal opinion.
If my statement are 'illogical and wrong" then its because there are a lot of things missing here that are chosen to be glazed over or omitted or ignored when directly asked.
And Im certainly not on any kind of witch hunt! I fully acknowledge that the catholic charity organization fluffed up a VAWA case for his ex when she did not have enough for one. There were mentions of human trafficking claims at the beginning. They really used her and over inflated everything- because I dont know- they had the funds and she was willing to say anything?
But like I said the more the thread drags out the more questions come up then answers and things just dont add up. What current legal battle is 'going to be updated after the next go around?' Isnt everything settled?
Why pay a settlement to a woman who came on a K1 whom you didnt marry to return home?
Why has the mothers parental rights have not been terminated if shes truly believed to be unfit/sociopath/etc? It was advised way back at the beginning to do so.
Why such heavy monitoring of the ex if she has no interest in the child?
Why does the ex have no interest in the child? Thats really odd. Mothers instincts are usually very strong and they almost always want their children. However I do know personally one girl who had a very rough relationship with her mother. She was born waaay back in the early 70s when things were different in regards to DV/child abuse/etc. Her mother had 2 other children and married again a man she thought she knew who had 2 children of his own and got pregnant with the girl I knew.
The man was abusive to the kids. But it was the 70s where beating your kids was questionably okay. He would make them stand in the corners for hours with books on their heads and withhold food for 'misbehavior'. But then belt whippings and hot water burns and things that were definitely not okay. He attacked the pregnant mother severely and violently, she barely made it out alive and she left with her kids- had to get a restraining order etc etc. Sadly couldnt take his kids they went to foster homes.
When the child was born she bore an uncanny resemblance to the dad. Very odd as most girls resemble the mother. But she had many strong features of the dad. The mom found it hard to bond with her and passed her off to a lot of babysitters and when she reached the troublesome years of 11-14 many arguments ensued and the mom would say things like I cant stand to look at you- you look just like your dad. I wish I never had you, you remind me of him. etc etc.
So it is possible for a mother to not bond with a child, or harbor negative feelings towards it due to the relationship with the father. Doesnt automatically mean a mother that wants nothing to do with her child is a sociopath or is unloving or is crazy.
And still why no answer about the statement that kicked this all off- Was the attny asked for the legal basis of his statement that a VAWA adjudicated claim against you bars you from petitioning again? If so what was the answer?
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V.sadguy
I respect that this is your thread and you should be able to have it contain the content that you want. So if you do not want to me post unsolicitedly in it further thats fine. However if someone addresses me I will respond or if something is posted that is potentially incorrect like the statement of being blacklisted due to VAWA - I will respond because I feel that misinformation spreads if not corrected.

CONGRATSSS

Dogs and other pets can be like children to a lot of people. When I divorced my ex, I gave up money in order to keep my dog. She actually used the dog as a bargaining chip, but I didn't care, I loved the dog.

Or file is on the way to NVC. Hopefully i can get case number on mon or tuesday.

Eh, I think you posted these questions on the wrong thread.

Damara can continue to post in this thread as long as there are no violations of the VJ Terms of Service, which there have not been so far.

From what I can tell she is 1. manipulating you financially 2. manipulating you emotionally 3. threatening you whether it's "taking your green card" or killing you. The threat of violence and your statement that you don't feel safe are what stick out to me most.
That's an abuser. Let's call it what it is. Sure every abuser has "reasons" and "circumstances" behind their abusive behavior but that doesn't change the fact that it's abusive and an unhealthy situation for both of you.
Please don't accept or resign yourself to this kind of treatment. If you choose not to leave, seek professional help and both go to counseling. Start keeping a journal of dates, times, and events. If you have any text messages, emails, or voicemails of her threatening you, keep them. You may need them for a protective order if her behavior escalates.