Kay&Jay

Thank you very much Kay and Jay. That is the point I was trying to make. How would one feel when the wan you married look straight into your eyes and lied to you about what you know already. I have proof of the cheat and also have her on record of the denial . I told her once that I'm feeling a sweet itch sensation on my urine passage whenever made love if she has seen anybody since started dating and she said she has not even been with any body since the last 6 years. Then she turn it into a fight that I was accusing her of infidelity and she went and bought yeast infection treatment for herself and nothing for me forgetting that I don't have health insurance yet. I am going to go for a check up at a free clinic soon then I will confront her with the issue after i have all my ducks on a row. She is always threatening me with ending the marriage and washing her hands off the process and me being deported when she does that. If I can get my hand on the two years conditional Card that will be enough for me to put things together just invade I need to go back. Probably upgrade my education and save some money too. But in between my prayer is that a child does not come into this mess because it's going to be very messy for us. My step daughter on her own have a mind of her own she haven't spoken to me since she came back from camp on Friday and when I speak to her she doesn't even look at me nor answer back. What she does most is to ignore me in public when I cook and she ask the mom who cooked and she answer that I cooked she won't eat the food. I bought her a piano in a box that a friend of my wife's that buys storage units sold to me and I told her I will pay when I start working I gave it to her on her birthday though the piano was bought in an auction unit but is still brand new cos is a store that was closed I will be paying $70 for it even though the seller wants $100 just to make her happy this was on Tuesday and she went to camp on Wednesday she grudgingly left the piano where it was presented to her and took the rest gift even though my gift was the most expensive one. For a music lover that she is and a ballerina one will thing she will be playing the piano but she has never touch it again. I bought that piano cos the mom told me she has been crying for one and she intend to buy her one by Xmas so I bought this nice looking Yamaha and she totally reject it. She told me once how she hated me since coming coming into their lives cos she does not sleep with her mom again. When I moved I'm she use to sleep in our bed and the bed is not your normal very large bed I'm use to and she has her redesigned prior to my coming she slept I'm the room with is for 3 months and use the bathroom in our room for 4 months even though she has one right at her door. She comes into our room at anything of the day or night without knocking and flip on the light hoping to catch us in an unpromising position I guess I mean 2 am or 4 am or 11 pm anytime. At 13 she does not do dishes or even put what in the fridge if she takes the last one she does not replace them I do all that and when I complain to the mother that is your daughter not big enough to do some house chores she will tell me she is still a kid that I should not coarse the kids here to the ones in Africa that this is America. From this perspective I found out this woman cannot even train a child the way I would want her to. Everything she starts fighting I will tell her there is a kid in the house and she will tell me she
Does not care and it has gotten to the stage when she does that right in front of the teen and she will even use her as a weapon and now the little girl has started acting just like her mom keeping malice. My wife can keep malice for 2 weeks not talking to me over a little thing that is her fault all becos I challenge her on it. She does not want u to challenge her I told her before what you need is not a husband but a wife and sorry I'm not a wife material but a husband. For those saying try and work out your marriage I pray you have double spirit of what I have I'm the house if you will not run with out your possessions. The reason why I am still hanging on is the Lesson of the bible for I know I don't fight against flesh and blood. I know the weapons if our warfare are carnal and it's going to pull down this strong hd for me and find me the happiness I traced to the states. I will let u into a secret my wife refuse to agree that there is a higher power that is bringing unhappiness into the marriage. Sometimes we might be having a good time maybe we went to the restaurant as a family or just the two if us laughing the devil has a way of turning that laughter into a heated argument or a a fight that will make her keep malice for 2 weeks then she will turn around and apologized and we will be good for 3 days and she will do the very same thing she bowed not to do and she she is I'm this state she is totally different from the woman I know. I asked her that while you were with me for 3 weeks back home why didn't this attitude show up if not I would not have continued this journey because I hate drama. I like a private and reserved life. She takes her drama even outside forgetting she is not at home. I asked her after the wedding day that why were people asking me if I can cope? Cos some of her friends and family members where telling me jokingly right in her presence that if I can cope with her or they will say thank you for taking her off market and she will be like or don't mind them that's how they all play but it started to ring a bell now that something just don't seems right.
I waited this long to find happiness. Trying to escape what my dad went through getting married to a woman that ruin his business and the financial freedom he created with my mom before she departed being control by a woman's whip and whine. When I finally found my high school Crush on face book after 17 yrs of leaving my country for the US and after 5 yrs of on and off conversation on the phone I thought I could not go wrong with this but I was so wrong. This 6 months of marriage are my most miserable years on Mother Earth and I will do anything legally to find freedom and happiness. She kick you with her mouth where it hurt most. You can't force sensory to get help it has to come from them. You can force a horse to the river you can't force h to drink. You can take a drug addict to the rehab you can't force to get clean even so God cannot force to get salvation is our options. I have spoken to her to seek God In prayer cos in my case what she has is spiritual cos she agree all the time that she knows her tongue is toxic and that she talks without even knowing she started talking but one day she will learn to talk less. We have no privacy. People I don't even know have heard of at her place of work not good stuff but how if she knew she would not have married is so hard to be the one working alone the daughter is having a hard time fitting in and I'm not working. Seeing me at home not working is depressing to her. I even stop eating in the house several times so she won't be complaining about all that. I can't work cos I have no EAD then. The money I came with we did a wedding which only her family and friends came to cos she decide to invite more people even though we initially plan to invite 7 people. When I start working I will show her who I am. I will save for a vacation to the the carribean and she her what she will miss about me. I will try to leave her with a memory of what I am. I have to get ready for my part time job. I get 10 hrs a week for now. Wish me God's speed VJers.

If a woman is sleeping with another man and she cannot admit its a bad sign ,she can infect him with diseases ,if you can do that and expect your man to work things out then not all the men can take such bull ###### ,you love one person its one person not two ,life is too short to play with people lives like that,anyways no one will come out of it alive.

DON'T GIVE UP!!!!!!!

Congratulations!!!!Im so happy for you guys.

DON'T GIVE UP!!!!!!!

Wish ur approval will come very soon

Approved! Got an email two hours ago with NOA2 notice!!!
Texas center. NOT from Philippines.
Your approvals are coming!! Keep the faith!
On November 3, 2014, we mailed you a notice that we have approved this I129F PETITION FOR FIANCE(E).

You don't have to be Dohan. You are past your adjudicated timeline date already. Look at your timeline. If you call uscis and raise enough beef like I just did I'm sure you will get an expedited number like I just did. The agent called the Texas Center and I was on hold a few minutes. My new expedited number looks like this: T-1E ten numbers then TSC I have a funny feeling the E in the number means expedite and from TSC at the end. You can sit patiently or you can demand serivce like what California people get. I'm not a second class citizen. I've waited patiently for 5 months. I only deserve what other people are getting like in California Service Center.

I've been extremely lucky. I've visited my SO every month this year, and always for a week or more. We've spent a lot of time together, and we agreed when all is said and done and has her visa in hand, she'll stay a month longer for goodbye's and settling things.
I am more stressed with not knowing what awaits from the TSC...not with the being apart from my SO itself.
I know this post may sound boastful, and it's not my intention to offend or cause misery...but really think about it guys, someone out there loves you, and it's better to be joyful on the phone, whatsapp or Facebook or whatever you use, than stress yourself out daily thinking about the TSC.
There was a month I kept talking about nothing but immigration and it caused so much stress between us because it made us feel hopeless. After I gave up thinking about it, and accepted we have to wait, things seem so much better now.
Seriously guys, don't stress your SO with constant I miss you and TSC is evil and so on...when it's over, and your SO is here, you'll find much more stressful things to think about and you'll wish you had more time to prepare.

Honestly I see it as a good sign. Good luck to you mostly it might be minor issues.

Congratulations and welcome to the United States!!!
Just pray everything will be alright ,don't worry too much!!!
Congrats!!!

Congratulations and welcome to the United States!!!
Just pray everything will be alright ,don't worry too much!!!
Congrats!!!

Send what they are looking for.Don't mix up stuff.

Well at least one of them was actually a TSC filer. The one from China is actually a CSC filer that incorrectly filled out their timeline. At least there is some action though, so that is encouraging. You are all getting closer. Start gathering that additional paperwork if you haven't already done so. Trust me on this one. I sat on my rear since it was taking so long and now that the approval came through and it is already on it's way to NVC, I am scrambling... It will help pass the time if you do a little each day.
Good luck all...it's coming sooner than you think.

Kay&Jay. Me too :cry:

She passed the interview !!!!!!!
Her appointment was at 10AM and she got out by 12. The interview was long. We got a list of questions that are normally asked in an interview from a website and we practiced that carefully. Even so, there were some questions that caught her by surprised like "how did I get my citizenship ?", "why did I get a divorce?" etc.
Everything else was pretty much similar to what other users have posted here.

I decided to post here something very important, because I don't want to see any person here facing what one woman from my home Country is facing right now in Texas. She got married in 2004 to an American Citizen and years later she found out he is a sex offender, anyway before she found out about this fact they had a child and he sexually molested his own daughter, despite all proof he was never arrested and the Judge gave him 50% of shared custody and overnight sleep, and once she found out about the sentence to protect her daughter she left Florida to Texas and after two years living in Texas on Jan 16,2014 she was arrested and still in jail until now, because the Court decided she violated a Court order moving out of the State without communicating the Court. Today was her second criminal hearing and we don't have any news yet.She faces civil and criminal charges because of that.
The Bar Association in my Country decided to pay an attorney in the US to defend her. Her daughter has just US Citizenship, and the Brazilian Consulate after 2 intense weeks was able this week to give to the girl Brazilian Citizenship as well,and it will become easier for the authorities in my Country to intervene to guarantee the rights of a Brazilian child . My advises are: 1)NEVER EVER move out of your State with your children without having a Court permission, even if you did not divorce yet, you must always ask the Court permission to move out of the State with your child otherwise you can be charged with Parental kidnapping, and if you have Custody of your child already you can be arrested for ignoring the Court order as well. 2)Apply for you kids to have double Citizenship, if the spouse doesn't want to sign the papers then go to the Court to ask the Judge permission, most Consulates register children without the father signature, but to get passport is obligated to have the father consent. or Judicial order.3) When filing for divorce ask your lawyer to mention in the divorce decree that you are allowed to travel abroad every time you want with the child,having just to communicate the child's father through registered mail where the child will be, for how long and the address abroad.4) File for divorce as soon you can, you can find a pro bono lawyer to represent you without any cost, ask the Court clerk the list of pro bono lawyers in your area, or contact the Bar Association in your State to get the list.5) Most States accept to file for divorce based in extreme cruelty, then if you don't want to disclose your address in the divorce papers then file the divorce based in extreme cruelty, as a victim of DV you are not obligated EVER to disclose your address in the divorce papers 6) if one day you get any restraining order against you PLEASE hire a lawyer , you must contest the restraining order.

Well, I had the interview today and.....
I got the B2 visa (I have to wait 2 weeks for my passport to be sent back to me).
So relieved.
I showed the 2emails from my ex fiance's sister (I didn't have a letter from the doctor concerned). Handed in a letter from my boss confirming my vacation times.
I was asked to explain my previous overstay and the rest of the story. I explained how my exfiance couldn't write a letter of withdrawal in his present condition, and said I wanted to visit him if possible. The embassy already had all the details on their computer system (letters from the hospitals I was in during my overstay, and a letter from the lawyer I hired at that time, unaware that the VWP cannot be extended)from my previous B2 applications 2 years ago, so I just told the truth and didn't twist the facts to make the story simpler.
The CO genuinely got confused a couple of times with my "saga", but I carried on explaining, and result- visa granted.
Just want to say to anyone reading this, and in a tight spot, that as long as you tell the truth, and are patient, there IS a chance of being granted a B2 visa.
Good luck.
Hopefully my exfiance will still recognize me when I visit over Christmas!

Scorecard update:
15 months not a penny of child support paid.
Since last December one visit for 4 hours total contact time.
Not a single phone call or Skype contact to the child since New Year's Eve....2011. I'm not kidding.
Numerous internet postings of employment, travel and nights out on the town living the life of freedom on US soil but not being a mother whatsoever. Zip.
Actions speak louder than words.

Oh good gracious, loverboy is so whipped by my sociopathic ex. He posted on his twitter page generically how children are better off after mediation because the parents are working together. Seriously? I'm going to work with a woman who cannot be trusted and still lies incessantly to this day? A woman who when asked about her cabbie friend the convicted felon said "leave him alone." A woman who is a year behind on child support who never bought a single morsel of food, not a single diaper, not a single cup of milk in the child's life ever...I'm not mediating anything. I will follow the court orders to the letter until I have even a sliver of hope to drag her sorry lying #### back to court. May I remind everyone that this woman had me falsely investigated for human trafficking as a ploy to get her green card? And yet USCIS let's her stay in the USA enjoying the fruits of freedom. Disgusting government BS.
I have a happy and healthy well adjusted child. And I will protect her from any sociopathic behavior until my very last breath.

It looks like they have finished with May and moved on to early June! That's why! Guys, they're working on JUNE FILES!!!! This is AWESOMEEEEE

Rob and Laura
Rebecca and Francky
M and S
Ed and Weihong
David and Alyssa
Victor and Nilda
Ro and Mo
Ub and Ka
Jo and Ho
Michael and Maria
Daisy and Alvaro
are some of the people on Igor's list that filed in June and have been approved and aren't people filing from the phillipines...
I don't know why they go in the order they go in. It could be some people have more evidence or something so they get approved faster.
I just wish everyone to get theirs soon.

Like everyone says RUN and do everything ASAP.
I have seen quite a few cases in this forum like this. Not to rent on you but guys/girls please check before you enter in this.

Sorry! You did the right thing.
You have opened your heart to love her kids but she only used you.
Beware that she may uses VAWA route, claiming domestic abuse/violence.
Protect yourself. Stay away from her and maybe her kids too no matter how much you love them.

Like a blind snail in a wheel chair going up hill