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I hear the points made, but my first thought was what ever happened to being cordial and just stating that you live down the road and are out for a walk? Clearly these police didn't recognize you or know you, and you appeared potentially to be loitering and they are just protecting the neighborhood that they oversee. I'd prefer to have someone given a closer look if they were roaming my neighborhood and potentially looking to break and enter.
I personally believe that they would have been much more cordial and considerate to you in return if you hadn't raised your own red flag by in essence protesting their actions right off the bat.
Any future interactions with them, especially if you ever need their assistance, would certainly be marred by their experience with you on this occasion.

I don't believe you want to wreck your Mothers house just because of your subjective hate towards your step dad..
Dont wreck your Moms married life. Separation will be traumatic for her, don't gift her that.
Your step dad has in clear terms told that he had taken more than he could chew, so don't be shameless and still carry on being a burden for him.
I would suggest you alone should move out on good terms with your step dad and live like hundreds of youngsters living independently in the city, it wont be a big deal.
Later you can see how things pan out and may be your brother(s) can join you if they too have tough time handling your step dad.
Leave your Mom and sisters in that house, let them live like a family till the time it is manageable. Dont pollute their minds, let your mom give this relationship enough time.

Maggots are not routinely part of a garden fyi. LOL
I cannot stand maggots but as they are a by product of flies on rotting food, routinely "flesh" I think a garden is fairly safe.
Also I have a step-parent I do not like, however, as an adult I put on a smile, and do everything possible to be nice because that person makes my parent happy. Your mother will not be happy thinking her children hate her husband. Could be time to pretend enough so she believes it.

I understand. I was raised in the Philippines where 90% of the households dont know what "face the wall" is.
I had the tsinelas (slipper), the belt, the walis ting ting (broom stick), UGH its funny when I think about it now but lol in a Filipino household, the punishment is something that you really wanna try to avoid when your a kid.
I had all kinds of punishment really.
I guess its because that it was my stepfather who did this to me.

A punch in the arm, while not appropriate or really okay, isn't really a big deal IMHO. I was spanked with a belt as a child and slapped across the face a few times by my mother when I back-talked. When I read that an adult male can't handle a punch in the arm by an old man, I'm a little "really?!" But there are alternatives and maybe you should search those out if you cannot deal with this person.

Why are you 23 and living with a step-father? I think you were driving badly, he could see you were going to run over stuff and wreck, and he freaked out. He is 78 (!) after all. That is very old. He hit you on the arm to get you to stop, not to hurt you.
I'll bite my tongue on the rest.

You are 23, you informed your mother. You, mom, and stepdad need to discuss the situation, and have communication, so you can understand each other.
Also, you work, MOVE OUT ON YOUR OWN. You are 23 be an adult.

I'm not suggesting that it's your fault, I'm asking you really, what your intentions are with dealing with an older USA Citizen.
The age gap on your two resembles grandson-grandfather. The fella was raised during a time when corporal punishment was standard, and it's most likely he's not going to change that.
To mention 'you were poor in the PI' as part of an argument or rebuttal smells of very low class, regardless of his economic situation.
I suggest you and your brothers/sisters do something else:
Ask that step-father if you can have a plot of land to grow a large vegetable garden,
then you four prepare it, till it, plant, and tend it.
The man has gone from 0 to 5 people in his house, and he has hit the edge of his coping skills. I'm not suggesting he's right or wrong - but he married your mother for love - and if it's not love that motivating him with everything else going on there, you need to take another look.
Still, action-reaction can be really difficult with that age-gap; most grandfather-aged fellas expect (and usually get) a level of respect from grandchildren. You might want to get to the local campus library and review books on caring for the elderly, soonish.
I would suggest this hitting during an accident is normal for his age group and background - but do not view it as acceptable behavior on yer person.
Although your situation is difficult, I feel it can be mitigated if you and your siblings actually put out a huge garden - he'll see the work effort and recognize it, and you will get other conversations about it, with him.

No offense to all Philippines people but USCIS should be really careful with Philippines ladies that US citizens bring to the US and they fall in a scam. This isnt the first incident I read in here nor the 10th!! Please before falling in the "exotic" " not your typical american" type of girl straight away, make sure she is the RIGHT WOMAN. If you be careful, you will save yourself tons of money and headache. Philippines is a poor country and high fraud so OPEN your eyes. This is a message for everyone and not just the OP. NO OFFENSE to any other people from the Philippines who came here with good intentions but we cannot just NOT talk about this. It became a new fashion and its very disturbing. I think rising awareness should be no offense to anyone.
Some tips :
- Meet your Girlfriend more than 2 times before filing K1. Live with her and tell her you want to settle in her country and see what she says.
- If she asks for a lot of money for her mom, brother and sick friend then open your eyes and see where your money is going (probably to her boyfriend)
- Meet all her family and always be aware of how they act.
- If she is in a hurry to move to the USA then that might be a red flag.
- This is probably wrong but dont give full trust straight away and always make sure you know who she talks with when you are away at work ( she might talk with the other guy she originally came for)
- Scams happen all the time but rarely you find a smart scammer ( meaning that you are just NAIVE not to notice that).
if anyone has other tips then write them down. this is a serious problem and I hope the OP will find a solution for this.

I am not saying this the case here, but people should watch for RED FLAGS, I am sorry but this bs of women in hers 20/25 with man 50/55 for me is a RED RED RED flag, with a few exceptions,man sending money to the woman as soon they start dating,one,two visits and get married, dating 2/5months and proposal etc..the list is huge , people need just to pay attention to these signs.