Meg and Danny

You don't have your facts straight, I did not bring in his friends. He talked to them, I didn't even suggest it. He then told me what they said.
I had a trained professional in order to give US the best chance of success at US. They pointed out that this would be something we would have to overcome. As it is an integral part of any marriage. They called it the glue that holds people together when times are tough.
I was willing to deal with my ability to manage my own expectations, and I did so. But I asked him to please be sensitive to this issue. I don't think anyone in that situation would have not asked for some empathy when you are 3000 km away and having to deal with the changes in your body alone. and going to a scary procedure alone.
You are entitled to your opinion, but I trust in what I know, and what actually transpired.

I think that you should know, I accepted everything. I apologized, I asked for counselling I communicated what I was feeling.
I asked him repetedly if he was sure this is what he wanted.
And his own closest friends told him it was an innapropriate thing to say given the context of the stuation. Which obviously I didn't print all of as it was pretty tough as it is.
For the record, I've never tried to change anything about him. Only asked that he make an effort to meet me half way.
This was also the advise of trained professionals.
More importantly, he never expressed even a shred of this issue prior to this week.
I doubt anyone who knows me, including him, would classify me as a control freak.
According to our therapist and to him, I am a "pleaser". All I asked for was a little consideration for what I was going though, all by myself.
I have never said that he was a bad person. I have never said that he or I was perfect. Please don't read into things that are not there.

I really don't know. But I still love him as abrupt and horrible as what he did was, so I want I hear him out

You don't have your facts straight, I did not bring in his friends. He talked to them, I didn't even suggest it. He then told me what they said.
I had a trained professional in order to give US the best chance of success at US. They pointed out that this would be something we would have to overcome. As it is an integral part of any marriage. They called it the glue that holds people together when times are tough.
I was willing to deal with my ability to manage my own expectations, and I did so. But I asked him to please be sensitive to this issue. I don't think anyone in that situation would have not asked for some empathy when you are 3000 km away and having to deal with the changes in your body alone. and going to a scary procedure alone.
You are entitled to your opinion, but I trust in what I know, and what actually transpired.

I think that you should know, I accepted everything. I apologized, I asked for counselling I communicated what I was feeling.
I asked him repetedly if he was sure this is what he wanted.
And his own closest friends told him it was an innapropriate thing to say given the context of the stuation. Which obviously I didn't print all of as it was pretty tough as it is.
For the record, I've never tried to change anything about him. Only asked that he make an effort to meet me half way.
This was also the advise of trained professionals.
More importantly, he never expressed even a shred of this issue prior to this week.
I doubt anyone who knows me, including him, would classify me as a control freak.
According to our therapist and to him, I am a "pleaser". All I asked for was a little consideration for what I was going though, all by myself.
I have never said that he was a bad person. I have never said that he or I was perfect. Please don't read into things that are not there.

I'm just waiting to see him in person on Tuesday at our last counselling session. I'm leaning towards keeping it, but it is literally an entire life overhaul. Ill be making a lot of sacrifices, so I want to hear what he has to say first.

You don't have your facts straight, I did not bring in his friends. He talked to them, I didn't even suggest it. He then told me what they said.
I had a trained professional in order to give US the best chance of success at US. They pointed out that this would be something we would have to overcome. As it is an integral part of any marriage. They called it the glue that holds people together when times are tough.
I was willing to deal with my ability to manage my own expectations, and I did so. But I asked him to please be sensitive to this issue. I don't think anyone in that situation would have not asked for some empathy when you are 3000 km away and having to deal with the changes in your body alone. and going to a scary procedure alone.
You are entitled to your opinion, but I trust in what I know, and what actually transpired.

I think that you should know, I accepted everything. I apologized, I asked for counselling I communicated what I was feeling.
I asked him repetedly if he was sure this is what he wanted.
And his own closest friends told him it was an innapropriate thing to say given the context of the stuation. Which obviously I didn't print all of as it was pretty tough as it is.
For the record, I've never tried to change anything about him. Only asked that he make an effort to meet me half way.
This was also the advise of trained professionals.
More importantly, he never expressed even a shred of this issue prior to this week.
I doubt anyone who knows me, including him, would classify me as a control freak.
According to our therapist and to him, I am a "pleaser". All I asked for was a little consideration for what I was going though, all by myself.
I have never said that he was a bad person. I have never said that he or I was perfect. Please don't read into things that are not there.

I think that you should know, I accepted everything. I apologized, I asked for counselling I communicated what I was feeling.
I asked him repetedly if he was sure this is what he wanted.
And his own closest friends told him it was an innapropriate thing to say given the context of the stuation. Which obviously I didn't print all of as it was pretty tough as it is.
For the record, I've never tried to change anything about him. Only asked that he make an effort to meet me half way.
This was also the advise of trained professionals.
More importantly, he never expressed even a shred of this issue prior to this week.
I doubt anyone who knows me, including him, would classify me as a control freak.
According to our therapist and to him, I am a "pleaser". All I asked for was a little consideration for what I was going though, all by myself.
I have never said that he was a bad person. I have never said that he or I was perfect. Please don't read into things that are not there.

You don't have your facts straight, I did not bring in his friends. He talked to them, I didn't even suggest it. He then told me what they said.
I had a trained professional in order to give US the best chance of success at US. They pointed out that this would be something we would have to overcome. As it is an integral part of any marriage. They called it the glue that holds people together when times are tough.
I was willing to deal with my ability to manage my own expectations, and I did so. But I asked him to please be sensitive to this issue. I don't think anyone in that situation would have not asked for some empathy when you are 3000 km away and having to deal with the changes in your body alone. and going to a scary procedure alone.
You are entitled to your opinion, but I trust in what I know, and what actually transpired.

Thanks for the support everyone, right now I'm trying to manage the feeling that I will always feel this hopeless and betrayed. I will make the rest of the decision later this week.

Thanks for the support everyone, right now I'm trying to manage the feeling that I will always feel this hopeless and betrayed. I will make the rest of the decision later this week.

You are officially the coolest people on this forum.
Sorry everyone else, but for reals. Coolest ever!
Yay fellow whovians!!! That's epic. On a totally different topic have you seen the immaculate doctor who wedding video?? Its incredible. If only I won the lottery.

Tell me about it! March 12 noa1!
Van timeline thinks well be approved in the next few days. I really really hope so.

Whoops apparently that topic is over! Continue on everyone, just ignore me! Silly iPhone doesn't take me to the last page apparently.

Let's not be so harsh! 1 She's in review for her Nursing License exams. She is taking those on June 2 and 3. Her dream is to pass her exams and passing them also makes her eligible for those states that require the license. Colorado doesn't require them but I'm an airline employee and we will certainly move in the future. So, her passing is priority, period. If we take longer then those who want to be a "laser beam", then so be it. 2 I know the time lines, I know just about everything I need to know. 3 If you had no intention of answering the question, then why did you reply? Read the question. Did I ask for any of the information you wrote?
They will not reproduce the NOA2 from my knowledge. So, if it's lost, certainly all that I would have is the email notification! Right?

I think because so little is actually known about the actual process for each case, it may not actually be "unfair". It may be that certain cases require more work(even if you know it doesnt, they don't know you, and have to follow their own protocols whatever they might be).

I think its a really crappy position to be in, but I think it may just look unfair. Super irritating and hard on people that want to be together(believe me I get it!). All that aside, we only get to see the timeline, not what goes on behind the scenes or why.

I think because so little is actually known about the actual process for each case, it may not actually be "unfair". It may be that certain cases require more work(even if you know it doesnt, they don't know you, and have to follow their own protocols whatever they might be).

I think its a really crappy position to be in, but I think it may just look unfair. Super irritating and hard on people that want to be together(believe me I get it!). All that aside, we only get to see the timeline, not what goes on behind the scenes or why.

I think because so little is actually known about the actual process for each case, it may not actually be "unfair". It may be that certain cases require more work(even if you know it doesnt, they don't know you, and have to follow their own protocols whatever they might be).

I think its a really crappy position to be in, but I think it may just look unfair. Super irritating and hard on people that want to be together(believe me I get it!). All that aside, we only get to see the timeline, not what goes on behind the scenes or why.

I think because so little is actually known about the actual process for each case, it may not actually be "unfair". It may be that certain cases require more work(even if you know it doesnt, they don't know you, and have to follow their own protocols whatever they might be).

I think its a really crappy position to be in, but I think it may just look unfair. Super irritating and hard on people that want to be together(believe me I get it!). All that aside, we only get to see the timeline, not what goes on behind the scenes or why.

Part of the agreement you sign when you receive a visa is that you will leave prior to the date on your I-94. Whether by error or intention, you overstayed the time you were permitted. You are always welcome to apply for another visa to the US but you must remember, anyone applying for a tourist visa is considered to be an intending immigrant and it is up to you to prove otherwise. Having family and property in the US is a big minus in addition to the overstay.
What ties to your country do you have to prove you will return?

I think because so little is actually known about the actual process for each case, it may not actually be "unfair". It may be that certain cases require more work(even if you know it doesnt, they don't know you, and have to follow their own protocols whatever they might be).

I think its a really crappy position to be in, but I think it may just look unfair. Super irritating and hard on people that want to be together(believe me I get it!). All that aside, we only get to see the timeline, not what goes on behind the scenes or why.

it's sad when rules are translated as mind games.
I KNOW FOR A FACT that you can hire a chaperone and meet up with her with her family present, and that meets the USCIS requirements.

That's totally bananas. I mean, asking about tattoos sure, but favorite sexual position? That's just absurd. (Not doubting that its happened, just that it's totally uncalled for, there are plenty of ways to check validity).