Natsukiii

Yes, be a better Wife or file for divorce.
It's clear that your Husband can use the financial help and he doesn't want another kid until that happens.
Being a better wife doesn't mean to be subservient or take abuse of any kind, but it does mean to step up to the partnership plate.
Perhaps this was in the two other posts that the server ate but this post comes across as very self centered. Nothing wrong with that per see as long as you recognize it.
Please don't have any more kids until both of you figure out what you want in life.
Good luck.

Get a job! It will surely boost your self-esteem. Don't just give up your marriage. When my hubby is in temper, I don't try to reason with him, I give him space, I would pray and keep myself busy reading, cleaning or take a walk then when hubby is in loving mood I would embrace him and start talking about what he just did, that I was upset but I understand. Try to put yourself in his shoes is a good tactic, so you would understand what and how it is from his perspective. Financial stress could put so much strain in marriage, maybe he is worried about your future, he is the man and must be a good provider of his family which is the best way of showing love- giving security. Apologize that you haven't been a help financially and tell him about your plans of stepping up by looking a job, involve him in the job hunting process so he knows you are serious about it. Marriage is not easy but it is the only possible lifetime career that a person could possibly have no matter how low our economy tank down. In my observation battered women are those that verbally fights back to non-stop. Open communication is good but refrain from talking if one is not thinking straight and is emotional. In marriage I learned "easy to forgive easy to forget" really works.

I came from the states to the philippines and got a job with a USA company. It was fairly easy, but as stated above most jobs here call Center or IT related. If its outside of those i dont know if he could find anything

You probably would get more signatures if you included CR-1 in your petition.

"Short" is completely relative, and some people might consider 4 years to be "a very short amount of time." Also, lengths of time are not directly comparable between one relationship and another, given the impact of age, geographical distance, honesty, maturity, quality/amount of communication, and many other factors. So, I'm not sure it makes a lot of sense to compare VJers in this way, especially since it's not clear what you hope to accomplish with this thread. (It kinda seems like you're hinting that 4 years is somehow superior to "a very short amount of time"?)

Hahaha your funny girl, it seems that you need to look closely whose the one that needs a chill pill here. You said it yourself "just realize i can post without hitting that quote"
Well, I really don't have time to further explain myself because I don't have to. Cheerio!

just so you know i have a meetup.com account.. i'm a member of 3 socal filipino groups on that website and i posted similar questions as well..
i also prefer to post here and i don't see anything wrong with that.. thank you for your reply though..

Thanks for the clarification Robb & Ann. That makes a lot of sense. I really appreciate it! My wife is completing her CFO Seminar as we speak. It turns out she didn't need her passport Thank God!
Justin

the registration means that if you are done with the interview already and have the visa on hand already and the IDS(for CR1) and done with the guidance and counseling program, then u can now register , then u will get the sticker then u can now fly to USA.

I think since the applicants don't have the "visa" on hand yet(coz they are still waiting to be approved),
they can attend to CFO without the passport.. just present 2 valid IDs other than a passport.
Since there is no "visa" on hand yet, it means that there is no Registration at CFO yet.. and they just need to present the following for : for Attendance to Guidance and Counseling Program
then get the certificate and bring it to DFA
The other requirements is for the "Registration" at cfo if there is an issued visa already..
If you will notice, the registration requirements says

Being that I have OCD, I would want all the names to match on all civil documents.
But according to NSO Philippines website, they state the procedure for correcting the bride's/groom's name on the marriage certificate.
If I were you, I would contact or have someone contact your nearest NSO office to inquire. Much better to have that corrected early in this immigration process.
I hope I helped you some. Good luck!

Congratulations everyone! Now I guess we wait, wait, wait... and then we wait some more Let's hope the good folks at NBC are feeling productive during the upcoming months!

Lesson number 1: There are only 10% of good men (well to do ) in the states or western world , seek their mates from other countries, or one of their own.
Lesson number 2: You will be lucky if you find ones , and if you do, you are very lucky.
Lesson number 3: 90% are the BETA males , 40% of them still living with their parents, 30% have no steady jobs , 20% have no jobs at all
Lesson number 4: 50% have no higher education, 20% have no high school diploma, 20% college dropped out, 10% GED recipients
Lesson number 5: Just because they are from US or other western world, does not mean they are rich and or well to do , they lied out of their azz when they traveled to 3rd world countries.
Lesson number 6: Well to do men do not have more than 3 weeks( or if they lucky, 4 weeks) travel around the world, if they have a full time job.
Lesson number 7: If they need separate affidavit of support to bring you over, they are more likely won't be able to support you while you here.
Final lesson: It's takes two to tango, it's not all his fault , you wanted to come to the US so bad, so overlooked the obvious red flags. He told you these red flags.

There are some people that look overseas for a mate because their behavior is so bad no one here will have them. They go over, behave well for a short period , sweep you off your feet and think that you will be helpless to walk away once you arrive. Your husband needs consuling. You both need consuling. He probably won't go. You can divorce in the US , you can stay. He signed an affidavit of support that says he will support you and your child. It is enforcable even if you aren't living in his house. Unless he goes to consuling and his behavior improves you shouldn't live in his house.

well, the good news out of all of this is that you have a green card already.
divorcing him doesn't change that.
bear that in mind as you are making your plans.

Justin and I got married last March 24, 2013 at Beverly View Events Pavilion

Congrats!
To edit your signature, do the following:
Click on your name on the top right of the page, Click "My Profile" On the left side of the page, click on "Edit My Profile" On the left side of the page, click on "Signature" You can edit your signature on the next page- be sure to click "Save Changes" when finished Good luck on your Visa Journey!

All intending immigrants to the USA (including K1/K2) are required to register and attend the Pre-Departure Orientation Seminar (PDOS) at the Commission on Filipinos Overseas (CFO). There is a reminder included in the visa packet.
CFO will put a sticker on your mom's passport as proof that she is registered at CFO. If your mom is 60 years old and above, she's exempted from attending the seminar but she is required to register in order to get the sticker. If she's below 60 years old, she's required to register and attend the seminar, unless she's incapacitated or mentally challenged.
Source: http://www.cfo.gov.ph/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=1347:for-filipinos-leaving-the-country-with-an-immigrant-visa&catid=139

Husband and I got ours mailed out on the 6th! It arrived in AZ on the 7th and transferred to NBC.

Totally true! With exception. And for those that said Manila doesn't make that determination... your statement is false.
Now for the exception.
There have been a few K-1 applications approved with a co-sponsor over the last year, they are an exception and not the rule. USEM does decide if they will accept a co-sponsor with the K-1 visa, and what has helped with them accepting a co-sponsor many of the applicants included the I-864 along with the I-134C. Both the sponsor (fiancé) and the co-sponsor complete these forms, with all the supporting documentation. Then with all that you still have to cross your fingers as it is not guaranteed.
If denied the only other avenue is getting married in the Phils and going the IR/CR-1 route where USEM has to accept a co-sponsor.

^ Congratulations! We also received the paper NOA1 yesterday. It was sent May 15th but it took some time to get to Finland

Received text that my application is under review and my NOA is in the mail. Should have it any day now. Nice!

If you applied in Feb 2012,then you need to call immediately and speak to a Tier 2 @USCIS.Have you been checking on your status? I'm sure the marjority of Feb 2012 Filets are @Embassy Stage or are completely finished with Visa in hand.We applied in June 2012 and my hubby has interview next month...

Now that they have changed the processing date to 5 months, you should be able to put in a service request.
You must be really annoyed with January filers complaining about the wait time

what i've learned from the CFO people is they tend to ask questions again and again and they really need to be convinced with the answer. Everything that they will ask are based on what they've discussed. We just really need to pay attention.
I am also from zambales and its really tough travelling for hours and getting the pressure in the city plus the pressure inside the CFO building for the fiance and spousal application's questions . It feels like all you wanted to do is to finish everything and hope for a yes from them and leave and be with the man you love.
But that's not always the case. They knew people that are naive and very quiet. Seems like they wanted that person to talk because in case problems come in the future, she will know what to do also.
your fiance will go back there again and will be asked for the same or different kind of questions and papers...confidence and honesty are plus points.
You'll be together soon