Maya&Matt

Spoiler #2 Huge red flag and a bunch of BS. She is not into you, manipulative and just plain nuts.
Sorry for what she is putting you through.

ok.... if you say so...

I guess they can if they want to.
I just cannot fathom how did USCIS come up with such and idea? To start routing new petitions (filed after circa 10/23) to the service centers and approve them right away, while older ones are left rotting. Just.. wow.

I'm wondering why people even attempt to help people who are so utterly rude. I'm thinking troll.

lol..
I think you should sit around and do nothing

Really. By the time you get to the point of needing to prove a bona fide marriage there is a pretty good chance that the child will already have been born, then you can use the birth certificate, until that point you will have to use the same documents as everyone else.
As for suggesting I don't understand, I at least have the ability to use sentences.

You married a brat, and she is nuts. You should apologize to your child for what she went through. Your child should always come first!
As soon your wife is homeless she will try to come back again.Do not answer her emails,phone calls. File for divorce or annulment and move on.Hug your child today like there is no tomorrow.

Dude ppl treat you the way you want them to..hopefully your innocent young daughter gets over
the abuse you brought to her, all in the name of what "love" on your part, that woman is there
to stay move on.You should have never lied for her to USCIS thats the reason they ignore your report.

The only way to cancel is by the petitioner, end of story.
Why are you worried about potential future petitions? That won't sit right with the embassy, it will look to them like you are fishing for a US visa.

Seriously? I've been told one lie after another by the USCIS. The people there couldn't find their own ### with both hands. I've been given entirely conflicting information from one day to the next. I wouldn't trust anything that seems like it's too good to be true, especially from the USCIS as they're entirely full of ####### about 90% of the time.

This is strange. What visa would you be entering the US on after your I-130 is approved? A visitors visa? It sounds like immigration fraud if you enter the US with the intent to stay with a non-immigrant visa. I wonder if other people have some insight with this. I would have gone this route if possible! But like you said, everyone would do that if this was the way to do it.
I think a lot of us in this process were naive when we got married. I just thought "hey we will get married and then he will move back with me to the US!" Boy were we in for a wake up call when I first joined this website!
Good luck!

Hmm one thing that makes me wonder - i have seen posts like this before, when ppl dont want to get married any more and they are super sad. Your only concern is to stay, not the fact that your girl does not want you anymore? If this was me, i would be more about fixing it with the person, less about staying. Maybe that's what she feels and doesn't want to add more time to this. So start with trying it instead of looking for ways to stay.
And please don't overstay if you don't solve it. You'll only destroy if for everyone, including yourself, who tried to do this legal

Sorry to hear your story... It's very sad and painful... before you make a decision, ask yourself if you want to be treated like that for the rest of your life with him? If he acts like that now, I'm sorry to say that, but he doesn't respect and care for you... and those are essential things for marriage

You've missed the line about sex ad on craigslist, haven't you?

A lot of factors matter, the main one being how you found out, and how "active" he was in that scene right before you came and after you were here.
Personally for me the idea of my husband (fiance/boyfriend) talking to other women in a sexual manner makes my blood boil. The utter lack of respect for me and my feelings, let alone the life we have built (or were going to build) together.
I could never trust that he was truthful in his love for me after finding that out. Someone who loves you does their best not to hurt you. I believe that once someone has shown they can cheat on you, they will again. Maybe not for months or years but they will. If not physically then emotionally.
Some people live in dysfunctional relationship in relative happiness, or at least they tell themselves they are. Tell themselves their cheater is a changed person but really they don't know that person any more now than they did while they were cheating. Their cheater just became better at hiding and realised they were, ultimately, a doormat with little respect for themselves and that they could be manipulated using their love.
So no. I would not stay. Life in the US isn't perfect and I would go home in a heartbeat if the same ever occurred to me. The disclaimer being if we had children by then.

I wouldn't be able to trust him again. I would go home.

I'm sorry but why should she be the one doing all the effort? Why should she bend herself to be 'what he likes in women' if he supposedly loved her in the first place? Why should she promise him things will change since she will start working too? Which things? She never did anything wrong. He should become this 'better person'. And she can choose to accept this effort (and try to rebuild the relationship) or not. Waiting for her to come over is not an excuse to cheat.

Really?
Care to explain how the Filipina nurses at the local hospital near me got their work visas?
I say - you don't know what you are talking about. You present your opinion as fact.
Don't post your opinion as fact.
Man up?????
You need to grow up.

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There is no reason to judge him just because he is not ready to marry after 10 months. My husband and I didn't get married until after we were in a relationship for 5 years. We still loved each other all the time, and missed each other a lot when we were separated by distance. But still I did not feel ready for marriage until after a few years. We would visit each other 2 to 3 times a year. And when we were apart, we would talk pretty much every day. Just because someone is not ready for marriage after a certain amount of time even though others have, doesn't mean he loves her any less, and it doesn't mean he never wants to marry her... But sometimes you need more time, marriage is a big decision in life, and you need to make sure it's feels like it's the right time.

Because you are a "woman of god", do you think that only "god's" code of morals is the only right one? Trust me, there are a lot of people that don't "need god" in their lives in order to make sound decisions.
You should get off your preachy, high horse.
Oh, and watching porn is not cheating, having intercourse with another person, and getting pregnant, that's cheating.

My two cents: If my SO so much as kissed another person romantically, I would be gone so fast I'd accidentally knock the planet out of orbit a little.

Wow...you were finally reunited here and pretty much as soon as you get here she cheats.
Has she been cheating the whole time while you were separated too ?
Search out if she wants you for the stability you can now offer for her and the baby or does she really love you.
Are you an ATM to her ? A place to live ?
Cheating so soon in a marriage seems to point to her having issues with the relationship from day one.
Whether she is a serial cheater or a one time cheater, you lost trust and trust must be earned back if you chose to stay.
I would put some distance between you both and live in separate places for several months to get clarity and observe her actions.
This will tell you her motivation. Two weeks away is not enough.
It is hard getting this clarity living under one roof. Who knows if you do that she may have someone else in a few weeks or she
will wait for you. Make her put some effort into earning your trust back, don't make it so easy on her if you will take her back.
If she is truly remorseful and truly loves you or if she is just putting on an act now to use you is impossible
for anyone but you to determine.
I feel sorry for the baby.
Also know that she will be in touch with the baby's father if he decides to take an active role in raising it later.
It will be baby daddy drama. Can you handle that and will you trust her enough to not wonder what she is
up to every time they talk about their child ?
This just happened so it is very difficult to decide everything now so my advice is to separate until you gain
clarity in time.
What gets me is this huge betrayal of making you believe it was your child for some time.
That shows a very dishonest weak character. I can't stand it when women lie like that.
No transparency, just pretense.
And yes...get a DNA test as advised so you know for sure.
I also advice counseling for YOURSELF to help you with the betrayal and decisions.

What you are suggesting is fraud

Status changed back to Card Production yesterday.. I guess my GC is on its way!