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LMAO, maybe he is and maybe he isn't but I will have to ask him seeing as we do talk every time and again. If I may ask...... What is it you are trying to help "ME" with?? I have not asked for anything, I was commenting on an ignorant remark from someone who has nothing better to do than try and "ACCUSE" someone of saving his a!! to stay here, when the OP was only looking for help, not some ignorant remark from a insensitive know it all.

Well as a matter of fact I was...DUHHHHHHH. You may not be divorced now, (poor husband of yours now), but you sure as hell were before. I can not see who the He!! would want to marry you and put up with you BS. Thank God, your ex does not have to deal with you anymore. Bet he is jumping up and down for joy!!

Why in Hell would he want to save his marriage if he was being abused, what an idiotic remark. And you would be saving your azz to if you were in his situation. If you would of takin the time to read his first post instead of gloating over the victory of having your husband deported, then you would of known the situation. I wonder...... did you have your husband deported because he truly did something wrong or was it because you guys were not getting along. I am going to assume it is #2, NO doubt it was your attitude and way of thinking that caused it. WJR

I don't see a problem with trying to get out of the abusive relationship. If the abuse is present, it doesn't make any sense to try to "save" the marriage - saving your own azz is the best thing to do in the OP's situation.
To the OP - I don't know if all this can have any impact on your citizenship application, it will be a good idea to talk to a good immigration attorney. But abusive USC's who threaten their spouses with deportation just because the marriage didn't work (moreover, the USC is at fault here!!) pi$$ me off. Totally.

"Allow"? You "allow" your wife to do something?
Oh lordy.

i don't know why you're always trying to tell me what to post but, but to clarify - the op did not at all express regret. he only said that he learned such choice of words was from his ex wife. you're not doing this man any favors acting as if having an ownership attitude towards women is 'tactful'.

reading this little bit, i sincerely hope you are trolling. you married a woman who is materialistic and from reading your story, while you might not be after money, you certainly do appear to have the attitude that a wife is a possession- anyway..these types of people come from all sorts of nationalities/ages/appearances so either one of you being from the phillipines has nothing to do with it.. i guarantee you that as long as you have this 'get another one' attitude, you will never find love. but then again - it doesn't look like that is actually what you're looking for. good luck..

I totally agree Interesting wording maybe if women are only objects to you that is why she left you......

Missing the point, Gowon... Are you reading what I wrote, or is your understanding of sex something that men just do to women? If so, I feel sorry for your wife/fiancee...

-- Dan
You have just proposed that this person commit Immigration Fraud with that statement.
"go about it as if you were still together, so she can get her card... no one is likely to find out - how could they"
That is FRAUD. Plain and simple.
That is NOT a selfless act. That is IMMIGRATION FRAUD, pure and simple, and you've just suggested that they commit this crime.
-- Dan

First of all, it is not FRAUD - it's not even fraud. When they got married, they didn't commit fraud (which is the intent to evade the immigration laws). Therefore, that couldn't turn into fraud today. If you actually care to look at an I-751, the only way to file separately (in this type of instance) is if the marriage ended by divorce or annulment, so separation doesn't count. Therefore, again, no fraud. Third, as I stated (without YELLING) fraud requires the intent to evade the immigration laws (I'm an attorney). Just filing an I-751 while separated providing the evidence that there was avalid relationship at the time of immigration and thereafter as required (nothing in the form states that there must not be a separation pending) is not fraud. Finally, you never know, this couple might work out their problems, so what, then they have to go through the whole immigration thing again with the black mark of abandoning the process on it?
It's obvious that you're angry and bitter, and that's ok (the country is full of Republicans). However, you don't know what you're talking about (on the fraud issue) so you really shouldn't be commenting on this issue, or accusing people of committing crimes or that I suggested another commit a crime where you so obviously don't undertsand the legalities...capische?
J

People's sexuality is a complicated thing. The fact that the two of them have a daughter together suggests that their marriage was genuine, not deliberate fraud. Things happen and marriages often don't work out. People struggle with their sexuality for years before they figure out what they really want. I'm sorry it didn't work out for them, but there's no point in trying to punish him for not being what she wanted him to be.

It does work the other way as well, you know.

Your husband is lying. Don't allow that lie to potentially affect your future.
It's highly unlikely that your husband can get an annulment. Talk to an attorney. Fight the annulment. You will win.
Instead, get a divorce. You can remove the conditions on your conditional Green Card without your husband.
Start gathering any papers which show you entered the marriage in good faith. Protect all of your documents.

Hi beth, thanks for posting, glad to read about your story. I hope others especially ladies from Philippines, who are experiencing similar situation would have the courage to fight for their rights. As long you are telling the truth and doing the right thing and not FRAUD, please don't hesitate to ask for help by calling the number posted by Ms. Beth. The US government I think is very fair in treating cases like this. Don't allow yourself to settle for less. Hold on your prayers and God will give you light!

The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.7233
City of Chicago Domestic Violence Helpline: 1.877.863.6338
Womenspace National Network to End Violence Against immigrant Women
Phone: 609-394-0136
24 Hour Mercer County Hotline: 609-394-9000
Fax:609-396-1093
Email: info@womenspace.org
RAINN created and operates the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1.800.656.HOPE and the National Sexual Assault Online Hotline at rainn.org . This nationwide partnership of more than 1,100 local rape crisis centers provides victims of sexual assault with free, confidential services, 24 hours per day, 7 days per week. These hotlines have helped over 1.3 million people since RAINN's founding in 1994.

Hi! I hope your friend is alright and safe. I was a victim of Domestic Violence too 2009. I left my husband 1 month before my 2 year green card expire. We have 11 month old daughter that time. I have to leave my ex-husband because he has other woman too and the verbal and humilating was too much already and thinking I might do something that I might regret... Before I left the Philippines I remember we went for a day of Seminar for Domestic Abuse and I called the 1800 number the office from Manila gave me. To make story short I end up in a Domestic Violence Shelter (Florida). I suggest if she can call a Domestic Abuse hotline number this will give her all the information (all her Basic Rights as immigrant). By the way, I got my 10 year green card while in the shelter and Visa Fee Waived (I think its almost 750 dollars). Got food stamp and medicaid for my daughter. Happy Ending...now I'm happily married and my daughter is 4 years old we have our own house, car and I end up working as a Domestic Violence and Rape Victims Advocate in Florida. Just tell her don't be afraid theres help (Church people are great help too, go online and google Domestic Abuse hotline).

Speak to a Lawyer having the annulment saying you only came here for immigration benefits is wrong, and you do not want that following you around for the rest of your life. If you sign the annulment as it is worded right now you will also be saying that it is true. He then can in turn send that to USCIS, possibly getting you for misrepresentation.
Do not sign anything without seeing an attorney.

I don't really think comments about the marriage or 'there is life beyond the US' are the point. Surely if she is from outside the US, she knows this full well. It is her right to stay here if she chooses to. It's not her fault she married an abusive louse.
If her green card is in process, I would have her immediately make an Infopass appointment at her local USCIS office and let them know she has left the marital home and why she has left. If the green card were to get approved, it would be mailed to her husband (assuming she used their joint address as the one on the green card application) and she may have a heck of a time getting that from him. She will not be removed or denied her green card because her marriage broke down. She just needs to act in a way to protect both herself and make sure she has her green card in her possession to prove her status here. She'll likely need it as she moves to create a life without him.