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Look, everyone has pointed out some things that may or may not be issues. Only you can sort that out for yourself. Go into things with your eyes wide open. Be a little suspicious. Ask the questions openly to yourself that others have given you here, and consider the answers. Understand problematic behaviors and subtle clues that may not stand out at first.
Now assuming everything is good on your end, and since you are already married-- lets look to the next step.
I130-- I'm not saying its good for everyone, but I got by on 2 affidavits from a family member, friend, and some pictures from our Nikah and with my family-- less than 10. (I never realized just how lucky we are to have that 5 year B2/visitor approved)I married my husband the 2nd day he was in town on our first visit.
When my NOA2 arrived 3 months later, I was like... ZOMG!! I expected it to take a little longer. I have taken my time through the NVC stage. He has 2 visits here and I have been there once in the last year. I still don't have hard marriage evidences like bank accounts and land, or insurance, but I have now plenty of evidence of an ongoing relationship between him, and me, and our families. My focus is on the interview.
My advice-- take your time.

Got it. Thank you.

No, they're not.

Mine is quite different, but no I don't work. I am full time in nursing school, but I am much older. I have my parents to sponsor, and if worse came to worse I graduate at the end of summer. (isA) I do share the same religion. But this isn't about me.
I am not giving my support nor telling the OP to run for the hills. She's married him. She loves this guy. I'm merely suggesting to take time. I did for a few reasons, and my case is a bit more solid, though not without obstacles. Go visit. Build up evidence.
Learn! How do you resolve disputes with him? Who pays what bills? Do you work or do you stay home? Are you allowed to go keeping going to school? Who's going to support the both of you there when(if) he can't find a job? How many kids will you guys have? Are you okay with your children being raised Muslim? Will he expect your girl children to cover Islamically? Is there any chance he might want you to wear a veil whether Muslim or not? Are you allowed to go out alone during the day or night? With his permission or on your own? Are you allowed to have guy friends (if you have them)? If you are thinking of converting to Islam-- how will you view your husband after you revert? A few women I have met online have converted and then wanted to be practicing the religion and find their husband really doesn't practice. Are you okay if he should have more than one wife? This is a part of the religion. Always keep in mind, whatever he says, this is still a possibility for him to have more than one.
I could go on-- these are just a few of those thoughts I'd be considering if you haven't. Hope it helps in some way with your journey. I want the best for you guys whatever that is.

Everyone here answers the way they do because they all a "remember so and so???" story. I doubt there is a person that comes here thinking there is something wrong with their relationship. It would be absurd.
My advice and thoughts comes not from this forum, just because I have a group of friends who are intercultural marriages, and a number of them re/con-verts. If you already covered all the bases that I mentioned then you are off to a great start. These are all things that I know have been concerns and sometimes problems for them.
You really don't want to run off from this forum. It is a really invaluable resource. Take the good. Leave the bad, and assume most of us have the best of intentions.

Wise self-advice I also think you should really really really try to make a trip there in the summer happen. I'm sure you want to anyway, but I think it would help your case as well. Plus it will give you lots of memories to store up for those long months apart. And finally, regarding your "red flags"...you are the only one who knows what is between you and your husband...trust your instincts, and listen to them too. I think your instincts about putting in the work before relying on God, do you credit. And to that I would add, love doesn't conquer all when it comes to this visa ordeal...being very very well prepared is what conquers all at the consulates Cheers!

*Prayers* Alf Mabrook/Congrats! and I need to start baking an Egyptian American baby.

Welcome to another consulate sister! IsA it goes quickly for us. I should have case complete next week isA

Hey guys I am new to this topic I got NOA2 on 2/15 I am waiting for NVC to get my papers I want to rush the NVC process since I am pregnant and I am due on June 5th!! I am really wishing my hubby will attend his daughter's birth I have everything signed and ready! btw, do any of you know how do you expedite your case at NVC or even get an early interview date at the embassy? I am gathering evidence for the request now... Any advice would help Thanks guys!

I have agonized tonight about whether to even post this but I honestly want people to be encouraged. I know how ridiculous that sounds to those people who are out here helping others every day and yet still wait for their approvals. My heart bleeds for each and every one of you and I pray for all of you to be blessed with approvals quickly. I have been using visajourney a long time (this will be my second GC)and knowledge, experience and encouragement is the most and the best we have to offer each other.
My wife and I (she is USC) have been married ten years. I had the GC before but we moved back to Canada where we live now. Yes we filed from Canada. We got our NOA1 on January 14 and were sent to NBC. Got the e-mail late this afternoon and it is on the website also. We have been approved after - compared to what so many of you have been through - an insanely short time (32 days). I will say right now that if I were in your shoes and had been waiting 5...6...7.. or more months I would be furious. But I still wanted to let you know. You are the only people we have to share this with - and as it turns out my wife is today in the US visiting family so we weren't together when we got the word. Praise God for our blessing and I pray to God for yours.

Hi, I dont know what you decided to do... but is important for you to realize something.... lets say that he can adjust his status with someone else... lets say he can stay and even be a citizen.... why you care??? he doesnt love you, you doesnt love yourself....
let me tell you this... years ago i had a sick relationship that had me like you are now... i didnt love myself... i let myself down because of my absurd decisions... and i hear one perfect advise... if he can be whoever he wants or been with whoever... why i care about it if he never cared about me... and the real thing is... respect yourself and dont act as bad as him or worse... you dont need to feel guilty, you dont need to do anything else for him, but you need to do a lot for you... is difficult and it could sound imposible but your only choice is to leave him and have not contact with him... at all... he could be all this time with another person... so, why you care if he goes with someone else now???
it took years and more tears to get rid of my blindness and leave my monsters in what it seems another life but i can assure you that now with my love, my husband... i can really say that the past was never love, was never that important... when you find real love you will know this was just a nightmare

Even though my fiance lived in the US for study, I have to say I worry about this too. He has said before he wishes Yemen were safe for foreigners so I could live there instead . But I digress...
I think your husband is definitely being too hard on himself and working overnight shifts probably makes it worse. I used to work overnights and I can tell you firsthand how much of a toll it takes not just on your body's internal clock, but on your mental health and physical well-being. Immigrating to a new country, especially one where your degree(s), credentials, and work experiences don't count for much is very disappointing as well. But so many people have been where he is at right now and through hard work and perseverance they improved their career prospects and became more comfortable in their new surroundings. For the time being I can imagine he's probably stuck in his job but maybe after a year's experience in his current position he can move to more reasonable work hours or apply for a new job. He can take classes at the nearest community college for starters, their tuition is usually quite reasonable. It may help for him to set goals for himself, to reach benchmarks even if they are small, so he feels like he is slowly but surely building up a life here. A great first goal would be to get his drivers license (if he hasn't gotten it already) because being able to get one's self around in a new environment is a great freedom.
In terms of the less glamorous aspects of American culture - I do tend to agree with him. We are as a society entirely too entitled and superficial. And our cost of living is high, although recent political instability in the Maghrib (region - not Morocco specifically) has made life there hard in many aspects as well. In fact, life in every corner of the world brings challenges, it's just the ones we are used to are easier to cope with. His feelings of discouragement are normal and understandable, but as he makes more and more small accomplishments I think he will see there is light at the end of the tunnel. I doubt he needs reminding, but you two have worked so unbelievably hard just to get where you are at now. That was an incredible accomplishment in and of itself and an inspiration to all of us who are still striving just to be together.
Bottom line: The journey isn't over just because he's gotten to America. Life itself is the real journey. The path he has chosen isn't an easy one but it is not insurmountable. It is easy to get caught up in all the things you feel like your life lacks, but what's most important to focus on is meeting your real needs and also being grateful what you do have.

Well said. I would go further and change all passwords on my accounts, computer, email addresses and put a lock on the mailbox. You never know what someone is capable of doing especially if they are as snaky as this guy

he walked out on you at the very beginning of the process, you had no idea where he was, what he was doing or if he was coming back. He obviously treats you like dirt and is guilting you into staying married until he gets his green card. And you feel guilty......seriously?????????? If you post something like this here and expect people to be sympathetic, I can't imagine many will. He obviously only married you to for a green card, he used you. WHY WHY WHY are you EVEN considering helping this man when he said he would just find another woman to marry to get a green card? Not to mention that you will be committing fraud because you know the second he gets his green card he is history. Have some self esteem, divorce him and let him figure it out by himself.

Kick him to the curb!

Can't you get married at the justice of the peace? It's non religious and legal. Why would you want to complicate matters by having to travel to the nearest Egyptian embassy? You can register the marriage with Egypt at a later date.

You can choose all day long who you want to be romantically involved with. The consulate/embassy gets to decide whether you can join your romantic choice on US soil. Seems likely they will be suspicious that all your choices have been American women filing petitions to get you to the United States. That will be your problem.

Awesome! I love those songs you all shared. It's so neat to get to see these insights from other countries.
Today is the anniversary of the start of the revolution in Egypt. Otherwise known as "The Day of Rage" protest. An Egyptian band I like, Wust el Bald, shared this music video on their facebook fan page today in remembrance.

Don't feel bad I had NOA2 6/29 approved in 3 months. Been at NVC 7 months. At least we are moving forward. And now sooner rather than later we will be done. YAY.
The most important thing is you have each package with the bar-coded cover page. Otherwise you will delay yourself abit.

If my lawyer was giving me advice based on a google search, I would wonder WTH I was paying him/her for.

My girlfriend married a Moroccan man from the US-- great great guy, surpasses most men I've met in my life. I like life a bit more on the wild side so I had to go Egyptian.

Everyone's experience is individual, but this is mine: in the first 6 months of separation I really wanted some intimacy. After 6 months I had done some counseling and was really feeling confident again in myself, and I was content with life. I had no desire then to get into a serious relationship, or to be dating. I knew I was ready when I didn't NEED that anymore. I began to cherish my independence and rekindle real life relationships/friendships that had been damaged or neglected since my unhealthy marriage began.
Then one day I actually wanted it. So I started looking with a fresh outlook. I knew that I didn't need anyone and I could walk way and say no confidently if anything didn't sit right with me. So on so forth... and here I am.
As for the right guy waiting until your ready-- my husband was my acquaintance for years. About 9 months after my legal separation from my X, he asked if I thought there might be some day be more between us--he had some idea that we would be good together having the same interests and religion. I told him to go away and leave me alone!! I couldn't deal with anything or even entertain the thought at the time. And he did... we didn't speak once in 9 months.

This is a good question isn't it? The post doesn't sound like it was written by a native English speaker. Even for txt spk, or short hand writing, the sentence structure is a bit different.

True enough... it is a possibility. It just seemed to me more like the beneficiary was writing as the petitioner or on behalf of the petitioner. The profile itself is listed as a Male age 28.

This is a good question isn't it? The post doesn't sound like it was written by a native English speaker. Even for txt spk, or short hand writing, the sentence structure is a bit different.