John and Ann

We see this a lot, and as a matter of fact my wife's sister is running a Sari-Sari store with support from a foreign boyfriend right now. It isn't our business to interfere but this is the most likely outcome: letting people take things on credit and letting family or friends just take things without paying. At a minumum though what happens frequently is the family spends the sales revenue instead of buying new stock so the foreigner continually buys the stock and the family keeps the sales proceeds. In that case it isn't a business, just a money-laundering exercise. The business is operating at a net loss because of pilfering and bad credit, in which case it is less expensive to just send them money so you aren't subsidizing the whole neighborhood.
I'm not saying you are in this situation, but it is a good thing to be discussing on this subforum.

This is divorce court- nothing to do with immigration or the I-864 or USCIS. Her lawyer is using that as a sort of "pain and suffering" story to get more money. You need a lawyer to fight ridiculous claims. You did the right thing. She should not be here and spousal payment for a short term marriage is silly.

when in doubt, read the instructions!

The instructions mention photocopies.
What are you reading?

Sure. I was married to my high school sweet heart for 8 years....she was unfaithful...We owned 2 homes, 2 vehicles and had 2 children together....10 months later, she wanted to get remarried.....My sister married her husband after 3 weeks, and after 27 years of marriage and 7 children and several grandchildren later...they are still happily married, and both are very devote Catholics. Either you keep your vows or you don't.

These types are also called narcissistic personalities. The only effective way to deal with one is to have absolutely no contact with them. Practically impossible when you have a child(ren) with one. My childs mother is one (my Filipina ex). There is no explaining them and they will never change. I feel you. Not saying the OPS wife is one of these. Just commenting on your comment that what you have described about your ex sounds like a narcissistic personality disorder type, and they don't have to be VISA scam artists to be one. They come in all shapes, sizes, colors, races, classes and nationalities - and genders, single, married, divorced, etc.,!
In my opinion and by experience, if they are mothers then they are by far the worst, though I know fathers can be that way to.
Sorry, a little bit off topic there but felt the need.

Sure. I was married to my high school sweet heart for 8 years....she was unfaithful...We owned 2 homes, 2 vehicles and had 2 children together....10 months later, she wanted to get remarried.....My sister married her husband after 3 weeks, and after 27 years of marriage and 7 children and several grandchildren later...they are still happily married, and both are very devote Catholics. Either you keep your vows or you don't.

I am so sorry for you situation....I've been there...I do know. And the best thing to do is get it over with. Even having to give up on someone you love, means you'll be better off in a very short run...Its pretty clear as soon as she is legally able to bring her Boyfriend here herself, she will.
I've been DIV 4 times; 2 of them wanted to get remarried? Two for being unfaithful, two went to rehad twice each!!
And when/if someones says "oh you should have known."....blah blah blah...just like this woman, in any culture and country, Women will lie lie lie....That is all she did to you from the very beginning. So don't feel alone, and your not the only one this has ever happen to. Of most of the friends and relatives I've known in my lifetime, its usually been the woman cheating....they can do it with a straight face, lie to your face, walk away and do it again and again.
Like in "THE MASK" movie.....she is always looking for the BBD...thats the bigger better deal.....when they someday realize they had it once and let it go....don't take them back either; if they aren't mature enough to be faithful and a good wife...You'll find one when you get rid of this one....!! Dont worry...It will pass.

Sure. I was married to my high school sweet heart for 8 years....she was unfaithful...We owned 2 homes, 2 vehicles and had 2 children together....10 months later, she wanted to get remarried.....My sister married her husband after 3 weeks, and after 27 years of marriage and 7 children and several grandchildren later...they are still happily married, and both are very devote Catholics. Either you keep your vows or you don't.

Congratulations!! :-)

Congratulations, Welcome to the United States.

Congrats, quick hide the beer cans and paint the bedroom pink!

Congratulations!! Good job and thanks for writing a good description of the process at the Embassy!

I'll have to ask my Filipina unit what I think about this topic. Sorry, just yanking your chain with that term. Although she doesn't mind being called my Filipina in the least. Our gap is not far off the 20 year gap. But we're a great match. Took me a while to get her to understand that we are total equals and partners. Still she prefers I make certain decisions, and I've given up trying to change her mind about it. She's happy enough that she can ask for something and I say yes. To me its her making the decision, she just wants confirmation it fits in our budget. Can she be childish? Yes, she certainly can at times, but I'm sure theres been times I've been a bit childish to. My wife is a very traditional Pinay. She wants the man leading, the man protecting her and taking care of her. In return she takes care of me. But she's also learned I expect an equal partner. If there's house work to do, who ever has the least to do at the time steps in to do it. While she cooks most of our meals, when she's tired or busy I jump in and get it done. In other words she prefers we each do the tradition roles, but likes that we need not be locked into them 24/7. That we work together on whatever needs doing to maximize the time we can just enjoy our time together. That said, I do believe she would also be happy with 100% traditional roles. She could easily fill the bill and match the stereotypical Filipina. But that wouldn't mean I'd disrespect her for an instant. She's an incredibly gifted, intelligent and strong woman, no matter what role she fills. She can do things that totally amazes me, then act like the simplest thing is beyond her, because she wants me to do if for her. It just makes her feel good and loved when I do some things for her. Its what she grew up expecting, and now that she is a married woman, she just wants some things the way they were between her parents. Its just how she sees the world should be.
I understand your point about disrespecting their wives, I've seen it here and its just plain wrong, but I'm a little worried you might be telling couples how their relationship should be to. What roles each should play, and the woman should never take the submissive role. My wife loves taking the submissive role, but that does not mean there is anything submissive about her. Its just her comfort zone to operate out of as a base. I accept that as who she is, and she accepts me as who I am. Which is a guy who expects his wife to be his partner and equal.

Yep, married is married, and safe....don't mess with immigration process.
Ones I've read that take a long time or an attorney, are ones that people messed up
or tried to take a shortcut...