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  • Birthday 06/07/1943
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  1. You've gotten a number of good suggestions but I haven't seen anyone mention church. Churches in California are open and restrictions are falling by the wayside. We belong to a 1500 member church and our church emphasizes inclusiveness and the creation of small groups. Even though the church is large we found it easy to develop friendships. Many churches have fellowship groups, support groups, women's groups, mother's groups, couples groups, etc. Just a quick look at Sacramento churches disclosed Westminster Presbyterian, which seemed to have many of the features mentioned above. Spend a few Sundays going "church visiting". Research each church on their website. As of May I believe the signup requirements to limit attendance will be dropped in California. I suggest looking at medium to larger churches that appear to have the resources we are talking about. Remember, you don't have to be extremely religious to attend a church. Many attendees are ordinary folks just like you and I. I urge you to give it a try ... good luck!
  2. Jeanne & Jo Try this perspective .... I got raped by the California divorce court system as my first marriage ended. The marriage ended after extended counseling with 3 different counselors, all chosen by my ex ... we were trying. At the time I had been working for about 45 years and was in my 60's. I really wanted to get married again; living alone was a dismal prospect. However, it was too late in life to start over if the California court system took half of my assets yet again. My second wife and I discussed a pre-nup. With my encouragement she got a lawyer who spoke her first language to advise her. We basically agreed that what was in her country and what she earned here was hers and the same for me. This last year, having had 14 years of a perfect marriage, I began moving all of my assets in the US into joint ownership. I now have no doubt that this marriage is for the rest of our lives but I think it was prudent to take out some insurance for the first 10 years or so. I very much agree with the analogy made by daniel_and_lilly in the post above.
  3. OMG ... people are going around and around on this when it is really quite simple. I had a horrific divorce where I was raped by the California legal system that, in my opinion, assumes the man is guilty until proven innocent. After the divorce was initiated (the financial settlement took 10+ years) I met a wonderful person who would become my wife. Early on I discussed a pre-nup with her as I was too old to start over once again if raped again by California courts. I explained that a pre-nup was only operative if we divorced and emphasized that I will sign the agreement to support her as my wife ... many have pointed this out. At my suggestion, she got her own lawyer in the US who's first language was the same as hers. The agreement basically said that, in case of divorce, all assets in her country were hers and all assets in the US were mine. After ten years of marriage I was convinced that "until death do us part" was operative and moved our home and investments into joint ownership (JTWROS). Marrying my current wife was the best decision I ever made. In many cases it's prudent to have a pre-nup in place until the longevity of the marriage is proven. Introduce the concept early. Make sure she has an independent lawyer that speaks her language. It's simple.
  4. Totally understand ... California is brutal and totally prejudiced
  5. Mari is wrong. It is enforceable if both parties have had individual lawyers, fluent in their first language, representing them.
  6. Condolences on your loss. I think some of the other posters are treating this too lightly. You may want to engage USCIS again should you find, in the future, another life partner. Paperwork often doesn't do the job. I suggest that you personally show up at the AOS interview and carefully explain the situation .... face-to-face with a live person is almost always better.
  7. I had a prenup with my Chinese-American wife. I had just been through a California divorce where I was raped by my ex and her legal team. At the time of my second marriage I was worried that I could not build again if a second divorce occurred. I discussed carefully with my to be wife. She got a lawyer who spoke Chinese to represent her. We agreed on a prenup to include that our new house would be solely in my name and our condo in China would be in her name. We have now been married for more than ten years. I AM the happiest man in the world. We recently have reversed all of this and now everything is owned jointly. I think a prenup is not a bad idea in the beginning. Get a lawyer and do it right. Don't force her into anything. I hope your long term results are the same as ours.
  8. What state will you be coming to? California has extremely loose rules when it comes to state subsidized health insurance. Citizenship is generally ignored in California.
  9. We are strong supporters of legal immigration. Hopefully you can factor this into your thinking. It's a good thing to have law enforcement check your status. Stay strong and happy to welcome you to America.
  10. Not having any pics is really strange. It is difficult to understand a loving relationship with no pics. Beef up other sections of your K1 package and then travel to Morocco before the K1 interview. We had tons of pics, chats, etc and seven visits to China. I met with the VO (lucky happenstance) the day before my wife and daughter were interviewed and he actually told them that during the interview. Take some pics with your lady before the interview and have her present them then ... a pic riding a camel on the beach might be good (if you've been to Morocco you'll understand). What really turned our interview was money. The VO remarked that my income was several times larger than his and wished my now wife and daughter well.
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