John J

You need to send the self-petition to Nebraska. In the absence of a police report, you must attend therapy in order to obtain a psychological evaluation  You need to submit  your police clearance. You must write your affidavit stating about the courtship, marriage and abuse.If your don't have a pending I-485 then submit forms I-485, I-360, I-765, I-131, I-864W and G-1145. Pay the USCIS fees, Fill out form I-912 if you are unable to pay the fees. Get affidavits from family and friends.Those who have been divorced for more than two years are not eligible to file a Vawa.

No I've not had a green card, my wife said she had mailed my documents in but never did and had a friend pretending to be an immigration officer call me saying they had received them. I found my immigration documents 2 years later hidden in a drawer.
 
 

No I've not had a green card, my wife said she had mailed my documents in but never did and had a friend pretending to be an immigration officer call me saying they had received them. I found my immigration documents 2 years later hidden in a drawer.
 
 

Cut a long story short, if a US citizen brought a foreign citizen to the US through marriage and then the US citizen only wanted to get married to have as basically a slave and abuse and refused to file the immigration and made them go to work is this classed as human trafficking? Basically the whole marriage was just a rouse to own a modern slave. 

I did a similar thing that you did and the abuse only started after I got married. Yes there were red flags before but her excuse was that she was frustrated about not being married.
She told me lie after lie and still does.
Anyone who has experience with a spouse with borderline personality disorder knows exactly what I'm talking about.

Wow, thankyou everyone for your input.
I too believe a child should have both parents in their lifes, however when one doesnt want to be apart of the childs life- why should I force it?
The soon to be ex husband/childs biological father will be able to visit her as often as he likes- I am not going to keep him from his child. I will also be coming back to the states hopefully once a year as I want to see those that have helped me out through this trying time.
I have even invited him to come to the birth of his child- his reponce "I need more time to work on myself, and focus on myself before anything else" meanwhile I see his debit transactions where his mistress lives.

To the person saying there is two sides to every story...I have asked my soon to be ex-husband if i did anything wrong...his responce "no, nothing" he was just being selfish.
I havnt been vicious in this entire process, I havnt even lashed out at the woman who participated in the affair- even though she told me to "get over it, and move back to australia"
I have been very civil as I cannot risk the health of my unborn child with me stressing.

I will be seing an immigration lawyer and a divorce lawyer this monday with the assistance of my mother and father who are flying in on sunday. My child deserves the best support system possible- the father had his chance to right his wrongs- appoligize and ask about his child. He refuses to speak of his child and is mainly concerned about who gets our dog.

Thankyou again for your input, and some of you have been SO sweet- your comments lighten up my day and remind me that people dont have to put up with these circumstances- as someone said - my soon to be ex husband could of quite easily tried to move for me and my child to australia and I would have happily helped him out if he was willing to sacrifice what I sacrificed to move here- I need my family, and need to give my child the best possible life. He didnt appreciate me moving here for him and giving up my life- which I still to this day dont regret, I moved here for him, I loved him and was happy to give up my family and carear to be with him- its amazing when you put the shoe on the other foot and see what they would sacrifice for you. We are such strong people that go through this visa process- normally the partner see's this...unfortunately mine decided that I wasnt enough.

Again I am not keeping him from her, however I will be exiting this country as I moved here for him- not for anything else, she will be born in Australia and if he wants some kind of custody- he can go through the australian courts. He has however shown no interest in doing so.

Thanks again

Sorry to hear of your situation... a shock i am sure... however, Sorry... No returns... You cannot do anything to get anyone shipped back, a spouse is not a package... If they came on a CR1 and have their green card, they can file to remove conditions without you and remain here as long as they can prove they entered the marriage in good faith. Things end, people divorce all the time... But there is no divorcing from your obligations on the 864... You are on the hook for 10 years or when they become a citizen.. But I do advise you to move forward with your life... Good lick

that is our story

- we met in June 2008

- we got married on my wife first visit to morocco in march 2009 ( the first red flag married in first meet)

- we filed K3 in April 2009

- first interview December 2009 it was about 40min and my wife have been interviewed too cus i told the officer that my wife is with me and he asked to see her and interviewed her too

- second interview after couple days after first one it took 30min and the officer give me 221G fraud relationship and was used that i didnt now somethings about my wife and that was not right.

- case was send back to uscis.

- got letter of intent of revoke September

- February 2011 revoke.

- start new CR1 june 2011 ( with out cancel the K3 other red flag)

- Mai 2012 interview date and got 221G cus uscis was mattching the K3 case with new CR1 and the officer in the consulate said that is illegal even uscis approved the officer said that we had K3 and CR1 in same case and she cant make decision that why she need send it back to uscis.

- July 2013 intent of revoke this time we hired a lawyer.

- August 2013 the case reaffirm

- December /5 / 2013 interview

- December/6/2013 visa issued

- December /10/ 2013 visa in hand

that is our story with visa journey it was really so hard and difficult but when you believe in Allah and be patient and faithful and in love you dont give up even we have about 20 yrs age different. ( big red flag) but hamdolillah we believe in allah and we have been patient and pray and soon we are going to start our new life together.

for all the people trying for visa now the advice is to be faithful pray believe in allah and everything will be good.

Im in US one month now, we are happy and enjoying our life together. Hope happy luck for everyone, just be patient and faithful and all will be good.

What an exciting time for you Sky! Here is my story...
I met my husband on an online on a program called Second Life. Neither of us were looking for a new relationship and in fact we were both at the end of our long term relationships. I was about to be divorced from my husband of 25 yrs. and he from his girlfriend of 23 yrs. We started hanging out together online, spending every available moment together. Now, while I felt I knew him VERY well, I was still suspicious of online relationships and he said he was in Holland. I was in California. I googled his name, and came up with nothing. Good I guess. lol. Hours and hours of online conversations lead to a few expensive cell phone calls. Funny though, I didn't really notice any foreign accent! Then I discovered Skype. Finally, I got to actually SEE what he looked like and he me. We spent many more months and every possible hour on Second Life and Skype together. Finally, we decided to meet in a Daytona, for Daytona Bike Week. We are both bikers and never went there before. I set up a "safe call" person..JUST IN CASE. I guess one could never be too careful, but figured we would be in huge crowds of people most of the time. I got there first and picked him up at the airport. It was truly a WONDERFUL first face to face meeting. The 10 days went too fast. On the last night, we were at a local bar dancing and listening to a band. At this point, I should mention we are also both musicians. This is one of the reasons why he has very little Dutch accent. Most of the songs he sang in Holland with bands were in English. And while he speaks fluent Dutch, German and English, he also works on losing any accent in the language he is speaking.
While I was in the bathroom, he had asked the band if he could do a few songs with them. They called him up during their next set. He strapped on one of their guitars and did a few songs on stage. The whole place was on their feet dancing! After he was done, the band stopped and he got on his knees, ON STAGE, in a packed bar and proposed to me! Of course I said yes!.
Watching him go back to Holland was hard. But over the next year, I want to visit there twice and he came here one more time, this time to California. We worked hard on his K1. When it was finally approved, I met him at LAX and he moved in with me. We have now been married going on 4 years. We have our disagreements at times, but we have an amazing and strong marriage as well. My adult kids like him and he is even friends with my ex-husband (we are all still friends actually). We have gone through some major changes in the last few years. We moved from California to Texas (to start a new life together..and sort of as an adventure, lol) and decided after 3 years of THAT to move back home to California. We are both still unemployed (we JUST moved back) but VERY actively looking. We are basically staying with family at the moment, until we have jobs and start on building our house on property we own here. There has been some stress involved of course, but we know how to lean on each other instead of attacking each other in stressful situations. He does miss family, and even some foods from Holland that he can't get here, but he Skypes with family and we try to make foods when possible that he misses.
All in all, we are loving each other and life in general.
So, that is my long-winded story...what's yours?

SingleDad2usc
Don't EVER send me any more pm bullying me to come and apologise on the forum for a post I wrote a long time ago!! If you are a bully, go and bully your kids!! Don't Ever try this ####### again.. If someone post anything you don't like or you feel you are too smart and know it all,and that other people's post wasn't correct, you can correct that person on the forum there and then like other normal people do,mr know it all(we ALL stand to be corrected).don't wait for after a long time and then send a stupid bullying pm asking for public apology,calling everyone's answer WRONG..there are several things I can't stand and bullying is one of them so you are warned!!don't try that BS with me

The point is why make it more and more difficult for genuine victims of abuse to claim VAWA for the sake of people who get scammed. All it will do is make more abuse victims stay in abusive relationships and actually help abusers. Most abusers think they have their spouses head between a rock and a hard place, in many cases VAWA is their only hope.
A better way is for people who do get scammed is to warn and help others not to fall into the same cruel mess.

Yesterday I posted some information(vawa part 3)but today this new thread was opened then I am posting here again some information regarding Vawa , because every day we have new victims entering in the Vawa thread.
Every week I receive hundreds of emails. I am member of other sites as well, and I will try to answer here some frequent questions and provide some information.
If you were victim of mental abuse you MUST submit a psychological evaluation. Shelters can provide counseling, but counselor cannot diagnose you or perform a psychological evaluation,since they are not psychologist. The counselor letter will help your case, but the psychological evaluation will increase a lot your chance to have your case approved if you are diagnosed with severe depression and/or pos traumatic disorder and/or anxiety. Ask the psychologist to mention diagnose, number of sessions, duration of each session, treatment recommended, evolution of the treatment and if you have any referral to see a doctor.
When you have your Vawa case denied you have the option to file an appeal or submit a motion,it depends of each decision. If your case has to go to the Appeal to the Federal Circuit Courts and you submitted your appeal to the 2nd or 9th Circuits they will review your case based in domestic violence/extreme cruelty, but if you are in the 3rd, 5th, 6th, 7th, or 10th, the Federal Circuit Court CANNOT review the decision issued by an immigration judge or the BIA because the “extreme cruelty” is considered a discretionary factor, and they consider that can only be decided by the immigration judge and the BIA. Many people in deportation proceedings filing Vawa Cancelation of Removal asked me how can I prove hardship? ( the alien must prove extreme abuse and hardship), well you can establish hardship by proving that your recovery from abuse would be jeopardized if deported, or proving the abuser threatened to track the victim down in her/his home Country if she/he leave the U.S, and proving you maintain a protection order in the U.S. against the abuser. Many people do not mention some circumstances of the verbal abuse, because they don't know if it's abuse or not.Berating your ethnicity;threatening to report you with allegations that you married for immigration papers, forcing you to work without work permit, threatening to turn you in because of your immigration status, threatening to take your kids away all these circumstances are considered mental abuse. When writing your affidavit you MUST describe the courtship. I saw hundreds of RFEs because the individuals failed to describe the courtship they need to know if you got married to get papers or for love, and they will be able to find out about that when they know the circumstance that lead you to got married. Every time you submit affidavits from your friends they MUST state their full name, place of birth, date of birth, present address and contact number. Your friends must inform when they met you first time and where, last time they saw you or heard about you etc. I know many people here did not submit their Vawa case and others are still living with their spouses, then here is what we use to say to all victims of domestic violence or victims of mental abuse: - take pictures of the house if the abuser broke or destroyed some stuff in the house; -take pictures if you have some visible injuries; -go to the hospital TODAY IF YOU WERE BATTERED or if you feel suicidal or depressed. Any hospital will admit you for consultation even if you can't afford to pay them, after receiving the bill you can apply for "charity" with the hospital; -call 911 if you are battered or feel threatened. Do not worry they won't "deport" you! ; -If you are suffering domestic violence or you are being mentally abused call Domestic violence hotline and ask them a shelter where you can stay, -when leaving the house take with you ALL your documents and children's documents as well. Leave just a brief note saying "I left",in order for your husband to know that you were not kidnapped, and not to call the cops and put everyone searching for you and your kids. Do not mention with neighborhoods or his friends that you are moving to a shelter; - DO NOT ANSWER the abuser phone calls after leaving him/her or his/her family phone calls, tell your family not to disclose with him/her where you are living, -delete him/her from facebook , change your facebook/email passwords; -as soon you leave your house go to the family Court to file for child's custody; -if you are moving to a shelter take just 1 suitcase per person; -do not leave your house if the abuser is there, try to leave when he is not at home,of course if you call 911 you can leave the house because the cops will be there; -If you don't have any money or food find a "salvation army" place they will be able to help you out, specially those with police report; Be safe!

Ohhh girl, I am on tears while reading your very sad story. I really understand where you are coming from. I know how it hurts you so much especially it was christmas time. I wish I could give you a hug right now. I know it is easier said than done, but I pray that you will be strong to overcome this struggle and pain you are having now. As always, there were already red flags from the beginning, the fact that he lied to you before marriage, wasn't worth pursuing him to get into a serious relationship, like marriage. Truth shall always prevail and will come out, no matter how much we hide it.
Begging someone to love you back is not that simple. Love should come naturally and genuinely from his heart. Do you think going to counseling will help save the marriage ? Does he goes to church ? Is he a practicing christian man ? I'm asking this because I believe only God, through his faith, can change his heart, not even you and the people around him.
If his decision is final, then you have to move on. Start by accepting the reality, fix yourself, and have more faith in God. Please don't look yourself down, even you were rejected. It's his loss, not yours. The fact that you have tried working out to save the relationship, forgiving him despite of what he did, was an honorable thing you did as a good loving woman. That is enough NOW.
You have to be strong, value and respect yourself. Don't worry too much about your GC. If it is meant to be, God will work it out and connects you to people who could help. This is not the end of the world. I hope this 2014, you will make a wise long term decision for yourself. Coming home is best solution I see. Take care and God bless you.

A blind man on a gallopping horse can see your marriage is over.
Saddle up and move on.

I'm not in this situation as my husband has never had an interest in living in the US, heck we'd stay in Moscow if we could.
What I've noticed here is a few patterns: a. old hot guy brings a tight-bodied girl he could've fathered or grandfathered, then gets pissed off that she doesn't want him or is a golddigger b. arranged marriage failures (I'm not against them, just saying what I've seen) c. American person gets duped by someone from the developing world who is from a culture that is rife with poverty and lack of opportunities or has a very anti-women/religious/etc culture where love comes secondary to necessity. Of course it can be a combination of a few of these, or something different.
What does irk me is people who quickly call "scam" on a marriage/engagement that simply dissolved. A big problem with the US immigration system is that unless you live abroad with your partner or he/she is from a VWP country, you have very, very little time physically together, so then when you actually live together things might be very different than what you thought they'd be, so you fall out of love. I don't think that's a "scam", I think that's simply an unfortunate consequence of a very unfair process that puts a strain on even the best and strongest relationships.

Don't rush to make major decisions mate. Some of us have been where you are at now and believe me this requires a cool head.
I'm not saying stay with your Wife but consider how you can at least stay in the US so that you can see the children.
I sense your desperation (I know that feeling as I've been) and it pains me.