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    Tourist Visa For Nigeria

    in Africa: Sub-Saharan

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    I better than shut up cuz I am one of "those" misinformed met online, married on my first visit to my Nigerian King and oh yeah lets see I am by the way menopausal, pass child bearing years (I guess), clueless, and trolling the internet (or is that cougaring the internet) for young bucks to prey on.

    Give me a flippin break..............Sorry had to vent. OP as I said befoe I love you. You go on with your bad self enjoy have fun and God bless you both.

    Anyone else not feeling the love this OP is trying to convey.:P . We now return you to your VJ programing.

    LOL :rofl: do you, I feel ya!!

    Peace

    Tourist Visa For Nigeria

    in Africa: Sub-Saharan

    Posted

    Yes, we have met he has family here in Texas that own an African market. I have known him over a year longer than most people who meet in a club and who decide to marry or sleep with them in one night. My father is Ghanaian, I am fluent in Yoruba and was raised as a traditional Afrcan. I can also speak Igbo and Hausa. My father moved us here to the US when I was a child, so my African roots are strongly bound.....The creator just created me a spouse who could better serve me as to what I am accustomed to...As far as the marriage rates and the statistics that were given American citizens marriages aren't that sucessful either...So in my opinion things happen for a reason, season or a lifetime...No one crosses your path by change and when something is ordained by faith you just know...also I work with my intuition and if something feels wrong I go with my gut...Be blessed and I thank you for your concerns....O dabo..... :whistle:

    lol.. go head sistah.. lol.. I ain't mad at you..Congratulations and I hope it all goes beautifully for you.. I myself sent both the letter of invite and the info on my housing. Just to be sure all 3 times (on my way back to Nigeria next week).. I had a horrible experience the first time I applied, the lost my visa had to drive down to DC to get it one day before my flight!! So better to be safe than sorry.

    Peace,

    Chi

    EMS Speedpost Experience

    in Africa: Sub-Saharan

    Posted

    My spouse mailed some of the required documents for DS230 via EMS Speedpost. The package was mailed out on July 5 from Lagos. I have been tracking it since then. Since July 9 the package is still with the Customs in New York. Please I was just wondering if anybody has had this experience before. I don't understand why the package will still be with the customs in New York since July 9. When my spouse was mailing out the document,the speedpost employee told her that it will take 3 days to reach its destination and today is exactly one week. Your thoughts.

    Yeess, I had the same problem back in Feb. it was guaranteed to be delievered to me in 3 days.. It was held up in New York customs for 8 days. :bonk: They never gave me or the postal office a reason why. When I tracked it , all it said was in Customs in New York. I was

    upset. They had my email and phone number, no one ever called or expained. I hope you don't have that long of a wait. good luck. :star:

    Peace,

    chi

    Divorce Rate

    in Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits

    Posted

    Greetings,

    I would guess no one can really answer that question truthfully. Just like marriages here between two USCs, who really knows. Fools will rush in to love and marriage any and everywhere, it's just that divorce is more expectable in the US than some countries like where are fiancees come from. I used to get questions from people about my fiance especially him bieng from Nigeria (FRAUD ISSUES). But it's not like I never ran into lying, misleading, unfaithful, confused, men before in America lol :bonk: . So really what is the differnce. So the best advice is just be honest with yourself and your spouse, have patience, take time to understand each others cultural differences seek counseling if neccesary, pay attention to signs don't just wish thinks to get better but work on it daily, and keep your marriage sacred by keep negativity, and unnecessary people and thier opinions out of your business.

    Best of luck to us all

    Peace,

    Chi

    Did you send your sexual conversations?

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    Ok, I'm trying to go through our on yahoo chats to send for proof of our relationship, but our conversations seem to turn sexual a lot. Im really ashamed to send it, but my Fiance said well they wanted proof so give them what they want... what do you guys think

    If memory serves me correctly. A couple of months back in the Nigerian Embassy Review. There was a wife of a Nigerian man who posted in that the CO asked her husband why did they submitt e-mails with strong sexual content. The husband resoponded that they were afraid if the blacked it out or skiped it the CO might inquire why or what are you hiding. The CO then made the husband read the e-mails out loud so others could hear. They were approved, but it was a little embarrasing.. Personaly I would black out the strong material if I need to part of the conversation.

    Peace,

    Chi

    Husband went home

    in Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits

    Posted

    This kind of "woman blaming" is part of what reinforces the gender inequality we see in our society AND Latin cultures.

    HUMANS are naturally flirty creatures. HUMANS seek attention. The MEN in Latin cultures are usually the initiators of flirting, especially in the OP's experience (catcalling on the street). Regardless, flirting usually goes both ways. To label women as seductive temptresses is offensive and mysoginistic.

    OP, it sounds like you have been a victim of abuse. This is how things start - overly "jealous" men who like to control the women they are with. He was trying to CONTROL your actions - first, through his words, and once that failed, maybe through his actions.

    I applaud you for being brave enough to buy him a ticket home, and I'm aghast that people fault you for getting out of a bad situation. The minute my partner abuses me in ANY way in my home, that ceases to be his home. Unfortunately, we have been conditioned to "victim blame" in our society, ie, "her skirt was so short, she was asking for it."

    My own heritage is not American, and I am familiar with multiple cultures. It is not okay, in any culture, or any country, for your partner to control you and verbally abuse you. My heart goes out to you, and please know that you deserve a relationship built on mutual respect and TRUST.

    Of course, you can't just turn off your love for him like a lightswitch, and it must be difficult to be alone after being together for so long. I hope that when (if) he comes back to the States, he will stick with the counseling. It sounds like you need a little time apart, and when (if) you start talking about him coming back again, you will see a change in him and will set firm boundaries. We don't know all the details of your relationship and if things crossed a line or not, but hopefully by making a commitment to work things out with a third party you can enjoy the happiness you felt in the beginning of your marriage.

    Call me crazy but I say way to go!! So many times I here of women saying over and over, he brought me here and treats me bad, I can't leave because he has my papers, doesn't let me work so no money to get home, no home to go home to,and on and on. Listen I'm not going to judge you or the other people for posting the way they did. Bottom line you explain that you did not like his behavior, you explained your self, you even asked and went for proffessional help. You moved from that area to a new one and once the behavior started you once again express yourself. So you told him he has to leave. Kudos to you.. You didn't wait till it turned to mental or physical abuse, you knew exactly what you will and will not tolerate for your health, happiness and peace of mind. Does this means that this is the end of the story for you two?? Of course not. give it time, continue to talk long distance, and do what is healthy for you and him. Stay prayful, keep negative people out your business, maybe seek,elders from his home that can advice and help you both. I wish you the best. I wish you both the best. It's not over till you both decide it.. So hang in there..

    Peace,

    Chi

    2nd interview and husband still denied spousal visa

    in Waivers (I-601 and I-212) and Administrative Processes (221g)

    Posted

    wow!! two denials and you were present??? Ok so what happen , I mean what do you think influenced this decision. Where there questions that you both could not answer in agreement? What evidence did you bring? Did they look at the evidence? Are there any red flags, race or age difference (NOT THAT EITHER SHOULD MATTER , BUT LETS BE HONEST SOME CO DO WIEGH THAT IN) How manyitmes have you visited Hati? Basically can you give us a feel of how it went down. and I'm sure someone can start directing you.. Again I am truly sorry for this situation.

    Peace,

    Chi

    Let the journey begin

    in Africa: Sub-Saharan

    Posted

    congrats!! I love your spirit and strong faith.. You will need it on this journey.. Me and my love (Kingsley) have 90 days into this journey I feel we are getting close and I can't waiver now!! Good luck on the filling this site is soooo helpful and compassionate. Take care and good luck!!

    Peace,

    Chi :dance:

    Really stressing out, AOS sent, scared...

    in Adjustment of Status from Work, Student, & Tourist Visas

    Posted

    I know the feeling of bieng anxious,but in the end worry won't by you any extra time.. In our minds we always have a plan on how we want our lives to be. But we are never , ever fully in control are we? If you have been blessed with a satisfying life here why wouldn't the creator bless you in Canada also?? So as the saying goes.. why worry if your going to pray.. It will all unfold how it should.. be strong, we have no other choice, do we? :thumbs:

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    Peace ,

    Chi

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