Knope2012

No, I believe the conclusion is, as it's been all along, probably NOT "eligible," which is why you're busy manipulating a meeting with child protective services in order to manufacture evidence that would not exist otherwise.

The problem is you have outstayed your welcome here. The country doesnt owe you anything. :/

Strengthen families? I think you are going a little to far here. The thing you are keep forgetting is that you are
1) not authorized to stay aka illegal
2) not authorized to get a SSN because of point 1)
3) benefits for an illegal alien? No, I don't think so ... You already get more that you should have gotten!
Just my two cents. I am not trying to attack you, but I really don't get how somebody is so ignorant and wants, wants, wants when you are not eligable.

I've read your posts from start to finish and honestly it sounds like you are coming up with excuses why not to go back to Canada. Your children are citizens, but they are not of age to sponsor you and you are in the US illegally for years now. I am wondering why you are so averse to going back to Canada, your children would be properly cared for there, just like in the US, you can work there, you can support your children and yourself. Montreal is an absolutely beautiful and the people are friendly.
If you need therapy, you can surely get that in Canada, they are not a third world country, they are not backward. Stop making excuses and trying to fish for information that really doesn't pertain to you and your situation. Your children are legal in the US, you are not, stop USING your children.

And back to you. You are using them. It's always the children, but you are the one illegal in this country. The children don't need to adjust their status. You do. I don't understand how one person can make up so many excuses! It's warm here & the klimate is good for the children. But there are many other places where it is even better.
I need therapy here. Well, there are therapists all over the world. The mom left you the kids an wants nothing to do with them. Happens all the time, move on, you can't change her mind. The kids need to see a doctor. Again, there are many doctors in the world and specialize in cases like that. But you WON'T leave the country. The US is all they known, well, my home country is all I knows and now I live here. Everybody can adapt with help! Excuses over excuses ... All the time.

And your only citizenship is CANADIAN!!!!

He's been in this country since he was 12, if I remember his previous posts correctly.
Anyway, I think he could better represent his "heritage" and "his people" by behaving like an intelligent, law-abiding human being.

all well and wonderful, but the op isn't in guyana nor does the op need to borrow trouble like you're suggesting.

yeah...i just need to shutup, listen and learn.

This. I have a hard time believing that the Pilgrims --albeit not known for being overly tolerant of religious minorities themselves despite their talk about freedom of religion-- would recognize or approve of what passes for Christianity in the public sphere these days. It might even make them want to pack up their boats and head off somewhere else where they can worship and live and believe as they please.
This insistence on trying to make sure everyone else thinks, believes, and behaves exactly the same way you do (or supporting organizations that do) makes no sense. A world where no one is trying to force religion down someone else's throat is not a secular world or an anti-Christian world: it's a respectful, sane world. Just sell your chicken sandwiches and keep your nose and your money out of things that don't concern you in any way whatsoever.

I love the comments such as the one bemoaning the 'fact' that god has been excluded from 'everywhere'. Do these people ever stop to think where it is they should be finding god? If they want god how about looking at the church of their choice? How about looking for him in the privacy of their own homes? Nobody has banned the bible or any other christian books. There is no 'war on christianity' going on here. If people want god they can 'find' him very easily. No, what they really want is for all of us to live in a homogenous narrow-minded society where we are all instructed from early on in what we are to believe. They do not believe in freedom of and from religion. They are really quite un-american actually!!

He was busy not existing.

I think they will. I still don't know why he needs his entire passport copied and a signature on the back of a new photo, but it's their rules so we shall play by them
I agree that if a couple breaks up over this, they weren't meant to be. So many people tell me that they couldn't "do" a long distance relationship. I really want to tell them that it's not that they couldn't, it's that they're not willing to do everything required to have one. I think having to work so hard for this can actually strengthen a couple because you know if you can survive months and months of waiting and lots of red tape and sacrifice, that you can make it through anything.

The VAWA can be used for men or women. It was called VAWA because women tend to be more likely to be abused by their spouses and especially women are more likely to be KILLED by their partners. http://www.americanbar.org/groups/domestic_violence/resources/statistics.html
Wow. The act was NOT a "pay off to feminist and man-haters", while it is called the Violence Against Women Act, men can and DO use it as well to adjust their status!
This fact sheet from the USCIS specially uses language such as "he or she" and "spouse" rather than "woman/she" and "wife", so it is designed for BATTERED SPOUSES, it's not just for women.
USCIS Fact Sheet: Guidance for VAWA Self-Petioners
Women are more than TWICE as likely to be killed by domestic violence! I think this act was very warranted. Yes, it can be abused by some people, so it probably needs some refinement. But that's no reason to dismiss it and call it a law made by "man-haters".

First come first serve at the office you're at. Applications are separated. Three months is nothing. Sorry.

Now why would I be pissed? We share info here and this is the first ever that I've read of asking for photos. Maybe a new lady has come on board and is doing her "thing" the way she wants to. It's a great heads up of possible changes in London. That's the only way we can keep up is by people sharing their experiences. And the rest of you lot can report if you get asked for photos and all those extra questions.
(Okay, I'll admit I get slightly pissed at Robert when he keeps asking questions that have been answered to him before. Or he jumps to post before using his brain to think about it. Example, the Knightsbridge number doesn't work for R. Help VJ!! Why not wait and try it again a little later before sounding the panic alarm in two threads? Excuses of not knowing how to use a computer are lame. I'm old enough to be your granny and had never posted in a forum in my life, but managed to learn. Hahahahaha...Silver Surfer crazy cat lady Mama Nich.)

No they're not. It's reasonable to restrict Visitor Visas for young cute single women from 3rd world countries that are overwhelmed with poverty. How would you ensure that the Alien Visitor returns to their home country? I guess you could have the US Citizen sponsor post a $25,000 bond to cover the cost of tracking & deporting them if they go TNT. hey could also hold the US Citizen criminally liable if the Alien goes TNT. Finally, I say make this Special Visitor Visa one that absolutely bars AOS for any reason.

Not loving you interfered in loving you.
An abused person takes normal treatment as wonderful, and it's easy for the abuser to occasionally do something trivial that seems like such a big deal to the abused.
There isn't one molecule of my life that my wife doesn't know about. She has permission to look through emails, cell phone, internet history - everything. I've never stepped out on her despite having permission to do it. I'd be key-logging that husband or doing some pretty close inspection of everything he's up to. Who knows what really happened with that other girl. Maybe she dumped him. But I would not take his word on it.
You mentioned that the face-to-face discussions are so difficult with the long silences and so forth - it isn't because there is nothing to say. It's because what is in his mind is not being said. People blurt out what is on their mind in real time when they are expressing their true feelings. But when they need to conceal something, they have to think carefully about what they are going to say to manipulate the other person.

I have to agree with Staashi. Someone doesn't drive 2 hours away, especially to meet up with the opposite sex, to just chat. As well as, stop sleeping with him forsure, you don't wanna to fall victim to some STD...

Saylin, I've been in your position and it sucks. I believe he is already fvcking this girl...it happens. If he's driving two hours to see her, he's making a booty call as well. This relationship is a lot more involved than you can probably even imagine.
And one piece of advice: stop sleeping with him. Every time you have sex with him you're going to kill yourself inside.

I'm just going to lay this down here and then back away....He got busted cheating, and now says he's sorry, he won't talk to her, whatever. He is about to give you a car so you can work(be away from the house more) and you are going on a week+ long trip soon and he is not going.
What makes you believe he is telling you the truth and not just being a little better about sneaking around? He knows you have been in his Facebook, and you said yourself he deletes his text messages.
I really, TRULY hope he is sincere, and that you guys can work things out and be happy. I'm curious though what he has done to prove he has no intention of contacting her again? Has he removed her from his FB friends? Blocked her on WoW?

I would never trust him again, but that's just me.

Hi Saylin,
I'm sorry for what you've been going through. You were one of the first people who talked to me here and I've always seen you being kind and helpful to other people.
I hope everything works out for you the way you want. I can't resist giving my opinions on a couple things though.
I never fight for anyone. Not friends, not men, not anyone. I don't compete for people's love. Anyone who would put me in a position of needing to compete for them is not someone I want in my life. Saying "fight for him" sounds romantic, but you really shouldn't have to fight for someone who loves you.
Facebook, and other online communities, are very tempting to someone who's confused about their feelings. Marriage is a huge adjustment, it's stressful, and there was a girl there offering stress-free fun, looking all perfect, free of marriage-related annoyances. I'm not saying what he did was ok, but it might be understandable, particularly if there was no in-person follow through. I hope that's all it was for him, and now he's gotten out of his system and realized she's not what he wants. It also sounds like he has an easier time connecting to people at a distance (i.e. online) than in person. He might be struggling with that. Then again, he might just not be ready for marriage. You'll have to watch and see.
Lastly, I want to say that you shouldn't feel bad about "snooping" on his facebook. I believe everyone has a right to privacy, but you had good cause to go looking. You needed information and you got it.
Those are my opinions, I hope it all works out. You seem like a good person who's genuinely in love. And there are few things more painful than being in love with someone who doesn't love you back. Good luck.

I really REALLY hope that this all works out for you but the bolded portions worry me.
HE mentioned divorced several weeks ago so it wasn't divorce that woke him up, I honestly think it was the knowledge that you told the guildies and were putting out there that he was a cheating scumbag... he's trying to make himself look better.
But worst of all is the last bolded section... he once again mentions his "lack of feelings" for you... in an email where he's supposed to be telling you how sorry he is and how much he loves you. Instead I read: "well, you're a really great girl so I'm willing to give dating you a go". You're his wife, he's supposed to love you. Sometimes we might not like our spouses, sometimes they can really tick us off but the love should still be there.
I do hope it works out, I really do, but you deserve to be loved and I still don't think he does love you - in fact he wrote as much in his email.

So it seems you both do most of your communicating by texting and emails. REALLY???
I think you both need to grow up and sit down face to face and talk properly like adults would. Perhaps you are still teenagers (I don't know your ages) but you are married and as such should at the very least be talking out problems face to face. Not texting and emailing to communicate. You both seem to be stuck in your "courting days".
Sorry if this sounds harsh but emails?? REALLYY???
If you 2 can't talk face to face then you still have problems which aren't going to fix themselves through email chatter.
Do you email each other when dinner is ready or email each other with possible plans for a weekend outing or anniversary date?
Ditch the computers, iPhones and other 21st century devices and gadgets and sit down and talk to each other. As long as he has gadgets the temptation to cheat is still there. There will always be a measure of distrust there as he has betrayed you. IF he has no better use for a computer then he shouldn't have one and doesn't need one when he's married cause he's only using it to pick up internet girlfriends. You will always wonder who's on his email list or facebook friend's list and justifiably.
So he says this girl has gone. I wonder how long it will be before the next one comes along. Maybe he'll be more discreet about hiding the next one better so you don't find out. Heck he was planning to go meet her while you were working. Someone needs to slap this guy upside the head and remind him that he's M-A-R-R-I-E-D !!!!
He may tell you what you want to hear now but he surely can't do a complete turnaround overnight and become the you hope him to be.
Good luck and I hope you stay on guard with him.