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Hi all I am not sure really where to post this but I have to share! When it is time to bring your loved one with you please please please don't forget about your flyer miles if you have them...I flew with United and a one way requires 40,000 miles and well after my 3 trips to Nigeria... my husband and I were able to get his ticket and ended up only paying 181.50 for him to come home! So please keep "flyer miles" in mind as you are on this journey they will come in handy...even if you don't have enough flyer miles (let's say you only have like 20,000) you will still come out a whole lot cheaper buying extra miles than paying for a full price ticket. Well I hope this post helps someone that is always my goal when I share information! Be blessed all!

Okay folks UPDATE! so I called back again (b/c I really didn't like that ladies attitude lol) and I got a very nice guy on the phone this time (sorry not sure if it was Gus lol I didn't ask his name) newho he said that March is indeed still available and he doesn't know why the other lady told me that. He said that they are doing things a little bit differently now in that they use to schedule only the 1st week of the month and that was it but now what they are doing is this, if the the embassy gets a hold of them (NVC) at any time to let them know they have available times then they will start scheduling appointments and so the scheduling once a month doesn't really apply anymore as they really want to clear out some of their work load so March interviews are still possible at this time too! Okay I just wanted to let you all know that! have a good day!

I NORMALLY DON'T TYPE IN ALL CAPS BUT I WANT TO SHOUT IT FROM THE ROOF TOP....CASE COMPLETE CASE COMPLETE CASE COMPLETE TODAY!!!! just called NVC he said it was completed today...and that all we have to do now is just wait to get an interview date babeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee wow wow wow! I mailed my DS-230 on 1/22/12 they got it 1/24/12...and today is 1/31/12 so 7 days total! God is so good! calling again just to make sure I heard right lol!

its usually takes 7 to 14 days to receive, input in system and accept AOS. No they will not send you an email telling you they accept it.
Your next email will be your IV BILL invoiced. That's when you know about the DS-3032.
But if you want to know call next week sometime.

The only way to know it's been accepted is to call. There is no acceptance email.

YAY YAY YAY! congratulations...okay now let's keep this love train moving! all abooooard!

...well my train hasn't even left the station yet...we are just on the NOA1 landing strip...but hey I will catch you all soon enough...but I am right here rooting you all on...excited for all of you and reading your trips/flight fares and interview dates (or those forth coming) keeps me excited...right now I will settle for being the little engine that could...(I think I can I think I can I think I can!)...blessings!

LOL..yes indeed it did get my attention lol! I had read your first post when I joined VJ (last year) and I was like oh man I wonder what happen with that couple...it was like a story waiting to unfold lol...so I was very anxious to see your update...and well I must say wow! LOL...and well it is so clear you 2 are completely in love lol...differences at all... I agree with your hubby hang in there..especially if he wants to keep working at it (most men do throw in the towel easily, especially here in America my ex did)....so keep on fighting for your marriage girl (you know you love that man lol)...congrats on the house...I'm sure you are just as excited as he is too LOL...I can't wait until I get mine (well ours after we get married)...owning is better than renting...I think you both are going to look a back at all of this (as you are now) even further down the road and say wow....look how far we have come...my grandparents got (and still get) on one another's everlasting nerve but it's been 52 years now lol...older folks truly new what it meant "for better and for worse"....I like to say that today we have microwaveable marriages...quickly in quickly out...back in the day...granny and them (lol)...had homemade marriages...(a long time to cook; but the best dang meal you had lol)...blessings to you and your hubby!

Well I am going to add my 2 cents here for what it is worth...I submitted my I-130 on June 16 2012 made out to USCIS and was afraid as well they would send it back but to my suprise they recieved it with no problems on June 18 2012. My friend called and was on hold with them for a long time to ask was this okay and they said people do it all the time... so I don't think it will be any different for the I-129....blessings!

no problems at all...I130 (money order made out to USCIS)... was received today!...here we go!

Not true...my fiance loves my kids...I have 2...he asked about this all the time...and speaks to them..and remembers when their doctor's appointments are and so much more...I asked him...about that because I hear this stereotype before that African men don't marry a woman with children...and he said "why not, where are the rules that say this can't happen?"...now for the most part...the majority of them may not but some do...he did say a man that has no children of his own....and wishes to marry wants to marry someone that can give him his own children (I can and will give him his own)...but don't you think that just as our culture changes...and each generation changes here in America (flower children, baby boomers, etc...) they can change there as well? Their views are not all the same...generations change..their parents may be set on traditional values (not marrying an older woman, or not marrying someone with kids) but some of the new generation doesn't hold this same view... just like my grandparents are "set" in their ways and old school ways...but I have more leverage on my views...not all of them but some of them will marry for real love someone with kids.

Wow! I haven't posted on VJ in some time because there wasn't a post I felt I needed to reply to until I ready this one...I am so thankful for your boldness, truth and honesty for stepping up and speaking out for the "good" men that still exist in your country. I am so tired of hearing people label every single Nigerian bad because of the one's that were wrong...I live in America and God knows we have enough scammers here to be a high-fraud country too. We have those in our government, schools, work places and just common folks...the truth is...real love judges people as individuals...not as a a whooole race of people. Are we not all humans? Can we not find true love from a man/woman from Nigeria? online? why not...there are single sites all over America and people meet on them all day long...it's not about how you met...it's about getting to know one another... I married a man right here in America that was the biggest scammer of them all...I was with him for 10 years and he was full of lies and deceit...I wish someone would have scrutinized our relationship the way they want to do our Nigerian relationships...no body can predict love...nobody knows the whole outcome of any situation...if so then why is the divorce rate in same culture marriages so high, or why are their couples staying together even though they really don't love each other, or so much infidelity...who can truly point the finger at who?...and is their really a race better than another...all I know is that the issue of my man being REAL is settled in MY heart...no body can change my mind...not here on VJ or anywhere else...my case concerning him and his intentions has been put to rest...my sadness and frustration now comes from all the "warnings" about Nigeria...good grief some of them really do marry for love...I would hope that in any relationship a person would want to find out the "truth" about who they are with...is it only Nigerians alone that need to be but through the test?....anybody choosing to be in a relationship needs to test it realness...how many countless relationships have come up in the news over the years where the man was previously a murderer, or rapist, a child molester, or had another family...and the wife didn't know until years later...the sterotypes of Nigerians need to stop...judge a person for who they are not for who their culture may be in the majority....it's not fair...we all need a little grace and mercy and I am so grateful that aside from all opinions and what not God is the rightful judge! Great post my friend....great POST!

Not true...my fiance loves my kids...I have 2...he asked about this all the time...and speaks to them..and remembers when their doctor's appointments are and so much more...I asked him...about that because I hear this stereotype before that African men don't marry a woman with children...and he said "why not, where are the rules that say this can't happen?"...now for the most part...the majority of them may not but some do...he did say a man that has no children of his own....and wishes to marry wants to marry someone that can give him his own children (I can and will give him his own)...but don't you think that just as our culture changes...and each generation changes here in America (flower children, baby boomers, etc...) they can change there as well? Their views are not all the same...generations change..their parents may be set on traditional values (not marrying an older woman, or not marrying someone with kids) but some of the new generation doesn't hold this same view... just like my grandparents are "set" in their ways and old school ways...but I have more leverage on my views...not all of them but some of them will marry for real love someone with kids.

Wow! I haven't posted on VJ in some time because there wasn't a post I felt I needed to reply to until I ready this one...I am so thankful for your boldness, truth and honesty for stepping up and speaking out for the "good" men that still exist in your country. I am so tired of hearing people label every single Nigerian bad because of the one's that were wrong...I live in America and God knows we have enough scammers here to be a high-fraud country too. We have those in our government, schools, work places and just common folks...the truth is...real love judges people as individuals...not as a a whooole race of people. Are we not all humans? Can we not find true love from a man/woman from Nigeria? online? why not...there are single sites all over America and people meet on them all day long...it's not about how you met...it's about getting to know one another... I married a man right here in America that was the biggest scammer of them all...I was with him for 10 years and he was full of lies and deceit...I wish someone would have scrutinized our relationship the way they want to do our Nigerian relationships...no body can predict love...nobody knows the whole outcome of any situation...if so then why is the divorce rate in same culture marriages so high, or why are their couples staying together even though they really don't love each other, or so much infidelity...who can truly point the finger at who?...and is their really a race better than another...all I know is that the issue of my man being REAL is settled in MY heart...no body can change my mind...not here on VJ or anywhere else...my case concerning him and his intentions has been put to rest...my sadness and frustration now comes from all the "warnings" about Nigeria...good grief some of them really do marry for love...I would hope that in any relationship a person would want to find out the "truth" about who they are with...is it only Nigerians alone that need to be but through the test?....anybody choosing to be in a relationship needs to test it realness...how many countless relationships have come up in the news over the years where the man was previously a murderer, or rapist, a child molester, or had another family...and the wife didn't know until years later...the sterotypes of Nigerians need to stop...judge a person for who they are not for who their culture may be in the majority....it's not fair...we all need a little grace and mercy and I am so grateful that aside from all opinions and what not God is the rightful judge! Great post my friend....great POST!

Thank you for the welcome...my post is accomplishing exactly what I wanted it to! ...I wanted everyone (even the elders with stripes on this site) to know that each of our stories are unique and while I respect and appreciate the side that even they share we all have our own road...newbies, inbetweenies, elders and such the like and we all have something to gain from one another, noone regardless to if they are new or old should feel like they can't share their story good or bad and be respected for it...(I am reminded of this by my grandmother...I think she is wise and I remember needing her so much as I grew up still do but now that I am older even though I am still younger she needs me now just as much as I need her!)... I am not blind to the "warnings" here but I will say this (in respect) I won't let them "blind" me to the decisions I choose and have chosen to already make concerning my life! I am aware of Lagos...I know its difficult...but I have heard many success stories from there too...and as I said the God I serve can move mountains...surely LAGOS is nothing for him! I already know that when the time comes that obstacle is out of the way for me already! Being that I am on VJ must show that I am passed the believing the man I am with is a scammer (I have read countless stories before VJ so reading them here wasn't new and I am sorry for some it happened but for me I have concluded what I want and so I am figuring out my next move to make...If I went around living my life based on others experiences (not just here on VJ) how could I live my own life to the fullest? But this isn't just about overcoming Lagos... I understand pain very well...but I can't go forward with my life hanging on to the past hurts and failures that I have experienced in my life...that hurts noone but me...my mom taught me how to take the punches and keep on moving (thank God).Life is too short to waste on would of could of should of's...too short not to forgive...and too short not to love completely (even if you aren't loved back sometimes (ouch!) that shouldn't change your character nor cause you to hold it against another person (if this was the case I shouldn't be giving any man a chance again based on what I went through with my exhusband) but I went through it and learned from it...and I am grateful for the experience...I gained 2 beautiful children...and I learned ALOT about myself...and I concluded that for myself...I don't look back to my past...I don't rely to much on my present (it can change in a moment) and I trust God for my future completely! Have I messed up yes, will I yes, do I know it all no...but if I "feared" so many things I wouldn't have gotten pregnant, went to school, played the keyboard, sang on a stage in front of thousands, learned to drive and on an so forth...the excitement in life sometimes come from taking a chance! So that is why I took my hat off to those willing to discuss their difficulties I know it wasnt easy...God used my divorce to help me... and to help others so I am not overlooking advice as long as it is kept in respect and the "friendly warnings" are acutally friendly! Other than that I just don't have the room in my life for negative people, not just here on VJ but in my own (non-internet) life...the thing about negativity is that it is like a disease and if not cured with positive things soon will spread like a wildfire. It's one thing to be negative from time to time and a completely different thing to just be a negative person. God did not promise us life would be easy but he did say he would be there to walk with us through it all! And that is reason enough for me to keep on going...VJ to me is a God given tool and I have met some wonderful wonderful people on here...even some that have been through the WORST of things but they have such a strong FAITH in God and that is the type of people I am looking to surround myself with! Believe me I am not just here looking for the "good"...that would make this whole journey one sided! thanks again! Shawnda

Thank you for the welcome...my post is accomplishing exactly what I wanted it to! ...I wanted everyone (even the elders with stripes on this site) to know that each of our stories are unique and while I respect and appreciate the side that even they share we all have our own road...newbies, inbetweenies, elders and such the like and we all have something to gain from one another, noone regardless to if they are new or old should feel like they can't share their story good or bad and be respected for it...(I am reminded of this by my grandmother...I think she is wise and I remember needing her so much as I grew up still do but now that I am older even though I am still younger she needs me now just as much as I need her!)... I am not blind to the "warnings" here but I will say this (in respect) I won't let them "blind" me to the decisions I choose and have chosen to already make concerning my life! I am aware of Lagos...I know its difficult...but I have heard many success stories from there too...and as I said the God I serve can move mountains...surely LAGOS is nothing for him! I already know that when the time comes that obstacle is out of the way for me already! Being that I am on VJ must show that I am passed the believing the man I am with is a scammer (I have read countless stories before VJ so reading them here wasn't new and I am sorry for some it happened but for me I have concluded what I want and so I am figuring out my next move to make...If I went around living my life based on others experiences (not just here on VJ) how could I live my own life to the fullest? But this isn't just about overcoming Lagos... I understand pain very well...but I can't go forward with my life hanging on to the past hurts and failures that I have experienced in my life...that hurts noone but me...my mom taught me how to take the punches and keep on moving (thank God).Life is too short to waste on would of could of should of's...too short not to forgive...and too short not to love completely (even if you aren't loved back sometimes (ouch!) that shouldn't change your character nor cause you to hold it against another person (if this was the case I shouldn't be giving any man a chance again based on what I went through with my exhusband) but I went through it and learned from it...and I am grateful for the experience...I gained 2 beautiful children...and I learned ALOT about myself...and I concluded that for myself...I don't look back to my past...I don't rely to much on my present (it can change in a moment) and I trust God for my future completely! Have I messed up yes, will I yes, do I know it all no...but if I "feared" so many things I wouldn't have gotten pregnant, went to school, played the keyboard, sang on a stage in front of thousands, learned to drive and on an so forth...the excitement in life sometimes come from taking a chance! So that is why I took my hat off to those willing to discuss their difficulties I know it wasnt easy...God used my divorce to help me... and to help others so I am not overlooking advice as long as it is kept in respect and the "friendly warnings" are acutally friendly! Other than that I just don't have the room in my life for negative people, not just here on VJ but in my own (non-internet) life...the thing about negativity is that it is like a disease and if not cured with positive things soon will spread like a wildfire. It's one thing to be negative from time to time and a completely different thing to just be a negative person. God did not promise us life would be easy but he did say he would be there to walk with us through it all! And that is reason enough for me to keep on going...VJ to me is a God given tool and I have met some wonderful wonderful people on here...even some that have been through the WORST of things but they have such a strong FAITH in God and that is the type of people I am looking to surround myself with! Believe me I am not just here looking for the "good"...that would make this whole journey one sided! thanks again! Shawnda

why do you seem so bitter?....blessings to you still the same!...despite your negativity.... I trust God SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much more than any embassy in this WORLD....my God is a God with ALL power in his hands to move even Lagos!...somebody telling me what is impossible just gives me more joy and more peace because it will go to show just how GREAT the God I serve is!
here are a few questions though...if you don't like my threads so much... why do you reply?
Whether you have been around VJ for 1 day 1 month 1 year or 10 what does that have to do with anything?
Seems like you shoot down people quick....
And since you seem to have been around VJ for quite some time what do you do browse threads to be negative? instead of encouraging?
seems like you are only making yourself miserable by replying...so better to just "ignore" me!
SMILE! it takes years away from doubt!
ps...
a vj guide?
a contributor?
is that some kind of "award" or something after so many posts? if so I am clueless....I am not trying to achieve either I am just on VJ to get support and help! and offer it when I can!

why do you seem so bitter?....blessings to you still the same!...despite your negativity.... I trust God SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much more than any embassy in this WORLD....my God is a God with ALL power in his hands to move even Lagos!...somebody telling me what is impossible just gives me more joy and more peace because it will go to show just how GREAT the God I serve is!
here are a few questions though...if you don't like my threads so much... why do you reply?
Whether you have been around VJ for 1 day 1 month 1 year or 10 what does that have to do with anything?
Seems like you shoot down people quick....
And since you seem to have been around VJ for quite some time what do you do browse threads to be negative? instead of encouraging?
seems like you are only making yourself miserable by replying...so better to just "ignore" me!
SMILE! it takes years away from doubt!
ps...
a vj guide?
a contributor?
is that some kind of "award" or something after so many posts? if so I am clueless....I am not trying to achieve either I am just on VJ to get support and help! and offer it when I can!

See that is where I think you are wrong...I know a couple that married on a blind date and are still married over 20 years and I know some couples that new each other for years and ended in divorce...no one can predict love...People marry all kinds of ways first time second time third time, blind dates, internet, best friends, through friends...etc... to each it's own but since I'm with someone in another country I wanted to get advice from people that have been there as to the best way for us to go...not that I should "watch out" people in Nigeria...I already know all of that...I wanted to know for the embassy sake (K1, K3, CR1) was it wise for us to marry the first time..honestly if we could get married today we would...we love each other that much....lol..I would have beeen the 1st to call someone from Nigeria a scammer (I was) but my Pookie changed my mind completely...and if they are just sweet nothings...time will tell and I will be stronger in the process...I honestly didn't think I would have to come here to defend my love I just needed help and guidance...I know the risk....I won't go into details of our relationship here....but I trust this man more tha any American man I have ever talked to...I know it's a risk...I realized that from the beginning....but at the same time I know he is worth it! Thanks again! Blessings!