InHisTime

send her back to phil and ask a lawyer for advice..she just using u..give her a lesson..if she truely love u ,she wil not do such things..i am also a filipina..my fiancee process me k1 and still processing now...in GODS well,were ok..because we put GOD in our relationship.. Godbless

Hi "Bri & Mar", it is sad what the OP is going through, but we never knew exactly what is the other side of the story. It is not enough to determine once foreign spouse left the USC -- he or she just married for immigration purpose. It is not right to say the OP's wife just used him to get to the USA as we haven't heard her side. There could be true love, but there are other factors attributed why the relationship change. Right now, you are still in the visa process, you still never know what exactly gonna happen once you get to the US. There are lots of reasons --culture and traditions, money, etc. It is sometimes so difficult to totally adjust life once together in one roof. I could say this as I had been to the US thru K-1. My fiance seemed so very nice to me while he had 2 vacations here of 15 days each and we talked for over 3 years. We never had any arguments. All seemed to be very good for us. But when I arrived there -- all was just a nightmare! I wasn't treated very well especially with one member of the family. They are so attached to their belongings or things at home. They acted like very mean to me. With my almost 3 months stay there I proved that my Fiance loves me very much, but he couldn't fight for our love because of lots of fears. Things turned out not good while I was there. I was scared of how they can be mean to me. I decided not to marry though we already had our licence to marry. I came back home before my 90 days expiration. About 1-2 weeks of stay there, I could already tell that I won't last long if the way they treat me won't change. Very petty things they make it a big deal. I felt like I was dumb. I always talked to my Fiance about my feelings. He listened but it was so hard for him to do the right thing because of too many reasons. I felt really homesick and the more it really pushed me to come home. I had to stay out at the malls or anywhere most of times just to avoid staying in the house and experience more issues with the family. Good for me, I had some cash on hand and at my ATM when I went there so I enjoyed a little of America and did shopping just to lessen my hurts and frustrations. I always thought I have a good life here and a nice and secured job. I truly have loved my Fiance that was why I came to US -- sacrificing to be with him, but it didn't work out the way it should be. I wasn't happy in the US though it is a nice place to live in. I'm a woman who value myself- I cannot exchange it for green card. I was hoping to have a lifetime marriage-- not getting divorce afterwards, so what I've seen around me really scared me off. At least I tried my best and not regret later. I'm back home, having peace of mind and enjoying life once again.

I posted this to let others understand that if the relationship didn't work out -- please don't think that foreigners are just using USCs for immigration. Not everyone! There are truly good people around who have good faith and intentions -- just be nice and treat them fairly to have a lasting relationship.

OP, you may have seen your wife with another man, but you cannot make a conclusion that she is cheating you. I also have met nice friends there -- where sometimes I had to talk to them just to share what I feel deep inside my heart - releasing my frustrations and hurts because if not as if I was getting sick, crazy and heart attack -- but it doesn't mean that I was cheating. Remember, we don't have families and friends near us where we could run to if we have problems -- we are like stranger in America. There are times we have to talk it out just to feel better and make us realize that this is life that we need to accept and be strong enough. It could happen to your wife as well. We never knew. OP, May God bless you and hope you could move on with your life.

I have travelled to Canada a few times,I love Center Island,downtown Toronto & Queens Sts

My thoughts R , not much difference in the US, customer service in stores was somewhat lacking

even Holt Renfew, most Canadians R nice, lots dont like ppl from US, many never travel across

the border, How come that side of border is more respected than the other border....whats your

impression of countries you visited?

In my case, so far, these are the countries I traveled / stayed:

1. US - recently

2. Canada - been here twice; went to Downtown Toronto, Wonderland, Nigara Falls, Marina Park, CN Tower, enjoyed cruising, lots!

3. Singapore - been to Sentosa thru cable car, Universal Studio, Marina Bay, City wide, etc !

4. Soeul, Korea

5. Western Australia

6. Malaysia

7. India

I enjoyed and like them all -- each country has different experience. Yeah, majority of people in Canada are friendly - I noticed that too, of course there are also some nice ones in the US and other countries. I hope to travel more next year, hopefully Europe part!

I was angry and wasnt thinking rational. I am going through so many emotions right now. Anger, sadness, hatred , pity , revenge and so on. I dont want to suffer nor i want to waste my parents money since i didnt have a job here and i dont have any saving, I will try to choose a path which is not painfull

Thank you, i will see what i can do to get language changed on the papers and leave . I cant waste my life here when i dont have single good memory

Hi! Be strong and always think that this doesn't happened to you alone. You still have chance to renew or rebuild your life. God is good and He would take in control of your life, if you allow Him. Be happy that you found it out soon and not made it longer -- or else you would be living miserable in your entire life. Things happened for a good reason -- I'm sure God will reveal to you His plans for you. I understand that you are still angry, but don't keep anger in your heart nor revenge -- let God handle it for you. The money that you would be paying to the lawyer, I think that could even good to start your life once again. Don't add more to your losses / nightmares -- just think that it is a great blessing to start life once again with peace of mind.

Thank you , i needed these words. I believe in God and i believe in karma. He didnt only hurt me but also my family

"hopelessgal"....You are welcome! God bless you.

Guys I'm new here.What suggestions can you give me on how can i and my Girlfriend Communicate? If possible thru SMS and Calls. and what are the US rates? Thanks in advance have a good Day!

If you are using GLOBE, you can buy a pre-paid card "IDDTIPID", 100 pesos worth of card gives you 40 mins call, costing like P2.50 per minute -- you can use it on a staggered call, this is beneficial when you are mobile, not online in your computer, as long you have cellular signal.

If you are using Smart, PLDT or Sun, then you can buy their international card to call US, I think it gives you like only P 2.00 per minute. Cheaper than you make local calls.

Other means, yahoo and skype chats / video call or thru viber.... these are free use.

She can also buy a majic jack and send it over to you so can call her US phone numbers anytime for free.

What should i do?My Girlfriend is a green card holder,she will leave this October. She said that i should wait for almost 5/6 years for her to became a US citizen(naturalization)in order for her to petition me as a K1(fiance). I feel so helpless right now how can i speed things up? or if possible moved with her as soon as possible.what are my options? can i marry her when she spend some vacation here? I loved her very much even though i should say were still young. How can our Long Distance Relationship work?

True, it is very hard for you to get tourist visa. But, there is no harm in trying, there are times, without even much ties in the country, the USEM approves visa for LUCKY reason we never know.

Yes, it will take after 5 years for her to start filing for 129-F, since she needs to become a USC first. Since you mentioned that you both are still young, then, maybe it is also a test of love-- how much you still love each other over time / years. Yes, she could marry you maybe when she would have her future vacation. That is also good as when she is ready to file for you -- she will be filing a spousal visa by that time - that means, you maybe entitled to receive GC upon entry to the US, no more AOS needed as required in K-1 visa.

As to making work your LDR, it really depends on both of you. How strong and solid your relationship. Nowadays, communication modes are fast and reliable as there are cellphones and the Internet (call, SMS, IM, Skype, etc). Trust and respect are key ingredients to have lasting relationship. For now, I think you have to focus on your study or if you have graduated college, then you could start working and save for future.

No worry too much, if you two are really meant to be -- it will happen with God's grace no matter how far and long you both have to wait. Stay in love and always communicate with each other. God bless you and your girlfriend.

Hi! I hope your friend is alright and safe. I was a victim of Domestic Violence too 2009. I left my husband 1 month before my 2 year green card expire. We have 11 month old daughter that time. I have to leave my ex-husband because he has other woman too and the verbal and humilating was too much already and thinking I might do something that I might regret... Before I left the Philippines I remember we went for a day of Seminar for Domestic Abuse and I called the 1800 number the office from Manila gave me. To make story short I end up in a Domestic Violence Shelter (Florida). I suggest if she can call a Domestic Abuse hotline number this will give her all the information (all her Basic Rights as immigrant). By the way, I got my 10 year green card while in the shelter and Visa Fee Waived (I think its almost 750 dollars). Got food stamp and medicaid for my daughter. Happy Ending...now I'm happily married and my daughter is 4 years old we have our own house, car and I end up working as a Domestic Violence and Rape Victims Advocate in Florida. Just tell her don't be afraid theres help (Church people are great help too, go online and google Domestic Abuse hotline).

Hi beth, thanks for posting, glad to read about your story. I hope others especially ladies from Philippines, who are experiencing similar situation would have the courage to fight for their rights. As long you are telling the truth and doing the right thing and not FRAUD, please don't hesitate to ask for help by calling the number posted by Ms. Beth. The US government I think is very fair in treating cases like this. Don't allow yourself to settle for less. Hold on your prayers and God will give you light!

Hi there! I know how you feel -- and hopefully you could soon be out in this situation. Your husband does not loves you and I'm glad that you still know your self worth. If you still opt to live in the states in the future, then I think you should clear yourself of the accusation especially when it is NOT TRUE. However, if you intend to come back home and not interested in living back to the US again, then, the earlier you have the annulment approved the better for you so you can come home and start building your life again with peace and love of your own family. Let God handle it for you -- I'm sure your husband would face his own Karma for doing this thing to you.... just do good -- God knows the desires of your heart and for sure will bless you in His name and goodness! Be patient and always look up to God, He will give the right man for you -- don't stress out yourself and just move forward in life -- God knows best for you -- things happened for a reason. America is a nice place to live, but it should also be a place where you become happy living as well. It's not the place -- it is the person who you are sharing your life with that makes you happy. God bless !

i wanna give u an advice

im so sorry but this person dont love u

if he had relation with other girl this mean he is not in love with u

he is only using u for papers after u will do all things for him and bring him with his baby

he will leave u and send papers to this girl

open your eyes its only advice u can take it or leave it

he had relation and baby from other girl

they r all using u for papers

think well

and im sorry for my words but its only the truth

Wow! I was still typing I guess when this poster sent out his/her comments. Yeah, basically, this is what I am trying to tell you, but I don't wanna make judgment for you.....hope you listen to some red flags before it is too late, but, always it is your DECISION! May God bless you with the right guidance and wisdom and always give you hope and strength. Take care always!

I have spent alot of time reading on this site and not posted but have found alot of useful information and very helpful people. I have also seen alot of judgemental people as well. I know that this post will attract that kind of input but please unless it pertains to my question let me decide what to do with my marriage.

Okay here goes. I met my husband a few years ago online. We talked for awhile I went to see him met family and friends. We were married had a few more visits and are NVC stage and waiting for his interview for him to come over. Everything has been going good and we have used alot of information from here to get where we are. However we have some red flags big one is age difference I am much older and the ablity to have children. I am sure like all of you know this is a difficult journey and we have had some issues off and on. We had one major issue a while ago and that was he had cheated on me after our marriage. He confess to it i would never have known if he didnt sense he lives there and I am in the states.

This was heartbreaking and I was sure that we would never make it thru this but we did. I recently went to see him to get the rest of the documents we needed for NVC and just spend some time together. We had a very good time together and it seemed that our relationship is stronger than ever. And then he shared the news with me that the girl he had the affair with was pregnant and she told him it was his child. I almost died with this news. After the shock wore off I talked with my husband and his mother. She was so great to have around. It seems the girl doesnt want to keep the child and my husband thought since we are not sure we could have one of our own we could raise this child together. Since his interview we hope will be soon and the child is not born yet his mother is going to take the child to live with her while we sort things out and decide what to do. My husband is planning on getting a DNA test to prove the child is his before his mother takes it. So this may prolong his travel but we are not going to stop the process since he has 6 months to travel once he recieves his visa.

Okay here is my question. On the forms we filled out we did not list any children for him because he didnt have any and we are not sure if this is his child or not. So should we bring anything up either by amending the forms or at the interview about the baby. If the interview is before the babies birth do we say he may have a child or should we say nothing at all until we know for sure. If the baby is born prior to the interview and he finds out for sure it is his will there be an issue if it is not on the form. Also if he gets his visa before he knows and then finds out the child is his if we file for the child to come to the states will there be a problem because we didnt put it on the form to follow him here. I am so confused on what to do and I dont know if anyone has been thru anything like this I sure hope not.... Anyway thanks for hearing me out and any help about how to proceed with the interview and paperwork will be greatly appreciated.

Hello! I know you are very much in love with your husband. It seems you are a kindhearted and loving woman. I am just quite worried for you, if your husband would be honest and sincere to you when he arrives in the states knowing that he cheated you and baby is coming out soon. I know for now it is so difficult on your part especially that you truly love your husband. I hope your husband would be true to you and won't get back to his girl once he acquired his US citizenship. There are some stories like that after getting citizenship they would divorce the USCs and bring their loved ones to the states. I hope it won't happen to you as your intention is truly admirable.

For the upcoming interview, I don't think it will be a problem, just state all true information in the needed documents as well as during interview. The thing about "his child" shouldn't be bothered for now. If that is really God's plans for you, things will flow smoothly and pleasantly. Please don't stress it out. Take care of yourself and God bless!

Need Help..I was sent an RFE from the uscis asking for a copy of my fiance's divorce papers.At this time her papers are before the judge that will finalize her papers and the processes office will type them up to give to my fiance.All in all in is the last step so my fiance will have her divorce papers.The problem is uscis gave us until oct 24,2012 to have her divorce papers in and her appointment isn't until oct29 2012.So my fiance went to the solicitor generals office at the court house.She explained that she needed he divorce papers and they told her that she had to wait for the judge to finalize her divorce.But they gave her a copy of proof of filing.The solicitor general office said that uscis woukld except this as proof of divorce.

Has anyone been through this and did you use a copy of proof of filing?..

Hi "me007", oh I remember it was your case where during interview your fiancee wad denied of visa instead USEM sent back your papers to USCIS for proper review / adjudication.

I don't think proof of filing is accepted at USCIS.

Oct 24 is getting closer, hopefully your fiancee could get her court finality of annulment of previous marriage. Btw, please take note, there is no divorce in the Philippines, please correct your use of word. Divorce differs from annulment. I doubt if your fiancee could get the needed document done before the deadline. It takes longer or forever for the court in the Philippines to finalize marriage annulment. Her lawyer should help her speed up the process by frequently following up the Finality.

Once the court issued the Finality, again she or the lawyer has to bring this paper to local civil registrar for registration, then the registrar's office will forward it to the NSO in Manila so proper annotations on her previous marriage contract can be done. It would be bit faster if she would personally bring the documents to NSO and try to talk to NSO to speed up the annotation in her previous MC.

You missed one important requirement before filing 129-F, that is "legally free to marry". I think USCIS will not favor you at this time. Actually, they should have found out the error before it gets to USEM. Maybe, once your fiancee gets the court finality and register it to NSO, you may refile again. Good luck and best wishes!

hello everyone.

i just have one concern and want all ur ideas about it VJ members!!!

My fiance was living with his parents and don't have his own house for the moment,

Is that a possible issue if they will ask me on my interview, if he dnt have his own house?

***Is it possible that they will ask it on my interview?

Thank you so much,

i appreciate some ideas on it.

i'm worrying if they will ask it and if they will deny me for that case,thank you again

MYLA

NO, it won't matter. Just tell the truth, if asked. Good luck!

This I agree with wholeheartedly and those that are throwing right to stay around leaves me amazed.

I understand what you mean, but I think beneficiaries have the right to stay in the US if after the relationship didn't work out with the petitioners especially the ones who came to the US in good faith. Of course, they should have acquired legal stay, if not, it is advisable they come back home. There are beneficiaries who still want to continue life in America on their own -- we never knew they might have already resigned from their jobs or sell properties before going to the US. There are those also would be better to come home as they would have better situation. So we never know what everyone is going through. I think they have the right to stay in the US for good reasons and move forward in life. Important they aren't fraud and have done their best efforts in working on the relationship. I guess this is one reason the USCIS also tries to give protection to beneficiary-immigrant because there are also abusive USCs like taking advantage of the need of the immigrants to acquire legal stay. As always there are good and bad ones. Life has to go on despite of challenges in life. And no one has the right to stop anyone as long he / she is doing the right thing or mean doing legally and not manipulating. We all have rights to live peacefully and happily on earth. God bless everyone!

First of all please please please don't complain about my english im not so good at it so u don't have to tell me or make any smart comments cos i don't need it and im well aware I don't have a good english but the thing is atleast im trying LOL.

Ok here it goes, I would like to start a post for my friend, she came here in USA last December 2011 and got married early March ( within 90 days) Her husband was a really nice man, very sweet and all. But after they got married he become very abusive. On their wedding day he ask her a wedding present which is ( please excuse the words!!!) ####### sex so she gaved it to him since its their wedding day anyways and she thought maybe he just really like to try that kind of thing. Next is on his bday, he ask if she could pierce her tongue her belly button and her ####### as a gift and in exchange of him feeding her and buyin her clothes stuff for the foods and everything that if she will not do it he will send her back home to Philippines and all that kind of stuff like scaring her, so she called the cops on him cos she got really scared and she didnt wanna do it. When the husband knew she called the cops he apology to her and said they should go take a marriage counseling and blah blah so there for awhile they were okay until recently he got mad and just choke her and physically abusing her.So she called 911 and they went to court but the case got dismiss cos she didn't have any bruises or witnesses cos all the neigbhor who saw what happened is on the husband side, now the question is she already filed for her greencard but is still under review, she has her work permit but not the green card will she be able to stay here in america? domestic abuse actually helped her with the case but since she has not gotten even her 2yrs green card yet is she allowed to stay? Thank you and again sorry for the bad english.

Hi girl! As what other poster says, for me, your English is good and understandable. No worry about it --you expressed your thoughts very clearly.

The story of your friend is so sad. Is she still wants to stay in the US - I think she has the right to stay since she got married within 90 days and now filed for AOS, though it is still on process. As what others advised here, please tell her to report or explain the incident of abuse to the USCIS. There is nothing to fear as long she is telling the truth and not manipulating or being fraud. No one can force her to do something if she doesn't like or not comfortable about it. Respect is important to have a harmonious and loving relationship. If she won't have her legal stay in the US, it is better she come back home and have peace of mind. Please tell her to know her rights and don't settle for less. Having a GC is not the total solution / happiness in life -- there is so much more and goodness in life. God bless to you and your friend.

Hi Just want to ask if being "DIVORCE" for 6times is a red-flag?Will really appreciate for those who responded.

Hi! Personally, it is a huge red flag in a relationship, but maybe there is a possibility that you would be approved for visa during the interview if you would be able to answer very well all questions asked by the CO and have passed all requirements for K-1.

I am not sure if you really love him though you said it here. Your love alone may not enough to survive marriage to him. When you both start living together in one roof, after few months or years, things would change because of other forces like everyday expenses, bills, household chores, among others. You may find him nice, for now, since you both live apart, but mind you, there would be changes when you get to the US and live together in one roof. Emotional maturity, patience, and having a compassionate heart help improve marriage. You may want to find out the true reasons why his 6 marriages failed ? I doubt if you may find the true answers now, of course, he won't tell it to you all.

There are people who seems to be very nice at the beginning especially when there is no pressure at all or he/she is on vacation mode or still visiting.

Hopefully, you aren't marrying him for immigration purpose. You might be adding to his bad experiences in marriage -- going to be the 7th divorce.

Girl, hope you find time to reflect in silence -- if he is really the man you want to spend for the rest of your life. Be honest to yourself. I am sure you don't want to experience divorce. It's not easy going through this especially when you are away with your own family. Also, you should consider the implications if you are going through K-1 route as you still need to AOS after marriage so you could legally stay in the US. Your potential husband should be very supportive of you with all the processes of immigration.

May God bless you and hopefully God would reveal to you His plans in your life and relationship. Take care always.

Thanks so much to everyone for the well wishes. Yes, the important thing is my love is here with me now. We have had two wonderful days together!

Yes, InHistime's comments are exactly correct. Ying noticed this one Customs guy was particularly tough, not just to her, but to everyone (a little too much with the Napoleon complex?). She said people even with tourist visas were being given tough time. She noticed on the plane (a Cathay Pacific flight from Hong Kong), many of the Chinese were nervous, even man next to her with a business visa, because in China it is apparently well know that Chicago O'Hare is like this.

And yes, I am contemplating giveing some feedback for sure. I am thinking of calling the Customs office at O'Hare and asking who is in charge that I can send a feedback letter of our experience to.

Anyway, thanks so much to everyone for the congrats, and best wishes to everyone else on their Visa Journey!

Hi there, Steve! Yes, please do give feedback to them. I was also on Cathay Pacific flight from Hongkong. Exactly, there was one immigration officer assigned there who was very strict. A lot of immigrants and even tourists had to wait longer and he requested a security officer to accompany us to a small room for another wait and interrogation. It was not pleasant at all -- it made me so nervous. At that moment, I was thinking they should have denied my visa during the interview -- if they think I was fraud. He asked difficult and surprising questions, much tougher than the interview.

Anyway, enjoy now and congratulations!

I sent my Fiancee a prepaid phone just for this instance.

Excellent idea.

Glad that you have done well with your Fiancee. Good luck and may God bless you and your fiancee to have a wonderful and loving marriage.

Ying arrived at O'Hare yesterday! Interesting POE experience. Customs officer makes us wait 2 hours. He was much tougher on her than the Guangzhou interview. She had to wait a long time, and then the interview was over 10 minutes, maybe enen 15 (consulate interview was all of 5 minutes!). He asked her questions about my ex wife, and why we broke up, and during the interview asked her 3 different times about how we met, like he was trying to see if he could trip her up. She did get through, and we are together now, but I am very angry about the experience she was put through.

My comments - the time for the tough interview is at the consulate, before the foreign national has quit their job, sold off their house and possessions, said goodbye to everyone, and bought a plane ticket of over a thousand dollars, not at the POE. That is what the Consulate interview is for, to determine that the immigrant is on solid ground and truely qualifies, and the immigrant is warned not to quit job or make other arrangements until they get the visa, rightfully so. But after they have gone through the long visa process and all the checks they have gone through already, and they are approved and get the visa, for the Customs person to try to deny them entry at the POE is an extreme disservice to any immigrant. I think this part of the process is broken! Just my thoughts.

Anyway, thanks again to this wonderful site and all the wonderful, helpful people during the Visa Journey. I will still be using this great site for AOS advice, etc., so I'm not done yet.....

Sorry this happened to your fiancee. Yes, O'Haire is very tough. I had similar experience during my POE at O'Haire. I was deeply interrogated with lots of questions and held up in a small room for about 30-45 mins before they released me. My K-1 visa interview was very smooth and relaxing - the consul didn't make it hard for me. I noticed that immigration officer assign in one post at O'Haire is very suspicious. In fact, I observed there were others (even tourist visa holders) who also experienced same difficulties at same POE. Yeah, it is very scary, I too thought they would deplane me. But, I always have in mind that I should never be scared of as I know my documents are all authentic and never committed any fraud. I agree with the poster on how his fiancee felt at that time. It was really scary and heartbreaking -- anything can happen at the POE. It is advisable that beneficiaries would have phone working at the POE, just in case, he / she could contact his / her petitioner. In my case, at that time, my phone wasn't working anymore. I was just praying hard that God would help me get through.

God bless to the OP and his fiancee, stay in love forever.

hi everyone on VJ! anyone here knows if I (beneficiary) can cancel the visa application? My fiance has been soo mean to me. I gave up a lot of things for him. I am a nurse and because he doesn't like my schedule he asked me to stop. I didn't want more fighting so i quit the job and try to be always available for him. But he never treated me fairly. He also didn't tell me that he was divorced four times. When i got sick, he accuses me of pretending and just seeking for attention( which is nonsense to me because he's not capable of taking care of me). I took a chance on him and he was just putting on a big faked when i met him. I came from a decent educated family and this guy visited me in Philippines and spent 90% of the time drinking, cussed me in front of my mom and my grandmother. I met this guy in Philippines last year and he seemed to be a perfect guy; now i know that he was just putting on a show and he's just looking for a new ex-wife. Our visa process is now close to the 5th month since NOA1. What should i do? i want to move on with my life and not stuck up with this visa thing because i know that he's not doing anything to cancel it even though i asked him to do so a million times!

I don't know if you can cancel it, but maybe you can send email to USCIS and USEM, include the name of petitioner in your email.

You are thinking the right thing. If he is very mean to you now, what more when you are already in the US. Don't be afraid to lose him. You would find better one. Don't settle for less just by getting a green card. You won't be happy having a GC and living with a miserable life. There are still lots of good men. Be proud that you what is right for you. Take care and be strong. God bless you.

I am sure many of you know my story. I cancelled the paperwork for my husband when he took off prematurely after he thought his green card was all set. Of course he is still in the United States and I am sure has no plans to leave. I am trying to not worry about that since truly as long as my life is ok he can do whatever he wants. I can only do so much to get myself out of this mess, then I just need to let it be with immigration. I do not have a mission in life to make his life hell or worry about what he is doing daily.

Well today I get a message alerting me that someone has been trying to hack in my fb. Thinking this was spam I was getting ready to delete it but an email address caught my eye. When I saw the name on the email address my heart sunk. The email address is one of his friends in his home country. It clearly stated that this was the email address attempting to get into my account. Now i am thinking is the first facebook then on to my bank accounts? I am so sick to my stomach I can't stand it anymore. I feel so lost and unprotected.

Sorry this is happening to you. Be careful and proactive. Change all your bank accounts / passwords. Your ex seems to be very dangerous. Hope you get over with this soon.

The last few weeks I also got notifications in my yahoo account that my email is being hacked by someone from Nigeria. It happened few times. I was advised to change my password. I was quite worried because I saved the passwords of my 2 online bank accounts (peso and dollar accounts) in my email folder so I can easily check it online when I forgot it, just in case. I realized it was not a good idea because nowadays there are lots of hackers. I don't even know anyone from Nigeria. I was wondering how and where did they get my email account. I presume maybe because sometimes I used to register my email on a particular websites for some products / services I got interested. Not sure, but it was happened to me.

Anyway, take care and hope things will work favoring you. God bless!

I agree with this: Not because of a job change. USCIS probably don't even know about a job change and the job change could mean a better job as well. Even if it is not a better job. I doubt this is the reason for the RFE. You will have to what it is. Most likely simple. And answer the RFE know matter what it is. And yes, I also agree that it can be positive meaning there looking at your case. So relax... Think.. WOW.. There looking at our File..

Very right Stay positive!

Hi i was wondering if anyone here could tell me is it true what i heard that 50 percent of k1 visas are denied at the embassy interview in manila?

What is the source of your data ? K-1 has high approval rate based on my perception or observations. Perhaps for tourist visa that would be the case. K-1 is easier as long you have authentic and complete documentary requirements. There are times beneficiaries, during interview, they are required to submit additional / new documents, but in the end they still get approval. It's a matter of proving genuine relationship and having met all the immigration requirements.

Thank you for your reply and correction of fiance/fiancee.

I'm pretty sure it is possible for an inmate to file for some type of visa including K1 since I have seen some people who were in the same situation sharing their experiences of it but I needed to know more specific details about processing.

Yeah, I guess I will wait for those people who's experienced and has knowledge about this. But, thanks anyways!

Thank you very much! I will do so.

Ooh..that is good to know. Go ahead girl! Good luck and may God bless you and your fiance.

Hi everyone. I am new here and need your advice regarding the topic immediately... This is our situation.

My fiancee is currently in jail serving his time (for arm robbery) and will be released next summer.

I'm trying to get K1 visa and go back to US around the time he gets out.

He already did 2 years and I have visited him last July and this September (We took pictures each time).

I have figured the requirements for K1 and have everything almost ready.

I will send them to my fiancee's family in US and they will send the package to USCIS.

Now, my questions are below.

- In my fiancee's address, should I put the jail's address or his home address?

I would like to put his home address because there is so much possibility that the notifications from USCIS would not reach to my fiancee if it's sent to the jail.

- On Declaration of how we met in person in the last two years, should I be honest and explain about my fiancee's situation being in jail?

- Are we most likely to be denied due to his crime? Is there any idea how much possibility it would be?

Please someone help me =( Your advise would be really really really appreciated...

Thank you for reading.

I'm sorry to hear about your Fiance. By the way, before going further, let me first clear up to you the thing "fiance and fiancee" as I am quite confused who is really the one going to file for K-1 petition. Please take note, Fiance refers to the man engaged to be married; while Fiancee is the woman engaged to be married. Since you used "his" to refer your SO, then, you are the beneficiary or fiancee.

Honestly, I really admire the essence of love you have with your fiance. He is in jail now, but, it doesn't stop you from loving / seeing him. That's good of you being supportive.

Since he is still in jail, that means he is still serving the consequence of his action. I am not sure if it alright to file the petition for K-1 at this moment. I just thought he should have first clearance from the crime he committed.

Let us wait for senior and experienced VJ members to chime in for an accurate answer.

Yes, definitely, you need to be HONEST in all the processes / steps. There is no way to cover up anything, as it will surely come out. Be proactive though.

God bless you and your fiance. Good luck !

Hi OP! Don't give up, soon you will finally end the process and be with the love of your life. Time flies very fast. At least something will gonna happen soon and that is worth waiting for. It maybe slow, but it will definitely have an end.

There are pros and cons in K-1 as well as in CR-1.

For me, spousal visa is best of all especially when the beneficiary is sincere as it really protects her legally in the US. As you know, it is not easy moving to another country especially when you have established your life and have a good job in your own country. It is a sacrifice to leave everything behind at all because of love. But, with K-1, the beneficiary may get in trouble establishing legal stay in the US, if the petitioner has issues that haven't discussed or seen before moving. After marriage, the AOS has to be filed with support of the petitioner to get work authorization and GC to start a new life in America.

On the other hand, K-1 is also good, as it gives time to think upon arrival in the US, when the K-1 fiancee is not being treated well, while CR-1 is closed -- when it doesn't work, it goes to divorce. While K-1 fiancee could still move backward by not pursuing marriage and come back home before 90 days expiration.

I think in everything -- whatever immigration route it is, the heart is what matters most. It is important to know the real intention of petitioners and beneficiaries. It has to be real love and got to have lots of patience and determination. There is no certain in life - so keep moving forward.

Remember things happened for a reason. So be glad in it and have faith.

I wish everyone here in VJ a successful journey. Love your partner like there is no more tomorrow -- give love to the fullest! God bless to all !

By the way, OP if you really love your Fiance, you won't matter waiting a little more time, as you know this would be a lifetime chance for both of you to live together. If you pull it off, then you will have to start again, unless you aren't sure of what you are going through. Good luck!