InHisTime

You posted this question in the Philippine forum, so I won't bother answering here as you got good answers there.

I think the form can be downloaded in the CFO website.

You spent more time writing then reading the thread. Your answers are in this thread. God is in control and as I already said I take responsibility and have no regrets because everything is God's decree and I did not say I am Christian. I have given her way too many chances and there is honor in deporting her because she cost me a lot of money and hardship. I always learn from everything. And God says to cast her away from me and that is deportation. We have enough bad people in this country and as a former DHS employee it is honorable to keep her out and protect the people from her. As I said before I have not forced her to my religion, she lied to get here. She deserves worse than being deported. But I have peace in my heart and I want to move on and just let God punish her. She sees me praying to God 6 times a day and sometimes more. I practice what I preach. I am the one who did all of the work to get her here. About getting to know her more, how could I? I met her while I lived in China and I visited her in the Philippines and went to her home town easily because the flight was not long or expensive. I moved back to the USA because of her and our future kids we planned to have and I worked so hard to find a job in the recession. I'm not bitter and God granted me permission to act out against those who attack me and those of evil and what I plan to do is not punishment at all, it's getting my life back. I allow God to control my life but it's not up to me, everything is his decree, so I have no regrets and trust in God. He has guided me my whole life.

Well, so sorry again. As what others said, you have no right to deport her. You just need to report to the USCIS, but, still it has to be proven if she really used you for immigration. And. it is really hard for me to judge her without truly listening from her side. I understand your feelings. Right now, I know you are still angry with her and that is why you want to deport her. That is a normal feeling. I just think if you really want peace in your heart -- then move on with your life and lift it all to God. It doesn't happen to you only. I'm sure you have learned great lessons here that would be very helpful. Things have to happen this way, because God loves you very much. He doesn't want you to suffer more. Just look at it positively and feel blessed that God guided you all throughout. Take care and I wish you peace in your life! May God bless you more.

How can I get my wife deported and how much would I have to pay? My wife has betrayed me and does nothing but fight with me and watch tv. She is not doing her job in the marriage. She didn't cheat, but is a compulsive liar . She said she converted to my religion for us before she came here and now she is here and says she won't. It's against my religion to be married to her. I want her back in the Philippines. She is a user. She has lied about me to my family and they believe her. Every day with her feels like torture. She has physically abused me but mostly verbally.

I'm sorry for your post. It's really hard to give best advice in your situation as we only hear your side. As they say it takes 2 to tango. In every action there is always an opposite reaction. I think it is best that you buy her a plane ticket if she wants to go back to the Philippines. But, if not, then you may file a divorce if you think the relationship is not workable.

Through faith in God, maybe you should give another chance to work out ? Did both of you undergo counseling ? why not try it ?

If no more love, trust and respect, well, I think you have to divorce her and move on with your life. To deport her is not an honorable thing to do IMO. I believe she won't be in the US without love and sacrifices from both of you in doing all the paperwork. It just didn't work out I guess. Love and Marriage should be work out / nurture always. There is no perfect one. If she is a user, you should have known her better before filing. So, I guess she shouldn't be blamed or judged now that things have changed. There is no certain in life. We have to be responsible on our own actions.

To force her to join your religion is not good. Maybe she changed her mind and you have to respect her on this aspect. Maybe, in time she would want to, but, never force her. It takes time -- it won't be an overnight process. She has to see in you the goodness of what you are believing. It is good to lead by example. We need to practice what we preach so it could be emulated easily.

I believed it wasn't easy for her to leave the Philippines to be with you. So, pray for her so she could live well in the US without your support. Don't be bitter -- vengeance is awful and not a good christian act. Let God handles it as He knows best. Trust God. In this way, you could move on with your life with no regrets. It is always good to apply biblical approaches in solving our problems. It will make us feel better and have peace in our hearts.

I believe there is someone better for you -- pray for God's revelation. "All things happened for a reason". God bless you ! Great things will come to you if you allow God to take in control of everything.

I am filing my I-129f and I can not remember if I had to have my divorce decree and also my fiancee's divorce decree.Can anyone help if I need these documents to file I-129f

Hi there ! I suggest you have to wait for the finality of annulment of your fiancee. It would be best that you attach a copy of your divorce decree and your fiancee's finality of annulment in your 129-F petition to show that both parties are legally free to marry. This is a strict requirement before filing the petition. I think USCIS overlook your 1st petition, they should have denied the 1st petition at the USCIS level. The dates of finality of annulment and filing of 129-F are very important to prove that both parties are legally free to marry at the time of filing the petition.

Anyway, sounds the two of you are strong enough to face this challenge. Don't give up, your fiancee will get her visa for sure on the 2nd interview. God is good !

Hello! sorry to hear about your Fiancee in Vietnam. Never lose HOPE ! God is good always. Cry out to God for mercy and I'm sure everything will be Ok. Dengue is sometimes fatal, if not given the right care and medication. Tell her to take plenty of fluids to avoid dehydration. Yes, I heard coconut water is very good. In fact there is an on-going research on this. If you have resources, why not visit her ? I'm sure it will inspire her. Again, keep up your spirit ! Keep praying and trusting God -- sure, He will bring the two of you together soon. God bless !

WELL

I am planning to apply my mother also for a tourist visa next year, she is the only one now coz my father past away 10 years ago, she doesn't have also any land title or big amount of money in the bank. she is 70 years old now. hope and pray we made it.

Well, let her try I remember one old woman from our city -- she was asked by the consul why she wants to go to America? She simply said,"I'm old, but it is still my dream to see America". She got a 10 year multiple entry visa. In fact she just used the visa once.

With no property, savings the chance to get a tourist visa would be slim to none. They CO will not even look at the affidavit of support, as your parents need to qualify on their own, and need to proof a strong ties back home. In your scenario they can't show that, as nothing really holding them back there.

I feel for you and only wish you a good luck.

Well, it maybe true, but not always! 6 years ago I applied for tourist visa - I was bringing a lot of supporting documents all original copies (land titles, building registrations, business permit, bank passbook with some amount to support my trip, work certification reflecting my income, income tax, etc -- all in my name). In fact, I was also bringing my used old passport, just in case to show that I had traveled already to countries like Canada, Australia, Singapore, Korea --just for short tourist purpose) still, I felt so unfair - the consul didn't even ask me to show those documents. I think age of applicant counts more ! Normally, if you are below 40 they tend to be very strict. I was just asked few questions like who is going to take care of my kids when I will be out knowing that I'm a solo parent.....it sucks! honestly, I didn't have any intention of staying longer in the US as I really can't stay out of the country as I do have a lot of businesses to attend here. Anyway, it was still a good experience............... So....sometimes it is about luck ! and the will of God !

You will know their chances if they give it a try. I want my parents to apply for a tourist visa this year too. They dont have huge savings in the bank but they are in in their 70's.

Agree! always be positive I know some older people got 10 year multiple tourist visa. The consul didn't even check any financial / real estate documents. There are times the consul use his instinct / heart... it's always case to case. God bless

Hi there ! Sorry to hear about the status of your K-1 petition. 6 months is still under normal processing time. However, it is surprising to note why he didn't get NOA1. NOA1 comes out within 2-3 weeks at most from filing date. Then your case number is reflected there so you could track the status online at USCIS website.

If you have noted there are some cases who got approved (NOA2) earlier like in 2-4 months. I hope you could extract more accurate information from your Fiance. I'm not sure how USCIS could track it, but, it is worth trying I guess. Hope to hear some good news then. God bless you dear.

Hello! Well, sorry to hear about your friend. Please tell her the good advices of VJs here. Never ever break immigration law. If the guy really loves her, then he will find legal ways to bring her to the US. Tell her NOT TO RUSH, go back home and see if this guy is still interested. She should take it one day at a time. If our intention is real, then God will bless the desires of our hearts. There is always HOPE. God bless to both you.

Hi there! I understand your feelings, it's normal. For now, just pray and relax. Enjoy what you are doing now, once your partner will be with you, I guess you won't have time for yourself anymore. I'm sure you will hear from USCIS soon. Have more patience and everything will come to an end -- do enjoy this journey despite of long wait. Take care and God bless you.

Glad to hear the good news. God is good always! Congrats !

I'm overly stressed I contacted the U.S Embassy and also the NVC and they both have confirmed that my fiance's interview is on April 3rd but we have yet to receive the interview package, should we be worried? Should I proceed and purchase my plane ticket? The last letter I received was from the NVC that they were sending our case to the embassy.

Please advice....Thanks in advance....

I think you have to wait until visa on hand, then you can purchase plane ticket. You are overly stressed now, so I guess that will add more stress to you if you have already plane ticket and still no definite time of visa approval. Your fiance can already proceed for his medical exam, no need to wait for the interview package. The interview package doesn't arrive on time and sometimes you have to wait forever. There are list of documents / requirements needed to bring to the interview. I think you can check it at USCIS website or at the local US consulate website where your Fiance will be interviewed. You can also check it out here on VJ. Good luck and have a blessed day!

just sent the RFE yesterday and hoping to hear the good news.. spent vacation w/my fiance for 2weeks and we both prepared all the additional evidence required. We even included payments made for a house we bought (w/c i totally forgot to include before) for business purposes (renting). and all other receipts we found since last 2 years ago. It's been so long and i want my fiance to be here w/me.. that's all i think about when i came back from my short vacation in the Philippines. well, God be with us..

I'm sure you and your fiancee will be together soon. Time flies faster --- keep the faith. Best wishes in advance !

I can't believe I sat in this interview for 50 minutes!!! I even shook her hand on my way out... Thank you confuse30...i now realize I have a lot of patience

Hehehe! I think you have a lot of patience. And, Patience is a very good virtue. Honestly, you did the right thing -- you have managed yourself very well at that very awful moment. It's a shame on the HR part, not yours actually. Most of the awful situations can actually be handled properly if we all know how to properly RESPOND on a given situation. It's always our choice -- so I praise you for responding well to the situation. Not all can do that. It's an act of maturity or professionalism. Just move on and try your best next time. God will see you through. Keep trusting God. He has great things ahead of you. God bless you.

Greetings!

We're gearing up for the interview and I've scoured this website, the government sites and Google for specifics on the K2 and have yet to find anything. I feel like I'm going into that part of it blind and thus, unprepared.

The consulate in Manila sent us a happy-joy letter with just my fiance's case number (not any for the children), although both of their names were mentioned on the I-129.

My questions:

1. Are there no case numbers for the children?

2. At what point specifically does the K2 happen?

The way I'm seeing it now, my fiance will simply pay 3 VISA fees ($350 each). She will get the medicals done for herself and her two children. Using HER single case number, the doctors and such at St. Luke's Medical Center will fax a form with her case number to the appropriate folks who will have that for the interview. Honestly at that point, I'd schedule the interview (looks like it's up to 6 business days out? http://travel.state.gov/visa/temp/wait/wait_4788.html?post=Manila&x=65&y=11). Are we to just assume they'll pull out K2s at the interview and fill them out there.. ?

Thanks in advance for any help you can provide!

-Mike

Yes, you are very right! Your fiancee has to pay $350 each for visa (1 K-1 and 2 K-2); each of them will also pay for medical exam at SLEC. The K-2 will use same Case Number as your Fiancee. And, definitely they should have the same date and time of interview. They need to fill out each document needed for interview. I just hope that you listed all her kids in the petition. Good luck to you guys and God bless !

You can always leave an interview.

Yeah, I agree ! but, it is still an honorable thing to do -- being able to control our emotion or anger when we are prompted to a similar situations. Only very few people can manage their anger on the right time. I salute the poster though !

Hey Guys,

I'm still so upset after leaving this interview which took place 2 days ago. This was the most intrusive interview I've ever been to and I almost walked out! I had 3 different phone interview and was then invited for a one on one after the third phone interview. Here are some of the questions that were asked:

1. Where have you been applying for jobs? (I had to give websites)

2. What companies have you applied to? Please list all the companies and the positions applied for.

3. Have you been called for an interview? (my answer was no)

4. Why do you think you're not being called?

5. What key words do you use to search for jobs?

6. Have you thought of applying for jobs below supervisory and management? (My answer was yes, I have)

7. And still no interview? (Her response was, "that's odd")

8. When did you leave high school?

9. What did you do after that?

10. Where did you do your internships? Were they paid? How much?

There was a gap in my employment history and I told her I was unable to work because I had complications with my pregnancy(this is back in my home country) and had to be on bed rest. The following questions were immediately asked:

1. So, you were married to your husband at that time? (My response was no)- BTW, I never told her I was married, she saw my ring.

2. So the baby is not for your husband?

3. When did you get married?

4. When did you come to the states?

5. So, you've been with your husband for a long time. Were you together all that time?

6. Where are you living now? (My answer was, the same address when I just came here, at my moms house)

7. So, you and your husband live at your mom's house?

8. How long has you mom lived in the states?

9. Did you always plan to live in the States?

10. Do you have siblings? How many? Where do they live?

11. Does your green card expire? (My answer was yes, after 2 years)

12. Do you get another 2 years after that?

At this point I wanted to take back my resume and walk out!!I thought this was another immigration interview!! She was sooo unprofessional, at one point she reached into her pocketbook, took out a jar of vaseline and applied some to her lip!! REALLY??!!

Guys, I've been adviced to report her to the HR Dept and file a complaint, but it seems like this is the norm for this company. What do I do? I felt like there was some discrimination involved and I'm truly hurt and upset by her lack of professionalism and invasion of privacy.

SOOO MAD!!!

Wow ! sorry to hear about this. The questions are very intrusive -- more on personal attack. Thank God that you were not hired by this company or else I don't think you would be happy with the kind of HR they have. Just be patient and I'm sure you will find a job soon. God bless you.

Friend, hope you bear in mind that in the eyes of God -- we are all very precious to HIM. There is no condemnation in the kingdom of God. We all fall short -- all of us have sinned, so please try not to pass judgment to anyone no matter who they / we are. Only God can judge us as HE is our creator and savior. Please be well and stay cool ! If we could help someone out of his / her bad situation that would be a blessing. Take care and God bless you !

@Alma27, sorry about your situation -- I know everything happened for a reason. I hope you listened to the very good advices of our VJs. Please protect yourself by staying away from him. Thank God that you are still alive. Hope you find a good lawyer to help you out and get your GC. Hope next time you should be very careful. Try to live well and always pray to God to guide you in all your challenges. God bless you!

Hello there! hope you are feeling better now. I'm so sorry this happened to you. I know how it feels, but, it's a blessing from God. God loves you so much and He knows best for you. You are a very sweet person - keep it up. God has greater things ahead of you. You deserve a better and sincere man. In time, you'll come to realize that there is a very good reason why things happened. Please try to move on....it's his lost! you will be fine, just hold on to God. There is always sunshine after the rain. God bless you.

EXCUSE ME! But your reply to my thread is the one that is nonsense to me OK. I am asking this question not because it is my STATUS! I know people who did that in my country - what is UNFAIR? That they were got approval of K1 visa even if they got married in the Philippines. AND FOR YOUR INFORMATION, my STATUS in US is already a permanent resident awaiting for our approval of conditional status OK..... this question doesnt refer to me. What is being unfair about asking that here.....? What is your problem? Maybe you were one of those who did that, LOL

This person got MARRIED in the PHILIPPINES after they got their K1 VISA approved.....don't you understand that or you also did the same thing huh? Can you read my question as a whole... you're the one who is nonsense, LOL

Hi there ! I do understand your concern, but, as Leatherneck said....you don't have to worry about it - it's THEM, NOT YOU. Be glad that you didn't do this as clearly this is unethical. Let USCIS find it out for them, its no longer your business, in my opinion. Just be grateful to God that you did well in your immigration process. Have a peaceful mind. If you wish you could also have the same great wedding in the Philippines when you and your husband are able. May God bless you and take care of your marriage.

That's the thing!! Before this January, i never saw this side of her... our 1st year was the best though.... so sweet, caring, thought she's the perfect girl.... then last year when I visited her she acted less close to me and acted extremely jealous.... then this year is the worst. So.... what is her "true" self? The one that i saw who was COMPLETELY SWEET? Or the new one, who has did a COMPLETE 180 degree change? We can work, IF, she accepts her faults, and completely changes her ways..... yes, it hurts a lot.... but i dont feel like quitting just yet.

I understand why you won't quit for now as you truly love this girl. In fact, coming to see her indicates your strong feeling for her. But, God is telling you to slow down for now -- assess the situation you are in. I know it is really hard as this matters your heart, but, be strong and wise. Please love yourself too. Seems you are a good man. You deserve one who is compassionate, consistent and reliable -- one who takes HEART in a relationship. Please give enough time of knowing her true character and personal values. You won't be happy in the end if you marry a selfish and self-centered woman. You cannot change her to become a better person, even you give her all what she wants-- only God can change her, but, she needs to humble herself to the Lord.Hope she would realize and come before God. I pray that you would be able to discern God's will for you. May you guard your heart too.

The scripture says

Jeremiah 29 verse 11 states, "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight." We have to admit that our own wisdom and understanding of our circumstances is limited to our own human experience of life. But God has a plan, and he is able to see your future, his understanding is greater because he knows your future.

Sorry this happens to you....but you will be fine in the end I know -- just trust God and learn from this experience.

Hello ! I think she is not worth keeping. A relationship should be two-way. She may change for a while, but might go back to her old self. You have to be very careful -- what is really her intention of you ? Is it true love? Please get to know her better first before you finally decide to marry her. Thank God that you discovered her true self now than later. You will be fine -- MOVE ON ! Upon reading your concerns, she doesn't deserve your best love and efforts. I know it is painful-- it hurts, but -- in time you will find a good woman who truly deserves your loving and sincere heart. God loves you and I'm sure he has someone better for you. Have a safe flight back to the US and may God bless you!

Advance congratulations and happy valentine's day ! (L)