Ron and Rhea

No offense taken.....I did not hire a lawyer, as the K1 process is something I felt I could handle on my own...with the help of some friends on here. A therapist, I used, because it was something I felt I could not handle on my own. I had a hernia operation a few years ago, I hired a doc for that, didn't do it myself, hahah. Some things are better off left to the experts.

I would hardly call what she is doing as cute and playful, she has some emotional issues that need to be dealt with...obviously the OP isn't happy with what is going on, and its not cute and playful to him, sir.

According to OP she acted like that before being preggo, so you can't use that for the reason to act childish. And people have been having babies for a few years now, ahaha, and most know how to deal with it as an adult, in an adult manner.

I find that interesting how you used the word, 'they' and said 'they are cute and playful'....who is this 'they' sir? That's the same as saying blacks are like this, or that, or Japanese men are like this or that....I am not a fan of stereotyping people sir.

So I, personally feel, just about anyone could benefit from therapy, and the OP and his wife most certainly could...just my 2cents.

No Offense....let me ask you. Did you hire a lawyer for your K1 process? For them hiring a therapy is like hiring a lawyer for K1 process. Just a waste of time and money. They are having sweet little moments and he is confusing that with problems.

Back to the subject:

The lady is expecting a baby. Give her a break. Maybe she has no idea how to deal with this.

I got to tell you some times they are way to playful and sweet. We just need to know how to interpret them.

I still think you have a cute spoiled girl. Take good care of her!

I don't think that makes sense. The type of people who visit Visa Journey for advice are usually those who would not need a lawyer; but others certainly may need one. But those who visit Visa Journey for marriage advice probably DO need therapy.

Hey Hank...double espresso at Starbucks in the Philippines sounds good right about now, ahaha

:thumbs: smell the coffee too ~ double espresso yet

As I've said before, the book, 'His needs, her needs' would help both of you a lot. Therapy is a no brainer....you gotta do it or you will have continued unhappiness dude.

Well its diabetes...so its a concern but I am not sure how much of a concern.

Thanks guys...

My fiances mom has a few med probs, nothing too major, but enough to where leaving her is going to be more difficult than we expected. Fiance is leaving on Friday...I was wondering how soon could she go back to see mom? Lets say if we marry June 1st....ist there a time before one can leave U.S...?

Thank you everyone!! I wish all of you the best of luck and may God's grace be upon all your journeys!!

One step closer...before you know it you will be in the few days before he flies here...!!

Thats the ticket Hank...and it is YOU that is showing off, hahaha.

hope you're having fun over there man.

show off!!

For me I figured it would be best if I delivered the credit card to my fiancee....

You know, just playing devils advocate...as the old saying goes, there are three sides to every story, yours, theirs and the truth. Somewhere in the middle is the truth.

again, thank each and every one of you for the kind wishes

To follow up on the therapy comments, as I shared earlier, therapy works wonders, if you want it to. You can't force anyone to go, and if you do and they are not receptive of the help, its a waste of time and money. Yes you can gain a lot by going at it alone. You will learn a lot about yourself and how you deal with things in your marriage and in life. Often, I hear, once the spouse not attending therapy sees the inner peace in you, they wind up going themselves.

I agree with this...(sleeping naked)...in fact, we have done, and will continue to do when Diana gets here next friday, a naked day. We spend the entire day, naked. Needless to say, there is a lot of love going on, but we just hang out, (no pun intended), also and just connect with ourselves and each other.

Of course, we sleep naked, everynight.

We are not perfect, but we do ok.

1. Get shot and survive, take 14 months to recover

2. Have a heart attack and bypass surgery

You will never worry about where the measuring cup is again. (are you serious, really?) Sleep with your wife, naked, every night. You will forget all about this nonsense.

Someone said she will not change, and to a degree they are right, we are who we are. You were on tack with therapy. Prior to my divorce, 31 years of marriage, I went to therapy, the BEST think I've ever done, I only wished i did it earlier. Sometimes my X, at that time wife, would come up, and I'd explain her anger and controlling issues to the therapist. Eventually the therapist wanted us to do couples therapy, which we did...boy was my X good in those sessions, but eventually her anger showed, and her control issues came out, and the therapist said, 'I'd like to do some individual sessions with you, to see the source of your anger'....that was it, she never went back, for couples or anything. She, like you wife, would never admit she it wrong, would never say sorry, etc. To go to therapy you have to admit to yourself that someone else could possibly help you with some of your problems.....My fiance, and wife in June, is the complete opposite. She gets angry, sure, but she can express herself, and she will admit when she is wrong in a second and say sorry.

Good luck buddy.

Was she that charming before being preggo...? If she was not that insane then you can perhaps attribute some of her behavior to her being preggo, however it also seems like she may need some work in the art of respect and communication. If she can't communicate without getting angry then that is a big problem. Tell her she needs to verbalize herself to you, not just act emotionally.

There is a great book, http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6020_needs.html it may even be on cd, not sure. I would say you two need to read it, it will help you both.

Kewl...congrats.

More thanks to you guys and SpaceJ...I know exactly what you mean. I remember in Sept when we filed, and I saw others posting what I just did, about their fiance coming in a week....I was like, man, I am happy for them, but also jealous....then Oct, Nov, Dec, more waiting and not knowing when she was coming. It was stressful and it sucked but eventually time passes and you too will be posting the same thing and your fiance will be here before you know it.

Thanks everyone. I have been getting things together, and will spend this weekend doing some more cleaning.....jeez.

Well guys...Diana will be flying to start our new life in 6 days...will be here next friday....whooo hooo

Its been a loooong procedure, but this forum and the fine people on here, (well except for one dork)...made the trip much easier and cheaper than using a lawyer.

Cary...lucky for me I work at the airport..I just walked upstairs. But I can see it being a hassle.

We used Delta too...all I had to do was go to any Delta ticket counter, give flight and confirmation info to the Delta agent, they verified it was not fraud, put it in the computer, we are good to go. I called them a few days later to make sure it was input in their system. Yes, so you need to do this.

So sad to read your story. I don't have answers to your questions. But to me, the way you are telling the story, he is not being a husband...or even a good human being. I do not blame you for attempting to divorce him, unless he was upfront with any conditions he had, you do not deserve to be treated like that.

You tried therapy, and I can attest, it can work miracles, if both of you guys want it to....he would be amazed at what could happen there. I went for a few months, about a year and a half ago, I only wished I went a long time ago.

There are plenty of smart people on here so I know you will get answers to your questions.

Good luck sister.

Flew Hawaiian Airllines, never been unhappy with them. Phoenix to Honolulu leg they arrived an hour early, they the jet stream was kind once more for the Manila stretch as they arrived 45 minutes early. Custom was a breeze as we were the only flight so in and out in 10 minutes. Trouble was I told my fiancee to not be there until after 7 PM because of hold long it took to get through customs last time, so I stood curb side for over an hour... lots of "offers to assist me" for a price of course.

All is good! Bought Amy's best friend a Magic Sing so you can only imagine what we are doing on a Saturday morning... LOL!!! All I can say is they are having all the fun!!

Oh yea Hank, been there done that on the requests for help at airport in Manila, haha.

You would think Philipino's invented karaoke....lol.

Have fun bro.

We received our police report back from Cairo last week...there was no charge for this request, she had went to the Egyptian consulate and made request. I did read if your fiance resided or worked in a country that required one to be present in said country for the request, you could have a waiver. Not sure if that would apply to you guys at this point.

I was going to PM you Jim...I knew you would have a helpful reply...thanks so much, again, for your help.

Hey Hank, ahha, wow bro you are there, great news. And its great news its not raining there too..!! How was your trip and how are things there?