Ron and Rhea

I'm sue there are other people from Yemen here in the States.....why does it state you were denied..?

my grandfather once told me two things..... if you are happy, don;'t let anyone tell you differnetly unless it goes against the "good book", and she ain't married until she says "I do", until then she is fair game....

Wow we have some great thoughts from first grandma and now grandpa....another wise one, thanks for sharing.

Americans put more into the age thing than most countries Iv'e been to. In my grandparents time people married young to old, old to young...for whatever reasons. Usually it was for sex, companionship, practicality and if there was love involved it came later on with time. But then again love can be defined so many ways and in so many terms I find it difficult to nail it down to one specific thing.

I agree...love is as individual and unique as each one of are to each other.....I have no idea what defines love for any other person other than myself, I know what MY feeling of love is and what love is....I know I've been in love twice in my life....my X wife and my fiance and that is all that matters really.

You can't change millions of years' evolution with one-liner put-downs on people you resent. The more interesting question is not why men of all ages are biologically programmed for attraction to ideal breeding age females - but instead why you can't handle that fact.

huh? lol....really? dude I was not putting down or not handling anything or anyone, well maybe that Mikey dude, hahah. I am perfectly happy with that little tidbit you threw out there, in fact, you may or may not know that my fiance is 20+ years YOUNGER than me, so I am LOVING it, keep on posting info...hahah

Relax brother it will be ok, *wink*.....

Hank, best line of the day that was from 'anaou scott'....nice..!!

The porn industry demonstrates your hope is delusional.

I was thinking common sense would prevail on my response....I was referring to actual relationships, not sal sal sessions, lol.

'thekfc'....wow did not know that...I've eaten at there many times, (not in NYC of course)...thanks

Hank, excellent...thx. I will read it in more detail when I get home.....

'analou scott'...your grandmother's a wise woman...!!!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_U.S._cities_with_large_Filipino_American_populations

I live in the DC area and there is a heavy Filipino population around here...I was surprised that Queens NY has more Filipinos than San Fran and almost more than Honolulu...

luckily, i'll only be in my 60s, and maybe still able to scare someone on the right day

The poster thing means that there aren't any teenage filipinas pining away for middle-aged or old men. They like princes and young movie stars just like girls everywhere.

I don't have an issue with race, but i would have a serious problem with a 60 year old coming to pick up my 18 year old daughter. I wouldn't even like it if he was my age. The difference is, one is here, the other is there. In the end, i'd actually trust that i'd done a good enough job that she was making good decisions. But a girl with a world full of options and living in the west rarely picks someone with an age difference like her mother and I.

I'm not saying anything about your relationship in particular. It just isn't for nothing that it happens a LOT more with women from developing countries than it does where the women have many more opportunities.

Luckily, I hope, there are not a lot of middle aged men pining way for teenagers, Filipina or any nationality, thats just wrong on either end...now a woman in her 20's or 30's, thats different, and I think most of those woman have outgrown posters on the wall thing, haha.

Yea I think I'd have a prob with a 60 year old and 18.....but I will say my step father, when he split from my mom a long long time ago, was prob in his mid to late40's and he dated and married a 20 year old, and in hollywood its common....I mean I realize is not the norm, however marrying out of your race is looked down upon by a lot in the country, and you know that...even white and asian....there are some people that will have probs with anything they don't like or accept. Trust me, I got ####### from a lot about marrying an Asian, not from my family, but I heard it non the less.

Why_me....man you are too funny.

By the time your daughter is old enough to date someone middle aged to her, you will be like 80, so I am thinking you may, at best, meet him at the door with your walker and a cane, haha, j/k friend.....

The poster in bedroom reference sorta escaped me, but I am sure it had a point....lol I have three daughters, 30, 26 and 22...We raised them well, college educated, only my 30 year old has a baby so far and that was not even two years ago, she is a teacher and hubby is a engineer....I will say that you will find out later that you can say you will do this or that, but when they get old enough they will do what they want and you better HOPE you raised them well enough to have made sound decisions.

You married a younger gal for you personal reasons, you seem to have sought out a younger lady...which is cool, more power to you brother.... I am marrying one not for any particular reason other than chance....we just met and our relationship grew, we decided to not let our ages stop what we both felt...so we didn't. I didn't waste my youth, I was married at 19, she, a Filipina, 17...and stayed married till this past Aug....31 years later.

It's funny how you say you will meet a older guy at the door with a big surprise if he tried to date your daughter...I know other guys who have said the same thing if a black dude comes to the door to date his daughter...hahah. For me, maybe the guys seeing me intimidated them, but I never had probs with any of the guys while the girls were in high school, they seemed to have more steady b/f's than anything, but a few boys came to the front door, and yes one was a black kid....never had any probs with any of them.

Ok, off the soapbox, lol

The best defense is a good offense....if the woman is over 18 and the guy is over, or WAY over 18, who the hell's business is it....? NOBODY'S....I still believe it's hate, jealously or some other deep rooted internal issue, lol.

I agree with ya. Yes I am a total perv and yes a lot of times it comes down to supply and demand. I'm demanding the tight hot young #######, and they are supplying it. Nothing wrong with that imo...it's been like that since time began and will long after all of us on here are pushing daises.

It's like the guy that marries a old war horse and she wants him to wash the car, so the guy does it. Not because he want to, but because he knows the pay off will (should) come later in either the form of food, sex, or less b*tching. Guys like us on this forum took it one step further. In stead of matching up with some war horse with an attitude, we went for young and hot. I mean you want to drive a min van when your my age or a Ferrari? I may be getting old, but I still have an eye for the foreign sports cars.

Perfectly put.....and the hammer was dropped....hahah

Yea dont hate, Participate!

LoL....some people are born to hate, usually caused by some trauma in their childhood, (I'd like to sit and speak with the lad, he prob has some deep rooted issues that involves a mother figure and quite often some other family member, often a man of authority in his life)....just say'n.

Thanks Hank, got it....

Yes welcome aboard and enjoy the ride, hopefully its a smooooooth and quick one for you guys.

Nowadays it very common for the courts to issue joint custody...I know many people with younger children and thats what happened, so custody should not be a issue.

A grown daughter living at home is very touchy...even if she is a slob and doesn't work, its very difficult to remove a 'child' from your household, unless they are the ones who want to leave.

You would hope the daughter would want her father to be happy with his wife and children, but some kids are not that bright, or just dont' have anywhere to go and are scared...?

I agree with another poster counseling for your family will work wonders...I never thought it would work for me, and that it was a bunch of BS, but some things happened in my life Aug 09 and it led me to seek help and I went for several months, (I went to a therapist, but sorta the same).....

Good luck

That's some crazy stuff there...dayum.

I agree Kevin...granted we are on the coast, near lots of military bases and the Nations Capital...so there are many many Filipino's in our area....I firmly believe in networking, you meet one from the area, go to a few get together's, then that leads to meeting more and more Filipino's. Actually I live on the Eastern Shore of Md, so you'd maybe think there are not a lot out here...wrong.

Not to mention hospitals, as we all know Filipina's make great nurses and are in all hospitals. I know a few Filipino State cops, (second gen)....

Filipinos throw the best parties ever...!!!

Did find this link to support earlier post...states women who marry younger dudes die earlier and men who marry younger women increase their life expectancy.....SWEET.....hahahha

http://www.cbsnews.c...in6483464.shtml

I haven't been able to find info on that 25% either (yet) but I did find this from Ottawa Cananda research:

Abstract

This paper analyzes the probability of a married couple getting divorced, based on the age difference between the husband and wife. To calculate such probabilities, the distribution of age differences of married couples was derived from the 1991 Census and the 1990 General Social Survey, and the distribution of age differences of divorcing couples was obtained from 1991 divorce data provided by the Department of Justice Canada. These distributions, the first based on data that are seldom available, are also analyzed in this paper. The results provide details about the expected significant imbalances that exist, both for married and divorcing couples, between the number of couples with older husbands and the number with older wives. A model is developed that shows that divorce rates are lowest when the husband is two to ten years older than the wife or when the magnitude of their age difference is extremely large. Furthermore, the chance of divorce is much higher when the wife is older than the husband than vice versa.

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Larger age gap makes for a more stable marriage!

Back to the search!

Hank, hey brother do you have the link for this reference? I know you said you got it from an Canadian source but I'd like to have the link if possible for future reference...thanks man.

You got me beat there.... 28 yrs first time (and those were not all that good, but for the kids...)

Hahah, yea same same...but 3 wonderful daughters came out of it.

Hank, I just re-read your post where you posted proof that a large age gap is a good thing when it comes to time married. I have been in a few discussions and had no real evidence to support my belief, now I do, thanks brother...!!!!!

BTW, I do have a track record for being married a long time....1st time 31 years, this time will be my last....of course Diana is the love of my life.

Just remember Capt'n Ron..... If its going to happen, its going to happen out there!

Got that right Hank......

Tom, well glad it's back on track and I hope our wait isn't too long, but whatchagoingtodo...? hahah

Hey Tom...doing well brother, just in the same holding pattern as a lot on this forum...waiting for NOA2...we are making the best of the wait.

I think 'Why_me' gets the post of the day award for that last one, hahaa.