sherryandyashpal

wish you guys the best!

We are the proud owners of a shiny approved I-130 that is at the embassy as of today.

:dance:

OMG miracles do happen!!! and you posted a wondeful song... really happy for you guys!!!!!

Sherry

Hi..

Personally speaking.. from my now husband and my experience with New Delhi embassy, I would get married if you are sure this is what you wanna do and file for the Cr-1... I also think its a good idea to find out what was in the consular officers notes as was mentioned before. you can check out my posts from 2011 or email me and I can tell you the hell my husband and I went through for trying to get the k-1, BTW we were finally denied for expiration of petition... but we also have a age difference, interracial but I have known him 3 almost 4years, anyhow.. we have friends on here (VJ)Delhi also, who were denied for your same reasons and they refiled a new k-1 and this time they were approved. Personally if you are going to marry him anyway I would do it now and then find out what the notes say and prepare accordingly as a married couple and go from there, so at last you will be able to commit to the person you love and that will be extra encouraging going back through this process again. I also have a friend from vj who was denied for same reason we were and had age difference and race and the got married in india and prepared according to their situation and were approved ( after 2 weeks AP for name check) also from delhi embassy. I am saying all of this as my opinion and my experience and from people I know BUT obviously EVERY situation is different. I wish you the best in whatever you do!!

Sherry

I've been reading these forums for a few months now and I feel like I already know some of you. This is a lame first post but I had to join today to ask a question. I need some input.

I'm in long distance relationship with a man from the Caribbean (I don't want to specify which country). I'm pretty sure he's cheating on me. This might make me sound like a loser but I'm thinking of hiring a private investigator to confirm or deny my suspicions.

Has anyone ever done this before? How much would you pay for this type of thing? I'm at a financial loss already if he's cheating on me but it would be worth a little extra dough to know for sure. :(

First of all your post isn't lame, you have a valid question, I wanted to say I am sorry for your situation and I'm the wrong person to ask because I'm super vocal and usually say what i'm thinking... so I will censor my opinion and leave room for those who likely have more balanced input:) wish you the best in whatever you decide.... ON THE OTHER HAND..... can you tell us a bit more? what specifically makes you think he's cheating?

Also, it was an NCSC rep before I spoke to an ISO than insisted I change my address, which I did do before talking to the ISO about it.

Hey Nola just saw this post, hopefully FINALLY your application will get to someone who actually knows what they are doing:) not gng to add my 2 cents because frankly I have nothing useful to add, but eagerly await another update

Someone asked me about filing single (that is, without head of household) and amending the tax return later to say married. No, folks, that's not the right way to do it and opens you up to questions like, why didn't you say you were married in the first place? Also, if for any reason your spousal visa interview takes place after April 15, you don't want to show the interviewing officer a 2012 tax form saying "single". In fact you might want to take a copy of the IRS instructions with you, if you do file as single head of household, to prove you weren't violating any laws or trying to say you weren't married. (Obviously this doesn't apply if you really were single on December 31, 2012.)

It's often useful to go the married filing separately route and amend later as married filing joint once the spouse gets the SSN, if that gets you money back, which it probably will. Don't be lazy; you must do this no later than the third year after you file the initial tax form.

Hi Speedwell.. Just popping in to say a HUGE thank you abt this post and answering my msg!!!

Please help me understand this.

On February 15th, I was mailed a letter that the ISO read to me stating that the Hartford field office didn't have jurisdiction over my I-130 so instead of doing something with my expedite request....they sent the un-adjudicated petition to Copenhagen. Now, Denmark does not have DCF and the embassy in Copenhagen doesn't handle IV cases (they are done in Sweden).

I've put in a service request or expedite or something on the grounds that they messed up and need to actually adjudicate the case and send it to the NVC....but the priority date on hearing back is March 6!

For those of you following our story, we've tried everything at this point - senatorial inquiries, expedite requests, mailing the evidence directly to Hartford. The ISO seemed perplexed on why they would do this and I have no idea either. Does anyone know what is going on?

WTH? how much more can they mess you guys around? blind leading the blind seriously... I wish I could suggest something... somehow i'd go back to the senator's office and see if they could throw some weight behind getting this sorted out , nag the hell outta them( in a nice way) maybe that will get some action.. I am really sorry this is so all over the place and I hope they somehow expedite it

Hi Sherry here what i have done,,hope it help

Posted 09 February 2013 - 07:38 AM

Hi guys.. just want to share..i know this is an old post but this might be able to help someone else who is filing W-7 form for their spouse,,,

I call the passport office in Jamaica and ask them if they Notorize the Passport biographic page and they said yes,,i just need to take a copy of the biographic page along with the passport and they will do it for me,,no cost,,but when you get there you have to write a letter telling them why you need it,,i sat and wait 20 minute,,and got my Notorize copy..Thank God.

I will see what my husband can do from his side in india and hopefully this wont be too painful, thanks for suggestion

You are welcome. They also accept other documents but he might need to keep those as well. When you file, put ITIN applied for, but you also need to send the completed W-7 and supporting documents.

Cool!! thank you these are great ideas i swear i feel like i am always forgetting something so i will definitely do this.. thank you!!!

I can't answer specifics for your husband's country, but let me tell you what happened to us, so maybe you won't have the same problem. The document requirements for getting an ITIN are very strict now, since June 2012. They prefer originals. They will mail them back to you.....but come on....who wants to risk loosing their documents? For my hubby, submitting originals was not an option because he needs his documents and could not be without them for one or two months.

I sent my hubby a completed W-7 form (he needed to sign it) and he returned it with his signature and a certified copy of his passport. I mailed it with my taxes as per the instructions. A few weeks later (I'm thinking a month) I got a letter that said the copy of his passport didn't meet the specifications. I called and talked to a lady. She wouldn't tell me exactly why because I didn't sign the form (they will only disclose full details to the person who signed the W-7). She said my hubby can call (the letter has a phone number for overseas calls). I told her I would be traveling to Kosovo to visit my husband, that maybe we could get it completed together. I might note that the W-7 I submitted was set to expire on October 1 and I was returning on the 2nd. She said my husband would need to submit a new W-7 form. (If you are wondering....I filed for an extension for more time to file my taxes, so I could get this done).

So while in Kosovo hubby and I called the number. It was difficult because I had a hard time understanding what the person was telling me (hubby told them to talk to me, so now finally they would). They kept telling me it must be a certified copy from the ISSUING AGENCY, or the agency who maintains the records. What we finally figured out was that hubby made a copy of his passport on a scanner and took it in to be notarized.

So the next day we took his passport and started asking government agencies how to get a certified copy, because honestly we weren't sure who maintained the info. I had the denial letter from the ITIN people with me. We went to at least 3 different places that couldn't help. They kept sending us to each other....we were going in circles. Finally we went to the Municipality (like city hall here in the USA). Mind you, I don't speak Albanian and hubby was doing all the talking. Also note, what is deemed "official" in another country may not be accepted here in the USA.

A nice gentleman (who hubby later told me was in charge of things there) had a color copy of hubby's passport made. Then he stamped the copy front and back, and signed it front and back. I watched while this was being done. When I returned home I wrote a letter explaining that I was present and watched the copy being made and stamped and signed right there at the Municipality in Prishtina, and I signed the letter (it was a sworn testimony type letter).

So...long story short, I mailed the new info, including my letter to the ITIN people. I GOT A DENIAL LETTER so I called right away. Same old thing...we can't talk to you we need to talk to your husband. I pleaded with the lady, and she said, ok, give me the case number (and some other info). She said, hold on a minute. She came back to the phone and told me, you can disregard that letter he is APPROVED and we mailed a letter yesterday. She added that she couldn't give me the number over the phone. I thanked her and said that's fine I was just so happy that he got his number.

I don't know why they issued the second denial and I don't know why they changed their mind, but I wonder if my letter helped.

First of all thank you for explaining all of that.. I appreciate that.. wow.. this is such a headache, and there IS NO WAY I would have him send me his passport and me send it in I mean I have heard horror stories... well I will see what happens and who we can find to do this in india ohhhhhhhhh nooooooo!! I went to h&r block and the lady I was going to pay for my taxes had no idea where to begin.. and tried to talk me into filing single.. seriously? geez louise!

Hi all

I am sure someone has asked this... but I couldnt fine the answer.. I need to do taxes and need to get my husband an ITIN# I heard I need to include a ceritifed copy of his passport.. where would he get that in Delhi? thank you in advance!!

Sherry

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/412155-local-chicago-filers-post-aug-15/page__st__45

thank you:)

Hi, please feel free to post in the chicago thread as well.

Recent senator inquiries state that chicago is indeed moving along, but you should expect 4-5mos.

hey thank you!!!! 4-5 months thats encouraging... chicago thread? hmm I need to find that one, thanks again

It does state on the USCIS website on the page that appraised everyone of the switch to NBC that they would not be sending out notices of transfers to local offices. While I agree with you that it would be best for "us" if they did so, imagine how much time that would take. I would rather they spend that time going through cases. Heck I sometimes wonder if they stopped answering the phones for 6 months and all those people started working on cases if they would get caught up. There's talk of a furlough for govt employees as well, not sure if its all sections or not, and I can't imagine they're too inclined to work on cases when they might be losing money on their pay cheques which might make their bills hard to cover. Everyone is so Me Me Me and I'll freely admit I get that way too... So its good to rant and good to vent and then use the cooled head to remember that we're not the centre of the universe and life just goes on. Sucks but life is not fair.

Thanks for the reply its nice to have a rant to people who can relate... ohhh if only there was set dates for everything:)

*hugs*

We've been going through hell with USCIS too and I'm sorry that you are frustrated. They really need some transparency. Perhaps then people wouldn't call as often.

EXACTLY ... I know I shouldnt complain with people ahead of me with much longer waits like yourself but I appreciate the reply

I am really IRRITATED... I swore off checking USCIS visa stuff but hey I lied lol!

I called uscis and yes I KNOW IT COULD TAKE 5-8 months whatever and I am jumping the gun but still I'm anxious like everyone else so pleaaaaaase dont lecture me about impatience. I talked to one rep she was nice but slightly useless BUT she did get me to a 2nd level supervisor because she said something looked "different" WTH? anyhow was on hold for 35 minutes ( after drinking 6cups of water I shudder to think of what damage I have done to my bladder) anyhow I got this person who could give a rat's a$$ abt my case. i had to make her dig deeper by bombarding her with questions and she FINALLY told me that my case was moved to chicago office from MSC and if they feel like it they will move it again.... I was doing all I could not to lose it... how could a person be so callous and just a total #######? maybe Im overreacting.. but still somehow I expected her to be humane abt it... Oh well at least I know as of january 30th they moved my case to chicago and wait time there is ......up to 8months... amazing... ALSo i had been told if your case is transferred they would notify you.... so I told her this and she said they dont have to tell me anything unless its going to affect me? Um HELLLOOO and this doesnt affect me? ok welll i just had to rant because frankly what else can i do?

Only 66 days!!! OMG! Had just received an email from my lawyer last night telling things at the USCIS was moving slow then Approved.. Thank God...

I pray the rest of you are approved soon..

WOW thats awesome... our dates our similar... In my mind i am planning for 5 months but still would love an early approval! HUGE CONGRATS!!!

wow, finally i got my interview appointment letter....

Hey congratulations!!!

I never knew I would be in this position.

I met my husband about 18 years ago. we had a relationship which ended and then I moved away and got involved with someone else and had a child who is now 14 years old. I came back to the area and then we started living together. Many things happened but I stayed with him.

His mother filed for him and he migrated. At the time we were living together. I had a visitors visa and made trips back and forth to see each other. We got married in 2008 and had a child in 2010. I found out one week after my child was born that he had cheated on me soon after he migrated for good and had a child. I was devastated. He begged me to stay with him. it was hard and I found that although I still loved him I could not have sex with him but I did not know that although he told me how much he loved me and wanted us to be together for the rest of out lives.

He filed for us in 2011 and upgraded after he got his citizenship. POE was in December. He told me that we could not stay at his house because a coworker was staying with him so I stayed with my sister. I always believed everything he said.

I was always suspicious about certain things but he had an answer for everything and I believed him. I went back to Jamaica because i did not want to take my son out of school until the school year ended. He came to Jamaica 3 weeks ago and I went back with him for a few days because my SSN did not arrive and I went to apply for it and returned to Jamaica. All this time we were making plans and thing were going okay since November because we started being intimate with each other again. I was in heaven.

I called him one night about three weeks ago and he said he was with a friend who he took to dinner. He finally admitted that he met her in October 2012 and they started a relationship. He said she made him happy and wanted to be with her. I did not fight him on it and left it at that and told him to have a happy life. He called me afterwards and said he made a mistake and I should stay with him because he ended it with her. I believed him.

I thought we were back on track until last week Friday when he started to hardly answer his phone when I called and was only returned my call occasionally.

Last night I called and he said he was helping someone to move. After questioning him I found that the woman he met in October was moving in with him. The same woman he told me went to dinner with and who about two weeks ago held a gun on him. She came on the phone and filled in some of the blanks for me. Of course he was telling her the same things he was telling me such as he loved her and wanted to spend the rest of his life with her etc. She said he never told her he was married and when she found out he told her that she should take him to a lawyer so that he can divorce me to be with her. I found out a lot of things from her. They had keys for each others homes and when he came to Jamaica to be with me she did not even know that because he hid it from her. she is also a immigrant from Jamaica.

I am up writing this because i cant sleep. I called his mother and told her. I told myself that it must be for the best because he has been lying and playing me for all this time. But it still hurts. I asked him if he really wants a divorce and he said 'I will call you back'. He has not done so. Based on that I think he has already even started the process.

My SSN card was mailed to his address and he has it. Can he file taxes married filing jointly and claim my son without my consent? He usually claim our baby.

I had handed in my resignation yesterday because I decided to leave to go be with him. I guess he had the last laugh. Looks like I may have to go back and beg for my job back and forget about migrating. I have also considered going and living in North Carolina with my sister who is presently going through divorce from her husband.

Can my sister file with me as her dependent? What happens if both my sister and him end up claiming for the baby and my son?

My life really is a big disappointment. I feel stupid and humiliated but I guess what is to be must be. Imagine being 43 with a 3 year old daughter to go raise by myself.

Hi..

I'm sorry I dont have much to add that is useful but dont beat yourself up over this... you sound like you are ready to move on and all that matters now is what you do going forward. hindsight is always 20/20 we can always see what we "should have" done once its over, but now you have a chance to let this trick go and he isnt worthy of you no matter what he says I hope you stand your ground. I wish you the best for you and your children.

I know this appears to be my first post on this forum but it is not. I started a new account due to keeping my privacy intact. Here is my story, my husband came here, we got married. He left during the initial stages of the immigration process, He was just gone, I didnt know where he was or anything. After multiple threats to my situation and his own immigration status and lawyer's advise they advised me to cancel my sponsorship. Well, I did that and of course a few weeks later he comes back and I feel bad and immediately send and letter to USCIS saying i do not want to cancel, well what happened was they never opened the letter and we got denied. I paid for an appeal with my lawyer and the appeal got denied also. In that time my husband was in and out of the house. I am not totally blaming him for all the issues that would be unfair. It has been so rocky, but yet once again I gave it another try because truly I do love him. We decided we would do his while immigration status over. Of course since he feels it is all my fault because i cancelled the first time (not recognizing that i attempted to stop it) he says well i have to pay for it all again myself. Maybe I am stupid but i agreed, so we started the paperwork again. Well here we are and he tells me the marriage isnt going to work but would still like me to do his paperwork, to "help him". He wants to postpone the divorce until he gets his green card. He tells me If i am a good person I will do this and help him because i Have messed up his life. At first I feel guilty and think well maybe he is right, and my lawyer fills the paperwork out but also cautions me that there will be an interview and I need to realize that it will be hard to prove a bonafide marriage when we are not living together. He says he will do it because he is trying to understand why i feel the need to help, but I should really think about it. I then say to my husband i do not know if I can stay in a fake marriage for his status for many reasons. Some of the reasons are, how do i move on, it is illegal, and I really wanted a marriage not an arrangement. He then says well if you help me maybe i will work on the marriage with you, but first I need proof that you have filed my status. I sit here confused because I do feel guilty, I just dont know what to do. While i am thinking of all this and trying to clear my head and make the best decision he then tells me listen if you are going to do it do it now if not divorce me so I can marry another woman to do my status. I was shocked, not sure why, but i was. I asked my lawyer if this is possible and he said yes. This whole situation has me sick to my stomach. It is affecting every aspect of my life.

Im sure you are confused and hurt and in love and not sure what to do.. but I'm telling you, let him go, you deserve better than this. I usually dont offer advice specifically but he is using your goodness as a person to make his situation better and could care less about you. Your post really got to me because I dont know you but I HATE the idea of people being taken advantage of. I really am hoping you will find the strength to cut him loose, this isnt right either legally or fair to you. Either way I wish the best for you and BELIEVE me you deserve better than this.

Take care,

Sherry

congrats on NOA2!!!

Thanks capri, that's exactly what I wanted to know, I have talked to her and she is going to send them with my stuff. Can't wait to be out of this marriage and I think she too, so it should hopefully be a simple process.

Sorry to hear abt your situation and abt your mom, hope all will go smoothly whatever you decide.

He is my partner is EVERYTHING, we complement each other so well it scary sometimes how our personalities fit. The more I think about what to express here the more I miss him.. so I'm going to leave it there lol!

Yeah, we Skype twice a day and had no video and only iffy phone through it. We have well over 1500 pages of chat. I printed out just a few excerpts a page or two long from each MONTH. I was told they want to see a good pattern of chat more than the volume. Oh, and I redacted the raunchy parts by blacking them out before I printed out the lot. There are a buttload of raunchy parts. No jokes about randy middle-aged people, please.

Omg that was funny!!! randy middle aged people hahahaha!!

I woke up this morning with the great news!!!! Both our I130(me and my son) were approved!!!! Just in time for my birthday!!!

55 days since NOA1 and faster than the processing time estimated here (end of February to mid March).

Got is in my email:

Application Type: I130 , IMMIGRANT PETITION FOR RELATIVE, FIANCE(E), OR ORPHAN

Your Case Status: Post Decision Activity

On February 6, 2013, we mailed you a notice that we have approved this I130 IMMIGRANT PETITION FOR RELATIVE, FIANCE(E), OR ORPHAN. Please follow any instructions on the notice. If you move before you receive the notice, call customer service at 1-800-375-5283.

I hope my news gives some of us here good hope.

We did not file ABROAD. My husband's current address is in Florida.

Wish you guys speedy approvals. Thank you sooooo much for all advice and comments. I check this forum everyday since we filed. See you soon in NVC filer forum!

Yayyy 55 days... wow.. this is wonderful congrats!!!