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    Visa Received

    in India

    Posted

    Hello VJ friends,

    My husband just got his CR1 visa in hand after the interview on Jan 10th. Thanks to all for helping me and guiding me through this long visa process.

    Good luck to all those who are still waiting for the visa.

    God bless!

    Thanks.

    Congrats you you both!!!

    Another heartbreak

    in Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits

    Posted

    First off. I never in a million years thought I'd be posting a topic in this part of the forum.

    But I guess bad things can happen to anyone. I need help figuring out what to do, and I need this forum to vent and get some advice.

    I am an active member on this forum, and I apologize that I’m not posting under my regular username, but quite frankly, I’m too embarrassed and humiliated to. I’ve made many great friends on this forum, some I’ve even met in person. Most of you would recognize me if I posted under my regular username, and many of you will likely figure out who I am from the timelines of this post. But for right now, I want to remain anonymous, and I hope that you all will all respect that. You can PM me if you know who I am.

    I apologize in advance if this post becomes repetitive or incoherent. I just need to vent..

    Here's the gist of what has happened..

    We met 4 years ago, began dating 3.5 years ago. We're 2 months short of our 2 year wedding anniversary. We got married in the US, but did not file for AOS. Instead, she came with me back to my country and stayed. After 10 months, we finally decided that overall, it would be best if we settled in the US. This decision was based on her not speaking the language, me speaking fluent English. Her knowing nothing about my country’s lifestyle, while I had my entire education in the US. And quite frankly, she didn’t like my country, I love this country. We met while I was on an F-1, and got married after I graduated. While we were still young, the decision to get married was taken in part due to her family being skeptical of us living together without being married, in part due to us both knowing that we wouldn't be able to live together, neither in my country nor the US unless we were married, and most of all, because we knew we wanted to spend our lives together. We filed the I-130 11 months after our wedding. (She was "living" in my country as a tourist) - And when we finally decided on a country to file in, she was on her 80th day of 90 allowed in my country. She went back to the US and filed the I-130 immediately. Since then, I visited her on the VWP a couple of times, and she visited me once.

    10 months after initial filing, I finally arrived in the US on a CR-1 visa 6 weeks ago.

    The distance killed us. It was tough. It was hard. Even though we were lucky enough to see each other for a few weeks with 3 month intervals, it was excruciating. Most members here know what I'm talking about. However, we made it work.

    Anyway. I arrived here 6 weeks ago. Things were great. Aside from the normal issues like not knowing anyone here, and having to start from scratch with a job, things were great. I loved it here (still do to an extent). Until this week. I found something I shouldn't have..... :(

    In a nut shell. She had an affair.

    Sigh.. It makes me sick to my stomach to even talk about this. I already knew of an "incident" a few years ago where she admitted that she had previously kissed another guy, felt horrible and came clean to me. We fought about it, made up, and forgot about it. This time, it's way more serious. I confronted her about what I found. She got stumped, and she basically said "Does it really matter now?" and literally said "If I confirm this.. What are you going to do?" - I immediately yelled "You just did confirm it!" and broke down. Her first reaction was to apologize while I was crying. When I got mad, her reaction turned defensive arguing that it was only because of the distance, and it wouldn't have happened if I was here. She also tried to blame me for it, because I hadn't done enough sweet things for her during the time apart, and this guy did. Hello!!! You MARRIED ME!!! I must have done something right! This happened during the summer, before she came on a vacation with me and my family. I haven't probed too much into it, I can't for my own sanity's sake, and she keeps telling me "don't ask, it'll only make it worse" but I know enough to know that this wasn't a one time thing either. It was a fling. She has assured me that she doesn't speak to the guy anymore, and that he does not even live in this city. Apparently, this guy was a temporary "step-in" for me. But here's another shocker. The guy, as I came to find out, is married also.

    She slept at a coworker's house last night. I've gotten about 6 hours worth of sleep in the last couple of nights combined. I made her breakfast this morning and went to her work to give it to her.. It was slightly awkward, we didn't really speak. I have no idea what to do really..

    I love her. I love her to death. I'd take a bullet for this woman. I brought her into my family. I was warmly welcomed into hers. I can't even imagine what her mother would do if she found out. I don't want anyone to find out. This is just so humiliating, embarrassing and painful. I want to work things out, but I just don't trust her. I have no idea if this was a one time thing, or if it has happened before too during other times of separation. There is no reason for me to believe that it hasn't happened before, other than her word. Which I don't trust one bit. And that’s my problem. I love her enough to forgive a mistake. I love her enough to forgive practically anything. But I also love her enough that I don’t think I’ll ever forget. And that scares me, because that is not a good recipe for a happy marriage.

    This is an extremely difficult situation. I love her so much, and I meant what I said when I told her "I do." This is fairly fresh in my head, and not something I was mentally prepared for at all. I still have to pinch myself in the arm to remember that this is real. That it isn't a nightmare.

    I have no money. While I at least have a job here (I started working part-time recently), it isn't a great income. All my financial resources have been spent on this process, moving, and on visits and vacations during the process. I even paid the deposit and rent on her old apartment which I never got to live in.. But that she apparently had a guy visit quite frequently.. I feel like barfing just at the mere thought of this. Seriously, I feel physically ill. I quit my job back home back in August, thinking the interview was at most a month away (turned out to be 3 months away and another month to receive the visa). I have nowhere to go. I don't know anyone in this state, other than my wife and our roommate. I can't face my parents. I can't even face my friends. I struggle to look at her even. In essence, I have nothing for me here, except a wife who.. Yea.. I have nothing to go back to in my country either, except my parents' house.

    So far I've only told one member on here in private, and one of my good friends from college back on the west coast. He has offered me a place to at least sleep - But that's thousands of miles away, on the west coast.

    I'm really not in a position to be thinking about immigration related matters right now. At this point I don't want to stay. At least not in this city/state. But I know that if I leave, it's over for good. And I'm not ready to make that decision at this time. I want to be firm. But I’m not thinking rationally now. I don’t want to make huge mistakes while I’m in a state of shock. To top this off, I had a job interview last week for a very good job here in this city, full-time and with excellent compensation. They called me back yesterday and I had no idea what to really say to them. One of the things they pushed me on was longevity. “We want to make sure you’re not going to quit anytime soon.” – To which my response was “I’m not going anywhere.” Luckily, I’m only hired on the condition of passing a background check – which I find out the result of in a week or so.. Gives me more time to think..

    For now, my options are these:

    1. Stay here, try to work things out. (Not sure if I can, though I want to)

    2. Stay here, separate, see where time and distance takes me/us. (Not sure if I can stay here without her. This place is tainted to me)

    3. Leave, crash at a friend's/aunt's/cousin's house in a different state and see where time and distance takes me/us.

    4. Leave, go back home.

    If I went home, got a divorce and abandoned my green card, how difficult would it be to come back to visit or for graduate school?

    If I chose to stay and work things out, how difficult would it be to file a joint I-751 with a period of separation in the middle?

    If I chose to stay in the country, and get a divorce, how difficult would it be to file an I-751 divorce waiver?

    I'm shaking right now.. Can't believe I'm posting this.. :(

    Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best.. and honestly its nothing to be ashamed of.. you dint do anything... while Im temptd to offer advice, since I dont know all the details and everything I'm just going to say dont let what she did ruin your stay here.. you never know what's waiting for you here that you havent uncovered yet. Wish you the best !!!!

    Sherry

    APPROVED!!!!!!

    in IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    After much wait and tension, finally, we've been approved!!! :dance:

    Application Type: I130 , IMMIGRANT PETITION FOR RELATIVE, FIANCE(E), OR ORPHAN

    Your Case Status: Decision

    On January 9, 2013, your I130, IMMIGRANT PETITION FOR RELATIVE, FIANCE(E), OR ORPHAN was approved. You will be notified of the decision by mail. Please check our website at www.uscis.gov for further updates on your case, including when the approval notice is mailed. If you do not receive the approval notice within 30 days, please call customer service at 1-800-375-5283 for further assistance.

    During this step the formal decision (approved/denied) is written and the decision notice is mailed and/or emailed to the applicant/petitioner. You can use our current processing time to gauge when you can expect to receive a final decision.

    If you have questions or concerns about your application or the case status results

    listed above, or if you have not received a decision from USCIS within the current

    processing time listed*, please contact USCIS Customer Service at (800) 375-5283.

    *Current processing times can be found on the USCIS website at www.uscis.gov under Check Processing Times.

    *** Please do not respond to this e-mail message.

    Sincerely,

    The U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS)

    YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYY!!! Its always nice to see another approval:) Congrats!!!

    He used me!!

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    Hi everyone... I wanted to tell you all of my story for you maybe to identify any pattern that may seem wrong. Well, about 2 years ago I met the person who was supposed to be the love of my life after so much suffering in my life he came and lid up my life. He´s from Pakistan but living in UK (with student visa). Well, we met online through a site and after 4 months we decided to meet each other in person and he gave me half of the money for the ticket and I paid the other half. On that day I arrived to UK I swear my life was like a dream I was the happiest woman alive, I only stayed for 1 week cuz of work and we decided he was gonna go to my original country with me to start a life with me so 2 weeks after I came back he moved with me where he stayed for one month and a half and then said he wasn´t able to find a job so that made him take the decision to go back to UK. So, after that we decided applying for the fiance visa so I then moved back to the US and applied found a job and tried living on my own after so many years of not doing so. My father became sick so after that I decided I had to come back and move back to my original country cuz I´m the only daughter. After 8 months of not seeing him he sent me the ticket to go to UK for a visa of 1 month almost 2 and after 3 weeks of being there I found out I was pregnant which made him freak out and asking me to abort cuz it wasn´t the right time. Well, I came back before 2 months cuz I thought I was going to have high risk pregnancy. As soon as I got here he I asked him to come with me to my original country where he said he couldn´t live here because he didn´t like it which means he only wanted to live in NY, he also didn´t help economically or emotionally on anything making me cry every single day since I got back from UK. Not to long ago we received a notice stating he was going to be in background check which made him get weird with me and he stopped being the person I met where I also found out he was talking to other women.

    I was tired of being stepped on and being treated as a second option to where I told him this would be the end between us, that everything he was doing wasn´t fair that the baby and I weren´t his priority. I know he asked me to abort and I shouldn´t have forgiven him for that but I actually thought he was going to change his mind but it wasn´t like that. Now, he is out of my life and here I am with my 20 week pregnancy and crying day to day and him not caring at all. I will send a letter to VSC to cancel this process because I ain´t going to be used in anyway. I´m sure it was long story but I wanted to share with all of you what happened to u. Everybody have a good life and good luck on their lives and I hope this 2013 will be blessed for all of you as it will be with me. BTW today I found out my baby will be a little baby boy not only bad news he was the best gift he could have given me.

    WOW!!! I'm very very sorry to hear about this all, I dont know if there are any words that will help you that I can say but I wish you the very best and hope your pregnancy goes smoothly and that no one needs a person like that and while I dont know either of you I do know everyone deserves someone who loves them and loves the little boy you're carrying. I wish you the best!!

    sherry

    APROVED!!!

    in IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    Thank you Visa Journey for your Guidance and understanding!! We had our interview on the 18th it all went well!! :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: Visa was on hand on the following Wednesday!! :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: POE Miami on Jan 2nd!! Again THANK YOU!! if I can be of any help to anyone please let me know and will be more than happy to help!!

    Congratulations!!! this has to be the best day of the year for u guys.. other than when you meet:)

    Anyone who has recently completed I-130 process in New Delhi?

    in IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    well, it can seem quicker - you know - you post a question, then someone quickly answers you...

    if yer lucky.

    However - back at yer portal, train yer eyes left and down, click on 'IR-1/CR-1' and then click on 'interview date' on the sort carat -

    then you can see everywhere who interviewed in India .

    You'll have to study a bit to get New Delhi, but it's soooo worth it. (to do your own research with data supplied by others who went before you)

    Thank you.. your advice is helpful as usual!!

    Anyone who has recently completed I-130 process in New Delhi?

    in IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    yer doing the I-130 petition through the National Benefits Center, not New Delhi.

    So you'll have NVC document intake, later, for the CR-1 visa application.

    Ultimately, there's an interview for an immigrant visa in New Delhi.

    Have you reviewed the India portal this week or last?

    Ok I guess I phrased the question wrong.. I wanted to talk to someone whose interview was through New Delhi for CR-1, actually i was about to look through potal for india just now but I thought this may be quicker;)

    Anyone who has recently completed I-130 process in New Delhi?

    in IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted · Edited by Kathryn41
    to remove personal email address

    Hi all

    My husband and I have recently filed our CR-1 application and are waiting as most people are. However, I am just wondering what was the steps after NOA2 in terms of what did you have to do what notices did you get? I know there is info on cr-1 on here but I am just curious to talk to someone who went through this process via new delhi. Whatever you can give us will help me to put it all in perspective a bit more. Feel free to email me (email addressed removed for security reasons - please use Visa Journey's Personal Message (PM) function to communicate with member)

    Thank You all in advance!!!

    Sherry

    I-130 at National benefits center??

    in IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    Did anyone read the link?

    Some I-130s are being transferred to the the "National Benefits Center" which used to be the "Missouri Service Center." MSC= NBC. The processing times will be 5-6 months, like normal. The aim here is to reduce processing times. The system is not set up to show processing times for I-130s at NBC, but on the other hand, that is mostly useless information and they are doing this to help you.

    It can take a while for cases to show up on the website, and sometimes they never show up there. it doesn't matter, because the online process checker is also mostly useless and not updated properly. You will get letters in the mail. There is nothing to show besides approval, either, and you will know when you are approved by a letter or a text if you sign up for them.

    The people you talk to on the phone are not USCIS employees, they are subcontracted workers who read from a screen. They give out so much bad info they are called the "misinformation line." The link above shows why these cases are being sent to NBC.

    Thank you.. you managed to answer all my questions in this posting!!!!

    MSC RECEIPT

    in IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    :dance: Finally, I can see our status online..its says Initial Review stage..then also says last updated 12/14/2012...that means touch right? keeping it optimistic and hoping for no RFE for this Beneficiary Birth certificate ...that are lately being requested for some people. Just glad to be able to check our status now..I think Ill be on it everyday. :rofl:

    I totally agree when I can finally see our status I'll be on it at least weekly lol congrats!!

    birth certificate for beneficiary? I-130

    in IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    sherryandyashpal - Like hikergirl said, have it ready translated, if there is a need during I130 approval, you are wasting time to asking him at that time.

    I also agreed with dwheels76, as long as you have provided the information for him, it will be verified during NVC process for beneficiary.

    Deep... just one other thing... He has no actual birth certficate he has the secondary evidence in the form of an affidavit from his parents about his birth and the form from the records office stating that his BC was not recorded or on record as many of the births from 1989 and back were not. this wasnt an issue when we filed for the k-1 so I am hoping as long as we submit that if they request it we will be ok? I know no one can give me a DEFINITE answer unless you are the reviewing office but all input welcome.

    thanks to everyone in advance!!!

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