The Rice King

why is the uncle insisting? the ssn is not very important in the grand scheme of things (at the moment). i don't like his mettling already. i'd tell him to go pound sand

You obviously still care about her and she is probably using that to get what she wants and leave you again. Don't do this to your self. There are plenty of other choices. Why go back to someone that has a proven been emotionally unfaithful?

If people divorce for every single simple problems in a relationship, there would be no one married couple left. Every problem has a fix.
A marriage between two people is not a joke. Sometimes one needs to work harder than the other to keep the relationship going.
I guess you guys lie in front of whomever married you. You raised your right hand and swore that would never get divorced. Did you?
Now I know why the number of divorce keeps on going up and up and up and up. My parents has 65 years together. Ask them if it is is easy? not it is not a piece of cake. it is a lot of work. And yes some needs to work harder than other. But who cares as long that keep your words of sticking together for bad or good..for better or worse...so on.

:thumbs: this is so true :thumbs:

Skype, every day (even when sleeping ).

I disagree. I have heard little about this happening in this forum. I have heard more about other countries and not just in Asia though. My wife is a lot younger and definitely a lot better looking than I. I have expected her to say for a long time, "bye" and leave. I can't figure out why she is still with me. I have even told her that she can leave and have no problem on getting the citizenship if she want. Yet she stays. Been here now almost 3 years and I am still puzzled.
Btw there is pics of her and even a couple of me if anyone wants to click of photos

Your Relationship is your Relationship. Based on your post: RUN Like Hell. Do not offer any means of Support for Continuing the Immigration Process. Will it get better, yes when you tell him this. After that. Its a guess is'nt it!
RUN
Hope you can work things out but I see No Avail from an outside point of view.

Sorry about your situation, but the I-864 is not just another piece of paper. It is analogous to co-signing a loan - a potentially unlimited amount that the Joint Sponsor would be on the hook for. Look up all the horror stories on this forum from people who regret signing the I-864. If your wife's son receives any means tested benefits, your Joint Sponsor would be on the hook for paying it back. If your brother married a foreign woman, would you want to sign the I-864 and be responsible for paying back those benefits? What if he receives Medicaid and it is for $100,000. Would you be okay with signing the I-864 and treat it as just a piece of paper?
What is the family relationship between your brother's family and this child? He's not your son. He is not related to them at all. Just because your wife married you, it doesn't mean your brother and his family have to put themselves at financial risk to help her - a stranger to them.
If my brother wants to bring his wife and her child to the US, I would give them money and food. But I would not put the financial future of my wife and kids at risk for them by signing the I-864 because I have no control over this child. If my brother got divorced, I would still be on the hook. If this child runs up the bills by using means tested benefits, I have no idea how deep a financial hole I will be in. I bet if he needed medical attention - my brother and his wife would not hesitate to think about paying the bills as long as he got the medical attention he needed. If they can't pay the bills, guess who the US government can come after? That's right the I-864 Joint Sponsor.
I think you and your wife needs to look at things from your brother and his wife's perspective. Why should they put their financial lives at risk for a child they don't know?
If you and your wife ask them to sign the I-864, then they can accept or decline. If you and your wife expects them to sign it, then you are demanding that they sign it. It's not asking - it's telling them what to do.