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I hope you understand your Fiance's situation. Money is tight and not easy to find nowadays. Be compassionate to your Fiance and try to understand him. Just imagine how much is the difference in terms of the amount since he is paying for 2 tickets. You may not know how hard he works to earn the money to pay for the flights. Most of the Americans use Credit Cards and that will still need to pay later. Remember you are going to live and share life with him sooner and forever. Whatever savings that you and him could generate from the purchase of plane tickets that would be a great help later. Learn to appreciate all the goodness and blessings that you have. Keep loving and be patient always ! God bless you and your daughter to your jouney in America

Hi there! I just wanna share with you my experience, hope this helps. I just thought you need to wait for you and your daugther's visa at hand before you pay for your plane tickets. Since you will still have to go for interview on Nov 25...make sure that you have enough time so you won't have problems later. When I had my interview, I got approved on the day, but it was already like 2 weeks I didn't get my visa yet, mostly they receive like within 3-7 days only. Later then I called up US Embassy and knew that my visa was printed on the following day after interview but the visas of my 2 kids were printed later almost 2 weeks after mine. I really didn't expect it. There was no problem on my kids documents, but it wasn't printed same day with me. I suggest if you really intend to fly on your chosen flight schedule, you got to inform or request the CO to expedite your visa release, granting that you got approved after the interview. Have a nice trip and God bless !

Why worry if everything you stated/claim is true and can be validated. Seems your more financially sound compare to some of the members.

It seems that you are asking if she can get a free trip home, and if so, how that is done.
I do not see a clear request for help in saving the relationship. I agree, 2 weeks is not enough time.
If you want to try to save the relationship, I would look at Pinoy support groups, if for no other reason to let her share stories and hear from other people that have made the transition and break out of speaking in english. (Has she complained of nose bleeds? And if you don't get that joke you need to study her culture.)
My guess is your fiancée has spent the last two weeks dealing almost exclusively with you and with being your "new girl" locally. Give her some space and independence maybe. I know one thing my fiancee and I anticipate will be that period of time between when she arrives and when she is able to develop her own life. In a way she will be trapped before she gets a drivers license, her own friends, etc. She has already looked at bus routes and wants to learn to ride a bike so she does not spend the first few weeks sitting at home during the day while I work. But for someone coming to a new country it can be a lot like captivity. Classes at a local community college, even art classes are also a good way to break out and get some independence and freedom.
And look at counseling options. Church, MSWs, etc. You may not be religious, but you might be surprised at how deep the faith runs in Filipinos even if they pretend to adopt American apathy toward going to church.
And accept that this is as much your problem as it is hers. You also need to adjust.
But most of all - seek professional help by trained people and don't rely just on things you read online.
Best of luck.

This sets a record for age difference I've ever seen. I'm an OLD FART at 50 and my Finacee' is 33. I've seen more vaste age differences. You say the Parents agree and Documents in order meaning: You make the money to purchase a 21 year old.
How is this going to function in American Society? Americans are sick hunting for a child Overseas. This is WRONG. And YOU KNOW IT. As I said: Just where should a line be drawn about Americans going Overseas and take advantage of these young ladies.
I hope for your Approval of your Petition and get exactly what you asked for. I don't mean to be Negative but this is to much for me to handle. Let her go and find another closer to your age. That would mean you care about her.

Also, if there was an annulment it is a must to bring the official reason for the annulment. My fiance purposely left it in Mindanao even though I asked her twice to bring it. She had the annulment papers just left the reason back home because she didn't want to be embarrassed about it. There are only a few reasons to get an annulment, the main reasons being bigamy and psychiatric. Either she would have to go back there or have somebody able or willing to send it. After they have it you have to pay an additional 1000 pesos to see a psychiatrist, then they will let her continue to immunizations if she passes that. Needless to say, I was a little upset she left that behind.

If you will put divorce, you have to produce a divorce decree.
In this case, instead of providing CENOMAR, you need a Marriage Certificate with annotations from NSO and the decision and finality of the annulment.

Once your annulled and is final it is as if the marriage never existed... meaning Single...

If you had an anullment, That means the marriage is void, and never existed. It means that you are infact single if I am not mistaken. If you had a Divorce, that means that you would write divorce. But I'm not sure how it works with immigration applications. Double chekc on that thugh, I mean the whole point to an anullment is so that you dont have to say you were ever divorced.

Anyone who uproots someone and makes a commitment like wedding vows, then wants to call it quits over a small cultural diference after two
weeks even after all the sacrifices made by the foriegn spouse... well schmuck wouldn't be the way I would describe that person, it would be much harsher...
But, I am willing to concede to the fact that everyone makes mistakes, but a comitment is a comitment.. There are justified reasons for breaking that commitment, but small cultural diference is not one of them.. Those kinds of issues requires work which is a requirement for any relationship whether it's matrimony or any other type relationship...
I respect your right to comment... This is a item I feel strongly about, and therefore, I will also take advantage of the right to comment.. And not agreeing with me is your right.. But never the less, I hope somebody reading this in the future, and considering a petition for someone, would realize that, first there is the commitment, second there are cultural diferences to consider, third, there is someone making a huge sacrifice to leave their entire life behind with the hope of being with someone they love and trust, and wouldnt think they would be kicked to the curb over a small cultural diference and be expected to return to a life that no longer waits for them back home..
But thankfully, the OP and his wife seemingly will make an attempt to work through this, and I hope others who haven't considered these items, will read this and give this serious thought if they haven't already...

we shouldnt want to send the message that you can seek love abroad, and if the challenges of marrying someone from a diferent place, culture and lifestyle makes you unconfortable, then consider that before you petition, move them here and uproot them from their lfe, and marry, commiting them and them commiting to you.. Dont selfishly do something that you havent considered all the factors, because there is more concequences than how to file for divorce.. the benificiary must somehow accept the fact they've lost all thier hopes of the love and relationship and return to a life they left behind and somehow restore things to normal...
and if they Petitioner had given a few moments of thought to the challenges, he couldve saved some serious heartache for the beneficiary, but because he was thinking of only his hap[iness, then the concequences that the beneficiary must face on thier own to restore thier lives, is not something the petitioner needs to worry about..
That is simply insane..
It would be diferent if it was something resulting from lies, deciept or dishonest, but this was a "small cultural difference"...

Professional Help is a great idea!!
I think you and your wife should go.. I hope you're serious about this..
My appologies if it seems we're attacking, but divorce over a "small culture difference" especially after everything your wife has sacrificed to be with you, is sooo extreme, just seems insane that anyone would consider this..
Find a good counselor and seriously consider all the factors.. I hope to hear that you've been able to work things out...
Kenny

Why are you asking for help but concealing what the problem is? It would take half the words to directly state it than the 35 words here avoiding the subject. What can't you get over?

WOW! that's so harsh... what happened? (sigh) the crash on the graph is like a crashed petition... but we'll all still keep on being positive on this until 5 months is done... 5 months still no NOA2? we're gonna call them and they'll get tired of receiving calls until they just approve all of it...

We are June Filers also. I think maybe a week before you, so we were thinking sometime in October.
However I just wrote a letter to the US senator responsible for the USCIS in Vermont, as well as the Deputy Director of the USCIS and 3 Television networks.
I am not asking for any special attention, as I know all of us deserve fair processing. However I did point out we ( the USA ) spend 51 Billion annually on Homeland security, we spend another 11 Billion on US Customs and Immigration and yet the USCIS budget is like 2 billion, that's for all three service centers.
While the cost of Illegal Immigration to the states collectively is close to half that number ( and nobody even knows the true cost). It seems to me the good Honest people who are doing this the right and legal aren't being serviced or cared for very well. This is not a free service, we are paying for this ( Twice) once in Federal Taxes and a second time in application fees, not too mention all the other costs that go into this.
I wrote the networks hoping maybe they will do a human interest story on this and if it brings light to getting this process in line with technology or even if service levels were to improve I think everyone would benefit. The waiting would be fine if it was timed accurately, meaning if they said 5 months then it was five months, if they said 6 months then it was 6 months, but this hodgepodge of maybe this month or maybe next month that's just not right, just my opinion.
Hope we see our NOA2,s soon

TO ALL OF VJ MEMBERS WHO REPLIED AND GIVEN THEIR SUGGESTIONS...IM SO VERY THANKFUL FOR ALL OF YOUR INSIGHTS ON THIS MATTER...I DO APPRECIATED ALL YOUR COMMENTS AND SUGGESTIONS. I WAS SO ENLIGHTENED BY YOUR THOUGHTS...I THINK WE REALLY NEED TO TALK AND COMPROMISE ON WHAT EACH OF ONE WANTS AND CAN AFFORD TO DO. LOVE THIS SITE

i feel that you should atleast have a heart for all the couples who are undergoin the wait for K1 process...the longingness of each other, the frustrations, the stress of waiting, emotionally draining, etc. because you yourself have undergone it...i think this is not a fraternity group wherein you were beaten up so you wanted the others who is following your step to get a harder dose of what you had...making it harder for us? to be honest...i think when you really love a person, a day without her/him is not complete...so being away for 5months and so on (waiting for process to be done) is more than each one could bear...but see...here we are, just waiting patiently because we are inlove and would wish to be with the man/woman we prayed for to be with us til we breathe our last. Sorry, but i dont like the idea of making it harder for us.

i feel that you should atleast have a heart for all the couples who are undergoin the wait for K1 process...the longingness of each other, the frustrations, the stress of waiting, emotionally draining, etc. because you yourself have undergone it...i think this is not a fraternity group wherein you were beaten up so you wanted the others who is following your step to get a harder dose of what you had...making it harder for us? to be honest...i think when you really love a person, a day without her/him is not complete...so being away for 5months and so on (waiting for process to be done) is more than each one could bear...but see...here we are, just waiting patiently because we are inlove and would wish to be with the man/woman we prayed for to be with us til we breathe our last. Sorry, but i dont like the idea of making it harder for us.

TO ALL YOU GUYS WHO RESPONDED TO MY INQUIRY...THANKS SO MUCH LOVE THE SUPPORT ON EACH AND EVERYONE THAT IS ON THE SAME BOAT...MORE PATIENCE TO US ALL!!!!