Andie

Let it go? This guy's threatening her. God knows what he has planned. She needs to PROTECT HERSELF, and then and only then start thinking about letting this go.

It wouldn't weed out anything. It would just be people making Facebook accounts to use here.
I'm not "riff-raff" but I sure wouldn't use my real name and link to my Facebook from here.

As others have already noted, the truly odd thing about the OP's post is not the age gap, the money, or the nationality, but the fact that she asked about marrying another U.S. citizen when she is currently engaged to one. Who asks that question?

Of course you would say to get rid of K1 since you already got yours.

I'm sorry, this is horrible advice. FInding and marrying a USC within 90 days while also breaking up with your other fiance is most certainly going to lead to a visa denial for fraud.

I actually got my NOA2 last night after I posted here. But as Harpa Timsah says, there's still a lot more waiting/steps to come now. It just feels good to finally be able to move past THIS part. ^^;
You might get lucky and go faster, or you might get unlucky and take longer. The best thing is to prepare for the worst and be pleasantly surprised if it ends up sooner than you expected. I went into this process knowing it would likely be 7 to 8 months (or more) from start to finish. If he gets the visa before that, then hooray! If it takes a little longer, then it won't surprise me. I'm not gonna lie, the wait is torture. But after that first month or so, you kinda fall into the rhythm of it and it gets a little easier. Just hang in there and try not to hope for numbers/times/approvals that are sooner than the average. Best case scenario you make the average, worst case you go a bit over it. Getting some miraculous 3 month approval is like winning the lottery. Sure it might be POSSIBLE, but would you base your future around winning the lottery?

Hi OP, have you spoken to your fiance about this? About your doubts? She might be having second thoughts too, maybe you just have cold feet, or maybe your suspicions are justified- The first and best thing to do is speak to your fiance.
Staying with someone for 5 or even 2 years , I would imagine would be difficult if you were just in it for a GC, maybe your fiance's sisters marriages just did not work out?
Tread carefully, you would not want to accuse someone you supposedly love of fraud before you have any evidence, would you?
If in the end you decide that you do not want to go through with the marriage and you think your fiance is using you for a green card, do not get married, her I-94 will expire and she will need to return to her home country (or leave the US and go to a 3rd country) .
DO NOT marry her if you have any doubts that it is a scam, that can only lead to more problems down the line.
If you feel you and your fiance need more time to make a decision, suggest so. She can go back to her country and you can continue your relationship as it were before until you both feel comfortable enough to merge lives in the US (though she may not be very happy with this option and just decide that you are not worth the stress and heartache of returning home with her kids and waiting for you to decide you actually do want her). Of course if she does agree to this option you will need to file for another K-1 or CR-1 visa.
You have to exclude the children from your thought process. They are not your concern at this point, you are your main concern.

There is nothing for you to report so far.
At this point you have to make a personal decision as to how you want to proceed. There seems to be a pattern.
Best of luck.

Not at all, 90 days is given so people can make wedding plans. If they wanted to give people time to get to know each other state side, they would do like Australia and provide 9 months or more to get married using the fiance visa.

If you suspect something is up, chances are that it is. But take time and find out for sure, and if it is the case then don't marry her.

Follow your gut. If you feel something is up, then it probably is. Don't marry her. Let USCIS know you're not marrying her.

Do not marry her
Do not worry about the kids or her
Tell her it is over and she will need to find another sucker
And I am sorry about all the time, money and love you wasted on her. I hope you find someone worthy of your love

Anything he can do towards when you move to your own place? Kiwi's are generally do-it-yourselfers and like planning, making/building things. Any hobby's or sports he is into that he can spend time doing? Having your own place is going to make a world of difference, being able to buy things to use and have around that you have chosen. In the meantime, I'd agree that if he can use wifi at a nearby location would help and also when you are not working, that you spend time out doing things you both enjoy that brought you together. Does he have the option to do some of the cooking, or perhaps get together stuff for picnic dinners for the two of you. Is there a Whole Foods store (or similar) near you? At the moment he is pretty much treading water and without some structure to the day it can be frustratingly boring.
Hope things get better soon. Best to you both ...

This is why, as someone suggested, this particular members posts may be best placed in the regional forum where said members customs / colloquialisms / euphemisms / terms etc are more regularly and easily understood and where hopefully the OP and new member could get more specific answers!
Yes some people get haughty too quickly, lots of those people are just nervous and awaiting their interviews or NOA2's etc and it shows.
Let's be considerate of all here, let's not cast judgement on others who have already done so, nor the OP.
To the OP, can you , it may help everyone here, including yourself!

Although I believe the Kathryn is being PC with this subject and the OP, I dont believe that the issue lies within his poor English. I think the problem that were having, as the users of this site who make it what it is, full of knowledge and understanding, is that the OP has so many threads started with alot of different scenarios. So we, the users, have no clue what it is hes really looking for.
Yesterday was alot about being asked at an interview if hes had sex with his fiance.
Then it was posts about how they married in a church.
Then its about deportation.
And everything in between.
So please Kathryn, dont berate us, the users of this site, for calling a spade a spade. No one knows where in the process he really is, because he flips from fiance and K1 to already being married. When I first got here, I read, and read and read. Ive seen alot ( and I dont agree with this ) where a new user will ask a question and someone will link the guide lines. I do believe that we have a responsibility to the new people to aide them as much as we can, just like we once were, however, its very difficult for us to do it, when we dont know that situation and cant get a direct question without some random one coming up to threads later.
Most questions that we get from new users are in reference to forms, how to help with filling them out, these are the honest questions and they deserve honest answers. But to ask us, who dont know him, what he should say to a CO about having had sex with his finace, when we dont know if its a fiance or a wife, nor does it sound like theres a petition even sent . . . how are we supposed to answer that ? I call troll, alot of us have, and Kathryn, dont look at it like were the bad people who are belittling or not respecting the OP, look at like this guy isnt respecting our site by ( what I view as ) looking for ways to get into the USA and stay without fulfilling the K1 ... and this goes back to the ... if shes his wife, there is no K1 for him, and I would hope hes had sex with her .. like married loving couples do.

You seem to just want a way into the US. You are putting more emphasis on that than on your actual relationship.

I understand what your husband is going through...nearly 4 years later and I'm still adjusting. You just need to give him space when he needs it, and a listening ear when he wants one. Take time out and show him you care.
If he can find volunteer work that gets him out and about mixing with people it will help structure his day.
I don't think any of us who have made the move abroad understood what it really meant until the move was completed. For me, I got depressed, I missed home, friends and familiarity of life that was no longer mine. I hated being dependent on some one so totally. I hated not working and having structure to my day. I hated that everyone and everything was so strange. I missed home, plain and simple. I grieved and in many respects I am still grieving. However I'm planning to return home for a few weeks - I'm soooo excited!
I think many of us are caught up in the romance of our situations but don't take enough time to plan the move...Living in the 'new' country for an extended period of time is really what is needed. A few weeks on holiday does not prepare you for what is to come and doesn't help you make a final decision on whether you can 'survive' the move away from your homeland or not.
Anyway, keep being patient...love him loads. Remember you are all he has in this country, no one else...His moods may vary and he may seem angry all the time but he's just unhappy...he is just too far from home.
In time, he will be okay because in time you will become his home...
Redfl.

Cool ! ... glad its being resolved so simply... you can breathe again

and this is exactly the reason it makes it so hard for the rest of us abiding by the rules. just irritates me that people take advantage of the system then wait until they get in the country to screw around with the rules of the visa...i will shut up before i get myself in trouble

You can do what mimolicious did, once you receive your NOA (that will have your case number on it) ... call them and ask them what you can do. If they let you send in a letter, great. But don't be surprised if a) you send it and it doesn't get matched up to your case or b) they tell you to just wait until someone reviews the petition.
It's not the end of the world. We're human, we make mistakes. It could just be looked over and approved anyway, it could be an RFE (which isn't a big deal, really) ... who knows. Good luck.

Maybe you missed this piece.
How do you support a child with $1.49 a month? The answer is, you don't. So, the taxpayer picks up the rest. That's the issue.

You are obviously not European or a backpacker. Some companies in Europe give employees unpaid sabbaticals for months. Some even allow them to take an advance on their vacation. Backpackers live on little money for a long period of time. Backpackers learn to budget money carefully, take public transport, eat cheap food, and avoid expensive items. Staying with friends cuts down on expenses. If you have lodging for 6 months, then USD $7,000 is more than enough.

I love the condescending responses from so many people on this site. Mr Canada and Noah..why can a bartender not afford a 6 Month Trip? Why would you blast him in such a way? I had a friend from GB that came all the time for a 6 month stay over the last 10 years. He lived at home and saved money for that purpose. $7,000 was more than enough as he only helped us with food. Get off your horse and just be nice! Sounds to me you just think he is a lying. Nice help you offered.. Maybe we should focus on answering the guys question and not be a butt about it.

Probably too late now, but it's never a good idea if you are from a US visa waiver country to try to apply for a tourist visa, even if you want to stay longer. The US's goal is to keep people out. The US doesn't have a vacation culture and they don't want anybody to enjoy life. Personally, I'd spend your money elsewhere. Go spend your money in Cuba.