Moving apart while AOS is pending

[Erin and Muraari 0]

Hello all

This is an odd question. I am looking at the I-485 processing times for Baltimore and the date is back to Jan, 2007 i.e. approx 10 months. So projecting this forward lets say I may not get my interview till September of next year. Now here is the problem, I might be going back to school starting next fall, and for this I'd like to move to either Boston or Chicago while my wife (the USC) needs to stay in Baltimore for another year. Is this at all doable if my AOS still hasnt been finished by then, or is this going to look very bad at an interview? What if we have plenty of proof regarding travel back and forth to see each other etc?

I know some people who have lived apart when filind for lifting conditions, but I dont know anyone who did this while waiting for AOS.

Thanks everyone. Seems the Baltimore & Washington DC are among the few from ~July 20 or so who seem to be out of luck based on the July and August filers postings.

Muraari

[joelunchbox 0]

Hello all

This is an odd question. I am looking at the I-485 processing times for Baltimore and the date is back to Jan, 2007 i.e. approx 10 months. So projecting this forward lets say I may not get my interview till September of next year. Now here is the problem, I might be going back to school starting next fall, and for this I'd like to move to either Boston or Chicago while my wife (the USC) needs to stay in Baltimore for another year. Is this at all doable if my AOS still hasnt been finished by then, or is this going to look very bad at an interview? What if we have plenty of proof regarding travel back and forth to see each other etc?

I know some people who have lived apart when filind for lifting conditions, but I dont know anyone who did this while waiting for AOS.

Thanks everyone. Seems the Baltimore & Washington DC are among the few from ~July 20 or so who seem to be out of luck based on the July and August filers postings.

Muraari

Hi! I don't know you or your wife but I would like to make a comment.

Marriage is like building a house. Dating, engagement is like picking the plans and gathering the materials. You might even pick out the lot and lay it out. But, when you say I Do, that is when the real work begins. Laying the foundation--making sure the house will stand through any disaster--is the most important thing. And then you start building, walls, closets, attics, etc. And when it is finished...guess what? You find out it isn't ever finished, it is always a work in progress. Landscaping, painting, a new kitchen.

Marriage is like that--even to the extent that you will have many people telling you what to do--just like contractors!

When I read your post, it sounded to me like the most important thing at this point in time, is your going to school. You may not feel that way but, that is how it came across to me. And if it is that important, I would say go back and get your world in order. Have a really good sit down with your wife so each of you know what is imiportant to each other.

IMHO At this point in time the number one thing in your life should be your wife.

Can you go to school later? If so, I think that would be a good idea. I can guarantee you that you will never be able to go back to this day and get a do over.

When I first read your post, I assumed you were engaged but judging by the form, I gather you have been married for a little while. I stand by what I wrote. A few years down the road, your relationship--like every other relationship--will hit a bump in the road. How solid will your foundation be at that time?

Good luck!

[nane1104 146]

Hello all

This is an odd question. I am looking at the I-485 processing times for Baltimore and the date is back to Jan, 2007 i.e. approx 10 months. So projecting this forward lets say I may not get my interview till September of next year. Now here is the problem, I might be going back to school starting next fall, and for this I'd like to move to either Boston or Chicago while my wife (the USC) needs to stay in Baltimore for another year. Is this at all doable if my AOS still hasnt been finished by then, or is this going to look very bad at an interview? What if we have plenty of proof regarding travel back and forth to see each other etc?

I know some people who have lived apart when filind for lifting conditions, but I dont know anyone who did this while waiting for AOS.

Thanks everyone. Seems the Baltimore & Washington DC are among the few from ~July 20 or so who seem to be out of luck based on the July and August filers postings.

Muraari

Hi! I don't know you or your wife but I would like to make a comment.

Marriage is like building a house. Dating, engagement is like picking the plans and gathering the materials. You might even pick out the lot and lay it out. But, when you say I Do, that is when the real work begins. Laying the foundation--making sure the house will stand through any disaster--is the most important thing. And then you start building, walls, closets, attics, etc. And when it is finished...guess what? You find out it isn't ever finished, it is always a work in progress. Landscaping, painting, a new kitchen.

Marriage is like that--even to the extent that you will have many people telling you what to do--just like contractors!

When I read your post, it sounded to me like the most important thing at this point in time, is your going to school. You may not feel that way but, that is how it came across to me. And if it is that important, I would say go back and get your world in order. Have a really good sit down with your wife so each of you know what is imiportant to each other.

IMHO At this point in time the number one thing in your life should be your wife.

Can you go to school later? If so, I think that would be a good idea. I can guarantee you that you will never be able to go back to this day and get a do over.

When I first read your post, I assumed you were engaged but judging by the form, I gather you have been married for a little while. I stand by what I wrote. A few years down the road, your relationship--like every other relationship--will hit a bump in the road. How solid will your foundation be at that time?

Good luck!

To your question...I don't know, if that will rise problems with your AOS, but I would think, as long as you can proof your bona fide marriage, it shouldn't be a problem.

To the first response...I think you read a little too much into it...

The OP would like to go to school and it means, the couple would be temporarly separated. Nowhere did the OP indicate, that the separation is because of a problem or that he puts school before his wife.

[ajames79 0]

Hello all

This is an odd question. I am looking at the I-485 processing times for Baltimore and the date is back to Jan, 2007 i.e. approx 10 months. So projecting this forward lets say I may not get my interview till September of next year. Now here is the problem, I might be going back to school starting next fall, and for this I'd like to move to either Boston or Chicago while my wife (the USC) needs to stay in Baltimore for another year. Is this at all doable if my AOS still hasnt been finished by then, or is this going to look very bad at an interview? What if we have plenty of proof regarding travel back and forth to see each other etc?

I know some people who have lived apart when filind for lifting conditions, but I dont know anyone who did this while waiting for AOS.

Thanks everyone. Seems the Baltimore & Washington DC are among the few from ~July 20 or so who seem to be out of luck based on the July and August filers postings.

Muraari

Hi! I don't know you or your wife but I would like to make a comment.

Marriage is like building a house. Dating, engagement is like picking the plans and gathering the materials. You might even pick out the lot and lay it out. But, when you say I Do, that is when the real work begins. Laying the foundation--making sure the house will stand through any disaster--is the most important thing. And then you start building, walls, closets, attics, etc. And when it is finished...guess what? You find out it isn't ever finished, it is always a work in progress. Landscaping, painting, a new kitchen.

Marriage is like that--even to the extent that you will have many people telling you what to do--just like contractors!

When I read your post, it sounded to me like the most important thing at this point in time, is your going to school. You may not feel that way but, that is how it came across to me. And if it is that important, I would say go back and get your world in order. Have a really good sit down with your wife so each of you know what is imiportant to each other.

IMHO At this point in time the number one thing in your life should be your wife.

Can you go to school later? If so, I think that would be a good idea. I can guarantee you that you will never be able to go back to this day and get a do over.

When I first read your post, I assumed you were engaged but judging by the form, I gather you have been married for a little while. I stand by what I wrote. A few years down the road, your relationship--like every other relationship--will hit a bump in the road. How solid will your foundation be at that time?

Good luck!

To your question...I don't know, if that will rise problems with your AOS, but I would think, as long as you can proof your bona fide marriage, it shouldn't be a problem.

To the first response...I think you read a little too much into it...

The OP would like to go to school and it means, the couple would be temporarly separated. Nowhere did the OP indicate, that the separation is because of a problem or that he puts school before his wife.

Totally agree with you on both points! I think it is perfectly okay to be away from your husband or wife for an extended length of time IF it is what both of you agree to. There are many MANY couples out there that travel for a living or work in different places and their relationships are quite strong. Personally, I think now would be the best time to do it. Before you have children (if you so desire).

AS far as during the AOS process I am really unsure what the rules are regarding this issue. I assume that it would be okay as long as you continued to have proof of being a couple and living your lives together.

[Caladan 19]

I wish I could remember where I read it, but I was reading something USCIS-related that said that couples demonstrating that they shared a household was important, but that they understood if someone had to work out of town (like they traveled a lot for business, or academic couples that often get separated.)

I think it's fine that you want to go to school. You'll have to take extra care to document that the two of you share a life. Things like: make sure each of you are on the lease in both towns, that you hang on to receipts from weekend or monthly visits, that you have a joint bank account.

All that said, though, if Baltimore is as backed up as you say, it's reasonably likely that your case will get transferred to the CSC to be approved without an interview. (We were transferred with a similar time out of Hartford.) So it may not be an issue.

[Erin and Muraari 0]

I dont really understand who you think you are to presume giving marriage advice. Many couples live apart for work, for travel, and for all kinds of reasons. We lived apart for a while when dating with no problems and I find it highly offensive that you think that becasue we happen to be ambitious people with career goals that makes our marriage any less happy or viable than anyone else's. Besides many people here cphoose to live apart while waiting for the K-1's and K-3's to come through. If they cared THAT much they would move to the non-USC's country and wait out with them, but not everyone does. That is because people have lives and there are many things that go into making it. SO in the future if you dont have anything useful to contribute toward the actual question itself, maybe spend your time with joining the Republican party and spouting sanctimonious garbage about "values and marriage"

Hello all

This is an odd question. I am looking at the I-485 processing times for Baltimore and the date is back to Jan, 2007 i.e. approx 10 months. So projecting this forward lets say I may not get my interview till September of next year. Now here is the problem, I might be going back to school starting next fall, and for this I'd like to move to either Boston or Chicago while my wife (the USC) needs to stay in Baltimore for another year. Is this at all doable if my AOS still hasnt been finished by then, or is this going to look very bad at an interview? What if we have plenty of proof regarding travel back and forth to see each other etc?

I know some people who have lived apart when filind for lifting conditions, but I dont know anyone who did this while waiting for AOS.

Thanks everyone. Seems the Baltimore & Washington DC are among the few from ~July 20 or so who seem to be out of luck based on the July and August filers postings.

Muraari

Hi! I don't know you or your wife but I would like to make a comment.

Marriage is like building a house. Dating, engagement is like picking the plans and gathering the materials. You might even pick out the lot and lay it out. But, when you say I Do, that is when the real work begins. Laying the foundation--making sure the house will stand through any disaster--is the most important thing. And then you start building, walls, closets, attics, etc. And when it is finished...guess what? You find out it isn't ever finished, it is always a work in progress. Landscaping, painting, a new kitchen.

Marriage is like that--even to the extent that you will have many people telling you what to do--just like contractors!

When I read your post, it sounded to me like the most important thing at this point in time, is your going to school. You may not feel that way but, that is how it came across to me. And if it is that important, I would say go back and get your world in order. Have a really good sit down with your wife so each of you know what is imiportant to each other.

IMHO At this point in time the number one thing in your life should be your wife.

Can you go to school later? If so, I think that would be a good idea. I can guarantee you that you will never be able to go back to this day and get a do over.

When I first read your post, I assumed you were engaged but judging by the form, I gather you have been married for a little while. I stand by what I wrote. A few years down the road, your relationship--like every other relationship--will hit a bump in the road. How solid will your foundation be at that time?

Good luck!

[Erin and Muraari 0]

Hello Caladan

Thank you very much for your reply. I'd like to think they would understand since more than a year is a long time to pur your life on hold just waiting for USCIS. However, having said that USCIS defies logic sometimes, so it is hard to know how they will react, might just have to do with your luck at the interview.

Unfortunately I didnt come on a K-1 or a K-3, we filed botht he I-130 and I-485 together, and as I understand it these cases rarely get approved without an interview, they typically dont get transferred to CSC. But one can always hope.

Thank you again for your help.

Muraari

I wish I could remember where I read it, but I was reading something USCIS-related that said that couples demonstrating that they shared a household was important, but that they understood if someone had to work out of town (like they traveled a lot for business, or academic couples that often get separated.)

I think it's fine that you want to go to school. You'll have to take extra care to document that the two of you share a life. Things like: make sure each of you are on the lease in both towns, that you hang on to receipts from weekend or monthly visits, that you have a joint bank account.

All that said, though, if Baltimore is as backed up as you say, it's reasonably likely that your case will get transferred to the CSC to be approved without an interview. (We were transferred with a similar time out of Hartford.) So it may not be an issue.

[Caladan 19]

Ah okay. In that case, just document the heck out of it. You'll have the next few months to show that you've cohabited at least for a while.

[Nanusia & Lukaszek 0]

Can't you take your wife with you, to wherever you decide to study?

[Erin and Muraari 0]

Unfortunately she is in a two year position at Johns Hopkins, and she just started. So when I move in September, she will still have a year left to go. Her work is willing to be somewhat flexible, letting her travel to see me etc. but an actual move at that point is unlikely. In turn, I have some work related constraints that make it highly preferable that I go to school next year as opposed to waiting another year. Very unfortunate, but those are the circumstance.......

Can't you take your wife with you, to wherever you decide to study?

[joelunchbox 0]

Hello all

This is an odd question. I am looking at the I-485 processing times for Baltimore and the date is back to Jan, 2007 i.e. approx 10 months. So projecting this forward lets say I may not get my interview till September of next year. Now here is the problem, I might be going back to school starting next fall, and for this I'd like to move to either Boston or Chicago while my wife (the USC) needs to stay in Baltimore for another year. Is this at all doable if my AOS still hasnt been finished by then, or is this going to look very bad at an interview? What if we have plenty of proof regarding travel back and forth to see each other etc?

I know some people who have lived apart when filind for lifting conditions, but I dont know anyone who did this while waiting for AOS.

Thanks everyone. Seems the Baltimore & Washington DC are among the few from ~July 20 or so who seem to be out of luck based on the July and August filers postings.

Muraari

Hi! I don't know you or your wife but I would like to make a comment.

Marriage is like building a house. Dating, engagement is like picking the plans and gathering the materials. You might even pick out the lot and lay it out. But, when you say I Do, that is when the real work begins. Laying the foundation--making sure the house will stand through any disaster--is the most important thing. And then you start building, walls, closets, attics, etc. And when it is finished...guess what? You find out it isn't ever finished, it is always a work in progress. Landscaping, painting, a new kitchen.

Marriage is like that--even to the extent that you will have many people telling you what to do--just like contractors!

When I read your post, it sounded to me like the most important thing at this point in time, is your going to school. You may not feel that way but, that is how it came across to me. And if it is that important, I would say go back and get your world in order. Have a really good sit down with your wife so each of you know what is imiportant to each other.

IMHO At this point in time the number one thing in your life should be your wife.

Can you go to school later? If so, I think that would be a good idea. I can guarantee you that you will never be able to go back to this day and get a do over.

When I first read your post, I assumed you were engaged but judging by the form, I gather you have been married for a little while. I stand by what I wrote. A few years down the road, your relationship--like every other relationship--will hit a bump in the road. How solid will your foundation be at that time?

Good luck!

To your question...I don't know, if that will rise problems with your AOS, but I would think, as long as you can proof your bona fide marriage, it shouldn't be a problem.

To the first response...I think you read a little too much into it...

The OP would like to go to school and it means, the couple would be temporarly separated. Nowhere did the OP indicate, that the separation is because of a problem or that he puts school before his wife.

Totally agree with you on both points! I think it is perfectly okay to be away from your husband or wife for an extended length of time IF it is what both of you agree to. There are many MANY couples out there that travel for a living or work in different places and their relationships are quite strong. Personally, I think now would be the best time to do it. Before you have children (if you so desire).

AS far as during the AOS process I am really unsure what the rules are regarding this issue. I assume that it would be okay as long as you continued to have proof of being a couple and living your lives together.

Yeah, I probably did read a little too much into the post. I will be visitng my fiance in 4 days and I am easily distracted! I read it as a relationship post and not a "is this legal" post. Hopefully my "mis-post" will help someone someday...

Good luck all!

[joelunchbox 0]

I dont really understand who you think you are to presume giving marriage advice. Many couples live apart for work, for travel, and for all kinds of reasons. We lived apart for a while when dating with no problems and I find it highly offensive that you think that becasue we happen to be ambitious people with career goals that makes our marriage any less happy or viable than anyone else's. Besides many people here cphoose to live apart while waiting for the K-1's and K-3's to come through. If they cared THAT much they would move to the non-USC's country and wait out with them, but not everyone does. That is because people have lives and there are many things that go into making it. SO in the future if you dont have anything useful to contribute toward the actual question itself, maybe spend your time with joining the Republican party and spouting sanctimonious garbage about "values and marriage"

Hello all

This is an odd question. I am looking at the I-485 processing times for Baltimore and the date is back to Jan, 2007 i.e. approx 10 months. So projecting this forward lets say I may not get my interview till September of next year. Now here is the problem, I might be going back to school starting next fall, and for this I'd like to move to either Boston or Chicago while my wife (the USC) needs to stay in Baltimore for another year. Is this at all doable if my AOS still hasnt been finished by then, or is this going to look very bad at an interview? What if we have plenty of proof regarding travel back and forth to see each other etc?

I know some people who have lived apart when filind for lifting conditions, but I dont know anyone who did this while waiting for AOS.

Thanks everyone. Seems the Baltimore & Washington DC are among the few from ~July 20 or so who seem to be out of luck based on the July and August filers postings.

Muraari

Hi! I don't know you or your wife but I would like to make a comment.

Marriage is like building a house. Dating, engagement is like picking the plans and gathering the materials. You might even pick out the lot and lay it out. But, when you say I Do, that is when the real work begins. Laying the foundation--making sure the house will stand through any disaster--is the most important thing. And then you start building, walls, closets, attics, etc. And when it is finished...guess what? You find out it isn't ever finished, it is always a work in progress. Landscaping, painting, a new kitchen.

Marriage is like that--even to the extent that you will have many people telling you what to do--just like contractors!

When I read your post, it sounded to me like the most important thing at this point in time, is your going to school. You may not feel that way but, that is how it came across to me. And if it is that important, I would say go back and get your world in order. Have a really good sit down with your wife so each of you know what is imiportant to each other.

IMHO At this point in time the number one thing in your life should be your wife.

Can you go to school later? If so, I think that would be a good idea. I can guarantee you that you will never be able to go back to this day and get a do over.

When I first read your post, I assumed you were engaged but judging by the form, I gather you have been married for a little while. I stand by what I wrote. A few years down the road, your relationship--like every other relationship--will hit a bump in the road. How solid will your foundation be at that time?

Good luck!

see my other post...

sorry

and, I tend to lean toward the dems

I can understand the stress on both of you but

I think we are all under a little stress here.

Definitely not trying to add to your stress level.

If you look around the site you will find many people asking for a little guidance in matters as I interpreted the post.

If it doesn't apply, ignore.

Once more, My apologies.

Signed

thank you for putting me in my place

[Erin and Muraari 0]

Hello

Sorry I guess I did over-react a little. Im sure what you wrote was entirely appropriate for someone asking for advice regarding the marriage. This is a decision we have both reached together and unfortunately we dont have too much flexibility in choice of locations in terms of school etc. So this is a temporary but unavoidable situation. Hopefully things will be resolved well before this proposed move........ But sorry again since you did have good intentions in your post.

Muraari

I dont really understand who you think you are to presume giving marriage advice. Many couples live apart for work, for travel, and for all kinds of reasons. We lived apart for a while when dating with no problems and I find it highly offensive that you think that becasue we happen to be ambitious people with career goals that makes our marriage any less happy or viable than anyone else's. Besides many people here cphoose to live apart while waiting for the K-1's and K-3's to come through. If they cared THAT much they would move to the non-USC's country and wait out with them, but not everyone does. That is because people have lives and there are many things that go into making it. SO in the future if you dont have anything useful to contribute toward the actual question itself, maybe spend your time with joining the Republican party and spouting sanctimonious garbage about "values and marriage"

Hello all

This is an odd question. I am looking at the I-485 processing times for Baltimore and the date is back to Jan, 2007 i.e. approx 10 months. So projecting this forward lets say I may not get my interview till September of next year. Now here is the problem, I might be going back to school starting next fall, and for this I'd like to move to either Boston or Chicago while my wife (the USC) needs to stay in Baltimore for another year. Is this at all doable if my AOS still hasnt been finished by then, or is this going to look very bad at an interview? What if we have plenty of proof regarding travel back and forth to see each other etc?

I know some people who have lived apart when filind for lifting conditions, but I dont know anyone who did this while waiting for AOS.

Thanks everyone. Seems the Baltimore & Washington DC are among the few from ~July 20 or so who seem to be out of luck based on the July and August filers postings.

Muraari

Hi! I don't know you or your wife but I would like to make a comment.

Marriage is like building a house. Dating, engagement is like picking the plans and gathering the materials. You might even pick out the lot and lay it out. But, when you say I Do, that is when the real work begins. Laying the foundation--making sure the house will stand through any disaster--is the most important thing. And then you start building, walls, closets, attics, etc. And when it is finished...guess what? You find out it isn't ever finished, it is always a work in progress. Landscaping, painting, a new kitchen.

Marriage is like that--even to the extent that you will have many people telling you what to do--just like contractors!

When I read your post, it sounded to me like the most important thing at this point in time, is your going to school. You may not feel that way but, that is how it came across to me. And if it is that important, I would say go back and get your world in order. Have a really good sit down with your wife so each of you know what is imiportant to each other.

IMHO At this point in time the number one thing in your life should be your wife.

Can you go to school later? If so, I think that would be a good idea. I can guarantee you that you will never be able to go back to this day and get a do over.

When I first read your post, I assumed you were engaged but judging by the form, I gather you have been married for a little while. I stand by what I wrote. A few years down the road, your relationship--like every other relationship--will hit a bump in the road. How solid will your foundation be at that time?

Good luck!

see my other post...

sorry

and, I tend to lean toward the dems

I can understand the stress on both of you but

I think we are all under a little stress here.

Definitely not trying to add to your stress level.

If you look around the site you will find many people asking for a little guidance in matters as I interpreted the post.

If it doesn't apply, ignore.

Once more, My apologies.

Signed

thank you for putting me in my place

[joelunchbox 0]

Hello

Sorry I guess I did over-react a little. Im sure what you wrote was entirely appropriate for someone asking for advice regarding the marriage. This is a decision we have both reached together and unfortunately we dont have too much flexibility in choice of locations in terms of school etc. So this is a temporary but unavoidable situation. Hopefully things will be resolved well before this proposed move........ But sorry again since you did have good intentions in your post.

Muraari

I dont really understand who you think you are to presume giving marriage advice. Many couples live apart for work, for travel, and for all kinds of reasons. We lived apart for a while when dating with no problems and I find it highly offensive that you think that becasue we happen to be ambitious people with career goals that makes our marriage any less happy or viable than anyone else's. Besides many people here cphoose to live apart while waiting for the K-1's and K-3's to come through. If they cared THAT much they would move to the non-USC's country and wait out with them, but not everyone does. That is because people have lives and there are many things that go into making it. SO in the future if you dont have anything useful to contribute toward the actual question itself, maybe spend your time with joining the Republican party and spouting sanctimonious garbage about "values and marriage"

Hello all

This is an odd question. I am looking at the I-485 processing times for Baltimore and the date is back to Jan, 2007 i.e. approx 10 months. So projecting this forward lets say I may not get my interview till September of next year. Now here is the problem, I might be going back to school starting next fall, and for this I'd like to move to either Boston or Chicago while my wife (the USC) needs to stay in Baltimore for another year. Is this at all doable if my AOS still hasnt been finished by then, or is this going to look very bad at an interview? What if we have plenty of proof regarding travel back and forth to see each other etc?

I know some people who have lived apart when filind for lifting conditions, but I dont know anyone who did this while waiting for AOS.

Thanks everyone. Seems the Baltimore & Washington DC are among the few from ~July 20 or so who seem to be out of luck based on the July and August filers postings.

Muraari

Hi! I don't know you or your wife but I would like to make a comment.

Marriage is like building a house. Dating, engagement is like picking the plans and gathering the materials. You might even pick out the lot and lay it out. But, when you say I Do, that is when the real work begins. Laying the foundation--making sure the house will stand through any disaster--is the most important thing. And then you start building, walls, closets, attics, etc. And when it is finished...guess what? You find out it isn't ever finished, it is always a work in progress. Landscaping, painting, a new kitchen.

Marriage is like that--even to the extent that you will have many people telling you what to do--just like contractors!

When I read your post, it sounded to me like the most important thing at this point in time, is your going to school. You may not feel that way but, that is how it came across to me. And if it is that important, I would say go back and get your world in order. Have a really good sit down with your wife so each of you know what is imiportant to each other.

IMHO At this point in time the number one thing in your life should be your wife.

Can you go to school later? If so, I think that would be a good idea. I can guarantee you that you will never be able to go back to this day and get a do over.

When I first read your post, I assumed you were engaged but judging by the form, I gather you have been married for a little while. I stand by what I wrote. A few years down the road, your relationship--like every other relationship--will hit a bump in the road. How solid will your foundation be at that time?

Good luck!

see my other post...

sorry

and, I tend to lean toward the dems

I can understand the stress on both of you but

I think we are all under a little stress here.

Definitely not trying to add to your stress level.

If you look around the site you will find many people asking for a little guidance in matters as I interpreted the post.

If it doesn't apply, ignore.

Once more, My apologies.

Signed

thank you for putting me in my place

I spent twenty years in the military, there are few things as stressful as having no say in your actions. I do understand the driving force in your educational pursuits. Timing can be everything in your education. So, in a way, you are being directed to do something and you don't have as much input as you would like. Yes?

I hate the thought that someone would judge your relationship on the totally unrelated aspect of your education. That doesn't make sense to me. I am glad others had usefule insights to your situation. Why is good things (educational opportunity) seem to never happen at a good time?

Hang in there!

[bostonparis 0]

I'm pretty sure there's someone else on VJ who is in a very similar situation. I believe (and I can't confirm) that they received AOS approval recently...

Anyone remember that??