Trust in a Relationship....

[karmasxocean 0]

Oh man, trust is imperative in a relationship. Period. It's about a thousand times more important in a long distance relationship. Communication and trust is the key to surviving it all through the years weather long distance or not. So I believe it is absolutetly the most important factor.

[Fandango 1,440]

Her: honey do these pants make my azz look fat?

Him: No babe, your fat azz makes your azz look fat.

but seriously....if I wear something that is not flattering, I'd want my boo to point out 'hey that's not very flattering' If I say 'what do you think?'...TO ME...the worst thing you can do is churn out the bog standard YOU LOOK GREAT! all the time. That's insincere and dishonest. And TO ME...a lifelong partner doesn't bs you. I'd rather my man point out that my outfit is ugly rather than shut his mouth and let me go out of the house looking like shiznit. I don't mean 'let' in the 'barefoot pregnant in the kitchen' sense either.

And if my man was all 'oooh the color really brings out the highlights in your hair' in response to a 'do I look fat?' question....well 1) I'm smart enough to see a dodged quezzie...which says 'yeah you look fat' but also says 'and I'm too pu$$y to tell you' and 2 ) that my man's been watchin too much '####### eye'

?????

Is this another one of those 'yardstick' threads where everybody measures up their relationship against everybody elses?

Nope, it's one of those 'messageboard things' where we all talk about summat.

[karmasxocean 0]

As for the above stereotypical question about pants and fat butts here are some safe answers:

"I think X pant/skirt/shorts actually goes better with that blouse and highlights your eyes."

"You know how uncontrollable I get when you wear tight fitting clothes. We have to leave in 10 minutes and I don't have time now to ravage you for hours."

Neither of these answers contains a lie, makes the woman feel desirable, and disables the question in a clever or funny way, which works many times better than even the typical generic white lie, "Nothing makes you look fat," or something to that effect.

Now THAT is an acceptable answer to those questions...Although some would consider those answers lies by omission, really, women don't (at least I don't) want to hear from the person you love that I'm a fatass. I would much rather feel that I'm beautiful in the eyes of my lover, because in the end, he's all the matters. I would also like to point out that women are not stupid and usually know the real reason behind a statement like that and take it for what it is. At least I'm not naive enough to believe a man when he talks that kind of bull...though I don't mind the smooth talk. Hehehehe.

[Ladylethal 12]

Trust is our motto. Our wedding rings say "semper fidelis" inside and it's not 'cus of the marines or whatever military has that motto.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Her: honey do these pants make my azz look fat?

Him: No babe, your fat azz makes your azz look fat.

but seriously....if I wear something that is not flattering, I'd want my boo to point out 'hey that's not very flattering' If I say 'what do you think?'...TO ME...the worst thing you can do is churn out the bog standard YOU LOOK GREAT! all the time. That's insincere and dishonest. And TO ME...a lifelong partner doesn't bs you. I'd rather my man point out that my outfit is ugly rather than shut his mouth and let me go out of the house looking like shiznit. I don't mean 'let' in the 'barefoot pregnant in the kitchen' sense either.

And if my man was all 'oooh the color really brings out the highlights in your hair' in response to a 'do I look fat?' question....well 1) I'm smart enough to see a dodged quezzie...which says 'yeah you look fat' but also says 'and I'm too pu$$y to tell you' and 2 ) that my man's been watchin too much '####### eye'

?????

How about a real conversation that you've had with your SO that you can share? That's all.

[Fandango 1,440]

?????

How about a real conversation that you've had with your SO that you can share? That's all.

I didn't realize you needed transcripts

Not sure what you're getting at really with the 'imaginary' picture.

Hrmm....

[Ban Hammer 14,268]

?????

How about a real conversation that you've had with your SO that you can share? That's all.

I didn't realize you needed transcripts

Not sure what you're getting at really with the 'imaginary' picture.

Hrmm....

and in this corner..........

[almaty 19]

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

[Cassie 8]

to answer the original question -- if I didn't trust Jerry with everything, we wouldn't be married.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

?????

How about a real conversation that you've had with your SO that you can share? That's all.

I didn't realize you needed transcripts

Not sure what you're getting at really with the 'imaginary' picture.

Hrmm....

You started this thread, right? Anything you'd like to share beyond moral platitudes?

[Fandango 1,440]

You started this thread, right? Anything you'd like to share beyond moral platitudes?

Anything you'd like to share besides passive aggressive jpgs?

Oh...as far as 'moral platitudes'....erm, pot, kettle...

I started this thread just to open a discussion to see how other people felt, not for some hidden reason, chief.

[rebeccajo 14]

Well, since 100 people are probably going to have 100 different definitions of 'trust', I think it'd be wiser to stick with your own beliefs about trust and just rely on that.

It's one of those 'different strokes' issues, IMO.

Edited August 28, 2007 by rebeccajo

[Fandango 1,440]

Well, since 100 people are probably going to have 100 different definitions of 'trust', I think it'd be wiser to stick with your own beliefs about trust and just rely on that.

It's one of those 'different strokes' issues, IMO.

Since when does starting a thread for the sake of discussion mean that the OP is trying to redefine his/her own opinion?

Don't read too much into it, Becca...seriously...cos you're lookin for summat that simply isn't there.

100 different definitions of 'trust' makes for a nice conversation.

[rebeccajo 14]

Well, since 100 people are probably going to have 100 different definitions of 'trust', I think it'd be wiser to stick with your own beliefs about trust and just rely on that.

It's one of those 'different strokes' issues, IMO.

Since when does starting a thread for the sake of discussion mean that the OP is trying to redefine his/her own opinion?

Don't read too much into it, Becca...seriously...cos you're lookin for summat that simply isn't there.

100 different definitions of 'trust' makes for a nice conversation.

On Springer................

[no name 1]

Well, since 100 people are probably going to have 100 different definitions of 'trust', I think it'd be wiser to stick with your own beliefs about trust and just rely on that.

It's one of those 'different strokes' issues, IMO.

Since when does starting a thread for the sake of discussion mean that the OP is trying to redefine his/her own opinion?

Don't read too much into it, Becca...seriously...cos you're lookin for summat that simply isn't there.

100 different definitions of 'trust' makes for a nice conversation.

On Springer................

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