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[pushbrk 14,247]

2 hours ago, K Thome said:

The Kafke-esque nature of this process continues. My mother has offered to co-sponsor so I think it's all good, but the irony that I actually need to move back to America to work yada yada

You and your decisions are all that are stopping you from moving back to the US to work right now or very soon.  It's understandable to every VJ member why you would rather wait until your wife can come with you, but the reality is that is your decision, not a decision by the US Government.  You actually DO understand why your income in Sweden doesn't count.  It's the reason you gave in the same sentence, in that the income will not continue from that source once you're in the USA.

 

The vast majority of members here endure a separation from their spouse during the process. It goes with the territory.   If you can avoid that, then it's a wonderful exception.

 

If you have well over 3 times the income requirement in liquid assets, you don't need a job or a joint sponsor.  Now is the time to become an A-Student of the I-864 and it's excellent instructions.  It's the most complicated form in the process.

[K Thome 11]

5 minutes ago, pushbrk said:

You and your decisions are all that are stopping you from moving back to the US to work right now or very soon.  It's understandable to every VJ member why you would rather wait until your wife can come with you, but the reality is that is your decision, not a decision by the US Government.  You actually DO understand why your income in Sweden doesn't count.  It's the reason you gave in the same sentence, in that the income will not continue from that source once you're in the USA.

 

The vast majority of members here endure a separation from their spouse during the process. It goes with the territory.   If you can avoid that, then it's a wonderful exception.

 

If you have well over 3 times the income requirement in liquid assets, you don't need a job or a joint sponsor.  Now is the time to become an A-Student of the I-864 and it's excellent instructions.  It's the most complicated form in the process.

It's my decision coupled with the policies. And it wouldn't be separation from my spouse, which would be no big deal, but we share a 1 year old who it would be cruel to subject to half a year or, if I moved right when sending in the application, close to two years of separation from one or the other parent. If you don't have young children I suppose you wouldn't understand. Thanks for the advice.

[pushbrk 14,247]

1 minute ago, K Thome said:

It's my decision coupled with the policies. And it wouldn't be separation from my spouse, which would be no big deal, but we share a 1 year old who it would be cruel to subject to half a year or, if I moved right when sending in the application, close to two years of separation from one or the other parent. If you don't have young children I suppose you wouldn't understand. Thanks for the advice.

I and many others here understand very well.  It's important you understand, that my or our understanding of the personal circumstances you mention, are not factors considered by USCIS, NVC, or a Consular officer.  Getting your head around that, can be difficult.  We know.  We all had to do it already.  For me, it was 20 years ago.

[K Thome 11]

12 hours ago, pushbrk said:

I and many others here understand very well.  It's important you understand, that my or our understanding of the personal circumstances you mention, are not factors considered by USCIS, NVC, or a Consular officer.  Getting your head around that, can be difficult.  We know.  We all had to do it already.  For me, it was 20 years ago.

So you have had to leave behind an infant of yours, or maybe a 2 year old or so, for 6 months, a year, more?

[appleblossom 5,677]

2 hours ago, K Thome said:

So you have had to leave behind an infant of yours, or maybe a 2 year old or so, for 6 months, a year, more?

Plenty of folks on VJ have. You’re lucky as it appears you have assets you can use, but for most that’s not an option so they have to go ahead to get a job and/or establish domicile. Plus of course, there are lots that have never lived with their spouse/child/children as they have only ever been in a long distance relationship, and live apart until the spouse visa is granted and they can join them in the US. A lot of people are facing an even longer separation now thanks to the new visa ban too.
 

You’re also lucky that your spouse is Swedish - so if you did have to be separated she could visit you in the interim, again that’s not an option for a lot as their husband/wife can’t even get a B visa. And the wait for an interview is so much less in Stockholm too. People with a spouse in Nigeria (for example) have to wait ~2 years just for that, and their spouse/child/children may not be able to visit them. So their only option to be together whilst waiting for a visa is to go to Nigeria, but if they’re in a job that only gives them 10 days off a year, that’s one short annual visit together for 4 years or so (and maybe 7 years with the new ban). So you really are in a very lucky position compared to other VJ’ers. 
 

But as above, just focus on the I-864 and the other steps ahead. Get your mother fully versed in what being a joint sponsor will entail (we see people pull out at the last moment sometimes whey they realise), start gathering proof of your assets (and if it’s property in the US, proof that it’s rented and you won’t be moving in to it yourselves). Read the website above carefully so you can make sure you understand each step and what will be required. Then you’ll feel more in control of the process and it’ll hopefully go smoothly. 
 

Best of luck. 
 

 

Edited 12 hours ago by appleblossom

[K Thome 11]

3 hours ago, appleblossom said:

Plenty of folks on VJ have. You’re lucky as it appears you have assets you can use, but for most that’s not an option so they have to go ahead to get a job and/or establish domicile. Plus of course, there are lots that have never lived with their spouse/child/children as they have only ever been in a long distance relationship, and live apart until the spouse visa is granted and they can join them in the US. A lot of people are facing an even longer separation now thanks to the new visa ban too.
 

You’re also lucky that your spouse is Swedish - so if you did have to be separated she could visit you in the interim, again that’s not an option for a lot as their husband/wife can’t even get a B visa. And the wait for an interview is so much less in Stockholm too. People with a spouse in Nigeria (for example) have to wait ~2 years just for that, and their spouse/child/children may not be able to visit them. So their only option to be together whilst waiting for a visa is to go to Nigeria, but if they’re in a job that only gives them 10 days off a year, that’s one short annual visit together for 4 years or so (and maybe 7 years with the new ban). So you really are in a very lucky position compared to other VJ’ers. 
 

But as above, just focus on the I-864 and the other steps ahead. Get your mother fully versed in what being a joint sponsor will entail (we see people pull out at the last moment sometimes whey they realise), start gathering proof of your assets (and if it’s property in the US, proof that it’s rented and you won’t be moving in to it yourselves). Read the website above carefully so you can make sure you understand each step and what will be required. Then you’ll feel more in control of the process and it’ll hopefully go smoothly. 
 

Best of luck. 
 

 

I would be surprised if several people on a website like this had not had this sort of experience, I asked that guy if he, after condescendingly telling me that he understands anything and everything going into my choices and that I just don't want to be separated from spouse etc, had. I wouldn't talk down to a stranger like that without a pretty good reason but that's just me.

 

Anyone who wouldn't miss a year with their spouse or fiancé over a few months with their infant who needs them is a cruel, selfish person. Anyone who compares those things is a cruel person, there is nothing in the adult relationship world that compares to the needs of a child for their parents, but I'm not here to discuss these social positions I asked a question, you and others have answered, that guy did not but instead interjected in my thread here solely to talk down to me etc. So again thanks for the advice and yes I will be gathering this stuff in advance. Luckily my mother owns a house with plenty of space for us to go initially rent-free so hopefully that will help.

[pushbrk 14,247]

9 hours ago, K Thome said:

So you have had to leave behind an infant of yours, or maybe a 2 year old or so, for 6 months, a year, more?

Not an infant, but you are missing the point. The point is, the personal circumstances you mention, are not factors considered by USCIS, NVC, or a Consular officer.  Getting your head around that, can be difficult.  The further point is nothing about your feeling expressed  here will change what gets considered.  

[K Thome 11]

11 minutes ago, pushbrk said:

Not an infant, but you are missing the point. The point is, the personal circumstances you mention, are not factors considered by USCIS, NVC, or a Consular officer.  Getting your head around that, can be difficult.  The further point is nothing about your feeling expressed  here will change what gets considered.  

Why do you need to keep repeating yourself? Is your sense of self worth dependent on being a knowitall forum creature? In this very thread I said I know that nothing, including comparisons to other's timelines, has anything to do with what will end up happening in my application processing. 

Tell you what guy, how about I take it on myself to some how, some way, struggle through this process without your particular sage advice that you deliver with such an endearing personality? It's my loss but it's one I'm willing to accept in order to free up your valuable time to do the other important things you must have to do.

Edited 4 hours ago by K Thome

[appleblossom 5,677]

 

Never mind……

 

Edited 2 hours ago by appleblossom

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