Waiting for a NOA2 from CSC for your I-129F?

[TBoneTX 48,635]

Well... we had The Talk.

I just want everyone to know that Mox has been totally the greatest, but then we all already know that, si man.

[LuciansGirl 0]

So sorry to hear that TBoneTX. You made my eyes water... I hope everything works out for the best for you and your SO.

[u2rsobad 0]

Well... we had The Talk.

You say she's classy, but you're quite the gentleman. I hope the best for both of you

[TBoneTX 48,635]

So sorry to hear that TBoneTX. You made my eyes water... I hope everything works out for the best for you and your SO.

Save the watery eyes for places experiencing drought, perhaps, but thanks. I want the SO to get what is best for her.

[TBoneTX 48,635]

You say she's classy, but you're quite the gentleman. I hope the best for both of you

I remember experiencing a similar busted romance when I was around 21 years old, and someone said, "Keep being a good guy -- it'll pay off." Your flattering words are part of the payoff. Thanks.

[StillThePrettiest 4]

well fark

I'm just - well, lots of things, but mainly sorry

xx

[TBoneTX 48,635]

well fark

I'm just - well, lots of things, but mainly sorry

xx

You're mainly The Prettiest. Remember to light some matches to burn off the fark.

[Jeraly 4]

TBone - I would offer commiserations and a shoulder but I must say that from your post I think that is great news... Ok - let me explain because that sounds really bad I never was one for words - I am pretty useless...

When you were discussing having "The Talk" I was dreading you coming back and saying it was over, that she wasn't interested anymore and that her feeling had changed. The fact that you both continue to be so strong and independent yet still love each other is a lesson to us all.

Ok so right now you don't feel so great - you don't know how things are going to work out. But the fact that you are giving her the time and space she feels she needs right now can only work in your favour if it is meant to be. If she decides to go to interview you are right, she has six months to make up her mind. If she decides to give it a go then she has a further three months living with you to make any final decisions...

Have you considered moving to be with her at all? Maybe right now isn't the time but it might be worth thinking about for the future if moving to the US is something she really doesn't want to do.

Don't be a stranger. Everything happens for a reason - I read Kazan Tiger's story and it's not unlike yours. My own story again involves getting with the person I loved, parting ways then ending up here

Never lose hope

*hugs*

[TBoneTX 48,635]

TBone - I[...] I never was one for words - I am pretty useless... Never lose hope

Thanks, Aly; this is good food for thought, and your story and that of KazanTiger are inspirational. I don't know whether she still loves me; also, and this is a rather complex sidebar, Latina women tend to have a different way of deciding on a mate -- it has to do with evaluating how someone treats them, and how respected/protected/taken care of they perceive that they will be. If these questions are satisfied, and they decide to proceed, the process is one of "growing in love" over time. This is an oversimplified generalization, but it has to factor in.

Perhaps C. ultimately concluded that my failure to visit her even once since June diminished the "respect" that I had for her... or, even more simply, that a phone/e-mail relationship wasn't as "real" as living her life actively (as stated). However, she is no dummy, and perhaps our frank chat plus the sappy-drippy stuff in her DHL will cause her to reflect. One thing that we never really discussed was how to integrate her goals of NOW into a newly begun life in the Estados Unidos. Depending on upcoming reactions, or after waiting due time, I may broach the subject with some ideas, of course emphasizing her freedom to consider or ignore them.

I can't go to live with her, but I did begin my call to her with the offer to take her to Valentine's Day dinner in Ecuador, courtesy of permission to take time off work during crunch period. Trouble is, I awakened her (she denied it, but I know!), and I'm not sure that the offer registered before we got into the meat of the talking. I could just show up in Ecuador as a surprise, but she travels so much that I'd risk being there when she wasn't. Maybe I'll simply trust that the call, the DHL, and elapsed time will clarify things for her... although, if this all came about because I wasn't there with her, how could it improve if I still don't visit her? That's an aspect that I'm still wrasslin' (Texan for "wrestling") with.

Finally, Dear, you are NOT useless; rather, you are sweet, thoughtful, witty, and beautiful. And you are not poor for words when you paraphrase one of Britain's greatest, Winnie Churchhill (two h's?): "Never quit!" That is, if it is permissible for a mere Colonist to quote Winnie, si man.

In the meantime TB, go find a mime and punch him out.

I prefer going to the park to mutilate squirrels, or pulling the legs off ants and putting them in water and watching them sink, but I like how you think, sir, si man!

[Jeraly 4]

Haha - well maybe you could liase with some of her compadres and find out where she is nearer the time then fly down and surprise her. Maybe even call her just before you are due to fly and explain that you would love to see her even if it is briefly and only as friends as you admire her and enjoy her company...

I think I have already said it someplace else but nothing ventured, nothing gained You of course know her better than I - she might freak out about that for all I know but

[a-jeanne 2]

My thoughts are with you Tbone. Never give up hope - we all must face speed bumps on life's journey. You both are taking this to a much more mature level than I have ever seen. I admire that!

[TBoneTX 48,635]

I wanted to shut down that particular neuron path before it started to coagulate.

Oh, I've been on the waiting list for a brain transplant longer than it takes USCIS to continue not doing anything. Being low on frequent-flyer miles, I'm not fond of surprise visits, and I myself, if on the receiving end, would consider one an imposition. I think that I'll just wait to see how things play out. Too bad, though, because the Cheap ####### in me notes that airfares are as low as I've ever seen them...

[Jeraly 4]

Yeah, what he said...

*points at mox*

[TBoneTX 48,635]

My thoughts are with you Tbone. Never give up hope - we all must face speed bumps on life's journey. You both are taking this to a much more mature level than I have ever seen. I admire that!

Well, thanks, A. Interesting sidebar: The literal meaning of the word "chapa," I'm told, is "a speed bump, or something that impedes one's progress." In Ecuador, and in parts of Mexico, "chapa" is a mildly disrespectful term for a policeman. (It is not on the level of "puerco," meaning "pig.") During a car ride with natives during my last visit down there, I noticed a puerco and said, "Ah -- chapa." One of the natives laughed and asked how I knew the term. I responded proudly, "Soy hecho en Ecuador" (I am made in Ecuador). Due to my awful pronunciation of Spanish, everyone immediately pointed directions to the bathroom. Ha!

[a-jeanne 2]

My thoughts are with you Tbone. Never give up hope - we all must face speed bumps on life's journey. You both are taking this to a much more mature level than I have ever seen. I admire that!

Well, thanks, A. Interesting sidebar: The literal meaning of the word "chapa," I'm told, is "a speed bump, or something that impedes one's progress." In Ecuador, and in parts of Mexico, "chapa" is a mildly disrespectful term for a policeman. (It is not on the level of "puerco," meaning "pig.") During a car ride with natives during my last visit down there, I noticed a puerco and said, "Ah -- chapa." One of the natives laughed and asked how I knew the term. I responded proudly, "Soy hecho en Ecuador" (I am made in Ecuador). Due to my awful pronunciation of Spanish, everyone immediately pointed directions to the bathroom. Ha!