Younger men?

[jundp 191]

I don't think it's a big deal. Age is just a number. Course, I'm older than my fiance, but we get along better as a couple than I've ever gotten along with anyone.

Just a side note, I don't know much about you or your marriage and it's not my business, but often times a marriage is over long before it's over. So if you want to move

on, you are the only one who can make that call.

[cheeky^Wolf 0]

I'd say if you are already thinking about dating other men, you are obviously over your marriage already, so why are you still dwelling on it? Maybe you are the one who is confused on what you want as much as your husband is, and you BOTH need a therapist.

It happened. You can't change that. As I said before in your "divorce" thread, all the ####### you've said about your husband on here, you've made him sound like a spineless idiot anyway, I'm surprised your marriage lasted as long as it did. These feelings of hatred towards family members or even spouses don't happen overnight once they tell you something you don't want to hear.

Yet again we don't know both sides, yet again we don't know your husband, your marriage, your life, your personalities etc etc, but as has been said, if you don't want to hear opinions, don't throw your life into a forum. I'm sure you have friends on here you could have PM'd for opinion rather than asking complete strangers, whose points of view you wouldn't appreciate.

A 6 year age gap is nothing in a relationship. Age is just a number and by no means guarantees maturity or responsibility levels.

[homesick_american 1]

I don't think it's a big deal. Age is just a number. Course, I'm older than my fiance, but we get along better as a couple than I've ever gotten along with anyone.

Just a side note, I don't know much about you or your marriage and it's not my business, but often times a marriage is over long before it's over. So if you want to move

on, you are the only one who can make that call.

Yes, I am.

I do often wonder why the hell I continue to post here when some people are so extraordinarily judgmental. Not you necessarily; just some people. It seems that some people in exactly the same situation get a lot of cooing and sympathy, whereas I get kicked in the head. Funnily enough it doesn't bother me anymore; kick away.

[no name 1]

I don't think it's a big deal. Age is just a number. Course, I'm older than my fiance, but we get along better as a couple than I've ever gotten along with anyone.

Just a side note, I don't know much about you or your marriage and it's not my business, but often times a marriage is over long before it's over. So if you want to move

on, you are the only one who can make that call.

Yes, I am.

I do often wonder why the hell I continue to post here when some people are so extraordinarily judgmental. Not you necessarily; just some people. It seems that some people in exactly the same situation get a lot of cooing and sympathy, whereas I get kicked in the head. Funnily enough it doesn't bother me anymore; kick away.

You have no immigration needs/worries anymore, so I too wonder why you continue to post here - except for some justification/or to brag about your actions. Others wonder as well.

[jundp 191]

I don't think it's a big deal. Age is just a number. Course, I'm older than my fiance, but we get along better as a couple than I've ever gotten along with anyone.

Just a side note, I don't know much about you or your marriage and it's not my business, but often times a marriage is over long before it's over. So if you want to move

on, you are the only one who can make that call.

Yes, I am.

I do often wonder why the hell I continue to post here when some people are so extraordinarily judgmental. Not you necessarily; just some people. It seems that some people in exactly the same situation get a lot of cooing and sympathy, whereas I get kicked in the head. Funnily enough it doesn't bother me anymore; kick away.

I wasn't passing judgment. I am divorced and a lot of people couldn't figure out why I didn't spend more time waiting for him to "change." He has, in fact, done a lot of changing and I'm sure his new wife is happy about it I'm not bitter anymore though, just glad that I was able to move on and be happy again.

What I meant by my comment is that perhaps your marriage was over long before either of you voiced it? Sometimes just voicing it is a shock in itself. But to be fair to whomever you date next, it's always good to have closure on the previous relationship. That's for anyone, me included, not necessarily pointing fingers at you.

[cheeky^Wolf 0]

I don't think it's a big deal. Age is just a number. Course, I'm older than my fiance, but we get along better as a couple than I've ever gotten along with anyone.

Just a side note, I don't know much about you or your marriage and it's not my business, but often times a marriage is over long before it's over. So if you want to move

on, you are the only one who can make that call.

Yes, I am.

I do often wonder why the hell I continue to post here when some people are so extraordinarily judgmental. Not you necessarily; just some people. It seems that some people in exactly the same situation get a lot of cooing and sympathy, whereas I get kicked in the head. Funnily enough it doesn't bother me anymore; kick away.

I wasn't passing judgment. I am divorced and a lot of people couldn't figure out why I didn't spend more time waiting for him to "change." He has, in fact, done a lot of changing and I'm sure his new wife is happy about it I'm not bitter anymore though, just glad that I was able to move on and be happy again.

What I meant by my comment is that perhaps your marriage was over long before either of you voiced it? Sometimes just voicing it is a shock in itself. But to be fair to whomever you date next, it's always good to have closure on the previous relationship. That's for anyone, me included, not necessarily pointing fingers at you.

Well said jundp, but I think any advice is falling on deaf ears. I'm sorry to say this is just another attention thread from H_A.

Why start a topic, wait for certain people to post just to insult them, wait for sympathy votes and flame?

Pathetic. Truly.

[TracyTN 237]

I just don't understand, truly. After the debacle that was the 'I'm getting a divorce thread', I thought you had decided not to post anymore personal information here (let alone post here). But yet, here we are again.

So is it just fun to see people's reactions so that you can say 'I was right!' about the ones who 'attack' you? Is it some kind of need to then have a fight with the people whose reactions you object to? Is it maybe to truly get some direction/feedback or guidance about your situation? Is it to waffle on about having a younger man interested in you?

I'm not trying to flame or insult - I just really am very very puzzled, and trying desperately to understand.

[Kez/JWolf 6]

I just don't understand, truly. After the debacle that was the 'I'm getting a divorce thread', I thought you had decided not to post anymore personal information here (let alone post here). But yet, here we are again.

So is it just fun to see people's reactions so that you can say 'I was right!' about the ones who 'attack' you? Is it some kind of need to then have a fight with the people whose reactions you object to? Is it maybe to truly get some direction/feedback or guidance about your situation? Is it to waffle on about having a younger man interested in you?

I'm not trying to flame or insult - I just really am very very puzzled, and trying desperately to understand.

Very well said Tracy TN...... sadly some people will crave attention good or bad....

Kez

[Fandango 1,439]

It's all good HA -- there's no better way to get over a relationship than to start a new one.

I couldn't disagree more. I think time alone is the best method to really having closure to the past.

As far as ppl changing: I also believe that people don't. Unless they REALLY want to, and even then it's a miraculous thing.

Age diff: I personally wouldn't be interested in a younger man. Ever. It's just my preference.

I just don't understand, truly. After the debacle that was the 'I'm getting a divorce thread', I thought you had decided not to post anymore personal information here (let alone post here). But yet, here we are again.

So is it just fun to see people's reactions so that you can say 'I was right!' about the ones who 'attack' you? Is it some kind of need to then have a fight with the people whose reactions you object to? Is it maybe to truly get some direction/feedback or guidance about your situation? Is it to waffle on about having a younger man interested in you?

I'm not trying to flame or insult - I just really am very very puzzled, and trying desperately to understand.

But there are two sides to this...obviously it's a merry go round of action, reaction, etc...so the only action one can control is one's own.

[TracyTN 237]

Never mind, its too loud in my office at the moment to read anything and comprehend it.

Rush on.

Edited July 20, 2007 by TracyTN

[JoeMama 0]

Like sands through an hourglass, so are the days of our lives...

Edited July 20, 2007 by JoeMama

[Saddle Bronc 124]

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[almaty 19]

Being single for awhile after being in long term relationship is a good thing, IMO.

i agree totally, most people need time to regroup and get over the past relationship..it is not like losing a pet and then buying another one a week later..imho

again, most people, everyone is differnet ......

Edited July 20, 2007 by almaty

[*julez* 124]

Age has nothing to do with it.....

Kez

I'll second that!

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Age has nothing to do with it.....

Kez

I'll second that!

and I'll third that and raise you one