Mapping out multiple uses of B1/B2 Visa

[AardSav 0]

19 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Begs the question why he is not paying his own way?

I'm not sure if you're asking that question from the perspective of CBP, or if you're asking me, but I'll take the latter cause I guess I need some relationship advice here too! Maybe that's a little off topic, but isn't that what brings many of the people who need visa advice?

 

Well, there is definitely inequality here. He is highly intelligent, has perfect English and is interested in many cultural things (or I wouldn't be interested in him) but he dropped out half way through a 5 year mathematics teaching degree in Colombia, and right now is working a low-level job that he doesn't care about, and is kind of lost. That's why he was able to come here for 10 days and that's why I see a window here for building a relationship at all. 

 

He is not the one pushing to live here... not for economic advantage, and not necessarily to live with me (I assume we're both spending a lot of time thinking about what that would mean). He did float the idea of continuing his education here, but considering the cost of US higher education that wouldn't be an easy path either. He loves Medellin and has strong social/family networks there. And I'm not pushing for him to live here, I'm just trying to think of a way to keep this going, because I see amazing potential here and it's not like I can casually see if he wants to get dinner this weekend. Any advice column writers or therapists who can help me with this part of the equation? Lol.

[Boiler 47,446]

How much vacation does he get?

 

Perhaps he needs to finish his education over there?

[AardSav 0]

15 hours ago, Boiler said:

How much vacation does he get?

 

Perhaps he needs to finish his education over there?

He doesn't even have vacation per se, he works retail. But he is close friends with the owner so if he plans ahead he can get time off. 

 

Well sure, on paper it would be most sensible for him to finish his degree there and live his life in Colombia. But I want to be part of his life, and I don't want to wait 3 years for him to finish and I can't leave my current job or work it remotely from Colombia.

[Unlockable 7,322]

On 12/2/2019 at 11:22 AM, AardSav said:

He doesn't even have vacation per se, he works retail. But he is close friends with the owner so if he plans ahead he can get time off. 

 

Well sure, on paper it would be most sensible for him to finish his degree there and live his life in Colombia. But I want to be part of his life, and I don't want to wait 3 years for him to finish and I can't leave my current job or work it remotely from Colombia.

The above in bold is exactly the type of situation the CBP officer is looking for in your boyfriend. It is the definition of "strong ties". Something you can't just leave for months at a time. You are now starting to understand how it works. And maybe it will help you plan accordingly in the future.

[SalishSea 18,462]

On 12/2/2019 at 8:22 AM, AardSav said:

He doesn't even have vacation per se, he works retail. But he is close friends with the owner so if he plans ahead he can get time off. 

Up to six months?  That is very odd.

[SalishSea 18,462]

On 12/2/2019 at 8:22 AM, AardSav said:

I don't want to wait 3 years

THIS is unfortunately part of the deal when it comes to international relationships and US immigration.  It is not fast, it is not cheap.  Most of us here have been (or are currently) going through it.

[AardSav 0]

1 hour ago, Jorgedig said:

Up to six months?  That is very odd.

Of course not 6 months.

1 hour ago, Jorgedig said:

THIS is unfortunately part of the deal when it comes to international relationships and US immigration.  It is not fast, it is not cheap.  Most of us here have been (or are currently) going through it.

Mind summarizing your story/process for me?

[SalishSea 18,462]

1 minute ago, AardSav said:

Of course not 6 months.

Mind summarizing your story/process for me?

Much like the experience of others here....long distance for >3 years, thousands and thousands of dollars spent in visits back and forth, and in immigration/AOS fees, etc.  Nothing atypical.  Separation is an expected part of the process.  

[SalishSea 18,462]

4 minutes ago, AardSav said:

1 hour ago, Jorgedig said:

Up to six months?  That is very odd.

Of course not 6 months.

Well you mentioned 90 days, still odd.  Most working adults cannot afford to be away from work for that much time all at once.

[SusieQQQ 11,588]

1 hour ago, AardSav said:

Of course not 6 months.

Mind summarizing your story/process for me?

Many of the posters who have been through IR or CR1 or K1 have timelines detailing the process.

 

 

 

1 hour ago, Jorgedig said:

Well you mentioned 90 days, still odd.  Most working adults cannot afford to be away from work for that much time all at once.

If someone else is paying all their expenses on vacation it helps i guess 🤷‍♀️ Does make one wonder about the home situation though. 

Edited December 3, 2019 by SusieQQQ

[AardSav 0]

1 minute ago, SusieQQQ said:

Many of the posters who have been through IR or CR1 or K1 have timelines detailing the process.

Ahh, thanks. Wasn't aware of that feature.