un happy with co worker

[Widge 0]

With any luck they will take a couple of weeks leave of absence or suchlike and in their absence things will return to normal (no cockups no ####### normality) then when they return if they re-start their ###### it will be totally self incriminating.

In the meantime create the report as asked, keep it simple amd straightforward and if you can back it up with evidence - emphasise that it wasn't you who brought this to anyones attention, as you had hoped whatever their problem was would pass, but having been forced to do so be factual. Whatever else keep your cool never cry and pray all will return to normal soon - Good Luck we spend far too long in the workplace to be miserable.

[lynny 0]

Thank you all for your advice,

My boss is wonderful and is proberly the reason I am still there 3 years later and he took time to listen to me when I first arrived in Mass and he gave me the job straight away and has always made sure I was never feeling uncomfortable

The sad part is that this co worker has taken all the confidence I had and the enjoyment I had with the job and distroyed it all, to the point that I now feel it is time for me to move on althought I dont want to because now I will always be watching my back and dont think I want to work in conditions like that

Lynny

[Ban Hammer 12,867]

I don't miss workplace politics or the drama! In all seriousness, you should make peace with your co-worker. Tell her how sorry you are and how it's a big misunderstanding. Then, offer her a cup of coffee. The only thing. While you make her that cup of coffee, make sure you piss in it first before serving it! Keep your friends close. But keep your enemies closer! Regardless of what she does or says, you'll always know you have the upper hand on her!

keep in mind that is a felony

[homesick_american 1]

Thank you all for your advice,

My boss is wonderful and is proberly the reason I am still there 3 years later and he took time to listen to me when I first arrived in Mass and he gave me the job straight away and has always made sure I was never feeling uncomfortable

The sad part is that this co worker has taken all the confidence I had and the enjoyment I had with the job and distroyed it all, to the point that I now feel it is time for me to move on althought I dont want to because now I will always be watching my back and dont think I want to work in conditions like that

Lynny

If that's the case, then she has won. Is that what you want?

[yogib37 3]

you're being set up. maybe some video surveilance of your desk is in order

Yes, I agree with you. First thing came to mind is to put a hidden video cam on your desk..

That way you will have clear and no dispute proof she is the one, and her plan will back fire.

That co worker is also opening herself up to legal actions towards herself.

If you go to HR, they have to look into it. and if they fine she is doing what is claim then she will be booted from the company.

Yogi

[yogib37 3]

Thank you everyone one for your great words of advice

I went through another day of her playing her head games, and was just about to explode when my boss asked to speak to me, He had noticed I wasn’t my happy self and wanted to know if I was ok, I am sitting there saying I am fine just stressed and not telling him the reason why because I had not worked out the best way to say anything without risking my job, when another co worker interrupted and told all for me, Apparently she had seen a few things and didn’t know what to do about it, until she realized how badly it was affecting me

So at the moment the outcome is, the coworker who has been playing these games with me is going to be asked into a round table meeting with my boss, myself, the co worker who had seen things and a HR employee. This is going to happen at 9am tomorrow morning.

I am not sure if the nasty co-worker has been told about the meeting or they will tell her in the morning

Thanks again for all the advice, it is so good to get a range of answers in situations like this

Lynny

Looks like your boss it taking it serious and he is handling the situation like he should. By having someone from HR it is being documented and then if it continues, they have soild grounds for firing her.

Good luck with the meeting. I would not expect her to be told until a few minutes before the meeting. that way she wont have time to prepare herself. she will be cought off guard

Yogi

PS Dont let t his person interfer with your work habits, cause seems like your boss notice that your work declined.

Dont let that coworker win at any costs, cause if you lose your job cause of bad performance she wins..

Take care

[Oath 0]

This kind of thing scares me, In my professional life I've always been involved with various aspects of security, from soldier to doorman so any problems I've had with coworkers has generally been solved very quickly as we both need to be watching each others arses. But in an office or other such job there is no such camradery (spelling correct?) and it seems everyones just as willing to stick a knife in your back as they are of giving you a hand, I can only say kudos on handling the situation so well so far and to contact your boss, cool or not he has to intervene.

I hope that faced with such an issue I can act maturely and seek the moral high ground and not resort to confrontation, but unfortunately I've got 24 years of that to put behind me

On the subject of the coffee cup appearing on your desk, get some uv ink / dye and smear it on the handle, and use a blacklight to show who moved it think its safe to say your coworker doesnt have the foresight to wear gloves also keep everything under lock and key so your desk is sterile as it can be, personally I like to keep my professional life clean away from my private one for obvious reasons.

Edited May 13, 2007 by Oath