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Cancelling sponsorship and feelings.

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Food for thought, to those that are in a similar situation, as I was.

NO, I will not post my story here, what brought me to this point. Suffice to say we had many problems as a marriage and we both had our fault, but at some point one needs to decide is it really worth the constant fight(ing), stress and what is best for oneself. I just have this feeling that something was not right and I needed to move on.

This is coming from my perspective, but it can apply to either gender as a USC sponsor, petitioner.

You are not a man, woman.

You have no respect for others or yourself.

You are gay.

This was all planned.

You are a liar.

You are so insecure.

God sees this and you will pay.

Just because the marriage failed you do not need to mess up her/his chances.

You are a failure, that is why your first/second marriage failed, because of you.

As an act of good faith, your love for her/him let the visa process continue.

If you have been told any, all or similar comments as the above DO NOT feel bad for what you are doing. DO NOT feel bad for opening your eyes and deciding to move forward without that person whom you thought was going to be with you for the rest of your life. If you truly know that you did all you could and feel, or even better have proof that the bene was/is just using you for that green card, for access to better schooling, better medical treatment, whatever reason other than being with you, DO NOT FEEL BAD!!!

You are doing the right thing, first for your own well-being and peace of mind, secondly it IS ILLEGAL/FRAUD if you let the process run its course for any reason, knowing you are no longer with the bene.

NO one is perfect we all have our faults, one should do ones best to work on the marriage as it does take time, patience and even more-so in our situations,. For me at some point one has to decide what is best for your health, sanity, as hurtful, sad it may make one and, or others.

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I have a problem with the guilt trip that leads the alien spouse to claim this: 'As an act of good faith, your love for her/him let the visa process continue.'

Be strong. Be true to yourself. Do right by the law. If counseling doesn't work, you need to divorce and move on with your life.

Check my timeline for K-1 visa & AOS details

Conditional Permanent Resident: 16 September 2014

Conditional GC Expires: 16 September 2016

ROC Journey (CA Service Center)

2016-Sep-14: I-751 form, check, supporting docs sent USPS Priority Express

2016-Sep-15: ROC application received & signed for by Lakelieh

2016-Sep-15: NOA receipt date

2016-Sep-19: $590 check cashed by USCIS

2016-Sep-20: NOA/ 1-year extension letter received in mail

2018-Feb-26: ROC case transferred to local office

2018-Mar-06: ROC approved via USCIS website (WAC status check)

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So what is your concern?


12/06/2014: Package filed

12/31/2014: Fingerprinted

02/06/2015: In-Line for Interview

04/15/2015: Passed Interview

05/05/2015: Oath letter was sent

05/22/2015: Oath Ceremony

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