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I met a filipina online. We were friends first and have been talking on skype and viber for 2-4 hours a day. How long should I wait before I go to visit her? We have been an "item" for about 1 and 1/2 months and know each other for about 2 and 1/2 months. I have been to the phils in 2013 and previously dated a pinay here in the states before for 3 years. How long has everyone on this forum chatted with their partner before visiting?

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That's completely your call....I chatted with my wife before we met maybe only two weeks but I was planning to go to the PI anyway for a vacation. I did not plan to marry her nor did I think I would fall in love. I did not marry her right away either...I made sure it was what we both wanted. Currently I chat with my wife every day and we Skype as well...but we have done this for almost two years now and we have a child. And when I say everyday...I mean EVERYDAY! For the last two years...with zero days off...even when she is sick..and I am sick..or our child is sick or grumpy...lol.....we are always there for each other.

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Fiancé took more than 2 years before he visited me. So we started first as being friends online and it grows from there. I would say, we were just being cautious and we just want to make sure with the way we feel. and now, I am just waiting for my interview and I will be with him in few months.

Well, each one of us has different story and besides, love works in mysterious ways.

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There is no set time or anything! When I met my then fiancée, we knew each other for a couple of months and I went to the PI to meet her ! This is the way I felt about it.. The worst thing that could happen was a vacation in the PI or the best thing that could happen was to meet my future wife! As of June 30th 2007 we have been happily married! My wife is a US Citizen now and though a marriage is never perfect , we both would do the same thing over again! Go with your heart buddy and don't pay attention to the critics!

Edited by DARUMA07

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In my case, it took my husband a little over a year before he could visit me because the military was iffy about letting him travel to my country. Visit her as soon as possible, and visit her as often if you can. You can really never tell if the person you fell in love with online is the same until you meet them face to face. Don't forget to take photos and keep evidences when you meet up! :)

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11 months, but it was a combination of a demanding job and serious illness that held me back. Had nothing to do with wanting to get to know her better first or stragtegic visa planning.

When your heart tells you that you are ready, go.

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I met a filipina online. We were friends first and have been talking on skype and viber for 2-4 hours a day. How long should I wait before I go to visit her? We have been an "item" for about 1 and 1/2 months and know each other for about 2 and 1/2 months. I have been to the phils in 2013 and previously dated a pinay here in the states before for 3 years. How long has everyone on this forum chatted with their partner before visiting?

I went to see my fiancee about 5 months after meeting her online. Proposed while I was there. I will be in Manila for her K1 interview in Sept.

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We talked online for 2 years. I visited her in the 3rd year and then again for the interview in the 4th year.


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Adjustment of Status

AOS March 5, 2014 Submitted AOS with EAD/AP package to Chicago USICS

Delivered March 8, 2014 AOS packaged delivered to USCIS drop box

Accepted March 19, 2014 Text message with receipt numbers

Biometrics April 16, 2014 Biometrics completed

EAD May 23, 2014 Employment Authorization Document approved and went to card production

TD May 23, 2014 Travel Document approved and went for card production

Receipt EAD/AP May 30, 2014 Received combo card EAD/AP

Green Card Approved July 11, 2014 Approved, no interview. Went to card production.

Green Card received July 17, 2014 GC received without interview

Removal of Conditions

Mailed I-751 Dec 16, 2015 Submitted ROC (removal of conditions)

Received Dec 18, 2015 USPS notification of successful delivery

Check Cashed Dec 21, 2015 Check was cashed

NOA-1 Issued Dec 21, 2015 NOA-1 for ROC issued

NOA-1 Issued Dec 26, 2015 NOA-1 Received

Biometrics Appt. Jan 29, 2016 Biometrics Appointment Scheduled [Completed]

 

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I was going to visit with several friends I had met online when I made the trip here. Didn't want to make any commitments without meeting in person(yes they all knew there was a plan and they were not the only one I was talking with), after all, how could you possibly fall in love online, or on the phone. Just not possible, right?

HA.

Started talking to one on the phone almost every day, talked to others too, but this one was just so different. Time passed, and we got closer, but I was still not going to make comittments. Gotta meet first.

Then I was driving around at work thinking about our conversations, and what to talk about that day, and it occurred that I had been thinking about this girl all day. Huh, thought to myself,"its almost like I love this girl", and my heart stopped. No kidding. So I says to myself," I love her", stopped again. #######, there goes the plan.

So after a month and a half or so of talking on the phone, we were in love. Got engaged soon after, and kept talking on the phone and I sent her a ring(hindsight, and advice, don't, the taxes are killer, 42%). Got all my vacation time picked for June, and flew over for a month.

Spent the month together, and put the k-1 packet together. Sent it off as soon as I got home. Went back to work, couldn't handle it, stress of being away from my love, plus the "wonderful" people I dealt with in the public, lost my job. Oh well, took my savings and flew back to the Philippines after 2 weeks. Got married, with the intention of staying here. That is not working out as well as we hoped. Did DCF, flying back together on Sept. 9th.

That's our story. Every one is different, as will yours be. Follow your heart, and do what's best for you and yours.

Best wishes.

PS, it is possible to connect with and fall in love with someone you've never met. I was the ultimate skeptic on that, but look at what happened. :) we didn't even Skype till after we were engaged. Lots of phone time though. Vonage kept sending me emails about acceptable use violations. They hated me.

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You can go as soon as you want to! I went to meet my fiancee about 3 months after we met online.


K-1
NOA1: 04/08/2014; NOA2: 04/21/2014; Visa interview, approved: 07/15/2014; POE: 07/25/2014; Marriage: 09/05/2014

 

AOS

NOA1:  09/12/2014;  Biometrics:  10/06/2014;  EAD/AP Received:  11/26/2014;

Interview Waiver Letter:  01/02/2015;  RFE:  07/09/2015;

Permanent Residency Granted:  07/27/2015;  Green card Received:  08/22/2015

 

ROC

05/23/2017 -- Mailed ROC application

05/24/2017 -- NOA1 date

05/30/2017 -- NOA1 received in the mail

06/05/2017 -- Biometrics letter received

06/13/2017 -- Biometrics appointment

09/05/2018 -- Approved without interview!

09/13/2018 -- 10 Yr Green card Received

 

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Check with your heart first, then double check with your head.

And when you get two (unquestionable) thumbs up, then sleep on it for a week,

and if thumbs are still up, then it's the right time. :D

That's what I did anyway... :jest:

Edited by DualityOneness

10-04-2013 We met online
11-21-2013 We met in person in Shanghai for 2 weeks

12-13-2013 I-129F packet sent via express

12-19-2013 USCIS NOA #1 (text and email) received

12-24-2013 USCIS assigns Alien Registration Number
12-31-2013 USCIS NOA #1 hard copy received
06-02-2014 USCIS web site shows NOA #2 approval
06-06-2014 USCIS web site shows case sent to NVC

06-xx-2014 Fiancee acquired birth, marriage, and police certificates from local police station (wrong)

06-16-2014 NVC creates case with GUZ### number

06-19-2014 NVC sends case sent to Guangzhou, China
06-24-2014 Received packet 3 express mail from embassy
06-25-2014 Completed DS-160 and paid K1 visa fee

06-26-2014 Mailed packet 3 response back to Embassy

06-26-2014 Requested police certificate from Russian embassy

07-08-2014 Received packet 4 email from Embassy

07-17-2014 Picked up Russian police certificate

07-25-2014 Fiancee medical exam (received MMR & Varicella, but they missed required TD shot)

07-31-2014 Picked up medical exam reports

08-01-2014 Request (correct) birth, marriage, and police certificates from Notarial Service (GongZhengChu)

08-06-2014 Picked up birth, marriage, and police certificates from Notarial Service

08-14-2014 Passed Interview Guangzhou embassy

09-01-2014 Received passport, visa, & sealed envelope

09-13-2014 POE

09-17-2014 Went to CBP office to get (US entry) I-94 updated correctly

09-18-2014 Applied for Social Security Card
09-19-2014 Applied for Marriage License (via online)
09-25-2014 Received Social Security Card
09-30-2014 Picked up Marriage License
10-09-2014 Marriage by Justice of Peace
10-09-2014 Got Certified Marriage Certificate Copies
10-17-2014 Received a letter from SS office that they need the marriage license
10-09-2014 Applied to change the social security card name
10-24-2014 Went back to SS office to provide the marriage certificate documents again!!!
12-09-2014 Submitted AOS, EAD, and AP
12-16-2014 Received 16 emails and 16 text NOA messages
01-05-2015 Received Biometrics appointment letter for (01-12-2015)
01-12-2015 Had Biometrics (fingerprint & picture) - Required Marriage Certificate!!!
02-17-2015 EAD and AP is approved
02-23-2015 Received AP is approval letter
02-25-2015 Received EAD/AP combo card (expires 02/16/2016)
02-27-2015 Applied for SS card name change (they took her SS card)
02-27-2015 Driver's learner permit test was denied since the SS card was given to SS office for name change
03-17-2015 Received SS card with married name
03-17-2015 Started to change all her accounts to married name
03-23-2015 Received potential interview waiver letter
03-27-2015 DMV rejects learner's permit due to "legal status=pending" and vision test failure
04-05-2015 Vision test for learner's permit
04-06-2015 DPS sent us letter that DHS cleared my wife's status to acquire driver's license.
04-10-2015 Passed Driver Learner's Permit
04-22-2015 Received Driver Learner's Permit ID card (expires 02/16/2016)
08-27-2015 Green Card approved
08-31-2015 Received Green Card "Welcome Notice Was Mailed" letter
09-05-2015 Received Green card
10-26-2015 Passed Driver's License Road Test (on 3rd attempt)
11-03-2015 Received Driver's License (expires 02/16/2022)
11-06-2015 Applied to remove conditional work remark on SS card
11-23-2015 Received updated Social Security Card.
- - - - - - - - - - Pending Future Processing - - - - - - - - - -
05-27-2017 File 10 Year Green Card
08-27-2017 2 Year Green Card Expires
05-27-2018 File USC

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