I got scammed the biggest scam of my life

[Brian & Sil 1]

Happened in Brazil, the consul did the couple go back and ask the visa CR1

[vegas12 12]

You can send a email or letter I am not sure how they want it to be confirmed to cancel the visa. When she go to the consulate they will stamped the visa canceled. You may not think about this but since they do have limits on visas this would allow someone else a opportunity.

[EAS 45]

You can send a email or letter I am not sure how they want it to be confirmed to cancel the visa. When she go to the consulate they will stamped the visa canceled. You may not think about this but since they do have limits on visas this would allow someone else a opportunity.

I do not believe the bolded part above is correct.

It is my understanding that there are no yearly numerical limits (codified in law or regulation) on the number of K-1 type visas that can be issued.

Edited June 12, 2013 by EAS

[Vic20r 14]

Why you think its a scam? If she wants to marry you on her own country. Like here in the Philippines, we dont have a divorce law here, so if we get married here there is no turning back. Its a risk, we cant change it anymore. Maybe she just want to have a wedding for her friends and family, its not a demand its a request

I agree

[KayDeeCee 4,899]

i think its not about scam,i thought you should let her know the consequency of been there amd married,however i sugest you ask her to come over or you will ask USCIS to cancel her visa being plain and say the fact...sometimes some people go insane about there culture this is not about that its about the rules of engagement in USCIS...bE BLUNT AND SAY U WILL CANCEL HER VISA IF SHE TURNS TO BE A SCAM!

He has no power/authority to cancel her visa.

Maybe 30 posts ago a few others still giving scam opinions missed this....?

Agreed. I think a lot of people do not bother to read through a thread, even one that has many replies already, and just keep responding to the first post.

You can send a email or letter I am not sure how they want it to be confirmed to cancel the visa. When she go to the consulate they will stamped the visa canceled. You may not think about this but since they do have limits on visas this would allow someone else a opportunity.

He can let the consulate and the USCIS know the relationship is over and why, but he has no authority to demand the visa be canceled. Also, there is no limit on the number of K-1 visas that can be issued per year.

[Vic20r 14]

Seems there are plenty of people in this thread who don't know how the K1 works. I suggest not giving anyone advice if that's the case.

Then they have done something illegal. Stop suggesting other people do the same.

I was NOT suggesting other people to do the same. I was just saying that i have known a fellow who is in K1 visa who had a wedding here for her family's sake before flying to the US and when she was there last Dec. 14, they also had their wedding there. Now, for whatever consequences they will encounter in the future for doing so, i still have to know and find out since its been 6 months away since she stepped on the US soil...

[Vic20r 14]

We did a small celebration or reception in Indonesia before I came to US and a blessing ceremony when we were on the ship (we were living together for 4 months on the ship and I want my family feel we didn't make any mistake or sins when we lives together). We asked the embassy about this and they said it's ok as long we're not do our legal wedding. In some country they have different rules about this. In other country they not allowed you to do any ceremony or celebration because that is consider marriage. You should ask the embassy in your fiance country just to make sure.

This is the mail from the embassy :

You can have a family celebration here in Indonesia. Do not register this ceremony to the KUA or Civil registry Office. If you do so, your fiancé will not eligible for a K-1 visa status.

Goodluck

See?...They CAN...provided that they should not register their marriage in her country at the Local Civil Registrar..Might be that that girl i have known did this...get married in the Philippines and did not register it in the LCR....

Edited June 12, 2013 by Vic20r

[RyRo 47]

See?...They CAN...provided that they should not register their marriage in her country at the Local Civil Registrar..Might be that that girl i have known did this...get married in the Philippines and did not register it in the LCR....

Maybe you were just misunderstood by the other members because when you talk about wedding it is legal and you cant marry in your home country if you are on a k1 maybe what you really meant was just a ceremony where family and friends gather to celebrate their future wedding.

It is very important to state things very clearly here as someone might misunderstand what has been said and take an advice that they thought was OK but it is actually wrong and suffer the consequence later.

[RGinWA 816]

I've seen "miscommunication" first hand in my own relationship. I don't think it's a scam what she's asking; although it would be illegal as far as the US is concerned.

In my opinion this has more to do with emotion, than outright scamming...because it would be one of the worst scams ever attempted and would get her deported in the end. Nobody devises a scam like that.

I'd try calmly discussing this entire process with her using someone to interpret the conversation. I get the feeling that she's as scared as you are about now.

Good luck.

[Rich and Wen 101]

I think somewhere I saw he said "VN", which to me means Vietnam. Still a traditional society, though

[Jawaree 719]

Thanks all for your responses. I have already told her about K1 and the need to marry in the US and not her country. She is blaming it on her brothers (she is from a village) and how they won't let her go alone. I told her that it's impossible for me to go to her country even for one week. She simply ended the relationship and said good luck in your life. We fought a lot before this but she would always go nutts and call me 100 times a day until we get back together. Now after she got the visa it seems it's the opposite.

At this point, I have made up my mind and I don't want her anymore. My main concern is that she would use the visa to come to the USA and live with her sister illegally. If I tell the embassy there, would they call her back and revoke the visa??

Scammed or not the relationship ended dude....move on ...clearly the communication

probs wont go away as you said you explained this K1 procedure to her before...see

some think if visa is in hand all they need to do is touch US soil, then they can wing

their way with help of family or friends....there are some that expose their behinds very

early...she use to want make up before visa , after visa she riding high and blaming

the brothers and village...####### move on bro....I am amazed of the ppl here egging you

on to get marry in her country while she holds a K1...some of these same ppl are quick

to say always tell the truth ...tch

[ppihtr123 68]

I met her two years ago online and decided to travel to her and meet her. After meeting her and her family, I decided to take it slowly and keep talking online. We kept talking online with skype everyday for over a year. Eight months ago I decided to start the finace papers. She was approved and got the visa few days ago. Suddenly she started demanding that i go to her country and make her a wedding even tough our agreement was that she will come here alone once she gets the visa. She is easily agitated and suddenly stopped communicating. She has a sister that lives here and I think her plan is to use the visa to come and stay with her.

What can I do now? Can I call the embassy and ask them to revoke the visa even though it's already issued and she got her passport back from the embassy?

Thanks!!

OK after reading through all the comments I figured I would throw in my 2 cents...

1. I really hope when you said " I decided to start the finace papers" you mean you BOTH decided that was the path to take. Did she fully understand the type of visa being applied for is dependent on her coming to the US as a single person and getting married to only you in the US within 90 days?

2. later you said her brothers got upset...Did she communicate #1 above to her family when that was the path that you both selected?

3. You have got to understand that plans change and you pushed back, which is fine but you guys did not work out your differences. So if it that important to her, why not go there and marry if she is still the woman for you? You start over with the CR1 visa, but that is the price that she needs to understand if you guys do as she wants and go that route.

4. I agree with the poster about Tampo - took me a while to get that one.

5. no reason to try to revoke unless revenge is what you seek. You see she was issued the visa and it is up to her not to commit visa fraud. you can not control her. The K1 is a one time visa which has 2 expiration dates. The first is probably 6 months from medical/visa approval. The next is 90 days after entering the US. If she enters the US on that visa with no intention of marrying you but tells IO she does, she has lied, you have not. Lets say she enters with the true intent to marry you but something breaks down and you don't marry. It is up to her to leave (although my opinion you should offer to help) or SHE is overstaying. You have broken no laws unless you aid her in her attempt to break the law.

6. If you are positive you are done. You can as others say write a letter stating that your intent to marry has been rescinded for irreconcilable differences.

I wish you well and maybe you can work things out with her before you get to number 5 and 6.

Long distance relationships suck and it is easy to jump to the SCAM conclusion as there is always that thread of doubt in your mind or what others are asking/saying that can grow in an instant, especially when nurtured by a lack of communication.