Did not pass CFO seminar

[utah 0]

I paid an attorney to help with the filing for our marriage license. We did the marriage classes and had all the legal requirements. We were married in Dasmarinas. When we received the marriage certificate it listed San Juan as the issuing municipality not Dasmarinas. The marriage is registered with the NSO. When my wife went to the CFO seminar they did not issue her certificate of attendance I think because of this. They also had many questions about why we got married 8 months after we met. My wife is shy and was very upset and left without asking why they did not issue to her the certificate of attendence. What do we do now?

Edited April 24, 2013 by utah

[Mar_Wil 12]

I paid an attorney to help with the filing for our marriage license. We did the marriage classes and had all the legal requirements. We were married in Dasmarinas. When we received the marriage certificate it listed San Juan as the issuing municipality not Dasmarinas. The marriage is registered with the NSO. When my wife went to the CFO seminar they did not issue her certificate of attendance I think because of this. They also had many questions about why we got married 8 months after we met. My wife is shy and was very upset and left without asking why they did not issue to her the certificate of attendence. What do we do now?

I do not have any advice or an answer to your question, I just wanted to post to say how sorry I am to hear of this happening to your wife.

[PhiLandShiR 18]

Sorry to hear about your troubles.

It may be that the certificate of attendence would have been awarded if your wife had not left.

I would say she needs to return and stand up to them. Don't let them bully her.

Make sure you both have discussed answers to all the questions she was asked and that she has all the paperwork that you can imagine they might want to ask for.

Get your ducks in a row so to speak.

I have read many accounts that the CFO people tend to get way to involved in the lives of those who attend.

Its not anything you can change.

Just be prepaired for everything you can think of.

Tell your wife she needs to return and be bold! Now is not the time for shyness.

Good luck!

We all are rooting for you guys!!

-Phil

[M and C 32]

I paid an attorney to help with the filing for our marriage license. We did the marriage classes and had all the legal requirements. We were married in Dasmarinas. When we received the marriage certificate it listed San Juan as the issuing municipality not Dasmarinas. The marriage is registered with the NSO. When my wife went to the CFO seminar they did not issue her certificate of attendance I think because of this. They also had many questions about why we got married 8 months after we met. My wife is shy and was very upset and left without asking why they did not issue to her the certificate of attendence. What do we do now?

First of all, I'm sorry to hear about what happened to your wife. In my opinion, I think she could go to the Local Civil Registrar in Cavite (I'm assuming you got married in Dasmarinas, Cavite) to inform them that your marriage has been registered in the NSO with San Juan as the issuing municipality. Did you get married in a church? Maybe the church where you got married could help you present with supporting evidence that you got married in Dasmarinas, not San Juan. Or if you got married before a fiscal or judge, your wife should notify the office about your situation. Thing is, this has to be rectified because your marriage has to be recorded correctly in the national registry (NSO).

Edited April 24, 2013 by M and C

[Mogambi 96]

God I hate the CFO jerks. They gave my poor wife a hard time too. They approved her, but were way more intrusive than the Embassy interview even. Give some people a little power and watch it to go their head.

Yes i think she needs to return. When they ask why you got married in 8 months, tell them BECAUSE WE WERE IN LOVE. But I'm sure she can try again, do it again.

[apple21 953]

I paid an attorney to help with the filing for our marriage license. We did the marriage classes and had all the legal requirements. We were married in Dasmarinas. When we received the marriage certificate it listed San Juan as the issuing municipality not Dasmarinas. The marriage is registered with the NSO. When my wife went to the CFO seminar they did not issue her certificate of attendance I think because of this. They also had many questions about why we got married 8 months after we met. My wife is shy and was very upset and left without asking why they did not issue to her the certificate of attendence. What do we do now?

Go back to the attorney and ask why the discrepancy.

It's SOP for CFO to be "nosy" about your marriage. Tell wifey she must answer, there's really nothing to be scared of. Don't let them intimidate. Good luck.

[mrsSpitze 9]

rectify the marriage certificate - or and ask your lawyer about the location discrepancies.

advise your wife to not let her be intimidated by the cfo people but dont be too pushy.

they think they the almighty power - which as the moment they kinda do. =/ (ie no sticker, no fly)

tell her to speak up and have her ask the cfo people what she can do for her case.

when i attended the seminar, the speaker gave her desk number and her personal cellphone number.

ask her to contact them.

[VirtualLee 12]

I paid an attorney to help with the filing for our marriage license. We did the marriage classes and had all the legal requirements. We were married in Dasmarinas. When we received the marriage certificate it listed San Juan as the issuing municipality not Dasmarinas. The marriage is registered with the NSO. When my wife went to the CFO seminar they did not issue her certificate of attendance I think because of this. They also had many questions about why we got married 8 months after we met. My wife is shy and was very upset and left without asking why they did not issue to her the certificate of attendence. What do we do now?

Ask your wife to go get her cfo cert/sticker, and tell her that not to be shy, and just answer their stupid questions.

If she got no sticker then she cant travel.

[gretchen_darren 67]

When going to the CFO, make sure you have everything you would have for the US Embassy, all of the same paperwork. also make sure she knows your mom's maiden name. Sometimes, it help to take a parent or relative along to the CFO. Being married, she can expect more questions. (There is no easy out like in a fiance visa.)

DO you know which CFO location she went to?

Is your wife catholic or another religion?

Getting married and filing K-3 (CR-1) visa is not plentiful or typical. (these are a very small percentage.)

Wish you the best, she may be able to get her attendance green check, but after walking out, she may have to redo the whole process, and expect many more questions.

If she went to PRISM, have her go to Good Shepard convent. (it is a little further but on the tram line.)

[Tahoma 2,298]

1. The notion that there's an "easy out" for K-1ers is ridiculous.

2. K-3 visas are all but obsolete.

3. The Embassy and the CFO see plenty of CR-1ers and IR-1ers. It's nothing unusual for them.

4. PRISM doesn't do CFO seminars.

5. Good Shepard doesn't do CFO seminars.

[gayle blue 4]

CFO gave instructions and making sure those who are migrating won't experience any problems in the future.

I have experienced it before i renew my passport december last year. What i noticed is that they asked questions, straight forward questions, each one of us after they reviewed our documents and according to what they have discussed.

I also noticed that they gave extra time for those who are shy, have erasures on their CFO forms, the dates of marriage and relationships as a whole, and even those who are worried-looking all throughout the seminar.

And then some of my batch before was asked to come back for a second interview and was also asked for some papers for them to bring back to the CFO officer.

One of the questions they asked me are the following: what is cr1/ir1 visa? my mother-in-laws maiden name and their address in the US? and how long my husband and i have been togethe?. And ofcourse some question about the discussions from all the slides we watch.

Do not be shy because it will lead to more questions. I guess they wanted straight forward answer to their straight forward question...though its mean most of the time.

[Tahoma 2,298]

I would say she needs to return and stand up to them. Don't let them bully her.

Tell your wife she needs to return and be bold! Now is not the time for shyness.

:thumbs:

Tell wifey she must answer, there's really nothing to be scared of. Don't let them intimidate.

:thumbs:

advise your wife to not let her be intimidated by the cfo people but dont be too pushy.

:thumbs:

Ask your wife to go get her cfo cert/sticker, and tell her that not to be shy, and just answer their stupid questions.

Do not be shy because it will lead to more questions. I guess they wanted straight forward answer to their straight forward question.

:thumbs:

[Hank_ 9,174]

When going to the CFO, make sure you have everything you would have for the US Embassy, all of the same paperwork. also make sure she knows your mom's maiden name. Sometimes, it help to take a parent or relative along to the CFO. Being married, she can expect more questions. (There is no easy out like in a fiance visa.)

DO you know which CFO location she went to?

Is your wife catholic or another religion?

Getting married and filing K-3 (CR-1) visa is not plentiful or typical. (these are a very small percentage.)

Wish you the best, she may be able to get her attendance green check, but after walking out, she may have to redo the whole process, and expect many more questions.

If she went to PRISM, have her go to Good Shepard convent. (it is a little further but on the tram line.)

PRISM and Good Shepard do not exist in regard to CFO. There is only one location in Manila and one location in Cebu.

[sunandmoon 450]

When going to the CFO, make sure you have everything you would have for the US Embassy, all of the same paperwork. also make sure she knows your mom's maiden name. Sometimes, it help to take a parent or relative along to the CFO. Being married, she can expect more questions. (There is no easy out like in a fiance visa.)

DO you know which CFO location she went to?

Is your wife catholic or another religion?

Getting married and filing K-3 (CR-1) visa is not plentiful or typical. (these are a very small percentage.)

Wish you the best, she may be able to get her attendance green check, but after walking out, she may have to redo the whole process, and expect many more questions.

If she went to PRISM, have her go to Good Shepard convent. (it is a little further but on the tram line.)

don,t know how much you have been viewing the forum the past several months, but there have been changes, like with CFO, as has been noted.

[gretchen_darren 67]

I stand corected. I looked at he CFO website. I see now only at the main office in Cebu or Manila. Glad to see they got rid of the "sub-sites" now.... but I really liked Good Sheperd location. It was nice area and had a "commissary" around the corner behind the building where you could purchse drinks and food. I hope things go well.

Yes, CR-1, K-3 visas do happen. I am NOT saying they do not happen. But the overall PERCENTAGES when looked at is quite small. I am having a hard time finding the actual numbers for current months. In the past, the K-1 visa was much larger then the K-3/CR-1 visa.

The CFO is the hardest part, because they want to make sure the "rose-colored" glasses are off. You know exactly what it is like, and have been made aware. CFO wants to know you are determined to go and make it work when you go to another country.

My wife is shy, but she also has a strong will. She went through the COF with her parents. She was "shy" but also determined. I was there with her to "help" reassure her, but I waited outside the building on the covered sitting area. I did not press her or them for anything. I just was there to let her know, I am willing to help her get through things both there, and when she came here. My wife has adjusted well. I end up taking time off or scheulding things around work to be with her for doctor's appointments and such. But I do it because I want her to know I am here for her. My wife is gaining more independance day by day. One day soon I hope she is driving on her own.